I just want him to love me for me, not just use me for sex or try to make me the person he wants me to be.
Q. I have been with my bf for just over a year, I love him so much, I nearly died a few months back and since then things haven't been right, he won't open up to me or talk to me. But now I have an STI and I think he has been cheating, he tells me he ...
A. 5 December 2008: I think I replied to your previous question also regarding the STI, heres my 2pence worth (I used to be a serial cheater, then I found 'the one' and keep it firmly in my pants now'. At 16-17 imo you are way to young to tie yourself down to... (read in full...)
How soon after having treatment for Chlamydia is it OK to have safe sex?
Q. I had chalamydia last year i had treatment and so did my partner. But i have it again. I had treatment yesterday and so did my partner. Is it possible that the treatment didn't work last time? And how soon after having treatment is it ok to have ...
A. 5 December 2008: Thanks for the feedback, and Im sorry you had to find out this way. But its better to know than not i quess. Hes obviously not worth it if he puts your life at risk, good luck for the future :)... (read in full...)
My partner's child stays with us at weekends which is very stressful for me!
Q. I have been with my partner for 2 and half years, we live together with my 12 year old daughter. He has a 6 year old son from previous relationship who stays with us at weekends. Lately each weekend is becoming stressful and my partner is trying to ...
A. 5 December 2008: Does he treat your daughter as his own, if so why cant you treat his son as your own? You need to speak to him about his sons behavour, and make sure he puts a stop to it, especially the violence (assuming its from the son, if its from him, goto t... (read in full...)
How soon after having treatment for Chlamydia is it OK to have safe sex?
Q. I had chalamydia last year i had treatment and so did my partner. But i have it again. I had treatment yesterday and so did my partner. Is it possible that the treatment didn't work last time? And how soon after having treatment is it ok to have ...
A. 5 December 2008: Sorry I hate to say this, but One of you is most likly cheating! and the fact that your asking this question its probably not you. If you partnet asking questions asw ell, or is he just brushing it aside, saying that the treatment must have not wo... (read in full...)
I caught my sister's boyfriend cheating on her, what now?
Q. I saw my sister's boyfriend cheating on her (she's 14 and he's 17 and he's also is in my grade) at a party and I think he was drunk. I always had a bad vibe around him but I thought I being paranoid so I ignore it (plus my sis wouldn't’t have listen ...
A. 5 December 2008: She will only get more hurt in the future if she catches him herself. May i add thats what camera phones are for ;) Speak to him, say what you saw and that he has to tell her or you will! Shes your siser, and you need to do the right thing b... (read in full...)
We had sex for the first time today, is it likely that I would get pregnant?
Q. Hi people, please help me asap, I'm really worried and don't know what to do. Me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time today and when we had finished and he pulled back the condom fell off and was left inside of me. This was the third time he ...
A. 3 December 2008: You need to go and get the morning after Pill, yes you can get pregnant, no matter how much sperm has had contact with you. Next time make sure he hold onto the comdon as he pulls out (like it says on the packet). ... (read in full...)
Can a shy man be attractive?
Q. Hello. Do women find good looking articulate loners attractive - albeit strictly those who do not exhibit psychotic tendencies!? Many thanks....
A. 2 December 2008: The face you said "albeit strictly those who do not exhibit psychotic tendencies!? " worries me, and by mentioning it you may inface come accross as a bit of a 'weirdo'
but that aside, Im sure there are women out there that do like the quiet ty... (read in full...)
Do all women expect you to read their minds to some degree?
Q. Girls keep leaving hints, sometimes I get them sometimes I don't. Of course I don't really mind when it comes to little things, but when it comes to huge emotional issues it seems to come out at an unexpected moment. Unexpected as in "how was I ever ...
A. 27 November 2008: Unfortunatly yes... Annoying isint it ;)
But heres the trick... Never mention it in an argument it will only make the situation worse.... (read in full...)
