How does a woman make it clear she is interested without looking desperate?
Q. Hi, Im a 31 year old woman and my last relationship ended a few months ago. I've been trying online dating but haven't found anything lasting from it. Generally I tend to meet men who lose interest after a few dates and stop calling me. ...
A. 14 August 2016: I think a simple "Thank you for a lovely evening. I would love to do it again sometime if you're up for it" is sufficient to tell them you enjoyed their company and would like to meet up again, without sounding like you are going home to start ... (read in full...)
Torn between my brothers exes
Q. Thanks to all who respond here. I appreciate it. In about about a weeks time I am scheduled to fly out to another city to visit my brother and his second wife. He has started a new family and I am looking forward to seeing my two year old niece fr...
A. 14 August 2016: As it is your niece and nephew who are top of your visit priority list, can you afford to book into a hotel locally and not stay with either your brother or his second wife? The second wife sounds like she is totally under your brother's contro... (read in full...)
I have lied to my parents for two years and it's really getting to me. At the crossroads. So what should I?
Q. I really need some help right now, so hopefully someone can turn me in the right direction. First I should start out by saying that I just turned 20 but since I live with my parents I have to follow their rules. Okay, so I have always been a go...
A. 14 August 2016: Whooooooaaaaa! Slow down! You haven't even met this guy yet and you are already in love? It sounds from your post that you have lead a very sheltered life (with your parents doing their best to protect you from the evils of the outside world). ... (read in full...)
Do I go for mr A or mr B ??
Q. im in a bit of a pickle . Ok theres 2 guys one can be A and the other B . A is an old distant friend weve both liked each other for years but didnt think the other felt the same , were finally going on a date tonight hes perfect apart from he do...
A. 13 August 2016: As I see it, your choice is not simply A or B but rather, A or B, A and B (until you decide) OR ... none of the above. There are loads of other men out there. Don't limit yourself to these two who do not tick your boxes. ... (read in full...)
After many years I'm falling for my first love all over again, but his unwillingness to see me on weekends is making me suspicious!
Q. I am a mature woman and know a thing about men over the years. I met up with my first love over a year ago and cutting a long story short we have been on a few dates and have slept together. It has all been on a friendly basis as I have just come ...
A. 13 August 2016: He has either got used to having his own space and enjoying it (nothing wrong with that, just don't expect it to change) or he is in a relationship and has excuses for during the week (working away possibly?) but not at the week-end. Frankly, for ... (read in full...)
How best to help stubborn mother out of debt?
Q. My mom asked me to help her manage her finances. I agreed and gathered up her bills and created a budget. She's around 8,000 in debt from online store credit, credit card, and doctor bills. After creating the budget and realizing she doesn't make ...
A. 13 August 2016: Only give her the money if you can afford to write it off. I would not hold out too much hope of ever getting it back. Also, if you give her money this time, she will expect you to keep helping her out. Are you prepared to do that?
Assum... (read in full...)
How can I ask her to be my girlfriend?
Q. I'm not too sure where to start so, basically I've been seeing this girl for over two weeks now. We get on like a house on fire it's unreal, we have so much in common, always make each other laugh and always have fun. I haven't had a relationship in ...
A. 12 August 2016: What more do you think you should be doing to make you think you are actually in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with this girl? You spend time together, you hold hands, you kiss . . . Am I missing something? You are already in a bf/gf ... (read in full...)
My brother's ex' has put a hook in me
Q. So here's my dilemma. I have fallen for my brother's ex-girlfriend. I am a 24-year-old male who has not really experienced a lot of romance in my life up to this point. However, I have never felt this way about a woman in my life and I feel terri...
A. 11 August 2016: She dated your brother "briefly" in high school. That does not mean he owns her for the rest of his/her/your life. It doesn't sound like she was the love of his life or anything. It wasn't even recent.
If you really like this girl, have a feel f... (read in full...)
In a steady relationship but I can't help wondering
Q. I'm in a happy relationship with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. We were friends for 2 years before this so are really close. We are both 18 and this is our first real relationship. I can imagine marrying him one day. However, I often find mysel...
