Guys, what do you like when looking at a gal?
Q. this is just for abit of fun really lol. I've never had a BF, and honestly aint that interested, but lately I've decided that I'm going to make abit more of an effort with my apperance/clothes etc etc. Then that got me wondering what guys actua...
A. 3 December 2010: May I add to Loveless' comments about make-up?
It's wise to emphasise eyes OR lips, but not both: underplay whichever you feel less confident about, or alternate.
Ivan.
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Guys, what do you like when looking at a gal?
Q. this is just for abit of fun really lol. I've never had a BF, and honestly aint that interested, but lately I've decided that I'm going to make abit more of an effort with my apperance/clothes etc etc. Then that got me wondering what guys actua...
A. 3 December 2010: A recent study concluded that women were at their most attractive when showing no more than 40% bare flesh - much more and it seems threatening, much less and there's not much to be interested in!
Use that as your guide?
Ivan.... (read in full...)
He's the right kind of wrong!
Q. Hi I'm not even sure what I'm really asking here. Basically he’s the son of a my mum’s best friend, we don’t see each other often because he doesn’t live near by, but we grew up together, saw each other 3 or four times a year since we were bo...
A. 2 December 2010: I've answered in a similar vein to another OP: follow your heart - it rules!
You will never forget and always regret if you don't, spoiling the rest of your life.
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She's lesbian. I'm lesbian. My husband knows I'm bi.
Q. Hi Everyone I don't know what to do so I need your advice. I got married 20 years ago to a wonderful man that I met when I was in the Army. He was also in the Army. We have 3 children. I am bisexual and my husband knew this when we married. A fe...
A. 2 December 2010: Go with our heart.
One life, one opportunity.
You should all get together and discuss possibilities and I'm sure you will come to a suitable arrangement if you all get on.
Forget society and the views of others; our rules and mores can't cope w... (read in full...)
If she was sexually abused, is she still a virgin?
Q. So my girlfriend was sexually abused at the age of 13. Anyway, her and I were thinking of taking things to the next level. She says that she feels bad cuz she isn't a virgin cuz of what happened to her. I was just wondering if she is still conside...
A. 29 November 2010: Technically she is not a virgin, as she has been penetrated by a penis, but emotionally - which is what REALLY matters - she is.
She is ready to commit to you her most precious gift, her virginity, willingly and with pleasure. That is a whole univ... (read in full...)
He doesn't like me yet we came close to having sex
Q. I need some advice on how to get ovr this guy I really like. He says he doesn't like me, yet we have made out before and was very close to sex. I am tired of feeling hurt around him. I see him at school everday, but next semester he is moving. ...
A. 28 November 2010: He DOESN'T like you; all he wants is to stick it in you and then he will walk away!
Respect yourself and walk away first, please.
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I'm in love with the cashier at my local grocery store.
Q. I'm in love with the cashier at my local grocery store. The first time I saw her I was so thunderstruck and giddy, as soon as I got home I blurted out to my wife about the beautiful the girl I just saw. I usually think before I speak. A little ...
A. 27 November 2010: You are cleary in soulmate territory here and if you don't overcome your shyness and get to know her properly you will regret it for the rest of your life.
Do you want to spend forever wondering what might have been?
Find some courage and get on w... (read in full...)
How do I get more out of my girlfriend when she is not keen?
Q. I'm a 25 year guy my girlfriend and I have sex on average 12 times a week but its just not enough so I end up masterbating 6 times a day.is this normal and how do I get more out of her when she is not keen?...
A. 26 November 2010: Sorry, just another thought: if the title was your own and not from DC, it stinks!
You should not be thinking in terms of "what you can get out of her". That says a lot about your attitude.
She is not an object, a sex toy to be wound up and used... (read in full...)
How do I get more out of my girlfriend when she is not keen?
Q. I'm a 25 year guy my girlfriend and I have sex on average 12 times a week but its just not enough so I end up masterbating 6 times a day.is this normal and how do I get more out of her when she is not keen?...
A. 26 November 2010: It's not the quantity, it's the quality.
Try making things last and having lots of foreplay, and, more importantly, afterplay.
Don't just roll off, fart and go to sleep - treat her well.
As "blonde30s" said, you are being adequately served anywa... (read in full...)
Some pleasure with him would be nice!
