How do I make my girlfriend feel special and loved?
Q. Hi guys, Thanks in advance for taking the time to read my post. Basically, my GF of almost one year has told me that she feels more like my best friend than girlfriend. I really need help in fixing things as I care about her a great deal and ...
A. 24 June 2018: She's being a little unfair on you here. If she can't explain what she wants, then how can she expect you to DO what she wants? You are bending over backwards to try to accommodate her needs, yet she is still not happy.
You already sound like you... (read in full...)
How do I make my girlfriend feel special and loved?
Q. Hi guys, Thanks in advance for taking the time to read my post. Basically, my GF of almost one year has told me that she feels more like my best friend than girlfriend. I really need help in fixing things as I care about her a great deal and ...
A. 24 June 2018: Has she given you specific pointers on what SHE needs? Everyone is different and, while one lady might be more than happy with what you have given, this particular lady is obviously looking for more.
I have always believed it is pointless saying v... (read in full...)
I stole from my brother, how do I repair our relationship?
Q. My youger brother, Justin, is 23 months youger than me. I am 35 years old and he is 33 years old. He have always been a good person (doing charity work, volunteering his time to different charities, est.). When I was in my late teens and early ...
A. 24 June 2018: That depends on what your motives are for trying to make contact with Justin again. Is it because yo are truly sorry, miss having contact with him and want to repair your relationship? Or is it because you are down on your luck in some way and want ... (read in full...)
My bf drunk texted his ex FWB and now I feel like I have a right to go through his phone
Q. My boyfriend of a year and 8 months drunkenly text a girl whom he used to see sexually before we started dating. I feel like I have a right to go through his phone now but at the same time I don’t. He feels terribly about the situation and has since ...
A. 23 June 2018: It will probably take some time for it to stop "popping up" in your mind. Early days. When it pops up, try to replace it with a "good" thought - like how sorry he is, how you are both trying to work on your relationship, etc. An incident like this ... (read in full...)
My bf drunk texted his ex FWB and now I feel like I have a right to go through his phone
Q. My boyfriend of a year and 8 months drunkenly text a girl whom he used to see sexually before we started dating. I feel like I have a right to go through his phone now but at the same time I don’t. He feels terribly about the situation and has since ...
A. 22 June 2018: You have no "right" to go through any of his personal stuff, including his phone.
What you DO have a right to is deciding whether you can trust him again or not. It sounds from your post like it was a one-off mistake, which he regrets. We have ... (read in full...)
I ask women I sleep with about their opinion on abortion because I don't want kids. How do I know the girl I'm seeing is on the same page?
Q. So I met a wonderful girl online and we hit it off really well. We kissed on the first date, had lunch on the second, and ended up sleeping with each other on the third when she invited me over to her apartment for pizza and a movie. We used ...
A. 22 June 2018: If you are sure you don't want children, why do you not have a vasectomy and have done with it? Then the topic of abortion will be irrelevant because there will not BE any "accidents".
For the record, I totally understand your desire NOT to have ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong not to thank the ex who agreed we would go “no contact” for the flowers?
Q. So, my ex fiancé sent me flowers Monday, about a year ago he left me for his ex that he was stuck on. I knew something was wrong but he never admitted it. When she rejected him when he went back home he tired to get back with me. I flat out ignor...
A. 22 June 2018: While your good manners are to be applauded, in my book you should only say "thank you" for something which is welcome. The creepy attention from your ex is NOT welcome, so don't encourage it by reacting in any way. Just completely blank him.
... (read in full...)
I miss my abusive ex who cheated on me
Q. Now that I broke up with my verbally abusive ex ( it’s has been a few days)who also cheated on me, I miss him. All I can think about is the good times. I’m trying so hard not to contact him. It seems impossible. What do I do?...
A. 21 June 2018: You miss the GOOD times. You do NOT miss the BAD times. Sadly they came as a package with this guy. Would you want to live the rest of your life (or at least the next few years) being verbally abused by him? Do you not think you are worth better? ... (read in full...)
Newly back on the dating scene, can I booty call a guy or is that creepy?