What does he mean by "it wouldn't bother him if I cheated?"
Q. help me untangle this weird love thing I am in please... recently I got together with a guy and its been great... we were talking the other day about a whole trust issue thing and he mentioned to me that if I cheat he wouldn't bother chasing me or ...
A. 25 November 2008: Yes thats exactly what he meant, he would walk away and not try to save the relationship.... (read in full...)
He's telling me I'm hopeless in the bedroom!!!!
Q. My boyfriend has a very high sex drive, and is now saying I have to improve our sex life or he will end the relationship. (basically he told me he doesn't enjoy having sex with me.. I need to get into it more and seem like I'm enjoying it) I would ...
A. 19 November 2008: Has he considered that he need to put more effort in to make you enjoy it? Try suggesting that to him... althoguh this is likly to cause an argument... so only do if your brave ;)... (read in full...)
How hard do you have to be to penetrate?
Q. How hard do you have to be to penetrate? Usually when my gf gives me oral for example, at the beginning I'm not that hard but as you get into the motion you become more and more hard, however you can't apply the same trick to sex because if you're ...
A. 17 November 2008: Forplay is the key here :) Just have a little play with each other before trying full sex... when things are hard and wet enough you will get the idea :)... (read in full...)
I love my online boyfriend and now he isnt replying to me
Q. help please i got to know this boy online and i fell for him. i told him that i was in love with him and he said he was too. so we started somthing. but he's been all off me and isnt reply to me. i dont wanna be a pain, but i love him. does thi...
A. 13 November 2008: Your not going to like my answer, but this is my honest opinion:
How people can this they fall in love with someone without ever holding seeing them, holding them close, feeling there touch/kiss amazes me!
You were friends and thats all, there... (read in full...)
Just had sex for first time and it hurt! Will it be better second time?
Q. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE READ AND ANSWER I just had sex a few hours ago for the first time and it hurt a lot which I was expecting I didn't bleed... I dont regret having it but I did not feel any pleasure at all and now that I think sex is all talke...
A. 12 November 2008: It is likly to still hurt for the next few times, untill your body becomes use to it, then you will start to enjoy and see what its all about :)
Make sure you relax your body and that you are fully in the mood, maybe try lubrication and see if t... (read in full...)
He went to a prostitute and didn't get an erection???
Q. My friend went to a prostitute for the first time at the age of 19 but he did not feel any thing during the foreplay and also did not get an erection, could you please tell why? and is this an indication of physical problems in future?...
A. 12 November 2008: 'Your friend' was probably nervous and so this caused his problems.. 'he' needs to find someone he is relaxed around and experiment with them and all will be fine... there will be no pressure on him that way. Good luck, I mean tell your fr... (read in full...)
Do you know anybody who quit drug addiction?
Q. Do you know anybody who quit drug addiction? Do you know what made them quit? Do you know how did they got into it? Do you think drug addiction a disease or a choice? My child is very sick, but I can't do anything, all attempt failed. D...
A. 12 November 2008: I wouldnt say i was addicted, but I was doing Coke, xtc, ketimin and mdma most weekends.
It was partially due to my friends doing it, and being bored/having nothing else to do.
But all this stoped when I meet my current girlfriend, She ... (read in full...)
Wow! What am I doing wrong?
Q. My boyfriend tells me he feels no pleasure during sex and the only reason he does it is to get an orgasm out of it. Is something wrong? +we're quite young....
A. 11 November 2008: Yes to young to be having sex, and two young to deal with the imotional side of it.... that aside...
The purpose of having sex it not just to cum, but it seems asthough hes not old enough to realise that yet. He needs to take into consider... (read in full...)
If you leave sex for a few days your hymen heals itself and you have to break it all over again. Is this true??
Q. Last Friday, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend. It really hurt (me being very nervous probably didn't help) and I bled, but I thought that at least next time it won't hurt as bad. Thing is, my friend told me that if you leave it for a few days ...
