What is it about women like this, who are seemingly very ordinary both in looks and nature, that still have their partners in rapt attention?
Q. I'm probably going to get a lot of flak for asking this question but I'll go ahead anyway. I've been married for 3 years to a wonderful man. He's kind, respectful of me, a great husband and a wonderful father to our daughter. She is our world and...
A. 1 October 2018: Isn't it funny that often it is not the things people say (or write) but the things they OMIT which draw your attention?
For instance, I find it striking that, despite your glowing report of your marriage, you never mention that you love your hus... (read in full...)
How do men act after a one night stand?
Q. Hi everyone I’m in a awful situation 5 weeks ago I had a one night stand it’s the first time I’ve done anything like this I’m so embarrassed the problem is I’ve got a partner who things aren’t great with he shows me no affection or spends any time ...
A. 30 September 2018: I think you have bigger problems than worrying about this man telling your partner about your one night stand. I doubt very much that he will tell him ANYTHING, even IF you bump into each other. I am assuming he got sex, which is probably all he was ... (read in full...)
Being with him makes me feel like the loneliest person in the world, should I just walk away?
Q. He never has time for me, not even during the weekends. It's not like I sit there begging for his attention all day, every day.. I have my chores, errands, hang out with my friends, etc. But I do also want to talk to him and spend time with him. Whe...
A. 30 September 2018: He makes time to see you once a month and you call that a relationship? Sister, wake up, open your eyes and acknowledge this relationship is long over.
I wouldn't mind betting this guy is MARRIED, let alone seeing someone else. He probably... (read in full...)
My daughter is in her terrible teens and is unhappy with the lifestyle that she has, even though I'm doing everything I can for her
Q. Hello. My daughter has recently started transitioning from the fun loving kid she was into a teenager who's seemingly starting to rebel, or at least doing the whole i need independence from mom gig. Shes glued to her phone, enjoys time with ...
A. 29 September 2018: First of all, take a DEEP breath and repeat after me, "This too will pass". Your daughter will not be a teenager for ever (I can hear you cheering!).
Yes, this phase IS difficult as hell, but YOU are the adult and YOU must take control and ride... (read in full...)
Is it okay to ask out a girl from my workplace just for the fact that I find her beautiful?
Q. Hello Agony Aunts and Uncles. I’ve recently broke up with a girlfriend (if you can call 1 year as recent). I’m not used to the whole dating game and being single thing but I’m thinking of asking out this girl. I’ve never dated anyone since my break ...
A. 29 September 2018: You know nothing about this pretty girl except that you find her attractive. You don't even know her name, so you obviously don't know if she is in a relationship, or even if she is straight or gay. You certainly don't know if she finds you ... (read in full...)
How do you cope with the loss of a potential relationship?
Q. I was dating a guy for a few weeks until this weekend. I wasn’t overly keen for the first month or so, but finally something clicked on the weekend and I finally let my guard down and invested. We had sex and he stayed the night. A few days lat...
A. 29 September 2018: Sorry to hear this one didn't work out. Sending hugs.
Dating is all about meeting (sometimes vast numbers of) people until you meet the right one for you, the one who fits the bill and who feels the same about you. People sometimes view failed r... (read in full...)
Should I take the hint? It seems our friendship is over.
Q. So I was friends with benefits with this guy for 4 years. I told him 8 months ago I can't do this no more. I told him either commit or let me go. He let me go. 8 months later he's speaking to me again. I met up at his place and he tried instigating ...
A. 27 September 2018: It seems he is only interested in being friends with you if "benefits" are included.
Well done for standing your ground, telling him it was all or nothing, and sticking to that. You are obviously a strong lady with enough self esteem to know wha... (read in full...)
Advise needed please, about sex and time.
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I see eachother every 3 months. Recently, when we saw eachother, we had sex on the first night. He lasted about 30 seconds. The next morning we had sex again and he lasted a long time, maybe 5 ...
A. 27 September 2018: Our bodies' responses can change due to many reasons. Age, health, emotional welfare, stress . . . and lots more.
