My will be joining another couple for a threesome
Q. So let me start by saying my wife and I have been married for 8 years an are blessed/ deeply in love. So last night we had a couple over for cocktails, I was at work when they arrived and when I got there my wife was already buzzed and was acting v...
A. 26 August 2018: What do you do? You tell you wife, very firmly, that she is now a married woman and that means staying FAITHFUL, not shagging around with other men. You also have to decide, if she chooses to ignore you and go ahead, whether it is a deal breaker for ... (read in full...)
Lack of sex is causing me to feel unloved and unwanted. I'm a newlywed!
Q. I need direction and I am so lost. My newly wed husband and I dated almost a year before we married. Engaged for only 3 months I thought this is what I have waited so long for. after the first night of our honeymoon I had this gut feeling something ...
A. 26 August 2018: There is a lot of this that I just can't get straight in my head and a lot you have left out.
You were a virgin in your 30s, then married a man you had only known a year but never had sex with, and he is telling you his libido dropped BEFORE t... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a girl who has a boyfriend. Do I drop a hint that I'm single?
Q. I split up with my long term partner because I wasn't sure how I felt and it didn't feel right anymore. I'm in no rush to get into a relationship again but there is a girl who I have an interest in. I think there is a connection between us as I'...
A. 26 August 2018: You think she is interested in you based on her looking at you and saying "hi"? Wow! If that's all it takes, I could have my pick of 20+ men! To think I never realized that all my life.
I jest of course. Sweetheart, pull yourself together... (read in full...)
He'll do anything .... except come fishin'
Q. My family are a big fishing family (both my side and my husband's family loves fishing). We tried to teach our children to love fishing. We have three children and three grandchildren. Our youngest son, Justin, is 33 years old and he hates fis...
A. 26 August 2018: So the only time you have a big family reunion is when you are fishing? What is more important to you: the fishing or keeping a bond with your son?
I am sure there are things YOU must hate doing. Put yourself in your son's shoes and ask yourself... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that having a transgender friend means he's stringing me along
Q. I am in a long distance relationship for a year and a half planning to move in with him. I’m pregnant. My boyfriend is very handsome cares a lot about his appearance. Well I put kisses baby and he put kisses mami then a transgender guy from his...
A. 25 August 2018: Sounds like the transgender guy is having a bit of fun with him. I'm puzzled why you think there is more to it? Am I missing something?... (read in full...)
Will my married lover ever come back to me, even as a friend?
Q. I am 45 with a teenage daughter. My husband is good but has no time or interest in me. I tried all ways to get him interested in me, but he is keen only in earning more money. He is not bad but a very very boring man. But he is a great dad. I ev...
A. 25 August 2018: Their relationship is THEIR problem and THEIR business, nothing to do with YOU.
You cannot blame him for "using" you when you willingly put yourself in this situation. I am amazed that you have the audacity to blame your lover for you not putt... (read in full...)
Our male co-worker is too friendly with my girlfriend
Q. Hey so i work with my gf and we have this male coworker who is engaged. but he is always giving my gf a little gift like once a month. it could be some bread he baked or the last thing was a pack of paper clips with a note saying he hopes this ...
A. 25 August 2018: I think you should be asking a completely different question, i.e. something along the lines of "how can I work on my relationship and make it strong so that I am not left feeling insecure because a co-worker gives my girlfriend little gifts?"
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My brother owes me money!
Q. Okay, I'm not sure if this is the right place for this but here goes. I'm really needing some sound advice here because I really feel myself at the point of no return and I don't know what to do or want to fall out with anyone. My little broth...
A. 25 August 2018: You are treating your "little brother" like a child and he is loving it. Start treating him like you would any other adult. You are not doing him any favours by teaching him he can coast along in life and get others to pick up his bills. He is ... (read in full...)
His ex hates me because he dumped her two weeks before dating me
Q. So to explain the situation a bit better Ive been best friends with an American man for about 12.5 years now, I lived in Ireland and we met online and started as penpals , we have emailed nearly every day for 12 years and always rang each other and ...
