My inappropriate boss or My boss wants to grab my ass
Q. Hello everyone! I'm in a bit of a pickle. Naturally, I'm a very bubbly energetic person. I hate awkwardness so I do my best to make fun of myself and include others. Especially at work considering, everyone can be so stiff at times. I got ...
A. 17 December 2016: I suspect that, by allowing this to carry on for so long, you have inadvertently given him the message that you are ok with how he acts towards you. I wouldn't mind betting that you laugh along with him when he does this. Am I right? You reall... (read in full...)
There is this older woman I'd like to have sex with ...
Q. I'm 24. There's a woman I work with who's in her late 40's, divorced, still pretty attractive, and friendly with me. I've never been with a woman that much older than me before. I'd be interested to experience sex with her. Her oldest son is almost ...
A. 17 December 2016: I suspect that, at her age, she has enough sense to only want sex in a committed relationship. She is highly unlikely to want to be used by someone who just wants the experience of sex with an older woman. However, it is always possible that sh... (read in full...)
I'm comparing myself to his beautiful ex and feel like I don't measure up!
Q. I have been married to a wonderful man for the last 4 years and I have yet to find any flaws in his looks or personality. In being up front, this is a question based out of my own insecurities and not from something he has done or said. He w...
A. 17 December 2016: I know you have only asked for opinions from men (and I find that telling - you obviously only value yourself in terms of how men see you) but I will give you mine anyway.
If you think a marriage partnership is based just on looks, then you real... (read in full...)
We’re the same age but she says I’m too young for her! Do I persevere or do I take that as she's not interested?
Q. Hey guys wondering whether I could have some help. After finishing a bad relationship 2 years ago, I bump into a friend from school i haven't seen in years. We end up getting on really well and going out on a few dates, all of which have been ...
A. 17 December 2016: I am a great believer in taking notice of what people DO, as opposed to what they SAY. She may be saying you are too young for her (she obviously has a thing for older men), but she is enjoying her time with you and is still going out with you (I ... (read in full...)
Why is my friend's husband so cruel?
Q. My friends husband can be so cruel! she gets her hair done at a hair salon and he never compliments her. (others do) He also yells at her for the most silly reasons? Could he be disconnected as he wishes he were not married to her? ...
A. 16 December 2016: How long have they been married? (I am guessing quite a while.) How does your friend feel about the way he treats her? Does she complain to you about him?
To be honest, he sounds either stressed out or depressed (or possibly both). However,... (read in full...)
I think my husband is being inappropriate!
Q. My husband is a personal trainer, I work upstairs from his studio. He trains this one girl and all he does is giggle and flirt with her. He swears that he doesn't but it's SOOOO obvious to me! What do I do??? I think it's disrespectful to me but he ...
A. 15 December 2016: First of all, sorry for your loss. Did you both get help/support after the miscarriage?
If your gut feeling it telling you something is not right between your husband and this "client", then you probably need to take note. The fact that he told ... (read in full...)
Do I choose now or later ?
Q. I have a bit of a complicated love life. You wait a long time for 1 to come along and then 2 come along . Man A is a very distant friend whos more of a facebook friend ( we have met ) he holds hands and kisses in public and the regular stuff couples ...
A. 15 December 2016: Why are you settling for either of these two characters? Neither sound great, to be honest.
Keep your options open. If they want to date you occasionally and you are willing to do that, then go for it, but don't commit or get tied down to either. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wont have sex because he is anxious about unwanted pregnancies
Q. Hey there! So Ive been with my boyfriend for a year(to keep people anonymous we can call him bob) and I wasn't a virgin when I met him, but he was when we started dating. We've had sex more than a few times but he admitted to me some months ago...
A. 15 December 2016: Wow, how refreshing to have someone so young being so responsible.
However, as you are using birth control AND use a condom (well done, both of you, for doing that), the chances of an accident are so negligible that I do wonder if that is reall... (read in full...)
I need help with my retroactive jealousy!
