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I have four children. I'm a single parent, of two children a boy (19) and a girl (10). My ex-wife has the two children we share living with her, 2 girls (16, and 14).
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6 July 2008: This is an article I received from local news. When reading this I think about how important it is to know who you know, and to notice changes in the behaviors of others. In cases like this, the agressor displays subtle signs prior to acting. He may ...
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My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 27 March 2009: Best of Luck to you. Take care. ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 July 2008: Hasn't your solicitor heard of a continuance. You have the right to be hard in all matters of law.
After these decisions are made, do you have a higher court to appeal the ruling of a lower court? I don't believe your solicitor did a job the best... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 1 July 2008: Sounds like you're doing better, as a manner of speaking. Your right it doesn't look good to the judge to drag out court.
Just a bit of warning. Seeing someone prior to the end of the divorce can be used in court as well. Legal marriage, is lega... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 June 2008: That's what you need to concentrate on. As far as his taking the solicitor out to lunch and such. Violation of ethics. People here get their licenses taken away or suspended for those behaviors.
Keep a calendar of all issues. Everytime he cance... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 27 May 2008: If you can establish proof of his dating his solicitor, that should establish a conflict of interest, which would pull her off the case, and may cause issues with her ability to continue law.
I woulnd't accept less than what you feel you dese... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 15 May 2008: If he seeks an injunction, a hearing should be set to answer to it. If his calls were done by home phone, have your phone company pull a copy of those records which show his phone calls to you. If they are done by cell phone, your bill should ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 26 April 2008: I know this is hard for you to deal with. Working with people who have been through divorce and seeing the after affects, it's heart breaking. I can't figure out your question either of how someone can act or live as if they love and care for ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 19 April 2008: The first piece of advice anyone one law gives is to not speak to the other person. Speak through your legal professionals. Reason being, "anything you say can be used against you in court." Couples who split up can get into some heated arguments. ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 March 2008: I'm glad everything is working out for you. I can see where your solicitor is coming from. I'm in law as well and hoping to begin in family law. My two big pet peeves in family law are adultry and any lack of responsability on the best interest of ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 22 February 2008: First of all, make sure you file your response within the time the court has allowed, it's generall (at least here) 30 days from the date you receive the paperwork. Remember too, the response, if you do it prior to meeting with the solicitor, i... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 February 2008: Great, have your son contact me on here, I'll let him know you give your permission to toss your phone in the river.
Let me ask you this. If you didn't have your phone, would that stop you, or would you find another way?
Do you believe life... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 13 November 2007: Your doing what's right. I hope your strength keeps building. I know it's hard sometimes around the holidays to be alone. Before I got custody of my children. I would eat Christmas dinner alone at a diner. But other than that, being alone was OK. I ... (read in full...)
He gets violent if I ask him not to be in contact with his ex.
Q. my boyfriend of 9 months and the man who i live with accepts the fact i have a son from a previous relationship and doesnt get mad when my sons imprisoned father sends letters but it infuriates me when his ex that lives 10minutes away calls him and ...
A. 27 September 2007: That's good news. Just remember, if his actions pick up again, get out of there. You are too important of a person to let someone devalue that importance. ... (read in full...)
I feel like a babysitter instead of a partner - now I'm crushing on someone from my past! What do I do?
Q. Im really confused. i have a boyfriend who i have been with for three years, we have three children, 1 which is mine and two that are his, we have none together. the mother of his two sees their children one a week for a couple of hours. all of...
A. 22 September 2007: I'm not going to assist much with this. There are children involved and I don't know you well enough to affect their lives. I will tell you this though. I have two children who live with me and two who do not. The two who do not, my wife and I ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can be so immature. How can I make it work?
Q. I've been dating a guy for 3 years. We've had our usual ups and downs, breaksups and reunions, etc but I really need some advice. Now before I say anything I should say that my boyfriend can be REALLY immature, insecure and needy. Despite all of ...
A. 21 September 2007: First, you can't do anything to really save this relationship (I didn't say dump him.) Look at what's going on here. The reason you can't save it is it's not your issue. It sounds as if it's his behavior that's keeping you going nuts. Now it does ... (read in full...)
How would any of you feel if your spouse never talked to you? Is it wrong for me to want out?
Q. How would any of you feel if your spouse never talked to you? Been married a number of years to a man who never opens up. He's kind to me, he provides for me, but I never feel close to him and it's getting harder to have sex with him because we ...
A. 20 September 2007: He's an introvert. It's a personality type where these behaviors come out. Marriage counseling deals with things that are a product of the marriage. All though his behavior is affecting the marriage, it's more a product of himself. He would need to ... (read in full...)
My online guy doesn't seem interested. Has he found somebody else??
Q. Hi dear aunts (and uncles)! I have a new question for you. I´ve become a member of one of those dating sites, specific for people that are looking for brazilian partners. I´ve done some research and add up a couple of guys and start chatting...