Your boyfriend didn't last long the first time you had sex. That is normal if you have not had sex for a while and are excited ... (read in full...)
I have a new guy ... so why am I so jealous about my ex?
Q. Hey, Needing some advice. I had been in a long term relationship (6 years) with guy A we split up in March of 2017, because our relationship was no longer healthy we were endangering each other physically and mentally with drug abuse. I still ...
A. 27 September 2018: It's not unusual to feel as you do. Even though you don't actually want A, you don't want anyone else to have him either, especially someone you know and believe to be wrong for him. The best advice I can give you is "one day at a time". Tell ... (read in full...)
I lied to my b/f that I've never done anal and now I am afraid he'll know
Q. Hey guys, well i've been lying to my boyfriend honestly about having anal, i did it before so many times and now he insist about doing it and im afraid he will notice that im not tight, well is there any type of way that i can save this situation ? ...
A. 27 September 2018: Sweetheart, he can't "insist" on ANYTHING.
If YOU want to have anal sex, then that is fine. However, NEVER EVER let ANYONE do something to you sexually which you do not want or with which you do not feel comfortable.
Do you know what my gut... (read in full...)
Would women actually want a relationship with someone who already has a kid?
Q. Call myself c and my daughters mother m. I'll try to keep things short. Our relationship was great before the child came and we even got engaged. I'm not great with women or people in general and I struggle just to hold a conversation to get a tip ...
A. 26 September 2018: Sweetheart, I think you have got all your priorities a little twisted. Asking "How can u convince a woman that you're worth becoming a stepmom?" is just wrong. Your main priority is NOT to find a stepmom for your daughter. It is to find a partner ... (read in full...)
Husband hasn't kissed me for years and I now want to kiss other men!
Q. I have been with my husband 10 years, married for 3. We are still very happy in our relationship and everything apart from this one issue is normal. We still have sex as of normal too, in fact the past month or so it's been every day so I can't ...
A. 26 September 2018: How sad for you BOTH. He obviously feels incapable of doing this and you obviously feel you are missing out on something important to YOU.
Does he show affection in other ways? Would you enjoy a kiss on the forehead if he was capable of doing th... (read in full...)
Is he too immature? Should I give up?
Q. Hi everyone! I went on a couple dates with this guy, we met online. I'm a few years older than him, he just graduated from college. Both dates were really fun and great and ended with us kissing for a long time. He said he really liked me and wanted ...
A. 26 September 2018: To answer that question, I think you need to firstly decide what you are looking for.
Are you looking for casual fun dating, or are you hoping for a serious relationship? If the former, then this guy is probably ok in that you meet up occasion... (read in full...)
How do I learn to filter my comments?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm a 26 year old guy. Started a new job few months back and am in a good place right now. I'm meeting a lot of people with whom I need to co-ordinate to get my job done on a daily basis. The problem is however that I get too friendly...
A. 26 September 2018: I suspect you are actually quite insecure and trying too hard to "fit in" and be "one of the guys". However, you have been promoted so you are quite obviously impressing your supervisors/managers. Keep reminding yourself of that and try to relax ... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong for talking to his mate?
Q. In February I was talking to this guy and he was newly single at the time. I knew his ex but she wasn’t a friend I just knew of her. And because we live in such a small town we kept it a secret because everyone knows everyone so literally not one ...
A. 26 September 2018: Of course you haven't done anything wrong in talking to people. He does not own you OR his mates and it is not his call who any of you talk to.
I suspect he is terrified you will let something slip to his mate and his girlfriend will get to hear ... (read in full...)
Cheated on my boyfriend 2 weeks before getting pregnant help!!!
Q. I am 24 years old and found out I was pregnant about 3 weeks ago. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and thought things were fizzled out, I looked for company else where. I have never cheated on him before and can’t believe I did it this ...
A. 25 September 2018: You ask, "How long will this guilt take to ease off"? It will take as long as you ALLOW it to take. You already know and acknowledge you messed up, now forgive yourself and move on to thinking about more important things like your relationship and, ... (read in full...)