Q. Hi Cupid, I have a weird question. So, I am newly back on the dating scene after almost 13 years. I am 31. So, I’ve been going on some dates, and a few weeks ago I had two with a lovely guy. We had a great time, connected well and had great che...
A. 21 June 2018: It sounds like you are already starting to have feelings for him due to the "connection" you felt and because he was easily "the best of a bad bunch".
Women are notoriously bad at keeping sex and feelings in separate boxes. I strongly suspect ... (read in full...)
I feel resentful toward my girlfriend. Should I keep trying to make it work?
Q. I met my girlfriend online 7 months ago and we have been living together for the past 4 months. We use to talk on the phone everyday for the first 3 months. She came here from a different country to visit me and hasn't been back to her country ...
A. 21 June 2018: She sounds as unhappy as you do, so you two need to sit down and talk. You need to tell each other exactly WHY you are so unhappy.
The relationship sounds to have moved far too quickly. Perhaps she is now regretting it. Perhaps she is missing ... (read in full...)
He is blowing hot and cold, I don't know what to think.
Q. So a guy I work with initially showed some interest in me, which if you know me is quite rare. At first I was a little uncertain, he wasn't my usual type but we did make eachother laugh and it's been a while so I thought why not. We gradually g...
A. 17 June 2018: Playing games takes two (or more). Stop ALLOWING him to mess with your head and he will be able to do nothing about it.
Some people enjoy teasing and flirting, with absolutely no serious intention of doing anything more. This man sounds like one... (read in full...)
I'm talking all the time to my ex girlfriend who is crying about her life. What can I do?
Q. Well guys m confused how to think about something , i had a relationship with a girl for almost 5 years everything was great but we had to break up because she left the countery to study far away but we keept contact as good freind few months later ...
A. 17 June 2018: If one of your friends came to you with this scenario, what would you advise? Would you advise him to put his life on hold indefinitely, with no guarantee he would ever get back with this ex, or would you advise him to move on with his life and let ... (read in full...)
Should I give both of us another chance? Or not bother?
Q. Hi everyone. I have this ex who i was with 2 years ago. We met and everything was great so much that we moved together in 3 months so we could be closer, he lived in another city. From that moment on he gradually changed and was becoming cold, ...
A. 16 June 2018: Do you make a habit of wanting guys who keep you at a distance? I ask because there are people who believe something is only worth having if you have to constantly work/fight to get it. They believe that, if something is given freely, it is not ... (read in full...)
My friend is upset with me and I am not sure what to do to mend our relationship!
Q. Four months back one of my high school friend got married. We have been friends from last 12 years. She is a very nice lady but she was there for me in my hard times. we always had back of each other. She married her boyfriend even though she was ...
A. 16 June 2018: Is this lady YOUR only friend too? I ask because you sound just like SHE did when she was engaged. Your whole post was about how bored you are of your conversations with her and how you have been slowly distancing yourself from her, yet you are ... (read in full...)
He seems a bit too chummy with his real estate agent
Q. Hi ladies, ok so I am worried because, my boyfriend (in his 40s) is buying a house that he wants to make into a business a little more ahead, the thing is that he will need to rent one of the rooms to someone (a roommate) to help him pay off the ...
A. 14 June 2018: Why? She is a human being like anyone else. Her job is irrelevant. She is friends with people.
The fact that your boyfriend has asked you to meet up with her would, to me at least, indicate he has nothing to hide. He wants you to be comforta... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend has a way of messing with my head
Q. Hi all, Long story cut short. I was in a lesbian relationship with my gf for two years. She kissed a guy during our relationship (even lied to my face and was secretly sending messages to him). This pushed me to pursue my dreams in working a...
A. 14 June 2018: None of us know her or her motives. I have to ask though, why are YOU so hooked up on HER? You KNOW she messes around with other people. You KNOW she messes with your head. Why do you not think you deserve better? It sounds like she needs a ... (read in full...)
I have a big decision to make
Q. I'm at a crossroads w/my relationship and I am deeply torn. I love my bf and he is my best friend, but there is something I have to consider as well. Since he left college, he has been working a mediocre job in which I know he isn't happy (h...
