My boyfriend has a very inappropriate colleague who I'm extremely uncomfortable with; he says he'll avoid her but doesn't match his words
Q. My fiancé works with this girl who I accepted as a friend of ours and as part of our group. He had told me that she had displayed scandalous behaviours in the past (had tried to sleep with him while he had a girlfriend and told him she would never ...
A. 14 October 2016: I was reading your post and thinking "this sounds just like a work colleague of mine". She marched up to a guy at work, while his girlfriend was standing next to him, and told him "I want to screw the a*** off you"!!!!!! Now she tries to make out ... (read in full...)
Is this relationship worth holding onto?
Q. my girl and I were separated but still living together with a baby. I found out she was talking to someone else, she said she never slept with him but did make out with him and came home with a hickey one day. everything is in the open now and she ...
A. 14 October 2016: Are you just wanting her back because you think she might have found someone else? If so, that is not love but possessiveness.
If you still love her, why have you been living separate lives?
For the sake of your child, you two need to sit down... (read in full...)
He's not in the least interested so why does he want me in his life?
Q. Hey everyone. a few month ago i went on a date with a guy we then decided to be in a relationship . long story short he wasted my time made excuses not to see me and wasted my time i said its over and dumped him . he wanted to be friends so i kep...
A. 14 October 2016: What do you have to gain from this supposed friendship? Do you actually NEED his friendship (with his previous poor track record)?
I wouldn't spend any time wondering about his motives as they are irrelevant really.
As you haven't even tho... (read in full...)
I'm having second thought about marriage
Q. My boyfriend has proposed to me, and even though I said yes, I'm now not sure whether I did the right thing. Last year my boyfriend admitted to sleeping with 3 other girls in the first year of our relationship. He told me that he wanted me to know ...
A. 13 October 2016: Do you love this man? How long have you actually been together?
At the very least, you should put a date for the wedding on a back burner. You can stay engaged if you want to but don't rush into marriage just yet. You can stay engaged indefini... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend Turned Rude and Immoral, Should I Dump Her?
Q. When we started going out I thought she was a nice girl, she has loads of friends, is liberal, goes to rights protests and that sort of thing. Was also very happy and smiley. However I'm repulsed by her recently. For example she grew up in a bet...
A. 13 October 2016: I have to ask, do you think your girlfriend has mental health issues?
I ask because my partner's daughter used to do the "taking photos of random strangers and posting on social media" stuff a few years ago. She had various mental health issues g... (read in full...)
Why do older women like me so much?
Q. It's flattering, I have no problem being with an older woman if I like her, but they are unavailable. A woman I've known for a few years now, Caucasian, 36 years old, and she has had the same boyfriend since before we even met. She's always bee...
A. 13 October 2016: I wonder, as you are unattached and (presumably) attractive, whether these women see you as a challenge or are intrigued by why you are single? We have a guy who works in our office who (we believe) has never had a girlfriend (he avoids the quest... (read in full...)
Am I being unfair, insensitive or inconsiderate of my MIL?
Q. I’m at my wits end with my MIL... if it wasn’t bad enough when my partner raced down 107kms to take his mother to the hairdressers when no-one else was available for free, this next exploit beats all. Earlier this year my MIL made flight ...
A. 13 October 2016: Ooh, your poor husband, caught in the middle of his wife and his mother. He is the one who has the largest amount of my sympathy.
I do, however, feel your pain and annoyance, and know, in your shoes, I would feel exactly the same. However,... (read in full...)
Should I not bother meeting him?
Q. I met a man on Facebook and we're meeting up this week.The problem is he is French and lives in Quebec. He speaks broken English from what I've gathered through text messages. English and French isn't my first launguage either but I live in Canada ...
A. 13 October 2016: Every gut feeling in me screams DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!
The distance and language barriers aside, if he won't speak to you on the phone even, let alone Skype you, what is to say he will be there when you turn up? Everything about this sounds & feels ... (read in full...)
Should her locked phone be a deal breaker?