Cheated on my boyfriend 2 weeks before getting pregnant help!!!
Q. I am 24 years old and found out I was pregnant about 3 weeks ago. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and thought things were fizzled out, I looked for company else where. I have never cheated on him before and can’t believe I did it this ...
A. 24 September 2018: Wow! I think the aunts are all a bit grumpy today (which is rather unlike them, I promise).
Sweetheart, you made a mistake. We have ALL made mistakes in our lives. If there is no chance of your boyfriend finding out about your little bout of ... (read in full...)
I am at my wits end with laziness of my husband
Q. I am a full time worker and also a house wife of a man that is on disability due to mental state he can still do things but chooses not to do anything but sit on the computer all day consuming negative news . I work for Hospice and work long ...
A. 24 September 2018: Well, it sounds like you have tried everything that anyone can suggest and still not got the results you want/need.
I get that you and your kids love him but do you think he is a good role model for them? Perhaps for THEIR good, as WELL as your ... (read in full...)
Are my reasons to break up with long term girlfriend valid?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am in a 2.5-year relationship with a Southamerican girl (we are both 36; she is here on a temporary work/study permit). She is sweet and loves me, and I love her too, but I cannot stop thinking about breaking up with her...why? ...
A. 24 September 2018: This is not a question of "reasonable" or not. This is a question of whether you want to spend time going forward with this lady, the answer to which is obviously a resounding "NO".
You need to finish things quickly and cleanly (and kindly).... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so emotional about events happening around me?
Q. i sometimes feel pathetic with what i am going to say, a month ago my nephews best friend died in a tragic accident. I first saw his face in the newspaper before knowing he was my nephews best friend ( i didnt know every friend he had ) and i just ...
A. 24 September 2018: Don't feel pathetic. You feel emotional because you are a loving caring human being and this was a senseless waste of a young promising life which could (probably) have been prevented. You feel empathy for the family involved, who have lost a much ... (read in full...)
What are some tips for using an average sized penis to make her feel good?
Q. The saying is, it's not the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean. Well my penis is averaged size, but I've come to the conclusion that I don't know how to use it very well. Does anyone have any advice on how to "use" my penis to make her ...
A. 24 September 2018: Every woman is different. What one woman may find a fabulous turn-on and sexy, another may dislike completely.
You need to COMMUNICATE. One size does not fit all (no pun intended!).
Also remember it is not only your penis which you can us... (read in full...)
My wife is giving me the cold shoulder after I sent her touristy pics of women in Japan. How do I handle this?
Q. Hi, first timer here. I am on a business trip to Japan. I am taking some guided tours with colleagues in my spare time. It has been interesting to explore the different culture here. I've never been before. I have always been an avid photogr...
A. 24 September 2018: Come on, sir. You KNOW you have overstepped the line, sending your wife photos of massage parlour signs.
How about you suggest you take her there for a holiday sometime (if that's possible) so that she can see for herself what a lovely place it... (read in full...)
I am at my wits end with laziness of my husband
Q. I am a full time worker and also a house wife of a man that is on disability due to mental state he can still do things but chooses not to do anything but sit on the computer all day consuming negative news . I work for Hospice and work long ...
A. 24 September 2018: Oh sweetheart, you sound worn out. Sending hugs.
Has he always been lazy around the house, or has this started, or got worse, with the onset of his mental illness? I ask because, as you do not specify, I assume he may have depression or somethin... (read in full...)
I’ve been bullied by my brother-in-law for 17 years! What is the best revenge?
Q. I have a brother in law and for 17 years he has disliked me from the very moment he laid eyes on me. I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have ...
A. 24 September 2018: To the Op, amazing how you have gone from "The only auntie in this group that is close to understanding this truthfully is honeypie and wiseowl" to "I think you are a very judgy person unlike all the other agony aunts who are way understanding".
... (read in full...)
I’ve been bullied by my brother-in-law for 17 years! What is the best revenge?
Q. I have a brother in law and for 17 years he has disliked me from the very moment he laid eyes on me. I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have ...
