His needing a break, feels like a breakup
Q. My boyfriend of 14 months needs a break. His sister has been in the hospital and needing constant attention for 4 months after a surgery that went very wrong, and his father just passed away. He has a very demanding job and isn't in the best of ...
A. 24 July 2009: I believe that it's just a breathing period for him. He seems to really love & care for you, but so much has happened that he just needs to relax a little, which happens sometimes. So let him do that, call him every once a week or so to check on ... (read in full...)
Am I a freak for remaining a virgin?
Q. All my friends, guys and girls alike, have participated in sex of some sort. So I can't help but feel like a pariah when they begin to talk about their sexual encounters when they go on about, "Such and such made me a woman/man the other day." I ...
A. 24 July 2009: No sweetheart you are NOT a freak! You are very, very smart & courageous!
You have a case of peer pressure going on...
First of all, regardless of who's doing it around you & no matter how much you feel different...you are doing yourself a... (read in full...)
My best friend & my brother seeing each other
Q. I found out that my older brother and my best friend have been seeing each other! - i was so upset/angry/confused when i found out, i wasn't sure how to react and resulted in getting really emotional, i didn't want to be around my best friend and i ...
A. 24 July 2009: Well first of all the age difference is dangerous...does your brother not have common sense, she is pure jail bait.
Anyway...I know this has to be a very trying situation for you as she is/was your best friend-like a sister & he's your brother-... (read in full...)
I can't listen to my husband's advice.
Q. Help! I'm happily married, life is going really well except i use to date this controlling guy for 4 years before i meet and married my husband. and now if ever my husband advices me on anything i freak thinking he's trying to control me. i need ...
A. 24 July 2009: You need to let that past with the old BF go and embrace your husband even more, and realize that he's only trying to help you...not harm or control you. Advice and control are two totally different things, advice is not "commanding you" to do ... (read in full...)
How do I leave controlling bf without being guilt-tripped back in?
Q. Hello everybody. I have been in a relationship for about 2.5 years (with 2 "breaks" in between). In the 1st break he went out with someone else and hid it from me and lied about it. Yes I know I'm dumb to take him back. He showed great improvem...
A. 24 July 2009: What helps? What helps is you doing what you already know you should do...leave. If you like being unhappy, not loving him anymore, like being threatened, used, manipulated, taken mental advantage of and so on...then stay & be miserable.
But i... (read in full...)
Freakish foreskin?
Q. Ok, I'm 19, and I've never really been concerned about the fact that I'm uncircumcised, but today I tried on my first condom, it got all bunched up due to foreskin problems, and one thing lead to another and I got online checking all sorts of things ...
A. 24 July 2009: Get circumsized...if it makes you uncomfortable, then get go ahead and do what needs to be done. ... (read in full...)
How do I get my psycho boyfriend to come back? And then when he does how do I make him work for it?
Q. hi, ive been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and i have recently lost my virginity to him. I love him more than anything and want to be with him for the rest of my life. However, we have manyyyy fights and basically fight over ...
A. 24 July 2009: You are not in a good mindset...
This is clearly not a healthy relationship, you don't let one partner control the relationship. Love is supposed to be shared equally 50/50, not 0/99. If he won't make an effort to make things right with you on h... (read in full...)
Is it right to make my boyfriend choose between me and his mom?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost four years. We have two kids together and he has one with someone else. When i first met him his mom was taking his son which i didn't understand. We got pregnant with out first child and before our first son ...
A. 24 July 2009: No you should not make him choose between the two of you, that's not right. I do believe that you need to talk to your boyfriend, NOT WHEN YOU'RE UPSET, and let him know how you really feel about this situation, ask him to set a balance with his ... (read in full...)
He said he knew we would have sex as soon as he met me, is this because I look easy?
Q. Met this guy on internet dating. He said he knew when we met that we are going to have sex. Why did he say that? Because I look easy or because he also felt that there is some chemistry? Went for coffee at his place and when I got home someone ...
A. 23 July 2009: RUN...like hell, this just doesn't sound safe. ... (read in full...)
Does my ex like me more than his new girlfriend?
Q. Right, here is my problem. At the beginning of this year I was dating my dream man. Tall, gorgeous, funny and loving. The fact that I was with him was a dream come true! After a while things became rusty and we ended up spliting up. I was gutted. ...
A. 23 July 2009: That doesn't mean he likes you more. You said you two remained friends after your break up, so his compliments toward you could be just that out of that...friendship. I wouldn't try to read more into this than there is, or try to get involved with ... (read in full...)
Would a song for your personal vows be a good choice?
Q. I have a question. I know its not really pertaining to relationships but I was just wondering do any of you know if it would be ok to use a song for your personal vows?...
