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I love listening to people and offering advice. What qualifies me is not much more than me having experienced much in my life and being a mother. I don't know everything bordering on knowing nothing. What I do know is that you can take an outsiders opinions and make a better judgment sometimes. I have been in a relationship for about a yr and a half. |
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Facebook messages have him convinced I'm cheating
Q. My boyfriend got into my facebook account and saw messages off other guys. I didn't reply to them but I also didn't tell them to go away or delete the people off my friends list. A few weeks after tha he asked to c my phone but my inbox and outbox ...
A. 10 August 2012: I agree with everyone here but I would like to add.... anyone this controlling and jealous..may be hiding his own secrets and projecting..hmmm just a thought either way..dump him controlling men can sometimes become even more abusive..be careful. ... (read in full...)
Am I mean? Should I share more of my money with my girlfriend?
Q. I am 32, my girlfriend of four years is 27. I have a degree and believe in hard work and applying myself to achieve my goals and live well. My gf is not financially motivated and does not want to progress at work, she just wants to get by which is ...
A. 10 August 2012: I cant tell how exactly you believe she is taking advantage. its obvious that you resent her making little money and possibly you and her have differnt ideas about money and "wife/husband" duties. If money is so important and ambition possibility ... (read in full...)
Husband will only have sex if we use sex toys
Q. My husband will only have sex using sex toys. He then asks me to masturbate him to relieve him. The problem is I feel like this is unnatural. I mean as a woman, I have to use my imagination and fantasize in order to respond, which means I'm not ...
A. 7 August 2012: I dont know what to say except I wanted to make a statement my last boyfriend only liked masturbating to relieve himself and not intercourse...what gives? didnt like it myself..not sure what kind of problem this stems from..but goodluck this kind of ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to stop the horrible comments and accusations of me cheating on him?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years keeps accusing me of cheating. I have never had a sexual relationship outside of our relationship. He is always saying that sometimes I am significantly tighter than others. I tell him that its because I am tightening my ...
A. 7 August 2012: Excellent Xearo!! yes yes yes that slapped me right in the face...HE IS CHEATING, the guilt is projected onto you...classic...so sorry.
He is not very nice, you cant make him be nice or non hurtful but YOU have the power to take his son and LEAV... (read in full...)
My wife gives BJs instead of sex but I'm missing the "connection" between us both!
Q. My wife is not interested in sex that much anymore. Maybe 1-2 times per month. However, her "easy way out" is to just give me a BJ once per week/every ten days or so. Is this normal? Although I love the BJ's, I feel I am missing the "connection"...
A. 2 August 2012: I agree with eddie85 in that she may just be going thru things but still wanting to keep you happy. Do talk to her us woman looove to talk..lol I found your question intresting because I have done this to avoid intimacy as well ...but I had a ... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend keep a stable job?
Q. How can I help my boyfriend, he hasn't been able to hold a job for longer than three to six months. He keeps getting let go and it seems to me for the most ridiculous reasons, such as talking too much and too loudly.I've been with him for about a ...
A. 2 August 2012: You cant do ANYTHING. By the way I married a man against my families wishes they hated him I thought he was sweet, turned out mentally ill and had never ever had a job longer than 6 mo usually in 2/3mo spurts in his entire 44 yrs of life up to ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling a bit rejected sexually, how do I find out what's going on?
Q. Hey Guys, i have been dating a girl i met online i'm 33 she is 26. we have been communicating for 2 months, had our first date about 6 weeks ago. We had sex on the 3rd and 4th date where she stayed over both times. It's now 3 weeks later and we...
A. 2 August 2012: Well many things could be going on. I am a lot older but with my current boyfriend our dates were very, very long in between I think it was more him than me tho. Sex does change the course of events and it sounds like you two haven't had much of ... (read in full...)
Do I show my friend the proof that her boyfriend is cheating on her or not?
Q. I am in a bit of a hard situation here. I have a male friend, and I recently found out that he is on a swinger site, and is meeting random people for sex. Now what he does is his business and normally I couldn't care less, except he has a ...
A. 1 August 2012: I agree with Cerberus...he is your friend your loyalty is to him, but if he is indeed a friend you should be able to communicate that you feel that this is unacceptable to his "girlfriend" why is it thst a swinger has the option to protect ... (read in full...)
Does he still want this to continue?
Q. Hi Aunts. This is about a married man i have been seeing for about 7yrs, No judgements please,but i would like you insight on this He knows that i love him but he will only say to me,you know my situation,I can't give you more than i do,but obvious...
A. 31 July 2012: You deserve more.
Stop accepting to be someones secret and side thing, hes gotten away with 2 for the price of one..are you on sale? NO NO YOUR NOT!
I pray you can slowly remove yourself emotionally from this toxic situation for yourself... (read in full...)
I told my lover's wife about us but it is as if she doesn't care!
Q. I am so hurt right now, I decided to tell my married lover's wife about our affair, because I knew that would be the only way to stop it. I am 35 yrs old and he is a 43 yr old man. It started out as a friendship with casual dinners, and no sex. ...