A. 23 September 2018: Just seen your other update. So you lied about your age. Well, considering he has allegedly been acting this way for 17 years, I assume you are even older than your profile age. You really need to start acting your age.
He is what he is. That is ... (read in full...)
I’ve been bullied by my brother-in-law for 17 years! What is the best revenge?
Q. I have a brother in law and for 17 years he has disliked me from the very moment he laid eyes on me. I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have ...
A. 23 September 2018: Stop acting the victim. You are an adult (if your profile age is correct), not a helpless "girl" as you keep trying to make out.
Surely your best "revenge" is to be happy and learn to ignore what this controlling man does/says? You can't control ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I feel he's totally describing her when he volunteers his opinion on whats his type?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for five months now. When we first got togther he mentioned he knew one of my friends and almost dated her. Ill call her S. Then after hanging out with him and another friend of mine ill call P, im told he was ...
A. 23 September 2018: Firstly and most importantly, if this girl is a real friend, do NOT dump her over some bloke you have been dating for a few months, who makes you feel insecure. SHE has done NOTHING wrong. In fact, she cut all ties with your boyfriend because he ... (read in full...)
He threw out something important to me for no reason, WHY???
Q. I had been buying second hand toys and saving them for a friend of my husbands who had asked for help with a co-worker with a 5 yr old who had no money for toys. I collected two shopping bags of quality toys (Dora the Explorer talking doll hou...
A. 23 September 2018: You give no age for you or your husband, and you do not mention children, so is this possibly connected to this incident? Is there an issue about having children and your husband saw the toys as reminders of that?
Does he regard the garage a... (read in full...)
15 years later I am informed I might be father. How should I handle all of this?
Q. When I was 18 years old, I had sex with a girl, Dianne, that hung out with my group of friends. She was extremely nice and cute. About two months later, she went away to college which was not a big surprise because a lot of us were going to ...
A. 23 September 2018: An "extremely high chance" means that there is possibly someone else (or others?) in the running too, so you may yet turn out NOT to be the father of this teenage girl. I say this because you sound quite eager to "step up", which is commendable but ... (read in full...)
I'm shy and need help in talking to customers
Q. I start a new temporary job in a month , im working in the restaurant hoping for some retail experience too and I'm just wanting some advice on how to talk to the customers as im a shy person , like how to get better at knowing what to talk to about ...
A. 22 September 2018: When I eat out in a restaurant, I look for a waiter/waitress who is polite and who makes me feel welcome.
Greet customers with a smile. Perhaps tell them your name and say something like, "Hi. My name's xx. I will be your waitress tonight.... (read in full...)
Iv recently found out my wife has had sex with women
Q. Hi, found this site accidentally while googling my issue. Ive been with someone 28 years and married 25 years, been together since late teens, thought everything was ok but now I know isnt. Iv recently found out my wife has had sex on more that a ...
A. 22 September 2018: Whether she is having sex with men, women, or one man or one woman, it is still cheating. Her marriage vows included the promise "forsaking all others".
Have you grown apart due to your health issues? Is she seeking intimacy as much as sex? Do ... (read in full...)
Good date but no sparks. Should I ask for a second?
Q. Hi all, I went on a first date with a girl last night. We met on a dating website. I am unsure what to do next. She was a nice girl and I think the date went well. It was comfortable and conversation flowed. She said at the end that it felt lik...
A. 22 September 2018: Given your unsuccessful approach to relationships in the past (jumping into relationships which have obviously not worked out), perhaps it is time to take a more "measured" approach and get to know someone well as a person before deciding if there ... (read in full...)
Her husband abruptly didn’t want to move! Any advice on how I can advise her?
Q. A good friend of mine is very upset. She had accepted a promotion with her company to move to Florida. Her husband is a pilot for a major airline and also made arrangements to relocate to Florida. So my friend went through the process to buy a house ...
A. 22 September 2018: Just noticed you are male so have to add that males typically (although not always) feel they have to "fix" problems, whereas females often just need someone to listen and acknowledge their feelings and frustrations.