A. 25 August 2018: It always amazes me how people can redirect their anger.
The one who did her wrong was your boyfriend, not you. HE was the one who basically used her to try to get over you and then told her what he had done and that it hadn't worked. No wonder s... (read in full...)
Turnng 30 and getting itchy feet about passionless relationship
Q. Hi, I don't know what to do or how to feel. I have lived at home with my parents until not long ago. I was always a good kid and studied hard and didn't go out partying. I've bought a house and moved in with my partner of 10 years. I have bee...
A. 25 August 2018: This relationship sounds like it has run its course. Marriage is not going to miraculously "fix" it.
I am always dubious when a couple have been together for many years (as in your case) and then decide to get married. With very few exceptio... (read in full...)
How do I fix my girlfriend's attitude about her appearance?
Q. My girlfriend has a folder on her phone that consists of a lot of pictures of beautiful girls. I asked her about it and she said that these girls are pretty and she likes the inspiration because she wants to look like that one day. We're both onl...
A. 25 August 2018: Sadly there is probably little more you can do than you are already doing, i.e. telling her she doesn't NEED surgery and is beautiful the way she is.
With any luck, by the time she actually has enough money for surgery, she will have somethin... (read in full...)
They look so happy on their photos and get so many likes on them and I can't help feeling like I despise them both
Q. My ex and I broke up at the start of February after 5 years together. We shared a house, was talking about getting engaged and starting a family etc but I left. I realised I wanted to fulfill my dream of getting a degree which he didn't approve of. ...
A. 24 August 2018: You are both still living rent-free inside each other's heads. He is acting like a child who has had a toy taken away then goes and plays with other toys and waves them in your face to try to prove you have not upset him. You, on the other hand, ... (read in full...)
Leaving a married man is more painful than staying
Q. So I ended my A over a month ago. I felt like a huge weight was lighted off my shoulders that I finally off the roller coster ride of emotions. I started wanting more than he can give He would always make excuses to come to my place go to your p...
A. 24 August 2018: It always amazes me when seemingly intelligent women have so little sense of self worth that they think all they are worth is being some married man's bit on the side. Please don't kid yourself that you were ever anything more than that because this ... (read in full...)
The guy I've been seeing just asked about a threesome with my friend
Q. A guy I've been seeing for not long was talking to me tonight and he pulled up a pic on my social media and asked if it was my friend in the pic. I said yes and he said she looks familiar. He then a few sentences later was asking if I wanted a...
A. 23 August 2018: One question for you: is this all you think you are worth?
Just in case you are stalling answering, I will answer for you: NO. You are worth MUCH better.
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Should I ask why he blocked me?
Q. I met a guy online at the end of last year. When we met he was in the process of trying to move back to london and had been offered a job. The job offer fell through and he didn’t end up moving to london. We still stayed in touch but not in a lon...
A. 23 August 2018: Well, you COULD ask him, but several things strike me about doing that:
1. What are you going to say? "I notice you blocked me on my other number so I am contacting you on this number to find out why"? Do you not think that sounds just a bit stal... (read in full...)
I'm about to move in with my boyfriend, but worry he might change his mind.
Q. Hi all, So I’ve been with my new boyfriend for nearly 6 months, it’s all going brilliantly, he’s everything I’ve wanted and we get on so well, I’m 28, he’s 30. He’s been with a lot of girls for one night stands and his longest relationship is ...
A. 22 August 2018: I believe people settle down when they are ready to settle down. Your boyfriend was never ready before but now he sounds like he might be. He is older, he has "sown his wild oats" and he has met someone special who he can see himself with long term. ... (read in full...)
Do people change? He wants me to accept he has and wants to have another baby!
Q. After years of my husband being very neglectful , toxic, drunkard and bullheaded.. i decided to stop caring and do my own other things.. Now that he has realized that i might leave the relationship...he says he agrees with me about everythi...