Q. Ok I've been with my woman now for a good bit over 2 years. Nov. 5th, at 9:20, will make 3 year's for us. We've put each other through a lot but the situations she's put me in are far worst than the things I did. We're moving past that. I mean I ...
A. 12 October 2016: Wow! You remember the TIME you first started dating? Most blokes don't even remember the YEAR, let alone the date!
Here's the thing: either you trust this girl, or you don't. As you want access to her phone, I would guess you have big trust is... (read in full...)
Why get married? How do I tell my family that they're waiting for something that will not happen?
Q. Why is getting married so important!! I'm 25 I have been with my partner 10 years my relationship is fantastic I trust him we get on like best mates there's no drama it is as close to perfect as I could have ever imagined! We own a home 50/50 not...
A. 12 October 2016: Well done for sticking to your guns and not conforming to the traditionalists' thinking. I have noticed that many couples who get married after a long courtship do so simply because it's a make-or-break situation, resulting from a rut they have got ... (read in full...)
I am always anxious that my b/f is going to leave me
Q. 'm in a desperate situation. I suffer from diagnosed depression. Almost a year ago I met the man of my dreams and we are still together. In August I found messages to his female friend I had noticed he had a flirty relationship with on Facebook and ...
A. 12 October 2016: While I acknowledge your mental health issues, they are not a justification for sending a "nasty message" to someone. Nor does it justify checking up on them. Being in a relationship with someone does not mean they are not allowed to have ... (read in full...)
He's gone and I don't know how to forget him
Q. It's been almost a year since I have met him. First we started off with a lot of fights and stopped talking for a while but he seemed interesting to me and I made a contact with him again. The second time we got closer, we texted each day and he ...
A. 12 October 2016: Why are you "a sad person"? You sound to have pinned all your hopes of happiness of this one guy, who you hadn't even met in person.
I suspect he probably felt frightened at the intensity of your feelings towards him and your impossibly high exp... (read in full...)
I thought I was a good friend, am I not?
Q. Am I a bad friend? Hi, I'm on my 4th year at uni and I've found myself without real friends or rather no one close to talk to. I stopped talking to my two best friends because they were messed up to me and I keep thinking it is my fault and I'm lone...
A. 12 October 2016: I am of a different generation so, possibly for that reason, your post has just left me stunned and asking "what the hell????" For what it's worth, you sound very "black and white". There appear to be no grey areas in your life. Someone is eithe... (read in full...)
She broke off her engagement for me and its freaking me out
Q. So I need opinions. I was seeing this girl for a while last year. She seemed super into me and I liked her a lot but I just wasn't ready or looking for a relationahip at the time. I'd just gotten out of a three year relationship and just wasn't ...
A. 12 October 2016: It was her choice to break off the engagement. You did not ask her to do it. Your first priority should be to decide what your situation is with your ex ex. Do you still have feelings for her? If so, then you need to come to terms with that ... (read in full...)
Am I out of line for asking my b/f to change around his child support situation with his ex?
Q. hello ive been dating my bf for a year now. He is 51 I am 47. He has an ex and three children. I have two children . We live seperatly. He and his ex do not follow the child support schedule its been now 6 years that they have not been together ...
A. 12 October 2016: In my opinion? WAAAAAAAAY out of line.
You are in what is essentially still a very casual young relationship. You have only been dating a year. You are not even living together.
Are your boyfriend's current arrangements impacting on you... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks we should find other people because I last way too long in bed and she takes a minute to orgasm and then gets bored
Q. My girlfriend says she thinks we should find other people because I last way too long in bed and she takes a minute to "O" and then gets bored and wants me to just get it over with. We do foreplay and I am trying to teach her how to satisfy my wi...
A. 12 October 2016: This issue is usually the other way round, i.e. men orgasm much faster than women. The advice given on those occasions is to go again later. Could this be a solution for you and your girlfriend?
That aside, I have to agree that there is more to ... (read in full...)
I haven't spoken to my boyfriend in 2 months! Is he trying to end things?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just under a year. In the last two months he has said to me he's been really busy and needs some time and space. He hasn't contacted me for 2 months everytime I message him on what's app he says well chat next week ...