Q. Ok, so I'm sixteen, and have been dating this guy for four years now. We've had sex tons of times, I lost my virginity when I was fourteen. We've both been through some rough times, and we've both slept with other people. But here's my problem. I've ...
A. 26 November 2010: Have you considered foreplay?
Also, have him bring you off with either fingers or your vibrator a couple of times before penetration and you will be ready to fire off with him inside you....
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Is he flirting with me?
Q. a guy i work with is very friendly and kind to me. also he constantly is joking with me and making fun of me. one day the fire alarm kept going off and he was saying that it was my fault and that i was setting it off, i joked back and said he was ...
A. 23 November 2010: Yes!!!... (read in full...)
Should I pretend I'm not a virgin?
Q. im 20, almost 21 and still a virgin. I recently dated my first real boyfriend. When i told him i was a virgin, he started treating me like a little kid. he was also a pig and would have totally held it above me, sorta notch on his belt idea. What ...
A. 22 November 2010: As has already been said, never tell. You don't have to answer questions that personal; just keep an air of mystery about you!
Ivan.
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Female masturbation advice.
Q. Hello all I just wanted some tips, I am a 16 year old girl and have become quite sexually frustrated and I want to start masterbating. any tips?...
A. 22 November 2010: Google the website "Clitoral" and there you will find ample information....
Ivan.... (read in full...)
Trying to squirt... what am I doing wrong???
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months but we've known each other since we were 15. we were talkin about our sexual experiences and he brought up squirtin, something I have never done but hes made females do. so one night we decided to ...
A. 21 November 2010: The classic way of leading to a good squirt is to have him stimulate your g-spot, but it could take up to 30 minutes of attention.
Therefore, use plenty of lube so you don't get sore - and pee first!
It won't be pee, I promise, but a build-up... (read in full...)
He says it is due to my "lack of sexual desire" that I don't feel anything during sex. Is that true??
Q. My husband and myself have been having sex for the past one year. During this time I never experienced an orgasm. I want him to enjoy sex for which I take the initiative in doing things which he likes. Our sex usually lasts 5 mins. He starts ...
A. 19 November 2010: It is NOT your fault.
Your husband is a poor pathetic excuse for a lover and has no idea how to arouse you, nor does it seem as if he cares.
I have lots of answers for you which would hi-jack all of DC's space if I were to relate them here so if yo... (read in full...)
Why would a 70 year old married man from the US come to visit my 37 year old friend in the Philipines? Will he just use her for sex?
Q. I would like to ask for some point of views. Do older married man like 65 yrs. old and above seek an affair because his wife cannot give him the sexual desires he needs? I have a friend who falls madly in love with an old married guy almost t...
A. 18 November 2010: It takes two to tango, and she is after an affair too. If he is merely after sex he has invested five years in trying to get it, plus an air fare...for sex only, that would buy him a lot of sex at home without the effort.
Stop being so cynical and ... (read in full...)
We don't want to go all the way, so what else is there besides plain old oral sex?
Q. My bf's birthday is coming up and i want to do something special for him... Both of us are virgins...we both agreed to wait for the wedding night; however i wanna get a bit dirty with him without ...u know...losing my virginity...so w...
A. 17 November 2010: Glad you said not to judge all, "chigirl". This boy hates sports and loves romance! Nothing better than to snuggle up for ages, kissing and just being close, without its having to lead to sex - unless we feel like it, of course - but it ain't ... (read in full...)
No physical relationship - what to do?
Q. My wife is emotionally dead towards me. We have been married for 9 years and have a four year old child. We used to be very affectionate together, but now our sex life is non existent, she won't hug or hold me and we never kiss. If I try to, I a...
A. 17 November 2010: Does she show affection towarsds your son? If so, she has got what she wants out of you and now you are expendable.
Like the others say, your marriage is dead - go and find someone who values you.
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It hurts when he cums inside me. What can we do?
Q. I'm 31 and dating a 56 year old male. He tends to have strong ejaculations to the point that he goes too deep and hard inside of me. Ive told him this is painful. The sex is great up until he ejaculates. I've asked him to pull out, but for some ...
A. 17 November 2010: Every so often DC comes up trumps and these answers are right on the money!
Firstly, many women can't even feel their man cum inside them, so you have a problem, as the anan answerer suggests. You say it only hurts when he cums, so it can't be that... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to break my hymen without it hurting?
