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Sometimes when we're kissing he has his eyes closed, which is very odd to me.

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Question - (17 October 2008) 19 Answers - (Newest, 21 October 2008)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I've been dating a guy for about four months now and I really care about him a lot. He tells me he loves me and I tell him I love him. He's eleven years older than me but I don't think that really matters. I love him. I do have a concern though. Sometimes when we're kissing he has his eyes closed, which is very odd to me. I'm not sure if him having his eyes closed or open while we're kissing/intimate matters or not. I'm wondering if you all can give me your experiences/opinion on this particular issue.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008):

Why are you freakin out about that? You must be a really creepy kisser if you keep your eyes open. I would be freaked out if my bf stared at me while kissing...

I don't think you need to worry. Closing your eyes is a good thing. He must really be enjoying it, so feel good about it, kay? I don't see why you don't. Once again:creepy kisser. No one likes to be stared at while kissing.

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A female reader, warmrain Canada +, writes (21 October 2008):

Always closed... much better

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A female reader, MichelleB United States +, writes (20 October 2008):

I don't think this is a problem. He's really into the moment and closing his eyes is just his way of expressing that deep connection while kissing.

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A female reader, lil-mizz-kerry United Kingdom +, writes (20 October 2008):

i love kissing with my eyes close it lets all the feelings inside take ova, my fella kissed wit his eyes open n i tryed it but i cudnt 4 laffen lol n he tryed wit his eyez closed n he liked it betta ..

you sud try it go to were you first meet and ave a romattic first kiss all ova again

just remember every1 is different dont let dat stop you doing anyfin

...xxxx

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A male reader, dandada14 Barbados +, writes (17 October 2008):

dandada14 agony aunthey i kiss with my eyes closed when u really like someone u do that he likes u and is enjoying the moment

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008):

Im tryin to think of any kissing scenes in a film of programme where it made out that kissin with eyes open is the normal thing....Im getting nowhere either!

Im interested to know how you came to think it was the other way round. Its total preferance though but don't go thinking its odd to have them closed, think the general view from people on here is eyes shut is the way to go...there must be reasoning behind everyone doing it the same way.

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A female reader, sappygirl United States +, writes (17 October 2008):

sappygirl agony aunti never open my eyes either. okay. to peek once in a while but most of the times it's closed because i'm wrap up in enjoying the moment. i think it's because if you close you eyes... then your only sense that would be working is your sense of touch. So therefore, you get more out of the kiss.

But if you open your eyes..you have to use sight and touch. Which takes away from the kiss. That's my guess.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008):

i always thought if you had your eyes closed it meant that you meant it? i always close my eyes.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008):

Yeah I am totally with everyone else, kiss with eyes closed is normal. Look at people in pubs, streets, films etc, when kissing you never see eyes open.

You, young lady, are the one I think the majority would call a little bit "odd", not him

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008):

I always close my eyes when Im kissing, as does my boyfriend! its way more normal to close your eyes than have them open.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008):

I agree. I always thought it was odd to kiss with your eyes open. I've actually had to get used to my man kissing with his eyes open, which I thought was very strange for a long time.

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A female reader, aunty_rach United Kingdom +, writes (17 October 2008):

eyes closed when kissing is normal. having them open would make me go cross eyed and it;s not very sexy going cross eyed and noticing every little dimple on his face. most people close their eyes when having a full on kiss. if it;s just a little peck or something small then normall keep them open. but if u watch a movie or whatever and see a couple having a passionate kiss then u will see they have their eyes closed. it's normal

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008):

Sorry babes, I'm with everyone else. My eyes close whilst I'm kissing. I can't help it. I'm in such a daze with the passion. If I kept my eyes open, I wouldn't be passionate, I would be examining him, like a scientist, rather than being caught up in the experience. So it's eyes closed all the way. Sorry.....

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (17 October 2008):

eyeswideopen agony auntEyeswideCLOSED when kissing, otherwise it would make me cross eyed.

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A female reader, happytochat Australia +, writes (17 October 2008):

I thought it was common to kiss with your eyes shut? And "odd" to kiss with your eyes open??

Have you ever been to an eye doctor and had they tell you to keep your eyes open and look straight at them while they have a magnify glass right up to your eye and they are like 1cm away from your face? Its incredibly weird. Having your eyes open when you are that close to somoene is weird and uncomfortable for me. I think its the same with kissing.

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A male reader, Crafter Bulgaria +, writes (17 October 2008):

Crafter agony auntAbsolutely with you on the one, Deejuliet.

It's rather creepy when you have your eyes open whilst kissing. It's like... well, it's just creepy.

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A female reader, deejuliet United States +, writes (17 October 2008):

deejuliet agony auntActually I think that you may be the odd one here. Lets see if we get a concensus, as I am the first one to answer, but I do believe that the vast majority of people close their eyes when they kiss! I think it would be rather unconfortable to be kissing with my eyes open!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008):

Actually, I NEVER open my eyes while kissing.. it's just sort of strange to do. I didn't know that other people open their eyes? I think you're worrying needlessly dear. Everyone has their own way of doing things. What is natural to one, is strange to another. Just enjoy the kiss!

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A male reader, Boredatwork United Kingdom +, writes (17 October 2008):

Boredatwork agony auntI always Kiss with my eyes closed, it shouldn't mean anything.

It's more personal that was isn't it?

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