A. 14 June 2018: I suspect, rather than get bored with him, you will get frustrated with him.
Is it possible his weight is a contributory factor to him not looking for a better job, or going back to college? Could he be embarrassed by his weight? Or perhaps ... (read in full...)
The relationship started off terribly and it’s still rocky, but we really love each other! Do I leave or stay?
Q. I’m in this relationship with a guy for a year and a half now. The relationship started off terribly because he started ghosting me after a month. We hardly met and he never replied to me. He used to ignore me for most of the time. I made a fake ...
A. 13 June 2018: REGARDLESS of what YOU do, he has no right to call you those names and abuse you over the phone.
When I read the abuse only takes place over the phone, the first thought that came into my head was that he may be "playing to an audience" (e.g. hi... (read in full...)
The relationship started off terribly and it’s still rocky, but we really love each other! Do I leave or stay?
Q. I’m in this relationship with a guy for a year and a half now. The relationship started off terribly because he started ghosting me after a month. We hardly met and he never replied to me. He used to ignore me for most of the time. I made a fake ...
A. 12 June 2018: Is this all you think you deserve? If so, why?
NOBODY deserves to be ghosted, cheated on, then abused. If you think that is LOVE, you have a very twisted view of love.
Were you verbally and psychologically abused as a child and now see such beh... (read in full...)
I feel I’m being played with! Do I cut off all contact?
Q. My ex and I saw eachother for the first time after 6 months of not speaking at a house party around 2 weeks ago. I was extremely drunk He was telling me how much he missed me and didn’t leave my side the whole night. We even went home together...
A. 12 June 2018: You've already wasted time on this guy. You broke up for a reason. Why are you wishing to revisit old hurts? Are there not enough decent guys out there who will respect you enough not to mess you about?
Watch your alcohol intake when you are out ... (read in full...)
She has a guy friend stay over!
Q. I am dating someone and have been for 4 or 5 months now. She is having a guy friend stay over, which makes me uncomfortable on a level of respect. I have stayed at another girls place with a previous gf and was told by family that this shouldn't of ...
A. 12 June 2018: I really don't understand how this can be a "respect" issue.
Think about it. If she WANTS to screw this guy, she can do so ANY TIME. She doesn't need to have him stopping over at her house. If she had anything to hide, she would not have tol... (read in full...)
Is my long-distance husband using me?
Q. Hi and thanks I have wrote on here before but I wasnt able to find my question. I have married a man from Africa, I'm Canadian. We met on Facebook and we have been married for 16 months. Doing a long distance relationship isnt easy ...
A. 11 June 2018: If it is common in Africa for a man to provide for his family, then that is what he should do. It is NOT common for someone to scam someone into providing for their family and friends and for financing their extravagant lifestyle.
Sweet... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says if I don't lose weight after our baby's birth he will dump me!
Q. I am 24 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend is constantly calling me fat. He says he is teasing. He also said that if I don't lose the weight after the baby is born he will dump me. I have taken all these things to heart. I was really skinny before I got ...
A. 10 June 2018: Is this post for real?... (read in full...)
My coworker doesn't wear a ring, but how do I make sure he's not married?
Q. I am attracted to this man at work that comes in 3 days a week to do his job, and I knew him very vaguely from other job before switching. I did always find him attractive, but just said "hello." I was pretty sure he was married, but didn't look for ...
A. 10 June 2018: Surely it would be easy enough to slip into a conversation "Does your wife work?" or "What does your wife think about that?" or something along those lines? That will be his chance to tell you whether he is married or not (assuming he wants to tell ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being so insecure about my boyfriend’s last relationship?
Q. Hello all.. So I’ll get right to it. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months now, officially 3 months. I actually met him a year ago at my job. I sold cars and he was a customer of mine but he ended up buying a car from a competitor. But ...
A. 9 June 2018: He is not your ex. Stop expecting the same behaviour from him. Also there is no tie with him ex girlfriend in the form of a baby. He has already told her he is finished with their relationship.