Q. Hey im sixteen years old. i have never trusted a boy to do anything with my vagina before but now i do. and he did try not tht long ago and he sort of just rubbed and nothing went inside cos it really hurt wen he tries to this has happened twice now ...
A. 15 November 2010: Well said, Monks!
Can I just add that you need to do things for yourself to ease you down there, so you can stop when it hurts: and yes, use plenty of lube - KY is easy to obtain in the UK at Poundland or the 99p shop!
Ivan.... (read in full...)
Anyone else worried about schools' sex education??
Q. I am very worried about teens sex education. I am from the UK and our sex education is very good. Girls only get pregnant because they want to or because contraception fails or they are just too stupid to use contraception. Some of the questions ...
A. 15 November 2010: OP, your comment "girls only get pregnant because they want to rings so true. We have a category of women/young girls known as "pram-faces" - girls who deliberately get pregnant as a career move so that they can apply for a council flat, free and/or ... (read in full...)
What is the deal with women and high heels??
Q. I really wanna know the answer to this question especially from females - Do you females really like wearing sexy high heeled shoes or do you do it only for attention. I have heard of shoe fetish but I dont know how far it is true. Does it also have ...
A. 14 November 2010: The main reason for wearing heels, for a woman, is the effect they have on the leg-line and bum.
Compare for yourself, if you can find a willing volunteer to show you her profile in underwear, firstly without heels and then with - the diff... (read in full...)
Is masturbation harmful to me?
Q. I masturbate almost every day. Afterwards i hate myself and promise myself that i'll neva do it again but i always find myself doing it. Is it normal to masturbate everyday, is there a way of stopping it, does it course any damage to my body? ...
A. 11 November 2010: Absolutely no problem!
Masturbation is an essential form of stress relief and does you no harm whatsoever. Just think, without it you might act inappropriately with the local female population, so you are doing them a favour!... (read in full...)
Having trouble satisfying my girlfriend.
Q. Hi, I'm a freshman in college, and my current girlfriend and I have been going out for about a month. This is the first time I've been in a relationship, and things are, for the most part, going really well. This has also been the first o...
A. 11 November 2010: Good tip from female anon, but also try this...
Use one or two fingers on her g-spot (front wall of her vagina, abput 1-2 inches in, feel for a rough patch of skin), rubbing gently at first then more firmly as it swells.
Then use your thumb on... (read in full...)
I don't want to look at her in just a sexual way
Q. I really love my friend in the college and I had dreams about her.. she has an angel face I hope to marry her and she actually knows about my feelings and seems to be happy about that but my problem is that she has a big sexy boobs... they make me ...
A. 5 November 2010: Er...she knows that they are big and sexy - why do you think she puts them on display?
Very few women are unaware of what turns men on and they of course capitalise on that, which is why we are putty in their hands.
Don't worry about your thoughts... (read in full...)
Is it true that race plays a factor in the size of a penis?
Q. my gf has made comments and jokes before about all black men having large penises i feel very uncomfortable hearing this and yes insecure about my own size but i want to know if it is true or if its just a porn scam or some weird thing like that...
A. 4 November 2010: It's a myth. Do some research on Google (Kinsey, etc.) and you will find that all races have the same average sizes.
The fallacy came about way back in colonial days for reasons which are unacceptable now, so I won't go into them.
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He always cums way too quickly! Is there a cure for this?
Q. My Fiance Cums way too fast, sometimes soon as he sticks it inside me so is this because of he is almost 50 years old and is there a cure to this issue so we can have pleasurable Sex for long periods of time again??...
A. 2 November 2010: Yes to "Moo's Mum", but also let him make you cum several times first before penetration: fingers, tongue and sensual massage, so when it goes in you are already "hot to trot"!
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B/f wants a hand job but won't show me how to do it!
Q. i need help my bf wants be to give him a hand job but idk how!! he wont show me eather help mee please....
A. 1 November 2010: I cannot understand why he won't show you what to do or how he likes things, but all you have to do is enter "hand jobs" into Google and you will have all the guidance you need!
Ivan.
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How often should I swallow cum?
Q. Me and my boyfriend like to do sex everynight.I really enjoy to give him a blowjob.He tells me to swallow his semen.I don't like swallowing.Is it harmful for body?Is it helpful?How many times in a week should i swallow cum?...
A. 20 October 2010: You could always get him to improve the taste - eating fresh fruit and vegetables, limited red meat and drinking pineapple juice will all help.