A word of caution: don't ge... (read in full...)
Her husband abruptly didn’t want to move! Any advice on how I can advise her?
Q. A good friend of mine is very upset. She had accepted a promotion with her company to move to Florida. Her husband is a pilot for a major airline and also made arrangements to relocate to Florida. So my friend went through the process to buy a house ...
A. 22 September 2018: Don't make the mistake of thinking you need to give advice to be supportive. As you (and we) don't know WHY her husband changed his mind, none of us are in a position to give any advice.
You are already being supportive. Let her talk. Agree th... (read in full...)
Why is this married female coworker playing games?
Q. Why would married female coworker who is friendly with everyone shower me with gifts just told me she cheated on her husband before out the blue seeks me out all day but today she invites me to smoke and then ignores me and wouldn't even sit next to ...
A. 22 September 2018: Can't disagree with any of the advice given already.
She is pulling your strings to make you dance to her tune - which you are obediently doing.
Perhaps you should ask her husband how you should handle her and whether accepting gifts ... (read in full...)
I’ve been bullied by my brother-in-law for 17 years! What is the best revenge?
Q. I have a brother in law and for 17 years he has disliked me from the very moment he laid eyes on me. I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have ...
A. 22 September 2018: When I read this:
"I am a very likeable and confident, and id like to say hot girl lol i am hilarious and fun love to tell stories and make people laugh i dont have any enemies", my first thought was that you come across as someone who thinks t... (read in full...)
Does him not being able to stay hard with me prove he isn’t attracted to me physically?
Q. I just started seeing this new guy and everything is great. We are able to talk and laugh with each other and just have a good time. He calls me beautiful and sexy and says he likes the way I look. But last night we just tried to have sex for the ...
A. 21 September 2018: I very much doubt that lack of physical attraction is the cause of his issue.
As he is capable of having erections, it is far more likely to be nerves at being with someone new that are causing the problem.
If you like this guy (and I assum... (read in full...)
I need to talk about what I am feeling but cant burden my family or people at work
Q. Hi, I have a dilemma and I’m starting to feel desperate I’m afraid this may be very long winded :/ but if I don’t tell someone out there how I’m feeling I will implode. First of all I should say that I have been suffering from ptsd for the last yea...
A. 20 September 2018: If we want to do something, we will find the time. If we don't, then we will find numerous excuses.
You NEED to see a professional about your feelings before they get out of hand. You NEED to tell someone you have thoughts about ending things b... (read in full...)
I lost my job living at home and really struggling
Q. Hey guys, I really don’t know what to do here. I’m 28, have been in successful career, slowly building up money for house, still living with parents. Recently I lost my job and it has been a month since I have worked. I am living with parents ...
A. 20 September 2018: Losing your job can knock the stuffing out of the strongest of people, so don't be too hard on yourself for struggling to cope. Remember, this too will pass.
Like Honeypie, I too would strongly recommend either temping or, if that is not possible... (read in full...)
My wife wants to use a sperm donor to ensure that our third child isn't autistic but I’m not sure how I feel about this.
Q. My wife (34f) and I (36m) have been married for just over six years and in many ways have an ideal marriage and are very much still in love. Despite two kids, we still have sex 2 - 3 times per week. We still find time for getaways nearby beaches, ...
A. 19 September 2018: The person of most importance in this potential scenario is the child you are going to produce and rear. If you cannot open your heart to a child fathered by another man (there is no grey area here - you either can or you can't; everyone is ... (read in full...)
My fiance is a virgin but I've slept with 6 people and had an abortion. Do I need to tell him all this?
Q. Hi, I am engaged to a wonderful guy from the last 5 months, we are going to get married this December 2018,I came to know by investigation and inspection and his views and thoughts and actions, that he is a virgin and he is against premarital sex ...
A. 19 September 2018: My first thought was "NO! Don't tell him." But the problem with secrets is that they have a way of coming back to haunt us when we least expect it.
There is always the possibility, if you have to have medical treatment in the future, you will nee... (read in full...)
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