A. 11 August 2016: Being in love does not make us blind or immune to the attentions of others. What matters is how we deal with that and how far we take it.
A bit of light hearted flirting is (in my book, at least) fine. Cheating, however, is not. You need to draw ... (read in full...)
Should I be offended by these comments?
Q. So recently I got a job offer in another city about five hours away from where me and my partner are both living together. Anyway so received feedback and I never got the job because I wasn't enthusiastic enough. Before my interview my boyfriend...
A. 11 August 2016: Surely you know if you feel offended or not? I am puzzled that you need to ask if you "should" feel offended.
Re your boyfriend's comment, I would have taken it that he was trying to protect you from building up your hopes and then not getting ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not happy, he doesn't smile or talk anymore.
Q. so I've been dating my be for 9months, everything has been perfect but for 2-3months my bf has changed, he doesn't converse and have laughs with me anymore, he just seem so serious and hardly smile. He doesn't even talk to me I do all the ...
A. 11 August 2016: The bit where you say "I am a good girl, I listen to him and do whatever a good gf does" really worries me. You've only been together 9 months yet have already discussed getting married, even though, for the last 2-3 months, your bf has been acti... (read in full...)
I am falling for her hard, but I have a boyfriend!
Q. So I'll get straight to the point...I met this chick on snapchat...I tell her everything and she tells me everything...well we have known each other two months but we talked everyday all day even give the kiss emoji with heart when we went to ...
A. 11 August 2016: In a word, yes. She has a different agenda to you. You see some sort of romantic future with this girl, while she sees you as a friend. You are going to end up getting hurt. She has made it plain that her loyalties lie with her girlfriend, as they ... (read in full...)
Help with confidence in a relationship
Q. Hi, the last boyfriend i had took drugs and smoked. Also i had suspicions he cheated on me with his girl best friend. He was nice to me until i dumped him because my parents thought he was bad news. When i dumped him he started saying he wad going ...
A. 11 August 2016: You are 15 or younger. Enjoy your teenage years. Don't make a relationship your goal in life. Go out with your friends, have fun. Worrying that, at such an early age, you have already had a boyfriend who took drugs. How old was he? No wonder yo... (read in full...)
I'm feeling insecure and would appreciate some insight.
Q. Hey there, My amazing boyfriend of almost one year has me slightly confused and saddened due to an incident that occurred last night and I would love your honest opinions...last night during sex I noticed that he was losing his erection. During t...
A. 11 August 2016: Blimey! Am I reading this right? YOU felt humiliated? How do you think HE felt? Give the guy a break. If half of what you write is true, he treats you amazingly. Here's an idea: stop being so needy and lay off the sex when alcohol has been co... (read in full...)
What can you do when you feel like you are losing "the one"?
Q. A girl that I've been in a very odd situation with for the past 1.5 years has just told me that she doesn't feel like it's a good idea to see each other anymore because the situation is basically never going to materialise into a relationship. ...
A. 10 August 2016: If she doesn't love you enough to try to overcome her issues, then the relationship will never work.
Fair play to her, she has been honest with you. Listen to what she is saying and move on with your life. Go cold turkey until you feel stronger... (read in full...)
Would counselling and therapy help, after all this time? My son thinks so. Any advice please?
Q. I know this may be looking like a sort of what if situation that I am having thirty years later, but this is not the case. Trust me. I have been thinking about her every single day and night for the last two to three decades and I know that I can'...
A. 10 August 2016: You poor soul. How dreadful that, in 30 years, you didn't get help to leave your past behind and move on with your life. You have effectively put your life on hold. I get the impression you think it is in some way romantic or strong. It's not ... (read in full...)
He's telling them our relationship has ended before he even told me. How do I let go and move on from him?
Q. My partner and I have been together 6 and a half years, since I was 16. We both live with my parents and over the course of our relationship we have done for 3-4 years. Roughly 2 years ago, my partner dumped me, for me it was completely out o...