With ANYONE who has had ANY previous relation... (read in full...)
Love triangle--why is he good to her and pushes me away when I am the one who is always there for him?
Q. Ok here it goes. I have been seeing this guy now off and on for almost 3 yrs. But he treats me so horrible. There is another women involved. I'm the one that is always there for him no matter what. But now he is in jail and the first time I bail him ...
A. 9 June 2018: Why does he treat you like this? Because YOU allow it. No other reason.
You are not helpless in this situation. He is not FORCING you do to anything. You are not held captive in any world but your own imagination. You are ALLOWING him to treat yo... (read in full...)
I moved to another city to be away from my ex and I found him here
Q. Hi There, I broke up with my ex 2 months ago, It was a one and half year relationship, It was impossible to me to get better unless I move to another city, I hated the city that we were living in, I hated every single street in it, and everythi...
A. 9 June 2018: First of all, don't panic and don't do anything rash. You don't know your ex is living anywhere nearby. He could have been visiting. If you keep seeing him, then you may need to rethink, but, for the time being, sit tight. You may never see him ... (read in full...)
How should I handle finding these texts?
Q. Some back story: My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year. Aside from a few normal bumps and turns in the road, our relationship has been quite a breeze. We started off in a very unconventional way, though. I actually had a fling ...
A. 9 June 2018: How can you take this as "constructive criticism" when he hasn't had the balls to tell YOU? Also, you are who you are. Unless the things which irritate him are small things you do because you are not aware you do them or because you are too lazy ... (read in full...)
Wife Left Me For Her Married Boss. How do I get over her?
Q. My WS wife took a job as a restaurant manager in March of 2016. It was a new establishment and very high end. Business is very good to this day. I had a regular 9-5, and she had been looking for something more fulfilling and better pay for quite so...
A. 8 June 2018: Sorry, I have no idea what all the initials in your post stand for so, if they mean anything which changes the meaning of your post significantly and which I have missed, apologies in advance.
The saying goes that "you don't know someone until yo... (read in full...)
Love triangle without an end
Q. So this is what happened. I started dating this girl one year ago. She is 30, I am 35. At the beginning, it was exciting, she was classy, elegant, fun, spicy, etc. In the first months we had great sex and she was seeing the whole thing as fuck ...
A. 8 June 2018: Why? Why have one man when you can have two, both fulfilling different needs?
She does it because YOU (and the other guy - if he knows of the full situation) ALLOW it. You are so infatuated with her, you will allow her to treat you any way she ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend often tells me small lies, how do I get him to stop?
Q. Been tigether 2 years and the past 6 months my boyfriend has the tendancy to change his stories often and its getting to a point where Im always get upset and angry and then we end up in a big argument. Theyre usually small pointless ones, but if he ...
A. 8 June 2018: OMG, have you never told a story about something you did and slightly "edited" the next version to make it sound more interesting/funny than the original? If you haven't, then you are in a minority.
I am surprised it is not your poor boyfrien... (read in full...)
How do I end this pathetic relationship without him turning it all around on me?
Q. Hi I’ve been in a relationship for 6 years we have a 3 year old daughter together the relationship is pathetic between us there’s no affection he sleeps on the sofa does everything to avoid spending time with us it’s always me doing everything for ...
A. 7 June 2018: You can't control how he acts or how he will re-act. All you can control is how YOU act and how YOU re-act.
Not sure what you mean by him "turning it around" on you but, whatever you mean, does it matter? What matters is that you are happy an... (read in full...)
Have you ever felt perplexed by a person's disinterest towards you?
Q. To keep it short, I've been having sex with this guy for almost 2 years. I'm fine that it's not a relationship. Things have been good, but there is one thing that's been on my mind. Firstly, yes, we always talk before sex, he'll sometimes tak...
A. 7 June 2018: He is either genuinely uninterested in you as a person, only wanting you as a fuck buddy, or he is one of those men who doesn't ask questions of ANYONE. Women tend to want to know more about the sort of thing you mention, whereas men often are ... (read in full...)