Q. Hi, sorry for my bad english in advance. I’m with my girlfriend since 6 month, we know each other since we are in middle school. After that she go in another school and in an other high school in the same town. We are now both 20 years old, ...
A. 14 December 2016: You know you are being totally irrational and unreasonable. Your girlfriend didn't cheat on you with this guy. You were not in a relationship when she lost her virginity to him. It sounds like she appreciates you all the more for having been in a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says our sex life is boring for him, he wants things I don’t!
Q. My boyfriend says our sex life is boring for him. We have been together for less than a year and he is my first boyfriend. He says he is bored with what we do. He wants anal, bondage, toys, and other stuff, I don't even know... The thing is I don...
A. 14 December 2016: He's your first boyfriend and I understand you want to please him. HOWEVER, it will have a detrimental effect on your mental (and possibly physical) health if you allow him to do things to you that you do not desire. (Note the use of the word "to" ... (read in full...)
I found out he's communicating with his ex. What now?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months and I couldn't be happier. We are so compatible and i feel like i've known him for years. He treats me very well and is the gentleman of my dreams. However, i would like opinion on a dilemma i have...
A. 13 December 2016: Not sure why you think there is a problem - apart from an unrealistic promise made at the beginning of your relationship.
This guy treats you well, he has not said anything wrong in the messages to his ex. It appears she is the one making contact ... (read in full...)
I feel her weight gain is getting out of control!
Q. I am 27 my girlfriend is 24 we live together and we have a great relationship. The problem I have got is that I feel her weight gain is getting out of hand. She was by no means thin when we got together and I am not saying she should have a model ...
A. 13 December 2016: She is obviously already unhappy with her body, hence why she is so sensitive about you mentioning her weight. She could be comfort eating to compensate, hence making the problem worse.
What about treating yourselves to a joint gym membersh... (read in full...)
Two different guys flirted with me before I found out they had girlfriends
Q. In the past two months, ive spoken to these guys (totally separate) and we have gotten on well. We spoke a lot and the first guy was constantly messaging and snapchatting me. Was going really well, both of us flirting a little bit then suddenly he...
A. 12 December 2016: What I can't understand is why you don't check them out on Facebook as soon as the conversations turn flirty? Why leave it so late to check?
And telling their partners is just an act of vengeance. It is not their partners' fault their blokes f... (read in full...)
Dogs versus the Christmas with family? I'm so angry right now, what do I do? I'm 32.
Q. I'm so annoyed right now. I've invited my parents to my house for Christmas but they've declined because I won't allow them to bring their dogs. They have 3 huge dogs and I don't want them in my house. I cannot believe they would rather sit alon...
A. 12 December 2016: Have they acquired another big dog during the time this post has been running? They seem to have started with 3, but now have 4! Only kidding. Assume one number is a typo.
I can see this from both sides. I do understand that you would feel ove... (read in full...)
I'd like to offer her some money, but not sure how she'll take it
Q. a girl moved into the apartment below me in the same building as me (unit of 6 apartments). she has 2 kids aged 3 and 5, throughout the year we exchanged numbers, talked about things mostly info about the apartment or how to fix something etc. ...
A. 12 December 2016: What a nice thought. But yes, I see your dilemma.
What about taking her and the kids out somewhere nice as a treat, somewhere both she and the kids will enjoy (although it sounds like she will be happy if her kids are happy, so maybe concentr... (read in full...)
Does anyone have tips on how to be positive?
Q. I have been going to therapy for a while and the last couple of months it's been a sting of awful evens that have made I guess have a wake up call- from my doctors main issue is that I look at everything in a negative way- life love career - ...
A. 12 December 2016: I am no expert nor professional, so this is just coming from personal experience. As someone who used to worry about everything (I would worry if I had nothing to worry about!), going to do a reiki course was the turning point for me. There are 5 ... (read in full...)
The one I want won't commit
Q. My problem is this , i have a male friend he knows i like him a lot and would love to have a relationship with him but at the moment he wants to be just friends (we did have a fall out a few week bk but i messaged him and we made up). i might sound ...
