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I am married and I also have my ups and my down like everyone else. I will try and give you my best advise without being judgmental, and I'll be as open minded as possible.
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I hate condoms and she won't go on the pill!
Q. I am in a bit of a predicament with my new girlfriend. We're both 22 and have been going out for 2 months. Last week we talked about having sex with each other for the first time, it's not that one of us doesn't feel ready it's just an issue with ...
A. 31 January 2011: I would feel very uncomfortable for my partner to want to have sex with me without a condom. This would just show how careless he has been in the past. The realationship has to grow and I have to trust him and he has to trust me and know that we are ... (read in full...)
Am I being too demanding?
Q. I've been in a relationship for past 3 years and im very serious about him... he's got new'ly appointed 4 job and is quite busy these days and hardly has time 4 me.... and when i call up he doesnt have much to say to me. I think he is taking me for ...
A. 22 January 2011: Why not make it into quality instead of quantity of the time spent together. If he is busy because he has a new demanding job why not give me a break until he is confortable enough with his new schedule and learns how to manage his time with work. ... (read in full...)
My ex-wife and fiancee cannot both be at my father's funeral...what do I do?
Q. I have a dilemma that I doubt I will get much sympathy from here. I recently divorced after a year long separation following an affair. I live with my mistress and we are in love and planning to get married in a year or so. She has met all of m...
A. 22 January 2011: I have to say that because there will be children involve the best thing is for the new girlfriend to stay behind and let the ex-wife pay her respect. Your children might need her support and shoulder to lean on while they are putting their ... (read in full...)
I don't want to share my husband anymore!
Q. my husband has many GF and i know about all and he is not physically involved with any one but unfortunatily i had physically involved with a guy( he know all about me that i am too emotional and take advantage of mine ).once my husband caught us. ...
A. 17 January 2011: This is his call and he has made up his mind and you should respect that. You say your boyfriend has many girlfriends and I'm assuming you mean female friends, and thats all they are to him just friends. Sadly you crossed that line and cheated on ... (read in full...)
My sister-in-law gave my brother Herpes!
Q. I put that in the title to get people's attention, cause I really need advice on this. I'm tired of the comments my sister-in-law makes about me to my brother, and I'm mad at him for letting her feel like she doesn't have to respect me. Our whole ...
A. 7 January 2011: I feel that the best thing for you to do is stay away from there relationship. Let your brother handle this situation, if he chooses to be with her or not in reality is his decision.... (read in full...)
This girl keeps coming to me, then going back to the ex, again and again, why?
Q. I need help LADIES please answer this one, as you're the only ones that can... So I've been dating this girl, who is conflicted about her ex, but since I was so persistent, I guess she gave me a chance perhaps as a payback to her ex. My question is ...
A. 7 January 2011: She is with you for the sex, for the company, to help her forget about her ex and that is it, this does not make her a cheater or a person with bad morals.
A cheater is a person who is in a relationship with their partner and gets emotiona... (read in full...)
My sister-in-law gave my brother Herpes!
Q. I put that in the title to get people's attention, cause I really need advice on this. I'm tired of the comments my sister-in-law makes about me to my brother, and I'm mad at him for letting her feel like she doesn't have to respect me. Our whole ...
A. 4 January 2011: Keep your distance this is your brother life and he chose her to be in it. If he didn't leave her when she gave him herpes than that shows how much he loves her and this will be a losing battle for you. Love your brother and respect his decision.... (read in full...)
Am I over my ex?
Q. hi! well basically, iv been in a long term relationship with someone previously for almost 3 years... and within the three years i have been through a lot with them for example his cheated on me and i stil took him in.. and that has messed me up al...
A. 4 January 2011: Everytime you find yourself thinking on your ex and feeling miserable because you feel that you might still want him, than at that point you stop and think back to when he was a jerk to you. Don't worry about him, about how he treats his now ... (read in full...)