A. 20 August 2018: Offering to change because he is scared of losing you is a long way short of actually changing.
Giving you a week to accept he has changed and move on (if I understand your post correctly) is ridiculous, as you surely must know. This abuse ha... (read in full...)
After 28 years of marriage I just feel sad.
Q. M Y husband and I have been married for 28years. We have 3 children. We had our own cleaning business which went bankrupt. Whilst working in our family business I also had a 4 day a week external job. He now has a casual care taker job. He works ...
A. 19 August 2018: I think it is pointless telling someone "we need to work at being closer". This is just far too vague. Your husband probably hasn't a clue where to start. I think you need to agree on things you will both do to bring you closer together.
Be sp... (read in full...)
Did I just get used for sex?
Q. So I've known this guy for a while and last week our texts turned sexual and he said do I want to meet with him. So we met we were kissing, we held hands we had a good time. Then he asked if I wanted to have sex with him I said I couldn't because I ...
A. 19 August 2018: Maybe he was. Maybe he wasn't. The important thing is this has left YOU feeling used, at least until you find out how HE viewed it.
Many men are hypocritical in that they push for sex from a girl yet, if she agrees too readily, they see her as "... (read in full...)
Does my wife really believe we need this money this bad?
Q. I'll try to keep it short. My wife picked up a small second job cleaning/taking care of an elderly man (80's) 20 hours a week. She heard of this guy through a customer at her waitressing job. Guy is paying her $20 an hour under the table. Pr...
A. 19 August 2018: Sorry, but I actually spluttered when I read "My wife says she's gonna talk to the dude and set her boundaries and ask for more money." So, as I understand it, your wife is willing to put up with this lecherous old perv if he pays her more? So she ... (read in full...)
I think this 15 yo boy will probably want sex!
Q. i am a 13 year old . this guy is very cute and i like him a lot . and he asked me if i wanted to have sex with him and i told him “ rpprobably not maybe i’ll succ you tho “ and yeah he is 15 and is not a virgin and i’m 13 and i am . ughhh idk what ...
A. 19 August 2018: Perhaps you should be asking your parents or teachers what they think of this situation? Can't bring yourself to do that? Is it because you KNOW it is wrong?
You have the rest of your life to ENJOY sex. You do not have to be pressured into it ... (read in full...)
What should I do about this married, flirting floozy?
Q. I have a friend and shes always says she love me. Shes married to She once said I love you more then you know what is she trying to say to me. She flurts with me to. I dont know what to do....
A. 19 August 2018: Easy. Unless you want trouble from a disgruntled husband, you laugh it off and ignore it.
When she says "I love you", laugh and say something like "Of course you do. ALL the ladies love me."
If you are in any doubt about how you should react... (read in full...)
Would it be weird to message him on Facebook?
Q. Hi all I would be grateful if you could offer me some advice about a guy that I like. I like this guy called Tom and he knows my cousin. I’m not sure if I should approach him. You see I don't want to tell my cousin that I like Tom as my cou...
A. 18 August 2018: There is POSSIBLY a maximum of 7 years difference in your age. That is hardly a huge age gap, especially when you look younger than you are. I wouldn't let age worry you at all at this stage. Just don't lie to him about it if he asks.
And t... (read in full...)
He keeps asking for nude pictures!
Q. Hi everyone. I'm in a 2yrs long distance relationship with this guy never met him, although the time I would have met him wasn't convenient because of my exams and he traveled back bcos of work. we chat everyday, he tells me he loves me n can't wait ...
A. 18 August 2018: The rule of thumb regarding sending pictures is, don't send anyone any picture you would not be happy with all your friends and family seeing. I am guessing that will include nude/semi-clad pictures for you.
Someone who keeps sending you pictures... (read in full...)
I always find some flaw in men, am I a full-blown lesbian?
Q. Hi, I am 32 and reevaluating my life. I have noticed a pattern of freaking out from liking the same sex. I must admit that I think I'm definitely into the same sex because I am attracted to them physically. I haven't yet gone on a date and don't k...