A. 11 October 2016: NOBODY is too busy to chat. He is just rude, selfish and spineless. Instead of telling you straight that he wants out of the relationship, he is just leaving you to realize it is over.
Why are you still hanging in there after all this time? He... (read in full...)
I can't pronounce my boyfriends name right
Q. My boyfriend is Mexican but speaks English very well and he has a name that rolls an 'r' and I am absolutely shocking at Spanish and rolling 'r's. I can't pronounce his name right!! So I say it the way every other person says it, without an accent, ...
A. 9 October 2016: Give him an easier pet name and use that instead! ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend feels smothered by my attention
Q. Hi ladies and gents, My girlfriend has recently said that she felt smothered by my attentiveness...she isn't used to how much I pay attention to what she says and how she feels, I'm not doing anything wrong because I'm lovely and adorable accordi...
A. 9 October 2016: When do you ask these questions? Is it as soon as she walks through the door, when she is still stressed from work, or still half asleep in the morning?
If you ask her the same questions every day, perhaps it feels like interrogation rather t... (read in full...)
Should I keep making an effort with my little brother? He's cut me out of his life for no reason.
Q. I'm 24 and my little brother is 19. We were quite close and brought up by a single mother. I bought a house 2 years ago but still made an effort with my family, and I regularly call my mum. Well my brother has recently moved into a flat with ...
A. 9 October 2016: What's more important to you: your relationship with the little brother you were once so close to, or your pride? I am guessing not the latter so it is going to be up to you to do the running.
Males - especially teenagers, which he still is - are... (read in full...)
I love him, so why am I so mean??
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for a little while now. We were friends beforehand, but things changed and now, I'm very happy with him. We share everything, and I'm not afraid to tell him how I really feel, which is certainly new of a relationship ...
A. 9 October 2016: At least you are now aware of what you do and how it may hurt him. I suspect that, as you come to trust him, you will drop your defences slowly, because that is what your behaviour sounds like. Your guy sounds wonderful and understanding. H... (read in full...)
Should I tolerate this drunk behaviour from my partner, is it ok because it's a 'one off?'
Q. Hi there, thanks for looking :) So I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now and we live together. We rarely drink together, he drinks roughly about 3 times a week though it's usually in the house - he usually only goes to the pub/bar on his lunch ...
A. 9 October 2016: Why did you make him a romantic meal when you knew in advance he would get drunk and not be romantic in any way, shape or form? You KNEW this yet you made this meal? Are you trying to push this relationship to some sort of make-or-break situation? ... (read in full...)
Why did he present as single and not wear any ring? Only telling me later? I broke up, but now he's pursuing me. How do I handle this?
Q. I'm a divorced mom of 2 children. Single for almost 3 years now. I am tall, thin, athletic, and would consider myself a 7.5 – 8, however, six nights a month doesn’t really allow a lot of free time to date. About 7 months ago, I met a very cute ...
A. 8 October 2016: Oh sweetheart. This is so sad. And so hard. And so unfair. Sending big hugs. You already know that the only person who can answer all these questions is the one you have fallen for. I hate to tell you this, but the reason most men cheat is bec... (read in full...)
I've lost my best friend because of his jealous girlfriend
Q. So I've been best friends with a guy since grade school. I haven't seen a lot of him this last year because I've been really busy studying for important exams, but we always kept in regular contact. In that time, he got a girlfriend. I bumped into ...
A. 8 October 2016: Why were you pleading with someone for their friendship? Friendship should be given willingly and generously. You should NEVER have to beg for it. Do you have other friends? If so, now is a good time to cultivate those friendships. If ... (read in full...)
Guys, do you agree with my strategy to back off? Do you think I made a fool of myself?
Q. Hello all I've seen this type question before but I told him I had feelings really put myself out there and he said you're very sweet. Ouch! Now I know the feelings aren't mutual so I've decided to back off and leave him alone. Is that the ri...
A. 8 October 2016: I am assuming "sweet" is not a good thing to be in your part of the world?
If it has been 3 months and he has not been in contact, then yes, you need to move on. Not much info in your post so second guessing here.