A. 11 December 2016: Sounds like he wants you as a Plan B, a back-up, a safety net. He doesn't want anyone else to have you but is not willing to give you anything himself. I think you need to just tell him what you have put in your post, something along the lines ... (read in full...)
Is it off-limits for a husband to sneak around with wife's best friend?
Q. Is it off limits for husband to sneak around with wife's best friend. Then you find out 21years later about it. Wife's b.f. Was told by the other bf about it when she was drinking ? They played naked in her pool ,while they knew where wife was. ...
A. 11 December 2016: Yes, they were out of order. No, they should not have behaved in this way.
Understandably, this has affected the way you see your whole marriage and your friendship, which is a shame as you have obviously been in both relationships for so long.... (read in full...)
My ex is trying to date my friend and I don't know how I feel about it
Q. Very long story... This guy and I were together for a year and a half and had been friends before that. We ended things last April but are still in the same friendship group so we see eachother most weekends. Since last April we've been up an...
A. 11 December 2016: My first thought was that you need to make new friends. Why on earth would you want to stay part of a group where some members treat you so badly? This is just so destructive.
Secondly, you do not own your ex, nor do you have any right to have ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't anyone want to talk to me?
Q. a little back story: I am an 19 year old girl in university, I currently have a part time job on the side for fun. And over the summer i got very very close with my coworkers and we hung out everyday, but recently we all haven't been talking or they ...
A. 11 December 2016: What are your interests? Have you tried joining any groups at university where you will meet people with similar interests? That is always a good way to make new friends as you immediately have something to talk about.
When you are with people, ... (read in full...)
I'm not good at sport. How can I convince my BF not to watch me playing sport?
Q. I'm not very good at the sport I play, I'm embarressingly bad. My boyfriend insisted he'd come to one of my games, and he's coming to my game on Wednesday. I don't really want him to come, seeing as he's really into his sport and he'll be pretty ...
A. 11 December 2016: Why is he insisting on coming when you have specifically asked him not to? Does he do other things you have asked him not to?
Are you really as bad as you think or is it just lack of confidence in your abilities?
I think the best way out of ... (read in full...)
LDR girlfriend had an abortion then said I wasnt there for her when she needed me. She now won't talk to me
Q. She had a miscarriage .She was bleeding for 20 days,both of us are not ready for a baby.Its a long distance relationship..so she went to the doctor alone..There was big tissue in her uterus..Doctor gave her some abortion pills..after severe pain for ...
A. 11 December 2016: When she needed your support, you let her down BIG TIME. It took two of you to create this baby and, whether intentional or not, she was its mother and affected by the loss very deeply whereas you, on the other hand, were just relieved to be rid of ... (read in full...)
Think he used my coat to masturbate
Q. I recently baby sat for a 15 year old boy while his parents went out for the night. He was mainly up in his room. I came upstairs to see if he needed anything I poked my head around his door and noticed he was on his computer looking at porn. ...
A. 10 December 2016: You were baby-sitting a 15 year old boy? Seriously? Why?
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Is it time to leave this relationship? I'm starting to feel like a roommate or a good friend
Q. 29 F dating 29 M for approximately 1.5 years. My relationship has been rocky from the start. My boyfriend has always pushed the limit with flirting with girls or talking about them. Last month he texted a girl to send him pictures while o...
A. 10 December 2016: He is self-centred and is unlikely to change. Ever. He will only do things on his terms, whether this makes you unhappy or not. In fairness, a lot of blokes are not good at talking about relationships, so that is something I think you may ha... (read in full...)
I trust my boyfriend, but this girl makes me a little nervous. Opinions?
Q. My boyfriend is going out all day with his "bestfriend" who is a girl today (they've never done that before but they have hung out) and he never told me about it or what they were going to do. I found out because I looked at what he was typing o...
A. 10 December 2016: If he was up to no good with this girl, he would have no reason to have a girlfriend, i.e. you.
I am guessing the reason he kept this meeting secret from you is that he suspected you will react badly. In fairness, the secrecy would worry me too (... (read in full...)