A. 28 July 2012: He sounds dangerous...any man that would be this abusive could be deadly if not just very very violent and you will get hurt not just emotionally, what exactly do you like? the abuse the choking, the fact that he could cheat on his WIFE? he is very ... (read in full...)
Is it for the thrill of it all?
Q. Hi Aunts, I have a question i would like to ask you all,as i can't seem to make any sense of it. I have been having a affair with a married man for quite some time,years actually,so please if any of you are going to preach to me that i'm doing wr...
A. 21 July 2012: What a douchebag!!! Wants to parade you his mistress in front of his unkowning family, creep....Loose him fast, your being humiliated and dont even realize it, so sorry you got tangled in the mess, save yourself!!!
goodluck, peace and love!... (read in full...)
At the end of my Rope and Running out of Hope
Q. Not real good at this but I will try . I am 46 and just got a divorce after 30 yrs of Marriage . my ex left me in 2008 and I have been seeing this man who is 50 and retired . I work 5 days a week and then I come home and that is it. he stays with me ...
A. 19 July 2012: OMG!!!!!!! KICK HIM TO THE CURB!
Why would you waste another second?
your life is precious, as is your daughters,
there are plenty of fish in the sea...trust me!!!
KICK HIM TO THE CURB...then burp loudly!!!
goodluck, peace and love.... (read in full...)
Married 27 years, love each other like brother/sister. Do I stay here miserable or move on?
Q. I'm 45 years old. I married my wife when I was 17, and we've been married for 27 years. We've raised 4 kids together and we have 3 grandkids. Our relationship has been very tough almost from the beginning. We have separated a few times, but I always ...
A. 18 July 2012: I agree with Sugarbuns..nothing to add its what I would have said. good luck, let us know, pace and love... (read in full...)
Do you ever look?
Q. Ok question: Do any of you women or men in any type of relationship ever ever snoop or look thru draws, files papers laying out computer, phone looking thru the boyfriends/girlfriends things when they arent around? Am I the only one who NEVER ever ...
A. 17 July 2012: Thanks everyone, I dont like snooping as I wouldnt want it done to me, i was brought up very old fashioned and I dont like roaming peoples homes so I was just wondering how off of normal I was to others as I still can hear my mothers voice scolding ... (read in full...)
Do any of you write to your exes after the dust settles?
Q. I could use some guidance on something that has been bothering me for weeks. I divorced about a year and a half ago and recently remarried (to someone new). I am so in love and truly on a better path in life. My former marriage was long however...
A. 16 July 2012: I was not trying to be disrespectful, I too am from a divorced situation and I understand people change..but there was a divorce and abandonment to the marriage whether just on your part or hers there was a family dissolve, children are always the ... (read in full...)
One night stand cheat on my girlfriend of 3 yrs,..Should I tell her or live with guilt?
Q. Ive been with my gf for 3 years now and our relationship has been the greatest thing in my life. Weve been though a hell of alot with each other and theres nothing i wouldnt do for her. Weve talked immensely about not cheating on each other bc we ...
A. 16 July 2012: I was gonna say dont tell her but after reading these posts..I had a change of heart, the thought of NOT telling her the TRUTH is unacceptable. I want the truth I too think my bf may have cheated and he says he just had cofee but see I would sleep ... (read in full...)
Do any of you write to your exes after the dust settles?
Q. I could use some guidance on something that has been bothering me for weeks. I divorced about a year and a half ago and recently remarried (to someone new). I am so in love and truly on a better path in life. My former marriage was long however...
A. 16 July 2012: WHy would you both contacting someone you broke a family up with? Do you feel guilty? Look I know relationships are complicated but most of you men seem to just think you can have a family things dont work out then bam you move on a new wife new ... (read in full...)
How do I get this new man in my life to open up to me?
Q. My question is how do I get my bf to open his life to me? We have been dating almost 2 months and we have mutually agreed to only date eachother, we are sexually active and he pretty much drives to see me 6 out 7 days of the week. He lives an hour ...
A. 10 July 2012: oh my, how can you call him a boyfriend? who is he? where does he live?gosh you dont know anything for sure, solidly, this is odd. he may be married with a family, a hoarder,or homeless...good god i wouldnt be sleeping with someone i didnt know at ... (read in full...)
Do men over 40 really not want to have sex?
Q. I am very concerned about the amount of sex or lack of with my boyfriend of 1.5 appx. he recently moved back home his mom is sick, but I am her caretaker..we dont live together and he didnt really want to move back home he likes his privacy. we ...
A. 9 July 2012: MikeEAl and Serpico, thats what i suspected all along, its definetly not normal for him either as he tole me early on in our relationship that he had a high ex drive...something is wrong I feel like the AGRESSOR and that sux... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't contacted me in three days
Q. Dear Cupid My bf usually never calls. i am the one who always initiates the call. lately he is often hanging up the call saying he is busy when i call him. I got pissed off and told him i wont call him anymore unless he calls me, Its been ...