You will not harm yourself by swallowing semen, however frequently you do it.
Ivan.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend decides no sex until "I'm ready" because I was afraid she got pregnant
Q. My girlfriend and I are both 28, and we have been together about 9 months, and our sex is great. A few months ago she told me in her past relationship she and her ex never used condoms, while in my past I have always used condom. I guess I was ...
A. 19 October 2010: If she is happy to go without sex just to spite or control you, that should tell you something about her and your relationship.....
Ivan.... (read in full...)
I want to dedicate a song to a loved one! What song would you choose?
Q. Hi, I'm not sure if this is the right place for this....if you could dedicate a song or two (or even 3 lol) to someone..what would it be and why? For example "Luther Vandross - Dance with my Father" ...always reminds me of my dad....
A. 18 October 2010: I have a perfect one which my soul-mate and I share and call our own. I am not going to tell you what it is because it is personal to us and that's what yours should be to you and your loved one.
Put something of YOU into it and don't be lazy... (read in full...)
I am a bit jittery about being intimate!
Q. Hi Aunts, This might be a long one -here's some b/ground info - I've been going out with my boyfriend for just about a year now. A while ago I had an incident where some guy basically felt me up while i was asleep - it kind of left me a bit jitt...
A. 17 October 2010: Communication is everything, but if you have difficulty talking about this delicate matter, show him tour post on here and the answers - saves a lot of debate!
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My daughter cries every night before she has to go back to her mothers.
Q. My daughter cries every night before she has to go back to her mothers. Her mother physically and verbally abuses her on a constant basis, She gets slapped around the face and dragged down the stairs. I have followed every legal course of action to ...
A. 15 October 2010: CG said all I was going to say - great answer. Reading that post broke my heard as I know from my own early experiences how awful it can be.
Social Services need to be alerted, repeatedly, when you have your proof.
Ivan.... (read in full...)
Should I dump the girl I love to go for a hotter girl?
Q. Hi I am currently in a relationship with someone I love. My friends say she is gross and ugly. A "hotter" girl likes me but I don't like her. Should I dump my current gf and go for the other one?...
A. 15 October 2010: If you even need to ask this question it's obvious you don't love your girlfriend. Go away and think about that and don't waste our time!
Ivan.... (read in full...)
My dad's 35 year old friend (a teacher) is flirting with me
Q. Gah, I hate talking about crap like this but I'm going to anyway lol. Ok, so there's a guy that lives below us, and him and my dad are really good friends. He's about 35, not married, and I've always had a really big crush on him. Then last year, ...
A. 15 October 2010: You were friends before he joined your school, so why break up a good friendship now? If he wanted to come on to you in an inappropriate way he would have done so before now, so it's unlikely that he will do so now, especially as he will be your ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with an older woman?
Q. What should I do if I am 18years old and I want to have sex with an older woman?...
A. 14 October 2010: I liked "The Graduate", too!... (read in full...)
Married and no sexual chemistry anymore
Q. My husband was very sexual with me in the beginning. He had to have sex at every meeting. After we moved in together his interest dissipated a bit. I'd say we had sex 4 to 5 times a week. After living together for 1 year we were having sex maybe 3 ...
A. 14 October 2010: You don't want to ask him for sex yet you expect him to desire you and ask you? Hmm, can you see where you are going wrong there?
As far as your sexual needs are concerned, do you just want the sex for its own sake or do you want the emotional comm... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be in love with my fathers cousin?
Q. I have recently fallen in love with my dads cousin. Their mothers are sisters. She is10 yrs older than i am.(30) We crazy abt each other and dont really care what the family thinks or says. But is it wrong for us to be in love?...
A. 14 October 2010: I don't think there is anything genetically/biologically against this liaison, but you will likely have to face lots of disapproval.
Sounds like you are prepared for that already, so just go with your heart.
Ivan.... (read in full...)
We had sex, he came in me, and I tried to wash it out. Will that work?
Q. hey i need help well my boyfriend cum in me and i dnt know what to do, im really scard . it happen today and i when in bath and whased it out, well i tryed, so wat i do. xx...
A. 13 October 2010: IF you are lucky enough to have got away without getting pregnant this time, pay heed to all the other answers on here.
At your age you are at your most fertile and any slip will make you a mother. For best possible protection you need 3 (yes, thre... (read in full...)
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