Is it over? Was he cheating? I suggested that we finish the relationship and he just accepted it, as if he's given up.
Q. Hi i recently started distancing myself from my bf of 2 years as we were having a lot of problems(no intimacy for 6 months been the main problem+talking/flirting to girls online i suspected).. Plus told him after a month of hardly seeing him i wa...
A. 10 December 2016: Looks to me like the relationship had run its course and you had BOTH given up on it. You were the one to distance yourself so why are you now surprised that he just accepted it? Were you hoping he would beg you not to end the relationship? You have ... (read in full...)
Was her comment to her girlfriend about the dick pic normal?
Q. my wife got a picture of a dick texted to her from her girlfriend. She answered the text by saying the dick looked really good , once you get that dick you will never get it out of your mind , you can use him just for that dick . I never heard her ...
A. 10 December 2016: How do you know this? Have you been prying in your wife's private messages? If so, stop it.
Sounds like normal "girl chat" to me, one female encouraging another female in a new "venture".
Concentrate on your own relationship with your wife a... (read in full...)
He doesn't believe I'm innocent
Q. My boyfriend is accusing me of cheating and I'm honestly not I've even ask to give him a lie detector test, one minute he's down for it then the next he doesn't,he says he knows everything that i did cause he's a scorpio and he's very intuitive... ...
A. 10 December 2016: Actually you need to find a way to get out of this relationship - and FAST!
Why are you allowing him to treat you with such total disrespect? It will only get worse.
From my experience, HE is probably the one doing the cheating. Dump h... (read in full...)
How do I reassure her that even though I cheated to be with her that I won't cheat on her?
Q. I had an affair with a girl "Kelsey" , she was girl I worked with and was going through a hard time with her family . It started out as friends , me being there for her when she needed someone to lean on. I was in a 5 year relationship with my ex. ...
A. 9 December 2016: The problem here is that you CANNOT guarantee you will not cheat. You didn't plan to cheat with this girl. As you say, "neither of us planned on the affair happening".
However, given that your girlfriend knew you already had a girlfrie... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend crying over what another guy said when I have tried to reasure her?
Q. Few months back, we had a talk about losing weight. She did get upset over it, but it passed and we were talking normally for a month or two. Recently, a guy at school who she talked to called her fat ( either as an insult or for fun). Since we're ...
A. 9 December 2016: It is irrelevant WHO made the thoughtless comment. What is relevant TO HER is that it was made in the first place.
Assuming she is of a similar age to you, she will be very insecure about her body and having someone comment on her weight will hav... (read in full...)
Was 'going to the dentist' just a cover story? Was he ever 'seeing the dentist' ? Does the evidence suggest my husband is cheating?
Q. Here is an interesting question and it involves speculation and coming up with possible explanations. I am hoping to see how people think and what conclusions they can draw from this situation. It is something different from the usual. Might be ...
A. 8 December 2016: Being the trusting soul I am, I assumed the "married man" was married to the op. Silly me!
Op, if this is a married man you are having an affair with, then you deserve all the uncertainty you are experiencing. You have no claim over him. Back off... (read in full...)
Was 'going to the dentist' just a cover story? Was he ever 'seeing the dentist' ? Does the evidence suggest my husband is cheating?
Q. Here is an interesting question and it involves speculation and coming up with possible explanations. I am hoping to see how people think and what conclusions they can draw from this situation. It is something different from the usual. Might be ...
A. 7 December 2016: He met someone in the car park and they were in the other person's car for the duration? (Saying person as it could be male or female.)
Without knowing who the person was, or what they were discussing, this is still not evidence of an affair. ... (read in full...)
She says it is impossible to communicate what I did wrong
Q. Hi ALL, I need some perspective please. Long story short, a woman I have an interest in and I had an argument over an email I wrote to her. She is foreign and lives in Eastern Europe. I am American and live in the US. I wrote what I thought was an e...
A. 7 December 2016: As your email was about "long-standing issues", I suspect it was a bit of a "make or break" situation for you. It is, therefore, quite probably that you were quite harsh and that you knew exactly the reaction you were risking. Now that it has ... (read in full...)
