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writes:My girlfriend of 4 months cheated on me while I was out of town a month ago. She told me about it because the guilt was killing her because I'm a nice guy, especially to her. I wanted to try and work it out, but she said it would be too different between us, that she couldn't forgive herself, and that I deserve better. So we broke up, and the next day she told me that an ex-bf, who wanted to get back together with her, was coming over to make dinner that night. I threw an uncharacteristic verbal tantrum and she cancelled that "date". What does it mean if she is willing to have a date with an ex-bf right away even though she says she hasn't forgiven herself for cheating on me? The relationship was going well prior to this and she says she had never been happier with anyone else. I'm confused, please help???
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reader, Jonronjon +, writes (5 December 2010):
Shes trash. She will make it look like shes hurt but will run to the next guy. She cheated because she has no respect for you or your feelings and her way to make herself feel better is to run to another man. She wont change. Part of her cares about you yes, But shes a woman and her needs will ALWAYS come first. She could have 20 other Bfs shes trying to hook up with and will throw them away just for you because it hurts your feelings then cheat on you again.
Think about it this way. She knew she Loved you when she talked to the guy, she knew she loved you when she was making out with him and she KNEW she loved you when she was having Sex with them. And she knew afterwards. She knew she loves you when she was talking to her ex who of course is waiting on the side for a chance and has been the entire time you two were together and she also knew. Bet you anything her and the Ex have hooked up before while you two were dating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): Yes, she's long ready to move on, and moved on without you.
Nothing wrong with you, it's her that's got the issue of not knowing how to end a relationship properly.
Make sure you don't do the same in the future, that's all you can do.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (1 December 2010):
 I can't say it any better than CaringGuy just did. She was over you before she even cheated, that's why she moved on so fast. I agree that she planned this out.
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (1 December 2010):
 Honestly dude don't consider giving her another chance. She cheated on you yes she did came out clean because her guilt was killing her but instead of wanting to work things out with you she decides that there is to much damage in the relationship. Dude she created this problem, she is the one who damaged this relationship. Instead of being happy because your giving her another chance, dude don't give her the time of day. She is trying to rekindle with her ex obviously a person that does not know what she wants.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 December 2010):
I think it's pretty clear that this girl cheated, then decided to get back with this ex. Sadly, you got burned because of her rubbish treatment and selfish interests. To be honest, I'd not bother at all with her again. I don't think you could trust her for a second. She's only interested in herself, not you or anyone else really.
You're a nice guy, and you can do better. Especially after just 4 months.
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