A. 9 July 2012: Unfortunately you wont like what I have to say, forget him try not to obsess about him and what hes thinking and doing and concentrate on what YOU want and distract yourself, find someone who cares. He doesnt sound like he wants the level you want ... (read in full...)
Do men over 40 really not want to have sex?
Q. I am very concerned about the amount of sex or lack of with my boyfriend of 1.5 appx. he recently moved back home his mom is sick, but I am her caretaker..we dont live together and he didnt really want to move back home he likes his privacy. we ...
A. 9 July 2012: I find it strange so early in a relationship to not want to be hot and heavy at least once a week? no?... (read in full...)
Do men over 40 really not want to have sex?
Q. I am very concerned about the amount of sex or lack of with my boyfriend of 1.5 appx. he recently moved back home his mom is sick, but I am her caretaker..we dont live together and he didnt really want to move back home he likes his privacy. we ...
A. 9 July 2012: Aunt Honesty, and Sweet-thing,thank you both yes I want to believe that is the problem, I just dont want to be blind and not see if he was pulling away, recently I caught him at a "friends" house a girl who he LIED about so I just want to make sure ... (read in full...)
Is there a such thing as a monogamous loyal man or is that a rare animal?
Q. A male older friend of mine and I had a conversation about infedility and marriage etc...My question to all you men and or women is do you agree with my male friend that ALL men if given the opportunity for SEX will take it married or not because ...
A. 30 June 2012: Thank you, No I have had wonderful relationships and I am NOT single...lol but I think I too agree that mens idea of loyalty is very different than womans...I have so many more male friends than women all my life..and most of my friends go into ... (read in full...)
Should he stop communicating with a girl he almost went on a date with during our brief breakup?
Q. Please MEN (and ladies) help answer this: My BF broke up with me in Nov said he was "talking" to a girl havent met up yet or anything...2 ks later begs to come back to the relationship w me exclusively says the breakup was NEVER related to another ...
A. 25 June 2012: You guys are awesome, thanks, I feel like this awesome relationship may not be exactly what Im looking for...I am sad. But deeply thank you guys!..I am still hoping for some male responses as well.... (read in full...)
Should he stop communicating with a girl he almost went on a date with during our brief breakup?
Q. Please MEN (and ladies) help answer this: My BF broke up with me in Nov said he was "talking" to a girl havent met up yet or anything...2 ks later begs to come back to the relationship w me exclusively says the breakup was NEVER related to another ...
A. 25 June 2012: No I didnt ask because I feel it should be obvious and done by his own accord otherwise whats to stop him from contacting her outside of FB? I wanted to say it but feel like this should be a no brainer for 44 yr old man who is very ... (read in full...)
Am I fool for believing him?
Q. I need to know from mostly men lol if my boyfriend could be telling me the truth. we have been dating for over a year he broke up with me in nov for 2 wks because according to him he thought maybe there was no spark and maybe he wasnt feeling it for ...
A. 20 June 2012: Thank you all your words are comforting and I agree with all of you this will take time and I know Im not crazy and he fucked up and lost my trust that he will have to regain. He seems willing to work on it and let me work thru my up and down ... (read in full...)
Do you think what he's doing is ok?
Q. My bf doesn't always tell me when he's been going out for drinks after work with co-workers or to the bar with his buddies. I thought he was open about everything (I've never given him trouble about going for drinks) but apparently there are some ...
A. 20 June 2012: How long have you two been going out? are you exclusive? would he be opposed to you doing the same thing? If he wouldnt be okay with it then we have a problem..that would mean to me that he has ill intentions therefore any guy at a bar talking to ... (read in full...)
Am I fool for believing him?
Q. I need to know from mostly men lol if my boyfriend could be telling me the truth. we have been dating for over a year he broke up with me in nov for 2 wks because according to him he thought maybe there was no spark and maybe he wasnt feeling it for ...
A. 20 June 2012: thank so much you guys are so awesome! but yes 100% certain and KNOW he is really at darts..we just got into it on the phone because of a snide remark i made accusing him of not really being "eager" to have me there tonight..I epressed that I am ... (read in full...)
Am I fool for believing him?
Q. I need to know from mostly men lol if my boyfriend could be telling me the truth. we have been dating for over a year he broke up with me in nov for 2 wks because according to him he thought maybe there was no spark and maybe he wasnt feeling it for ...
A. 20 June 2012: oh and ps it was not a date supposedly she invited him so she can cry on his shoulder about some other guy and no sexual history that I know of... (read in full...)
Am I fool for believing him?
Q. I need to know from mostly men lol if my boyfriend could be telling me the truth. we have been dating for over a year he broke up with me in nov for 2 wks because according to him he thought maybe there was no spark and maybe he wasnt feeling it for ...
A. 20 June 2012: Well thank you, but he said absolutely no sexual contact he knew her for three yrs from his dart team she is recently div not sure how long with 2 small kids under 6 I believe he said I could meet her that its purely platonic..he even answered the ... (read in full...)
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