Or have you been spending ti... (read in full...)
He left me feeling speechless after cancelling the date at the last minute. What should I say to him?
Q. I went on a date with a guy I met online and it went well, I wasn't feeling a huge amount of chemistry but we were able to hold a conversation and 3 days after the date he asked me if I'd like to hang out again, and I agreed. I messaged him late...
A. 8 October 2016: I would advise being the "bigger guy" here and just message him saying something along the lines of "No problem. I hope you get yourself sorted out soon and meet someone you click with."
That way you are not sounding bitter (which you really h... (read in full...)
If my boyfriend settles down will he someday resent me?
Q. I've never used one of these sites before but I have a question that's driving me crazy ill give a little background first I'm 25 and have been with my boyfriend 9 years weve been working and travelling for the last two years around Asia the sout...
A. 4 October 2016: We would all love to spend our lives just doing what we love. Sadly life is not like that and the majority of us have to compromise and leave the stuff we love as "special treats". He sounds like he is willing to compromise; it's you who sounds t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is in debt due to paying some of her adult son's expenses. Should I help her financially? She hasn't asked me to
Q. My gf works in a low paid job.I also work, and earn more than her, but not a fortune.Which is why I pay for all our holidays, going out to restaurants, and most of her new clothes (which she spends quite a lot on). On the other side, I live in her ...
A. 3 October 2016: What Like I see it says! Spot on what I was thinking while reading your post. If your partner is stressed out from being in debt, while restaurant meals and new clothes are a nice distraction, they do not help solve her problem and you SHOULD b... (read in full...)
What's going on? He asked for my number. Yet he still hasn't asked me out for a date?
Q. I'm a member of a local swimming pool and a few months ago I got talking to a guy who had just joined. Since then we have become really friendly seeing each other there a couple of evenings a week. A few weeks ago the guy asked for my phone num...
A. 2 October 2016: Agree with YouWish. Absolutely nothing to stop you asking him out for a drink after swimming. After all, you are on friendly terms and this is something friends do. Just casually ask so there is no suggestion of dating, just in case it is not what ... (read in full...)
What's going on? He asked for my number. Yet he still hasn't asked me out for a date?
Q. I'm a member of a local swimming pool and a few months ago I got talking to a guy who had just joined. Since then we have become really friendly seeing each other there a couple of evenings a week. A few weeks ago the guy asked for my phone num...
A. 2 October 2016: Is there anything to stop you asking him out for a drink after swimming one evening? Maybe he is just very unsure of himself and worried you might turn him down.
Do you know for sure he is single? Perhaps he is being friendly but only wants to... (read in full...)
I'm worried he's getting fed up with me! I think he wants perfection!
Q. Hi, I am a female, 24. My husband and I have been married for 2.5 years now. We were one of those couples who fell in love and got married soon without a big ceremony. We loved each other to bits. I still do. Last night he was at a friend's place ...
A. 2 October 2016: It sounds like you are both tired and both stressed about money, which leads him to picking little "faults" he finds with you and you feeling you are in the wrong all the time. Is it possible for one or both of you to get part time jobs to eas... (read in full...)
How can I encourage and support a friend who is depressed? What words of encouragement can I say to my friend?
Q. hey , quite a bit to read but i wanted to explain things in better detail . I have a new friend. Four weeks ive known them and they decided to tell me they suffer from bouts of depression and at the moment they are at a low point they have been to...
A. 2 October 2016: Sometimes just being there and listening means a lot. If you want to get your friend to come out for a couple of hours, how about something which will require little actual effort from them (they may not feel up to chatting or mingling with pe... (read in full...)
Is it worth calling her up after 3 years? Or should I just let it go?
Q. 3 years ago I met a beautiful and smart girl at comic con and we hit it off right away. She was 19 and even though we lived 80 miles from each other, we made it work and saw each other every weekend. We got into a relationship and everythi...
A. 2 October 2016: I think you are still carrying a torch for this girl because you have never had proper closure on your relationship. You were all in your stride, enjoying the relationship you had, when, out of the blue, she pulled the rug from under your feet and ... (read in full...)