A. 11 November 2008: Did he tell yo this, or have you heared this else where?
Either way, its not true, It does not grow back!
If he told you this, maybe you should ask yourslef why he did?
I cant comment on if it will hurt as much, id say probably not, but it... (read in full...)
I felt this bead type thing under my nipple, what is it?
Q. Hey, last night i was watching TV and felt this bead type thing under my nipple. Its really uncomfortable to touch and all day throughout school it was irritated. One of my friends says he has one and I heard that teens in puberty get them ...
A. 6 November 2008: Yup i had them myself, went after 6 months or so, as the last guy said its just hormones it will pass :)... (read in full...)
2 questions - why can't I cum and why do my nipples always get hard?
Q. i have 2 questions: okay heres the first. i can't cum no matter what. i've tried masturbating different ways, but nothing works, and i have been mastubating since i was young and i can have an orgasm but i don't cum.. and the only way i have an or...
A. 5 November 2008: First of the nice easy one... Nipples... Yes they get hard all the time, it just means there are sensative... a good thing :)
No not being a girl and not having experianced the female orgasam (1st hand anyway, lol) i may not be correct, but an o... (read in full...)
Is it okay for girls to make themselves orgasm?
Q. Ok, well this is very embarrassing to be asking about but is it ok for girls, at my age (14) to make themselves... orgasm? Becacause I have this thing I do where if I imagine certain things (no need to go into that though) and rub against my... you ...
A. 24 October 2008: Its natural to experiment on yourself at your age, im sure most the girls you know do it ;)
Relax and just enjoy yourself.
... (read in full...)
Pregnant at 14 and in care. What do I do?
Q. I am 14 years old.I was recently put into the care system but i have just found out im pregnant. I want to keep the baby but i have no support from my family or anyone else to be hounest.the father isnt in the picture either.i also have no where to ...
A. 24 October 2008: I suggest finding your local Brook center and going to speak to them, they deal with more than just abortions, and can help put you in touch with all thr rigth people, to hopfully set yor mind at ease.
Do you gave a social worker you can talk to?... (read in full...)
Should I Break Up With Her Before Or After The Holidays??
Q. Sadly, I think I need to break up with my girlfriend. We have been dating over a year and have been close friends for three years prior to that. I love her to death, and she thinks I am the one. Even though I still love her, I feel a break up is ...
A. 24 October 2008: Sooner than later mate, there is no point living a lie just to keep her happy and to delay the truth.
I'm a firm believer of always looking after number one in these situations, you never know 'mrs right' may come along in the next few weeks, a... (read in full...)
How can I find a boyfriend?
Q. Ok i am a girl and i have not had a real relationship ever. My sister try to help me find a guy but he liked her so he used me. My things is i feel like i my never find a guy because when i try it ends up blowing up in my face i cry at night now so ...
A. 24 October 2008: Everyone has a chance, chances are he will come along when you least expect it :) Im sure (in fact i know) there are many guys out there thinking the same as you are.... (read in full...)
Do many guys lie about cumming?
Q. I had unprotected sex about 3 days ago (Oct 21) and I start my period at the end of the month. So anyday now it should come. Anyhow, He said that he didnt come in me during sex but I am sure that he lied because he did jurk some and couldnt get up r...
A. 24 October 2008: It dosnt matter if he came in you or not, you can still get pegnant form it, you should always use some form of protection to avoid pregnancy.
If he got the the point of no return he may have cum accidentially, and not wanted to scare you by telli... (read in full...)
My boyfriend finds me unattractive because of my small boobs and thin body structure...
Q. My boyfriend(for 3 yrs) feels that i am too thin for him and he is not that attracted to me since i have small boobs. It really hurts me when he comments harsh things about my body. He says that i need to become a little fat to carry on with the ...
