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writes:I cheated on my bf in June and confessed to it about 2 weeks later. He reacted badly (unsuprisingly) but he's finally beginning to get over it and trust me again. However, the guy I cheated with has been trying to contact me, trying to add me as a friend and talk to me through facebook. He hasn't got a chance with me anymore as I've learned from my mistakes, so I haven't made any contact back. What I need advice on is whether I should tell my bf that he contacted me. If he finds out that I didn't tell him he'll get suspiscious, but we're getting on so well atm that I don't want to open up old wounds.Also, this is an opportunity to get things out in the open as the guy I cheated with told me he was single until after I fooled around with him. He then told me that he has a girlfriend and I work with her. I've just finished that job and I feel so guilty as his girlfriend is so lovely she deserves better than this guy but is still with him now (I assume he never told her about his cheating). Should I let her know now, as this guy obviously hasn't changed as he is still chasing me.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (23 October 2008):
 Your B/F must love you very much to have forgiven you so easy.
So.. I think it would be best to be honest with him. Explain why you are telling him and that you dont want to know, but he is pestering you. Maybe a word from your fella would get him to back off.
Should you tell his G/F.... I wouldnt, it would come across as rather cruel, because you were the girl that he cheated on her with.
Admitedly she needs to know, but it shouldnt come from you. Not in my opinion anyway.
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reader, Boredatwork +, writes (23 October 2008):
 Warn off the guy by saying you will tell his GF if he continues to try to contact you, but Yes tell your BF... Its better he finds out form you, it will just increase the trust he has for you. If he founs out that he had been contacting you and u hadnt told him.... he would think you have somthing to hide.
If you dont hide anythign in a relationship there is no need for jealousy or lack of trust :)
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