My relationship is completely boring and dead but I don't see a way out..
Q. I been with my gf for 3 years. I see her for 1-2 days every week or two. Usually the fun for her wears off after few hours, how she treats me when I arrive to couple hours later. She never really does anything for me anymore, any cooking. I have to ...
A. 6 December 2016: I have to ask, what do you actually get from this relationship? I can see nothing positive in your post.
Do you still want to be in this same position in another 3 years' time? Or would you rather be with someone who loves you, makes an effort t... (read in full...)
I just found out my boyfriend's best female friend does porn to pay for college
Q. My boyfriends best friend is a girl which I've always been ok with because she was dating one of his friends and my boyfriend says that even though she is attractive, he doesn't find her attractive. however I've recently found out that she does porn ...
A. 5 December 2016: But honey, messing around with him would be like taking her work home with her! If he has been friends with her for so long, then if something was going to happen, it would have happened by now. If he wanted to mess around with her, why would h... (read in full...)
My mother in law always sides with her son regardless of how badly he treats me
Q. I have recently had an argument with my mother in law my severely disabled son attacked me , he pulled my hair and my head back and forth several times, I now have terrible pains on my back and neck. I can cope with that but during the attack m...
A. 4 December 2016: I think you are wasting your time even imagining your MIL is going to side with you, regardless of how badly her son behaves. It hasn't happened yet, in all these years, so why would you hold out hope it will EVER happen? Why are you looking to her ... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to leave a bad relationship
Q. Hello I'd like some advice.This is probably all going to sound ridiculous but here goes. I am stuck in a bad relationship it has been bad since the very beggining my partner has done terrible things to me emotionally and physically and I've alw...
A. 4 December 2016: Have you had any sort of help or treatment for your depression and anxiety attacks? If not, that would be the first step for me. There is help out there if you are prepared to ask for it. Once you are stronger in yourself, getting out of this ... (read in full...)
Help, how will this manager treat me now?? And how should I behave now? I did something where I should have first asked permission of the manager.
Q. When you do something at work you should have asked a manager for permission to do.. Not job threatening, but something that needed a managers permission, you should have asked first.. When he saw you he told you you needed to ask first.. yo...
A. 3 December 2016: I really do think you are overthinking this. You have (quite rightly) apologised, and he has accepted your apology. You have learned your lesson and won't repeat your mistake.
If you are on fairly friendly terms, perhaps you could just say on M... (read in full...)
He's playing with my head! What more can I do?
Q. Hello. I'm after so advise,I'm very confused I was seeing this guy since 2010 with him moving in with me, anyway 2013 he moved to another place out of town with me saying I think he had met someone else,we carried on speaking never saw each other ...
A. 30 November 2016: If you were reading your post from someone else, what would you advise them?
This guy is not messing with your head; he is simply using and abusing you. Wake up and realise you are worth so much more than he is prepared to offer.
You alr... (read in full...)
What can I do? I don't want to lose my relationship with my niece so soon
Q. Hi I know this is advice about love but I am writing about how much I love my niece and I think it is unfair that my brother in-law's parents get to see her on Christmas and I don't get to see her during Christmas at all. I help take care of her a...
A. 30 November 2016: Why don't you pick another day during the Xmas period to make your "Special Day" with your niece? Then treat that as "your" Xmas Day and have all the normal fun, just on a different day.
Many separated parents have to do this if children cannot v... (read in full...)
My girlfriend made a online dating profile and when I confronted her she lied. Where to now, with this relationship??
Q. So I found out my girlfriend had made a online dating profile and when I confronted her she lied straight to my face about it and after a little while she finally admitted she made it. When I asked her why she made it she told me she was bored an...
A. 30 November 2016: Do you see your girlfriend as your lover and your friend, or just as the mother of your baby? Why is she bored? Is she stuck at home all day looking after the baby? None of this would be an excuse, but it would start to explain her behaviour.
... (read in full...)
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