A. 24 October 2008: Are you a healthy weight for you Height? and were you the size you are now when you meet him?
He shouldnt critisize the way you look, and there is nothing wrong with being skinny if its how you are naturally (ie not anorexic etc...) and even if ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that the guy I cheated on him with is trying to contact me? Should I tell his girlfriend the he cheated with me?
Q. I cheated on my bf in June and confessed to it about 2 weeks later. He reacted badly (unsuprisingly) but he's finally beginning to get over it and trust me again. However, the guy I cheated with has been trying to contact me, trying to add me as a ...
A. 23 October 2008: Warn off the guy by saying you will tell his GF if he continues to try to contact you, but Yes tell your BF... Its better he finds out form you, it will just increase the trust he has for you. If he founs out that he had been contacting you and u ... (read in full...)
He used to have chlamydia but he says it's gone now.
Q. This might sound like a daft question but does chlamydia come and go? I know he HAD it, but he said he doesn't now :s does it just go? or does he still have it?? He wants me to sleep with him but I'm really unsure about him although I do like him, ...
A. 23 October 2008: chlamydia if ver easy to treat with a course of anti-biotics, chances ar he had it and has been treated by a doctor....
If he hasnt and is lieing to you he is not worth being with... chlamydia wont go on its own he would need to be treated ... (read in full...)
A threesome gone wrong!
Q. Hi.. I had this crazy idea once to have a threesome. I was really drunk and so we had a threesome, me my boyfriend and another guy. I love him with my whole heart and I felt really bad about it the next day, since he said at the beginning he didn...
A. 23 October 2008: By you knowing he didnt want to before and going ahead with it, he probably feels as though you have willingly and knowingly cheated on him with this other guy.
As you asked for the threesome he probably feels even more betrayed... and feels th... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want her to join the choir?
Q. Okay, my friend won't tell me who the guy is so I'm just going to ask here instead of going and asking him like I want to. She told this guy once how she was interested in signing up for some choir classes in the next semester and she really likes ...
A. 23 October 2008: Does he have somthing todo with the choir?
As you said they used to date, maybe he doesnt want to have to work with her everyday? or however often it maye be.
If not, do they get on after the split?
As he may just be being spiteful, I know I... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is cheap!! What do I do and how do I tell him?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 7 months long distance. We usally see eachother every weekend. At first I went there everyweedenk and for bus trips and cab rides it was over 100$ a weekend(plus everything else, alcohol, food etc.) He comes down more ...
A. 23 October 2008: How serious are you about this guy? Do couples not help eachother out? he may have some serious money problems that your not aware of, instead of telling him he is cheap, ask him if he is in debt/strugeling to pay it off!... (read in full...)
Is it legal to have sex with him?
Q. Hi, I am a 17 year old girl and seriously in love with a 27 year old. Is it legal if I have sex with him as I love him so much and hes been saying no to me. Pls help. anonymous....
A. 22 October 2008: Yes it fine, you are over 16 which is the legal age in the UK.
Maybe he is saying no for another reason? He may not feel ok about it because of the age differance. At 27 a 17 year old may just seem 'to young' to morraly have sex with.... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me if this is an orgasm?
Q. I have been in a loving relationship for 5 years and we are both very open minded where sex is concerned but i'm not sure if I've ever had an orgasm. (Please don't reply you'll know if you've had one - that doesn't help). I get to a point where...
A. 22 October 2008: It sounds as though you are getting the buildup to the 'big O' but not the release (exactly as you described it), just keep working at it, try not to force one to cum along (pun intended) and im sure you will get there eventually.... (read in full...)
Guys, what do you like girls to do with their tounges in your mouth?
Q. ok, i no its lame, but ive never been kissed like all my friends have. when we were 12, they played spin the bottle every weekend at the skating rink (yes, im from a small town in the midwest), while i was/am busy living a sheltered life with the ...
A. 22 October 2008: Simple answer dont use your tounge, It really puts me off, and TBH i can remember the last time i kissed a girl who actually did 'french kiss' or kiss with toungs.
