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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been unofficially dating this guy for around 2 months.. I'm 16 and he is 19, the distance between us is not short either.. I live in North West London and he lives in South East London, so it takes one hour by train to get to each others house.I'm truly happy with him, and he is my first. We've been talking and we want to take things to the next step (be in a relationship with each other).I would really like to tell my mum, because I think she deserves to know, and I rather her know, that way I wouldn't have to hide things.There are a few problems though, my mum has gone through a lot this past year. She found my dad was cheating on her after a 30 year marriage and he is no longer living with us, and she has been under a lot of stress and still is, so I'm not sure how she would handle it.Secondly, I'm Indian and the guy is Grenadian. It's not that common I guess, but my mum isn't a strict mum either, interracial relationships don't bother her but it would still be a sudden shock to her.Lastly, he is 3 years older than me, and because of the ages at the moment, 16 and 19 it does seem very uncommon. I also have a very over-protective older brother, who is turning 19 in a couple of days. So he wouldn't be very pleased to see me dating someone who is older than him, and again it would be a shock.I understand that I shouldn't care what others think as long as I am happy, but it's the situation. I wouldn't want to break it to my mum in an awkward way because I truly don't know how she would handle it.I think the age is probably the main concern, because the race is a minor and that is something she would get over quickly as I know her well enough to make that judgment.Any help on what to do? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): age means nothing x
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reader, betty_black +, writes (17 June 2009):
 Well lets put this into perspective. My boyfriend is closer to my mums age than he is mine and my mums fine with it. Its only three years! Dont worry about it, your mum and brother should be happy as long as your happy. I think your mum will only worry that he maybe taking advantage of you.
Just sit her down and break it to her nicely. If she flies off the wall (which i doubt) just walk out, she'll come round. Good luck!
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