How can I establish a good relationship with my sister in law if she wants nothing to do with me?
Q. I've been married to my husband for two years. We're not a perfect couple, nobody is, but in general we are very happy. On certain issues we are not the most compatible, but again, we are happy and we make it work. He is a middle child. He has an...
A. 2 October 2016: Do you have friends of your own? Do they not support you? Just because you are married to her brother does not mean you two have anything else in common. Maybe she does not feel any connection with you? It is hard, as you want everyone to be... (read in full...)
How do I respond to my wife now I know about the affair she had with my (then) best friend behind my back?
Q. I just found out that my wife had a sexual relationship with my best friend and the best man at my wedding. This happened 26 years ago! We had been dating exclusively for 4 months at the time. Even though it was so long ago, I feel like it could've...
A. 2 October 2016: You feel it was like yesterday because, for you, it is all fresh as you have only just found out. Sending you hugs. It is bound to be a big shock. And what a dreadful way to find out. I do wonder though, why is all your anger and disappointment d... (read in full...)
I lost the ring my wife purchased for me. She'll be very cross. What should I do?
Q. My wife left for Paris last week, and instead of going to work, coming home to a lovely empty apartment and playing video games like I been doing, my brother convinced me to hang out with him for the night. When I got there all the boys were the...
A. 1 October 2016: Do you know what I think is the truth?
1. You are a gambler.
2. You gambled away the ring your wife bought you.
3. You have a history of telling lies to hide your gambling.
4. Your wife didn't ask if the ring had been scratched but whethe... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for her. Should I keep in touch? She's about to marry another girl.
Q. So I need a little help. Last year around this time, I started seeing a girl. She was beautiful, smart, educated, sweet. All things I look for in a relationahip. Honestly nothing was really lacking and we were pretty great together. We dated fo...
A. 1 October 2016: Just because we are with someone does not automatically mean we will not find others attractive. It's what we do about that attraction that defines what sort of human beings we are. As human beings, we can feel attraction but understand it would be ... (read in full...)
How can I start talking with her, without coming off as desperate or creepy?
Q. There's this girls I like. Or I should say really like. I've asked my friends what I should do, but the advice they give me keeps on contradicting what they're all saying, so instead, I'm asking a bunch of strangers for advice. What I need help with ...
A. 1 October 2016: I think, assuming this girl is a similar age to you, that you need to make things as easy as possible for her. If you just walk up to her and ask her out for a coffee or something, she might be so startled she could decline. Instead why not give her ... (read in full...)
I'm worried he's getting fed up with me! I think he wants perfection!
Q. Hi, I am a female, 24. My husband and I have been married for 2.5 years now. We were one of those couples who fell in love and got married soon without a big ceremony. We loved each other to bits. I still do. Last night he was at a friend's place ...
A. 1 October 2016: Some of this sounds just like the normal progression of a relationship. In the beginning everything is lovey dovey, all full of "I love you" and other signs of affection. As the relationship goes on though, we start to take each other for granted ... (read in full...)
Is being called ''plain and simple'' a compliment?
Q. Is being "Plain and Simple" a compliment? We were having dinner the other night and I asked my husband of over 20 years did it taste ok. I said its just plain food, meaning unprocessed. He said "Yes, Plain and Simple,just the way I like my women"...
A. 1 October 2016: I think, because you are feeling insecure in yourself, you are seeing insults where none are intended.
It was a joke. A typical man joke. No, I don't find it hilarious either but, in your place, I would have either treated it with the contempt... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? Once the pastor was friendly to me. Now he does not respond.
Q. Ok this is a strange one so please bare with me. I have started going to a new Church and it has been great. I got on with the pastor from day one and he came out to visit me a few times. Chatted over FB ect. Then I went on a date last night and p...
A. 1 October 2016: I am probably one of the worst people to comment on this, as I believe we should all live our lives according to our own code of ethics and I feel organised religion is just another way of controlling the masses. However, I will put in my ... (read in full...)
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