Just moisten your lips slightly and part them a little bit, the rest will come nat... (read in full...)
How can I make my periods regular?
Q. I think I have irregular periods. I get my period every 2-5 weeks and last from 4-8 days. is that normal? what should I do to make it regular? its irritating because I never know when I'm gonna start and I hate starting when I'm at school!...
A. 21 October 2008: You could Go to see you doctor and request to go on the pill, This will requlate your periods (every four weeks).
Obviously let him know why you want to go on, and maybe let your mum know also?
But (from what ive read, and not experianced bein... (read in full...)
Sometimes when we're kissing he has his eyes closed, which is very odd to me.
Q. I've been dating a guy for about four months now and I really care about him a lot. He tells me he loves me and I tell him I love him. He's eleven years older than me but I don't think that really matters. I love him. I do have a concern though. ...
A. 17 October 2008: I always Kiss with my eyes closed, it shouldn't mean anything. It's more personal that was isn't it?... (read in full...)
Love quadrilateral, advice needed.
Q. my 'boyfriend' has two other girlfriends and we all know about each other. well ,two of us know exactly what's going on but his real,legitimate girlfriend doesn't. the thing is his real girlfriend 'T' really likes me even though i try to...
A. 14 October 2008: Yes you should leave him, he is playing all of you against eachother to get what he wants (most likly attention/sex from each of you).
Get away fomr him, and find someone who really cars about not, and not just themself/there own needs.
Your fr... (read in full...)
I so want to have sex with my boyfriend but am frightened in case I've caught anything from previous boyfriends!
Q. Recently I went through a real slutty stage and had 4 one night stands for the fun of it. The trouble was each of these times I had unprotected sex. My dilemma is that I want to have sex with my now boyfriend but im putting it off (even sex with a c...
A. 14 October 2008: Why dont you suggest that you go and get tested together, so that you both know eachother are safe?
That way if either of you has anything the other one will be there to support the other.
Dont risk passing anything on to your partener, play i... (read in full...)
He's 18. I'm 15. Does anyone think this is bad?
Q. Hi I really like this guy but he's 18 and I am only 15. He is 19 in December, which makes it worse, but he doesn't want anything to happen until I'm 16, but I am not going to be16 until April. Does anyone think this bad ?...
A. 14 October 2008: Dosnt sound bad to me :) the guy sounds mature in what he says, by wating untill you are 16 for anything to happen. and 1 3 year age gap is nothing once you turn 16 :)
Good luck :)... (read in full...)
After 12 weeks, would you say we were a couple or not?
Q. Hi aunts just a quick question. I met a guy off a dating site around 12 weeks ago. He is amazing. Cute, funny, kind etc. If we dont catch up he calls me every day, we go out to dinner all the time and have met each others friends. I'm just about to ...
A. 14 October 2008: Yes you are in a relationship :)... (read in full...)
How do I get my dad to allow me to have a boyfriend? All my friends are allowed to date!
Q. so there is this boy and we hang out all the time! i am between the age of 12-14 and he is the same age! it seems like he really likes me but i asked my dad if i could have a boyfriend and he said no your too young but all my friends are aloud to ...
A. 10 October 2008: Your probably not going to like me sayign this, but at 12-14 its really really unlikly that you are in love :) this is probably just your first crush and you are getting the feelings confused, it happens to all of us at a young age though, (and even ... (read in full...)
What is this pain in my clitoris? It's sore and the surrounding area gets itchy. It's on and off.
Q. For about 6 months now, ive had on and off pain in my clitoris. It gets really sore to touch and i cant wear tight pants because this makes the pain worse. This pain may last a couple of days and then it wont come back till weeks later, sometimes ...
A. 10 October 2008: This sounds like thrush, Have a read up about it on the internet :) If it is, its easially cureable, and symptioms die down within a couple of days from starting treatment.
Good luck at your doctors appointment :)... (read in full...)
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