From girlfriend to friend but secretly not over him...how do I handle this?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf broke up with me few months back and we are now friends. My problem is, i am not over him, i still love him. He sees me just as a friend, but he knows how i feel about him. He is asking my advice about dating other girls,...
A. 4 January 2011: I think your going to have to keep your distance if talks about his future relationship hurt you.
If you want him to see you more than just a friend than your going to have to make him miss you and he will not miss you if your always by his side... (read in full...)
This girl keeps coming to me, then going back to the ex, again and again, why?
Q. I need help LADIES please answer this one, as you're the only ones that can... So I've been dating this girl, who is conflicted about her ex, but since I was so persistent, I guess she gave me a chance perhaps as a payback to her ex. My question is ...
A. 4 January 2011: It seems to me like she is not your girlfriend but your FWB and I think you are crossing the line and getting serious. You two are not in a relationship, in reality you don't know what she is thinking or feeling because she only goes to you when she ... (read in full...)
Does what he said sound genuine to you??
Q. I found out that my ex-boyfriend (mid 30s) was in contact with a Japanese lady (at least 30yo) he hooked up with on a business trip before we became official. He met her on the internet before his trip because he wanted someone to show him around in ...
A. 20 December 2010: He is your ex unless your trying to patch things up with him it shouldn't really matter to you if this is genuine or not since what should matter to you is that he cheated on you to begin with. ... (read in full...)
Should I try to keep the relationship going regardless??
Q. People in the story : Me (year 9) His ex-gf (year 11) And my boyfriend (year 10) The other girl in this story dated my boyfriend a little while ago. He dumped her because he really didnt like her anymore and then he asked me out a few o...
A. 20 December 2010: If you are getting bully than you need to tell an adult about this. If you let them get away with the bullying than your going to let them know that they can get away with messing with you and the bullying will never stop. Take a stand for yourself ... (read in full...)
Could a relationship and sex with a much younger man be a good experience for me?
Q. I am 42 and I have only been attracting younger men lately. The youngest recently was 24. I told him that’s way too young for me (only 6 years older than my oldest son) but he keeps trying to tell me why it could work between us. Not buying it. He ...
A. 20 December 2010: Have fun if you want to than go for it, enjoy it! Make sure you don't take him to seriously because you don't want to end up getting hurt, just enjoy the ride and go with the thrill. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her now or never, break up with her now or later??
Q. I've been dating a girl for the past several months. I use the term dating loosely because we haven't had any conversations on boundaries yet or monogamy. That's a problem in itself because she is much more in to me than I am in to her. Don't get me ...
A. 20 December 2010: If she thinks your exclusive and you let her think that by not clearing up the air than in her mind you two were being exclusive, therefore cheating in her eyes. My suggestion is to break it up ASAP why continue to play with her emotions. ... (read in full...)
Baby is on the way, how do I tell him when we have broken up??
Q. Hiya girls and guys. I recently found out that I'm pregnant. I'm only 17 and the father is 19. We broke up about a month ago but we're still friends. He is unemployed at the moment and still lives with his parents. I'm a student and I was hoping to ...
A. 20 December 2010: Your going to have to tell him and the sooner the better. By you understanding that just because your pregnant does not mean he has to be in a relationship with you shows that you are a mature teenager. He has to be financially responsible and ... (read in full...)
My relationships go nowhere, any secrets to finding a good guy??
Q. I am a 20 year old female that can not find the right guy for anything. i have dated soo many guys and only have had 2 serious relationships that both lasted 2 years. both of those guys left me heartbroken. they both left out of nowhere. this one ...
A. 20 December 2010: Enjoy the dating life without marking every guy as a suitable husband. This will make your dating more pleasant and fun. Meet new people and try to hang out with single people therefore you will have more things in common, and won't feel depressed. ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating and am I wrong for wanting more??
Q. I had been out of a 7 year relationship with a previous man of whom would never marry me, but expected to live with me and have children, I was dumb enough to have one. The relationship was over for 7 months. I had met another man one night ou...