A. 23 July 2009: Of course! Whatever floats your boat, if that's what you want to do then go for it. There are plenty of songs out there that express the things you would like to say to someone. Just make sure you pick the right one :)
A lot of people will tel... (read in full...)
Her mom and brothers are against us dating!
Q. i'm 17 and my girlfriend is 13 we are 4 years apart. what makes it worse is my friend little sister her mums took away her phone and made it clear not to try to talk to her daughter again and her bros are pissed off". this might led to fighting....
A. 23 July 2009: This is a situation to stay out of, it is very clear that there could be physical confrontation, which is not good. Respect her mother, and leave her alone, as much as you don't want to do that & hard as it may be. Truth be told she is a little ... (read in full...)
He really likes me but I just don't feel the same. How can I get him to leave me alone?
Q. i broke up with a 24yo guy as I'm just not that into him. he still wants to meet up all the time and calls me all the time. I took his virginity and was his first real gf. I know he really likes me, but at the end of the day, i didn't feel the same. ...
A. 23 July 2009: You should feel guilty!
But, no you shouldn't ignore him, talk to him nicely again & make sure that he understands your position CLEARLY, where you are and then after that...ignore him, he has to let go one day. ... (read in full...)
She knew that it would be a short-term relationship, but now she is pregnant
Q. Hi, I have been dating a girl for nearly a year, I'm on holiday in the UK and we both know that I was going back to Aus in the end, I have been completely honest from the start about all that. I leave in 6 weeks, and she just told me she is pregnant ...
A. 22 July 2009: Well regardless of whether or not she knew it was a "short term relationship" or not, YOU obviously didn't take the "precautions" to not impregnate her, you are both at fault!
First, you need to make sure that she is absolutely pregnant, go to th... (read in full...)
Two UTI's in one month?
Q. Two weeks ago I got a UTI. After it went away me and my boyfriend continued to have sex with a condom on. Last night we had sex without one, I'm on the pill by the way and now I wake up and I feel like I have a UTI again. I'm scared to tell my mom ...
A. 22 July 2009: Peeing and washing within 15 minutes doesn't do anything for a UTI, and soap is not a very well cleanser for that area on a female. Honey you need to tell your mother and go to the doctor. It could be more than just a UTI, go to the doctor and stay... (read in full...)
She screws with my head, but I love her. What do I do?
Q. i have been on before and got good advise, so here we go again. i broke up with my partner just over 4 weeks ago. she asked me to move out as i was making her unhappy but now i have my own place and am decorating it. she is being nasty and very ...
A. 22 July 2009: She is clearly unstable. Do you really want to live like that? Not knowing if tomorrow she'll get pissed & tell you leave? For someone in your age range you deserve better than that. You don't have time to play games. Yes you may love her, but ... (read in full...)
My ex baby daddy wants a quality night with me.
Q. My son's father and i have both moved on after he ran off with a lady of 40 and married her , my son is now 7 and i am 29 and his dad is 27 thing is i'm seeing someone else and since he came by the other day we realised our feelings are real strong, ...
A. 22 July 2009: If he was not committed to you in the beginning, what's makes you thinks he's changed? And all over money? Please!
You said you moved on, then keep moving.
What should you do? Leave him alone...live your life with your new man & be happy. ... (read in full...)
I'm waiting on a man...
Q. I was dating my son's father for 3 1/2 years. When i became pregnant in 2007 he said our relationship was over because I wouldn't abort. We moved apart a month prior to the baby arriving. He was excellent and there through my entire labor. He love ...
A. 22 July 2009: You've already answered yourself honey:
"I'm frustrated with the entire situation. Don't intend on waiting, can't put my life on hold for someone to be ready. I'm 35 and he's 38, neither one of us is getting any younger and life is way to short... (read in full...)
Should I take him back? We have this chemistry.
Q. Ok let me break this down for you in its simplest form, if possible. Me and Sam click. Theres always been this chemistry which we both find difficult to gain from other relationships. Theres almost an oxymoron persona between us; love is always f...
A. 22 July 2009: At least you're honest enough to say that you don't want a relationship right now & if that is the case: DON'T HAVE ONE!
This guy seems a little unstable to me, it's like he wants to eat the candy, but he doesn't want to buy it. Enjoys your "li... (read in full...)
My parents want me to have a baby so they can look after it!
Q. im a 17 year old girl living in the UK! recently, my parents have been a little immature and stupid i think to be honest. my parents have been trying for another baby since i was 2, but were told for personal reasons she will find it very difficult ...
A. 22 July 2009: This is not a normal situation, and I wholeheartedly believe that something is seriously wrong with your mother. It is unfair to even ask you at your age to have a child. Your parents can easily adopt, but to put you in a position like this is ... (read in full...)
Possible to have a real relationship without sex?
Q. So is it possible to have a real relationship without sex? Im 16 and Im a virgin and in a great relationship but I just don't see the point in relationships if you're not gonna do anything else. I mean what good is a teenage relationship? So my ...