Why hold a grudge for 3 years, after a crush wasn’t reciprocated?
Q. If someone who had a crush on another person, felt rejected by that person, why would they hold a grudge after 3 years? They did not ask the person out. But dropped "I love you" lines here and there. But this was not taken seriously. So this other ...
A. 7 June 2018: Glad it's not just me that has trouble following this post. Had to read it twice to make any sense. Why didn't you just say "Someone had a crush on me, I didn't realize he was serious, now he still holds a grudge for me not taking him up on it"?
... (read in full...)
I cheated in the past he doesn't trust me and now things are off. What can I do?
Q. Dear cupid,about 4years ago, i was in a long distance relationship with Ray(not his real name). The relationship didnt mean much to me because he was my rebound and the distance wasnt what i needed but at that time i wasn’t thinking. This resulted ...
A. 5 June 2018: Everyone can actually act in life any way they choose. However, it has to be remembered that everything comes with a price. The price of you cheating is that you have pushed this man away from you. This man you say you are in love with now distrusts ... (read in full...)
Tales of attraction, games, betrayal and the wifes condundrum
Q. Seeking some guidance around my husbands relationship with a highly promiscuous, devious and highly NARCISSISTIC Slor€ (that's her appropriately allocated nickname btw from her own family - which I was told in advance meant slut crs whore because ...
A. 5 June 2018: I have to ask why you think this woman owes you ANYTHING? She is not the one who married you.
I do understand it is easier to direct your anger at her, rather than at your husband, who is the one who made marriage vows to you. However, it will ... (read in full...)
We've been together 6 years my boyfriend's mother doesn't like me and goes out of her way to show her dislike. I can't take it!
Q. Any advice would be really helpful as I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend’s mum hates me and she makes me feel worthless and useless and actually has really upset me. My boyfriend has spoken to her several times in the past 6years and told her ...
A. 5 June 2018: Regardless of who you were, my guess is you would never be good enough for her little boy. I doubt there really IS a girl she has in mind for him but, if there is, she is probably a complete door mat and will do exactly as she is told by his mother. ... (read in full...)
My coworker admitted his feelings for me
Q. Help my coworker admitted to having feelings for me! Brief scenario - we sit next to each other in the office and at first I thought he was nice( I treat him the same way as the other guys) innocent jokes etc. I did notice he likes to blame o...
A. 5 June 2018: It always amazes me that people feel it is appropriate to discuss their private lives at work (during work hours I assume). You get paid to work. If you are sitting there, gossiping and chatting with your colleagues, you are taking money from the ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of dentists, will this treatment hurt?
Q. Hi guys I need some advice and also other peoples experience on my problem... When I last went to the dentist I had an X-ray and it should i have an impacted wisdom tooth at the back of my bottom tooth, I have had he odd pain but then nothing for ...
A. 4 June 2018: If it's an abscess, you will be given antibiotics to clear it up before the dentist can do any work to investigate why it has occurred. It is important you go as quickly as possible, before this gets worse. (I too have a fear of dentists so totally ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife things are broken even though love is still there?
Q. Hi everyone. I've come to you all for advice before and recieved a mixture of abuse, passive aggression and sexism. I ask you please to respond as if yuo are the shriks you claim to be! Me and my wife have been together 14 years. We have no kids ...
A. 3 June 2018: Shrinks? Where on earth did you get that impression from? I'm pretty sure there is not one "shrink" among us, ha ha! And nowhere have I ever seen on this forum any claim to that effect. If you want to talk to a professional, seek professional help ... (read in full...)
My ex said some things, now I feel so low and worthless.
Q. I am feeling low and hurt. I split from my boyfriend around 5 months ago and got odd texts from him now and then. Anyway started to accept it was over and to start building my life again when put the blue my ex text me to say he was really ill and ...
A. 3 June 2018: It always makes me snigger and roll my eyes when someone slates an ex partner's appearance in this way. They are seldom, if ever, anything to write home about themselves. I bet HE is no Brad Pitt, is he? And if he found you so unattractive, why did ... (read in full...)
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