A. 10 August 2016: I feel for you. I really do. This sort of thing is pure sh1t.
I do believe that the loneliest place in the world is not being alone but being with someone who doesn't want to be with you. As you are finding out, it is really horrible.
In your... (read in full...)
I don't want a gf but I don't want her to be with anyone else. what should I do?
Q. Sooo about 6 months I got a new roommate who happens to be a female. We became roommates after meeting once for about 10 minutes. We hit it off eight away as we are both direct and have weird personal issues that almost identical in how we handl...
A. 10 August 2016: I understand you have "issues" but, if you are not prepared to commit to her, you have absolutely no right to expect her not to date anyone else. She is not your property.
She sounds as much "into" you as her issues will permit, so why are you ... (read in full...)
Why did he masturbate right after sex?
Q. Hi just a quick question please.. Me and my boyfriend had sex the other day after i went to the toilet i went back in to the bedroom and my partner was masturbating baring in kind we had just had sex. What ut is all about? Any advice is greatl...
A. 10 August 2016: I would guess he didn't have an orgasm, so was "finishing off" while you were in the bathroom.
If he masturbates a lot, he could have become "unfamiliar" with the sensation of penetrative sex and actually need a hand to finish (pardon the pun).
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Any advice on this dysfunctional relationship?
Q. My partner moans at me 24/7, interspersed with some occasional flattery and friendship! He is charming to others. He doesn't like unleashing his temper when others are around to overhear particularly if they are male! He non-stop chips at my sel...
A. 10 August 2016: What are you getting out of this relationship? You appear to be already mustering strength to stand up to your partner's bullying by choosing to ignore him.
I cannot understand why you are giving him money. What's that all about?... (read in full...)
Will he ever emerge from the shadow of his broken marriage?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating nearly a year, he's 54 and I'm 52. He's been separated 6 years and me 8. We get on great, laugh a lot, go out often etc and have met some members of each other's family and friends. In the first few months he to...
A. 10 August 2016: My advice? Cut your losses and run. I suspect his issues are not with his ex (as you also realize) but with you. You were there for him when he needed someone after she dumped him but now that he is stronger, he no longer needs you. Sorry if that ... (read in full...)
Why do some girls go down market on social media?
Q. I know for guys these pictures can be nice eye candy. As a girl I can acknowledge if they have a nice body, but sometimes it seems a little distasteful. I'm talking about pictures with obvious cleavage, lingerie, side boob or whatever else. I feel ...
A. 10 August 2016: Because they are young and cute (they think) so they flaunt what they have. Simple as.
And why not? There will come a time when they are no longer young, no longer cute and will (hopefully) no longer feel a need to flaunt their bodies. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he doesn't want me to work with him 'in case I get upset because of what he says to other women?'
Q. Earlier this year my boyfriend of 6 years wanted to go for a very promising job opportunity and encouraged me to go for it as well. He said it wouldn't matter that we worked together, though I was sceptical as I don't want us to see 'too much' of ...
A. 10 August 2016: Absolutely definitely 100% NOT! Don't torture yourself this way. Either you trust him or you don't. If you don't, take a good look at your relationship and either repair it or bin it. If you do, leave him to enjoy his friendships with his colleagues ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about getting pregnant if we have sex.
Q. im a 13 year old girl and i need help!! me and my boyfriend both want to have sex but we dont know if we should. We have talked about it before but we cant decide. we have seen eah other naked before and we have fooled around naked a lot. but we d...
A. 6 August 2016: So, let me get this straight: you don't even know where to get condoms from but you know you want to have sex? How old is your boyfriend? Is he putting pressure on you to have sex? If you are in the UK, he could be in serious trouble for having s... (read in full...)
I'm not priority on his social media
Q. What do people think about texting a partner and them not getting back to you, but seeing they are on social media a few times, then they text you back about an hour etc later? My partner does this and it makes me feel like he looks at his phone...
A. 6 August 2016: Your post raises lots of questions . . .
Are you insecure in other areas of your relationship as well or just in this one? Do you expect your partner to drop everything when you want something, or do you appreciate he has a life of his own as w... (read in full...)
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