A. 21 July 2009: Yes it is possible.
Sex doesn't mean relationship & relationship doesn't mean sex. Though sometimes as a relationship grows & you feel that you are with the right person, etc. you may decide to have sex.
But yes, you can have a real relations... (read in full...)
My partner wont divorce his wife!
Q. I have been in a relationship for over 2 years now I am 52 and he is 62, i was married when i was 19 and left my husband 5 years ago, this is my first proper relationship since then, I was wary at the beginning about going into a relationship, but ...
A. 21 July 2009: You are too old for this crap, he is obviously still with his wife. Leave!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's blue balls.....he says if I don't give him head he will leave me!
Q. My boyfriend says every time we hang out he gets blue balls and is in pain for hours, even days. It causes him headaches and muscle cramps too. I do plenty of sexual things for him almost every time we hang out. He's tried masturbating beforehand, ...
A. 21 July 2009: Girl, you don't have to anything you don't want to & since when did the cure for blue balls become oral sex? That is an absolute lie...please listen to everyone else that has answered you...leave that man (if that's what you call him), you deserve ... (read in full...)
We broke up a year ago, but still 'hook up'!
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up a year ago, and since then we've been hooking up every so often. I'm not sure what to do, its like we cant get back together in a relationship because it just doesnt work out, but after a while we miss each other so much, ...
A. 21 July 2009: This is not rocket science!
Just decide, do you want to make it work or do you not want to make it work? Do you want you be sex buddies or do you really want to put your differences aside & make it last? STOP SEXING EACH OTHER UP for a while & ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to make the smell go away 'down there'?
Q. Hi, recently my boyfriend told me when ever we have sex that I dont smell very pleasant down there. I went and had a pap and everything was fine. i dont know what else to do?! any recommendations in how i can make the smell go away?...
A. 21 July 2009: First of all, EVERY woman has a natural smell in that area, that will NOT go away no matter how much you clean yourself.
If you have cleaned yourself well & went to your doctor and everything is fine then there's nothing for you do to.
Also, y... (read in full...)
I am thinking of a divorce, I'm fed up with the lies!
Q. I'm seriously thinking of divorcing my husband. I'm tired of all the lies and deceit. Back in April I checked out an email account that both my husband and I have access to but I hadn't looked at in over a year. I was sickened by what I saw. My ...
A. 21 July 2009: You are not making too much of this! He made vows to you not to his boss! If he wants his boss let him have her, but you do NOT have to subject yourself to this behavior, especially since you confronted him about it & he hasn't stopped. You deserve ... (read in full...)
We both cheated now he wants a week break!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 7 months, we've both cheated on eachother and i felt awful. After that we worked it out and then the arguing happened again this time more often and we got more verbally nasty with eachother. ...
A. 21 July 2009: There's nothing for you to do. All he said was not to call him for a week, so do that: sometimes it takes separation to bring appreciation. You both made mistakes & are trying to work it out, so maybe this one week will help you both. You may be ... (read in full...)
Why do people judge other people because of their size?
Q. i know this isnt relationship... but what exactly is wrong with 'fat' people? people slag them off, call them names, pick on them, bully them, talk about them! i dont get what the difference between a fat person and a thin person is? is it not the ...
A. 21 July 2009: Some people are just crude, rude,ignorant, superficial and believe that you have to be a certain size to truly exist. I however look at heavier people no differently than a smaller person. We all have feelings no matter what our sizes are and th... (read in full...)
I'm feeling guilt and regret over losing my virginity!
Q. i know theres no way i can go back or anything! but is there any ways of stoppin all this guilt and regret? ive been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. im 17 and hes 19, both virging when we got together, i always said i didnt want to loose ...
A. 21 July 2009: It's normal to have different feelings after the first time. And you may be feeling that way because you really wanted to wait but got "caught up" in the moment. Go easy on yourself though, and don't beat yourself up about it. Talk to your ... (read in full...)
Will he ever be serious with me?
Q. I dated a guy three years ago and although we live in different countries we've stayed in touch. When we dated there was a huge amount of chemistry, we couldnt keep our hands off each other. I didnt feel important to him, i never met him on weeke...
A. 21 July 2009: It doesn't really seem like he's interested. But however you really need to talk with him, find out where he stands. Ask him how he feels about you, and where he wants your relationship to go. You both need to talk to each other. ... (read in full...)
My husband get angry, throws things and sometimes hits me, what should I do?
Q. hi there, ok my question is more of a long story that i need advice on my husband has this thing where i cant do anything right he will give me a list of things he wants done before he gets home and i will do my best to finish them but he never be...
A. 21 July 2009: To the lady who wrote this post...whether he hit you with his hands or with an item...it is still ABUSE, and hitting you his hands WILL become the next thing when he tire if throwing things. You can't cover up what you see happening in your home and ... (read in full...)