A. 18 August 2018: As I see it, there are a number of things going on that you need to stop:
- STOP trying to label yourself as straight/lesbian or anything else
- STOP believing there is a "right" and "wrong" where sexuality is concerned
- STOP fixating on the ... (read in full...)
How does someone go about meeting other bi-curious people?
Q. I am a 40 something woman who is interested in exploring my bi-curiosity. I have had a couple drunken make outs with girlfriends when I was in my twenties but no other experiences to speak of. I am divorced and dating a man but my desire to have a ...
A. 17 August 2018: You need to decide what you want most: your boyfriend or to "explore your sexuality". In fairness, you cannot have both at the same time - unless you have discussed this with your boyfriend and he is ok with it.
There are so many dating sites th... (read in full...)
She likes slaps and I like kisses. We have a baby girl but I don’t see how this will work!
Q. More than a year ago, I started dating a girl who I was exactly smitten by but wanted to see how things would progress. I was introduced to her via a friend so I really wanted to see where things would go. During the first few weeks, we got on ...
A. 16 August 2018: If ever a marriage was destined for the divorce courts, this has to be it. I cannot imagine what on earth you were thinking trusting her to take care of contraception when she had already proven herself to be totally untrustworthy with everything ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex reaching out again?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I dated in school only for a month when he suddenly broke it off. I was really hurt because I have deep feelings for him and we talked about our future a lot even though it was short lived. He ended up apologizing for his ...
A. 16 August 2018: Two things hit me in your post.
Firstly, you were both KIDS when you dated for ONE MONTH. Yes, you MAY have talked about your future but, seriously, at that age and after only dating for 4 weeks, did you really think it would come to anything... (read in full...)
How do I not get too attached to the new guy I'm seeing?
Q. How do I not get too attached to the new guy I'm seeing? We like all the same things to a spooky degree and we have a lot of chemistry. The only thing is his ex might be pregnant and she won't go to the drs because she is religious. Which I don't ...
A. 15 August 2018: There is no religion I have ever heard of which says a woman should not to to the doctor's if she is pregnant. Most (possibly all) religions do say you should not lie or hurt others, so this woman's "excuse" for not going to get checked out by the ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have an orgasm this way?
Q. Hey Guys, I'm a virgin. I was wondering if it's normal to have an orgasm just by playing with my nipples... cuz i have a very quick orgasm within just 3 minutes of teasing the nips.I don't even have to stimulate the clit; the work get's done with ...
A. 15 August 2018: Where bodies are concerned, if it works for you, then it is "normal" for you.
A woman's most erogenous zone is usually her brain. If you have visit fantasies while you are masturbating and playing with your nipples, this will be enough (for you... (read in full...)
I’m sick to my stomach that he had a lap dance on a stag weekend!
Q. My boyfriend recently went on a stag do to Prague and whilst he was there he went to a strip club and the whole group paid for a lap dance off of 2 dancers. Before he left for Prague, I told him that it would really upset me if he got a lap dance ...
A. 14 August 2018: Sweetheart, get a grip. You have two children with this man. He hasn't gone out and cheated on you. He went on a stag do and, along with everyone else, had a lap dance.
Yes, it's disappointing, but it's not a deal breaker. What did you expect h... (read in full...)
Toxic sibling or am I too sensitive?
Q. Everyone has always told me that I'm too sensitive and what my brother does is normal sibling behavior. I can be oversensitive, but I'm really weary when my brother comes to visit. Its almost like he has 2 personalities, a nice one and a mean one. A ...
A. 13 August 2018: If this all happened "years ago", were you both still children at the time? If so, then I would agree that this sort of behaviour IS normal when we are talking about children. It is NOT normal if we are talking about adults.
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How do I get past this abusive false relationship and move on?
Q. I left an emotionally abusive relationship. I thought we were head over heels in love but it was just false. He lead me on and tried to use me financially and to help him with his kids. I fell for it for about 2 months. Tried to work things out but ...