A. 20 December 2010: What I don't understand is why are you fighting hard to keep this abuser in your life. He has obviously cheated on you, he has physically hurt you, and to top it all off he is playing the victim. I say dump the loser and start over with a real man, ... (read in full...)
Is she out to sabotage my love life??
Q. I have a friend who Ive known since I was 12. Shes one of my bestfriends, love her to death. But lately Ive been feeling a little funny about her. Years ago when I was in highschool, I had a boyfriend. Things were good between us until she came ...
A. 20 December 2010: If he makes you happy than try to stay in contact with him. Having a friend is a good thing because we can lean on their shoulders to cry when we are in pain but if this friend is making many attempts to see you alone than obviously she is not such ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him how sad I am our "friendship" is over or just move on??
Q. Hello to anyone who reads this, your time is greatly appreciated. My best friend has broken my heart. For the past 2 years he has lived his own life, studying on the other side of the country. It has been hard staying in each other’s lives, and I al...
A. 20 December 2010: You should be able to express your feelings to him since you two are very good friends and have been for a very long time. Distance changes things and just because he can't be there physically every minute of the day like he use to, it doesn't mean ... (read in full...)
When you cheat does it mean you really don't love your partner anymore?
Q. hi i just have a very simple question, i have been with my bf for 4 years now but i have recentley cheated on him for the first time ever and i am very confused about my feelings but i just wanted to know: when you cheat, does it really mean that ...
A. 13 December 2010: I don't think it means that you stop loving him, but I do think that you were missing something in your relationship and chose to cheat instead of communicating with your partner. To many cheating is a deal breaker in a relationship and the person ... (read in full...)
Parting talk...
Q. She now feels sickened to look back on our relationship. And whilst this hurts I can appreciate why this is. Being physically intimate with someone means a lot to her, and being her first and then it ending like that has affected her. Because ...
A. 13 December 2010: Good luck I hope everything works out for you.... (read in full...)
Parting talk...
Q. She now feels sickened to look back on our relationship. And whilst this hurts I can appreciate why this is. Being physically intimate with someone means a lot to her, and being her first and then it ending like that has affected her. Because ...
A. 10 December 2010: I think the e-mail is perfect. You want to have closure which is perfectly normal. You might want to add a little bit more to the email and talk about your feelings because you only know for sure how you feel.... (read in full...)
Does being fat mean you've got no self esteem?
Q. Hi everyone. Well I'm overweight. My parents are annoying me all the time saying 'I have to lose weight or I'll die'. I'm not that fat, it's only them who say things like that to me. My mom also says I have no self esteem cause I'm fat and I don'...
A. 10 December 2010: There is skinny people that have low self esteem, that hate their lives. Being fat does not necessarily mean your going to have low self esteem, because you could be chubby and love your life. Your parents sound worry about your weight because you ... (read in full...)
Mom said she would throw me out the house if I ever fell pregnant... and I just found out I AM!!!
Q. I am 15 and pregnant. My boyfriend and I had sex with him and the condom fell off. So I got scared and took a pregnancy test. I turned out to be pregnant. I have not told my mom yet because the last time we talked she told me if I get pregnant I ...
A. 10 December 2010: You have to tell her, this is not something you can hide. ... (read in full...)
Help! My girlfriend seems to be having second thoughts!
Q. So me an my girl will have been going together for a year this January. This is my first relationship and her second. We are both 20. Are relationship has also been sexual for this time. We have had many fights in this time but have always ...
A. 9 December 2010: good to hear that you broke it off and was able to remain friends.... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my 16 year old student.
Q. hi.. i am a teacher who teache to 11th and 12th std studets. one of my students is intrested in me for friendship. she didnt expressed it but her body langue suggests that she is intrested in me. she is just 16years of and i am 34 years of age. my ...
A. 1 December 2010: Stay away from her because she is a student. This is the best solution to your problem.... (read in full...)
Why did she make a date with her ex when she's supposedly still broken up over our break up?