Down with shaving!
Q. I've got this problem, since last year I've been getting an ingrown hair on my vagina area. I went to the doctor when I first got them and she said that all I can do is exfoliate and there's no treatment unless for severe cases you get surgery so I ...
A. 21 July 2009: Even though you don't like pubic hair, you should let it grow just for a little while. You may be agitating your pubic area by the constant, plucking, waxing & etc. So give it rest for a minute, exfoliate first, then wax...and you should be okay ... (read in full...)
What is he thinking? Why does he still talk to me but makes no plans with me?
Q. I am not here to ask if cheating on my spouse is wrong because I know it is...so that said, I am confused about the way the "other man" is feeling. We have known each other for almost a year. I felt the attraction between us almost from the start, ...
A. 20 July 2009: This is a site for people to give you their opinions to those who ask for it, and if we say something you don't want to hear of course you'll say: I don't want to be judged for my actions.
That said,my take on this: you obviously have let your... (read in full...)
When an ex is jealous does that mean he wants you back?
Q. when my ex saw me with a new boyfriend he became jeaous. After some weeks he texted measking if I have a boyfriend now. Does it mean that he still likes me?When an ex is jealous does it mean that he still likes me and want me back? ...
A. 20 July 2009: NOOOO!!!!
It does not mean he wants you back, don't be a fool. So what he texted you, if you moved on & have a new man, then keep moving on & leave the ex just that: an ex!... (read in full...)
Does it hurt to get fingered?
Q. my boyfriend wants so finger me but im still a virgin and ive never used a tampon, so im affraid its goin to hurt, can anyone help me please?...
A. 20 July 2009: Yeah, it may hurt.
If you don't want to be fingered just yet, tell your fast, nasty boyfriend that he needs to wait! Don't do anything because he wants to, it's YOUR body! Tell him to finger his self! ... (read in full...)
I want to live as a happy family but I'm finding it very hard to keep pretending.
Q. I'm a 35y man living with my younger partner and over the last year or so I've realised that I'm not in love with her anymore although I know she thinks the world of me. We were only together a couple of weeks when she fell pregnant and we now have ...
A. 20 July 2009: You know, the worst thing that you can do is to continue leading this woman on with a false pretense that you are happy with her. If you stay, you are only going to end up keeping what you truly feel inside, and you say you don't want to hurt her ... (read in full...)
How can I make him trust me and not feel the need to get one up on me?
Q. Me and my ex have been talking again and it has become clear that we have trust issues. we both seem to be playing games with each other even though we dont intend to. we are both trying to make each other jealous by getting in with other people, ...
A. 20 July 2009: Ok STOP the tape! Listen to what you're saying:
"Me and my ex have been talking again": talking in what way? Are you dating again or just having conversation? Cause if you're just conversating, then there was no need for this post.
"we are... (read in full...)
Do you think I should get back with him?
Q. i dated this guy for 2 weeks which is a very short amount of time. B4 we got together, we would always talk and all that. and he was sooo sweet and nice to me. on our first date i could definitely tell that he liked me alot! he definitely showed it ...
A. 20 July 2009: From the look of it, you sound like you're in a relationship. It doesn't sound like he's in a relationship. Maybe you need to talk to him & make sure you both are on the same page. A date doesn't always mean relationship. So talk to him & make sure ... (read in full...)
How do you make a long distance relationship work, unable to go to see her?
Q. How do you make a long distance relationship work if we cant see each other for a long time... we are both 16 and she lives 11 hours from me so i have no way i can see her. but we really like each other. There's no way i could see her till i was at ...
A. 20 July 2009: A long distance relationship is hard enough to deal with even when you have a car. And it takes a whole lot more than telephone calls & emails. And considering that you both don't have vehicles and are so young, I don't want to sound rude, but I ... (read in full...)
I have a lot of pain and burning when we have sex, what could be the problem?
Q. ok well iv benn having sex with my boyfriend for a while now atleats 16 times.. and its hurt me everytime its like a burning feeling around my vagina walls i hate it i havnt sed anything to my bf but it hurts SOO SOO bad i get to wear i wana cry... ...
A. 20 July 2009: Like Gina said...go to the doctor, get checked & hope it's nothing serious!... (read in full...)
I am 14 and attracted to my friend's 58 year old aunt, how do I let her know of y sexual feelings?
Q. hi I'm a 14 year old virgin male. I have feelings for my friend's aunt(they live with their aunt). I go across the street to their house and play with them often. their aunt is 58 and has a nice body. I asked my friends if they cared if I had sex ...
A. 20 July 2009: I agree with aphexinfinite!
You are too young, and you do not need to let her know anything, there could be trouble for the both of you. But I doubt this woman will give a 14 year old the time of day.... (read in full...)
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