A. 13 August 2018: First of all, a big "well done" for getting out so fast. Many people put up with being used and abused for years because abusers are usually quite clever in knowing which buttons to press to keep them locked into the relationship. If this man makes ... (read in full...)
I messed up with my crush, can this be repaired?
Q. I messed up with my crush. can this be repaired? He immediately left and positioned to my right (the coffee machine is on the left). There were two other people standing on the other side (higher managers) and he just stood there next to me not s...
A. 13 August 2018: You have already made the situation awkward and that is BEFORE you have any sort of relationship. Imagine how awkward things would be if you had a relationship and it went wrong.
Mixing work and relationships is seldom a good idea (and is, inde... (read in full...)
Could he be gay? Is he not attracted to me?
Q. I am now wondering whether my husband might be attracted to men and not women... My husband and I met online about a year and a half ago, we dated for about a year when he proposed. He was keen on getting married even just a month into dating, whi...
A. 13 August 2018: Nothing you have written suggests he is gay. especially as you write that he is the one who initiates physical (and I assume, sexual) contact.
Has he ALWAYS suffered with erection problems? If so, I would be pressing for a full medical screenin... (read in full...)
He says that showing him my sex organs is the sign of true love!
Q. i am in a long distance relationship for almost 5 months. now he is forcing me to show my sex organs. he says that this is the sign of true love. if i don't, that means i don't trust him. he even told me that from next year on, when i will stay in a ...
A. 12 August 2018: Oh sweetheart, you KNOW this is not right, otherwise you would not be writing and asking for advice.
NEVER do ANYTHING you do not WANT to do. NEVER let ANYONE blackmail you into doing something you do not WANT to do. NEVER let ANYONE order yo... (read in full...)
He said I am an extraordinary woman, but ended things because I live far away.
Q. Hello my dear Aunts! I hope you are doing well. I met a man online who is someone I would like to be with. We talked on the phone several times and texted constantly for about a month before we met in person. He lives about 4 hours away from ...
A. 12 August 2018: Sweetheart, I do understand that texting/speaking can give the illusion that you know a person but it really is just that, an illusion. ANYONE can keep up appearances via text or an occasional telephone call. It is only by actually spending TIME ... (read in full...)
He’s chubby and it turns me off!
Q. So I went for a date with this guy on Monday and it went gd, he's asked me to go to a wine tasting evening after he comes back from holiday with his parents in a fortnight. However, he’s cute (he’s half French and has the accent), has a h...
A. 12 August 2018: We fancy who we fancy. It is not about being shallow It is about that connection, that chemistry.
Dating is all about "trying before you buy". Well, you have tried and realized you don't want to buy as he is not what you want.
Given that he... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lied about her sexual past. How do I trust her?
Q. I have been dating this girl for four years now and have asked about past relationships with guys in the beginning of our relationship . She had told me that she slept with three guys, two boyfriends and a friend, when telling me about her ...
A. 12 August 2018: Your girlfriend DIDN'T make a fool of you. YOU are the one who made a fool of YOURSELF. Amazing that you didn't believe your girlfriend but believed every word an ex told you. Given young men's tendency to brag about sexual "conquests", how much of ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's son's father suddenly wants to stay for a few days
Q. I have had a serious relationship with my gf for over 3 years but we do not live together. She is has had two children by other fathers but has been very honest about her past. The eldest boy who is 20 was looked after his father for about 4 years ...
A. 11 August 2018: Sir, you are a mature man (in your 50s if your profile age is correct). You need to listen to your girlfriend and either trust her or let her go completely.
Your girlfriend's ex has just lost his mother. As often happens when we lose a loved on... (read in full...)
If he can’t make time for me, is there any point in this relationship?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man for 3 months now. He has a child from a previous relationship who is 1year old. He has the child most of the weekend and works all week, as do I. We have very little time to spend with one another and I don’t ...
A. 11 August 2018: There are only 24 hours in each day and 7 days in each week. If his hours and days are already very busy, due to work and childcare commitments, then no, he simply DOESN'T have time for a relationship. Add into this the fact he needs to be up early ... (read in full...)
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