Q. My girlfriend of 4 months cheated on me while I was out of town a month ago. She told me about it because the guilt was killing her because I'm a nice guy, especially to her. I wanted to try and work it out, but she said it would be too different ...
A. 1 December 2010: Honestly dude don't consider giving her another chance. She cheated on you yes she did came out clean because her guilt was killing her but instead of wanting to work things out with you she decides that there is to much damage in the relationship. ... (read in full...)
What's with this threesome double standard?
Q. My boyfriend told me he'd like to try a threesome. I told him I'd do it but that I'd also like a threesome but with another guy. He went from totally enthusiastic that I said yes to furious. I told him I didn't want him to do anything with the other ...
A. 1 December 2010: Don't do it! If he agrees to the threesome make sure you do yours first MWM because if he does his FMF first he will simply back off and not pay his deeds. ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this drunken mistake?
Q. i have been with this guy for about 7weeks now and i am really really happy and completely besotted by him but a couple of nights ago i tried to kiss his friend. i don't remember it happening as i was completely under the influence but now i feel so ...
A. 1 December 2010: This was his friend so the chances of you getting caught are high. People do dumb stuff when drunk telling you by experience, but you have to man up to it. It happened and like I was told in my post you can't turn back time whats done is done just ... (read in full...)
He is still not totally over his ex, what should I do?
Q. I've been dating this guy for a couple of months. I am in love with him, I can picture having a life and future with this guy. But a part of him is still not over his ex. She was kinda his girl that got away. I told him if the main reason as to why ...
A. 1 December 2010: You deserve to be with someone who will truly love you and only you. Don't settle for second best leave now and rebuild your future with someone that is not stuck in the past. ... (read in full...)
How can I get talking to him more and should I let him know that I like him ?.
Q. I like this guy who works at a place that i go to to get help to get back into work. He gave the induction that i went to, and now i see him whenever i go in to see an Advisor. I usually see him on a computer or something, but i dont get to speak to ...
A. 1 December 2010: Your getting excellent advise. Start with the small talk to break the ice, find out if he is in a relationship and if he is not than ask him out for coffee. Good Luck.... (read in full...)
Does she still feel the same way about me after what I did?
Q. Hi. My ex girlfriend and i broke up about 4 weeks ago and shes with someone else. She made me mad about 2 days ago and i went off on her and i told her That i seriously didnt want to see her again ever. She txted me later that night saying "I was ...
A. 1 December 2010: I think you have deep feelings for your ex and your relationship is over therefore you should walk your own path erasing her from your life. You can't be friends with her because you still have feelings for her.... (read in full...)
I really want sex again after breaking up with my ex, but I know I am not totally over him yet. What should I do?
Q. Okay so, my (first) boyfriend of 18 months just left me. He was the first and only person i've had sex with. But now i havent had sex for a couple of months and i really want to :S i'm worried i'll end up having sex with someone i don't know very ...
A. 1 December 2010: You should first go out with him and before you have sex with him figure out if all you want from him is sex without being in a relationship than go for it. But if there is a small chance of you liking him more than just a booty call, than hold on ... (read in full...)
I know how much my past hurts him, but now his behaviour is hurting me!
Q. Hi everyone, I am 22 years old girl. I am deeply in love with my boyfriend since 6 months ago. He's an international student, we both met in college roughly one year ago. It was a romantic how we first met, but we didn't start our relationship since ...
A. 1 December 2010: Why should you feel sorry for how he feels. There is not much you can do about his jealousy. You are not giving reason for him to be jealous because this was in your past not your present. You lied yeah that wasn't good but you have paid him back by ... (read in full...)
Should I attempt to find this person? I have a strong desire to reconcile with her for what I did
Q. Twenty five years ago I had a brief affair (I was married at the time) with another woman that I cared for deeply. I was in the army and left for Germany without telling her I was leaving. (doing what I thought was the 'right' thing by my wife at ...
