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writes:HiI'm not even sure what I'm really asking here. Basically he’s the son of a my mum’s best friend, we don’t see each other often because he doesn’t live near by, but we grew up together, saw each other 3 or four times a year since we were born, went on family holidays together every Easter and summer. The thing is, I cant remember a time when I didn’t love him even being like 8 we would always pretend we were going to get married. When we got older the tension between us was always unreal, like my legs were going to give way, we never admitted it to each other, but then when we were 15 its like something just snapped and we ended up sleeping together. He was my first, I was with someone else at the time and I was so ashamed afterwards that I avoided him the rest of the holiday. But I could never forget him. As the years went by he kind of went off the rails a bit, got another girl pregnant, going out drinking, failing at school, prison. Whilst I went on as normal, eventually going to university, but every guy I ever dated, we never had the same passion as I had with him, he was always in the back of my mind. Then three months ago I met him again at his mothers 50th and it was like I was a teenager again. I had hoped that seeing him again would erase any idealised image I had of him, but he still knocks me sideways, I cant even explain it. so now its like I'm frozen. I have a boyfriend who I’ve been with for almost 2 years now, he’s French and I'm supposed to move to France after I graduate this summer to have a life with him, he’s wonderful, kind, loving, dependable (I know I'm a terrible person for having doubts)everything that this other guy isn’t. In fact he couldn’t be more wrong for me, I mean he went to prison, he had a baby ... but I cant keep away. I cant not answer the phone when he calls, I cant stop thinking about him. So what do I do? Do I move to France and have the life I always envisioned my self having, or do I stay and be with the man I think I'm meant to be with, as messed up as he is? someone please help!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): Stay away we never forget our first ever, no matter how bad a person they may be. But think about it, do you want to be tied to a man with a criminal record, a baby and a drinking problem. Live a happy life and have children of your own never forget but don't do something you'll later regret. Xx
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reader, ivanichiaynus +, writes (2 December 2010):
 I've answered in a similar vein to another OP: follow your heart - it rules!
You will never forget and always regret if you don't, spoiling the rest of your life.
Ivan.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): he was your first love and that's something never forgotten by most people. He took a bad road, so don't get mixed up with him. you are not a terrible person for having doubts, we all have them. Marry the Frenchman and live a happy life. try to keep the special memory of first love in your heart, but keep it as nothing more than a story you tell your daughter when she falls in love :)
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