A. 1 December 2010: I'm thinking that what you are seeking is closure to that part of your life. You left her behind and stayed with your wife therefore didn't close this chapter in your life. I think you should look for her and apologize for the pain you probably ... (read in full...)
My ex wants me back, but I don't want him to think he can play with me when he wants! What should I do?
Q. so i have been with this guy for 3 years and i love him so much. the thing is we havent been the same, he cheasted when we first started to date and ive forgave him for that but now i cant realy trust him, and on top of that last year i left him for ...
A. 1 December 2010: You will be making a big mistake by going back with him just because he snapped his fingers and said I want things to be like they use to be. If you want to have a relationship with this man my suggestion would be for him to court you again. Have ... (read in full...)
Help!!! I have a gut feeling that my boyfriend of 3 years is cheating.
Q. I have a gut feeling that my boyfriend of 3 years is cheating. Lately he has been distant, says its more work related. We don't speak as much as we used to. Last week as we were texting he called me "Judy" my name is no where even close to th...
A. 1 December 2010: Talk to him don't jump into any conclusions. He made have his attention elsewhere but you can't guarantee an infidelity simply because he called you a different name. He may or may not be cheating and only him and you can clear up this mess. ... (read in full...)
Who does he like more, me or his girlfriend?
Q. Hey umm I really like this guy... But he has a girlfriend, But everytime he is with me he cheats on his girfriend with me, He flirts with me, He kisses me I think he likes me... I can see the way he looks at me, I dont know who he likes more Me ...
A. 1 December 2010: He like he girlfriend more because he is with her and he has given her a title, you in the other hand is only the other women the one he cheats on his girlfriend with. He kisses you in hiding, he hugs you in hiding, he keeps you in hiding therefore ... (read in full...)
I have secretly been in love with my best friend's husband for 20 years.
Q. I have secretly been in love with my best friend's husband for 20 years. I have never told anyone this and I have never acted upon my feelings. Recently I felt that he may have feelings for me too! He hasn't directly told me so or made a pass at me ...
A. 1 December 2010: Date and seek out different men, this man is off limits and you should put a boundary between you and him. If he strokes your hair than move easy as that, don't let him touch you because he is a married man. He is married to your BFF which makes ... (read in full...)
I don't love him anymore, help!
Q. I'm only 19 years old and i've been dating this one guy for about 4 years. But our relationship is far from perfect. I dont even know why i'm still with this guy. I know that sounds mean but he has done soo many things that i should have just walked ...
A. 29 November 2010: Can you really imagine yourself married to a person you can't trust. Imagine what your life is going to be like married to him, not knowing if he is telling you the truth, if he is being faithful. You already know this marriage will be a big ... (read in full...)
Surprise kiss and now he thinks I don't like him!
Q. Hi I was out with my friends in the snow today and my friend that I really like lets call him ''Luke'' tackled me to the the ground and kissed me full on and i was kind of stunned so i didn't kiss back and he got really upset.Now he thinks that i...
A. 29 November 2010: grab an ice cube and put it down his shirt, you will definitely catch his attention using this approach. Once you have his attention tell him not to be silly that you really like him and that he startle you when he kissed you. ... (read in full...)
Help! My girlfriend seems to be having second thoughts!
Q. So me an my girl will have been going together for a year this January. This is my first relationship and her second. We are both 20. Are relationship has also been sexual for this time. We have had many fights in this time but have always ...
A. 23 November 2010: Why don't you make this hard decision. Obviously you two are too different and have different goals and expect different things in life. ... (read in full...)
Help! My girlfriend seems to be having second thoughts!
Q. So me an my girl will have been going together for a year this January. This is my first relationship and her second. We are both 20. Are relationship has also been sexual for this time. We have had many fights in this time but have always ...
A. 22 November 2010: You two have different goals nothing wrong with that. She might have liked you and developed feelings for you through time but the difference in goal is the set back here. I feel that maybe you two are not compatible may love each other but the ... (read in full...)
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