A. 20 September 2007: Yes you should be straight forward. You need to know what's going on, and he needs to be honest and not keep you hanging. That's not fair to you, and it's not right for him.... (read in full...)
I bumped into my ex today and we just stared at each other. I would like to get back with him.
Q. Theres this 1 guy I have known for like 10 years. We did go out at one point for about 2 years. Ever since we have been bestmates, and everyone agreed we were the perfect couple. But we fell out months ago and I REALY miss him. I see him at ...
A. 20 September 2007: You're too young for all this. Let me ask you this, are the bad things he says to you, with out without his friends around. At your age, the social age, boys don't want to be made fun of for liking a girl, or making up with a girl, you know all that ... (read in full...)
I am so confused as the whether I want a commitment and children or I just want to have fun
Q. I am a 26-year old female who has been with her boyfriend for nearly 3 years.We met through work and he is 11 years older than me. Although I love him very much I don't know whether he is the 'one'. We don't have a connection or 'spark' that people ...
A. 20 September 2007: If you're confused about yourself, and what you want to do, the last thing you need right now is a baby to invite to join you in your turmoil.
Does the right one truly exist. You want to settle down, but you might want to play. I'll tell you, play... (read in full...)
I cant seem to stop picking fights with my guy and its driving him away!
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have been going out for about 10 months.. We were 3 1/2 hours away from each other this summer, and would see each other a couple times a month. Everything was wonderful and our relationship was the best it's ever been. We ...
A. 20 September 2007: He is worried. Who wants to be with a time bomb.
It sounds as if there is some imbalance that has taken place upstairs. I would go to a counselor and see if you can get that worked out. You're crying a lot and picking the fights, feeling guilty a... (read in full...)
We've been kind of casual and I think I want more
Q. I met a guy a few years back, because we worked together. As we got to know each other we stared hangong out, doing couple things like going to the beach together... I met his family and all his friends. But as the summer came to the end and I went ...
A. 20 September 2007: So is it that he can't be tames or are you the lioness ready to pounce on your prey?
First, you may have had sex, made out etc. etc. etc., but you're friends. As far as I know, friends don't have to throw themselves at each other to keep a friend... (read in full...)
I have huge self esteem issues
Q. Well I'm 18 years old... I have HUGE self esteem issues, but I date some of the prettiest girls.. The problem is, keeping them. My self esteem kicks in fast while in a relationship, like I doubt that I'm good ebough for this person, or if I'm p...
A. 20 September 2007: You don't have to be bad looking to have a low self esteem. Getting compliments really doesn't make much difference either. This is dealing with (SELF) It's internal. Compliments and looks don't help, those are external influences.
I want you to l... (read in full...)
I've left him for the fifth time, but he doesn't seem upset! Is he b/c he's used to it? This is bothering me!
Q. I've recently (2 weeks ago) left my husband for the 5th time due to his drinking habits. The other times I have left him he has always cried and begged to have me back. This time he acts as if it doesn't bother him. Could this be because he's ...
A. 20 September 2007: You're not being selfish, well maybe in a way. You left the first and then the second and the third and the fourth time. I think by the fifth time of leaving you would really begin loosing your credibility regarding your intentions. It's repetitive ... (read in full...)
He's too controlling, but I don't know what to do!
Q. Hi everyone. I really need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for a year, but the past 7 or 8 months he hasnt trusted me 1 bit. I cant even go into town shopping with a friend without him texting asking who im with, what im doing, and ...
A. 20 September 2007: I suggest you redefine the boundaries in your relationship. You define how you are to be treated. What right does he have to tell you what to wear. Boyfriends do not have the right to tell you what to do, say, think, wear, etc. That's up to you.
... (read in full...)
I want out of this relationship! How can I make him understand it's over and keep it civil until I can get out?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend since I was 16, it's been 4 years now. We've never had a serious break up until last summer, and it lasted for 6 months. Ever since we've been back together things have not been the same. I have no desire to work for a ...
A. 20 September 2007: I'm sorry to hear how vindictive he was when you left, but I am very excited you are able to start living.
Now there is a key to finding true love and happiness in relationships, and that key starts with you. Take some time, regroup, find happ... (read in full...)
Should I feel bad about letting other woman know what a jerk my ex it?
Q. Do you think it is a good idea to warn other women about men who prey on other women? I posted my ex on womansavers and dontdatehimgirl and I found other women who looked him up and posted comments about him on there too. I was shocked to see how ...
A. 20 September 2007: Why would you feel bad about that? These sites would not exist if women didn't need to be warned about guys that cause pain.
I wouldn't do it in public and go to women you see eying him, for your own safety. I think women should be warned w... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 20 September 2007: I am soooo glad to hear you are moving on with your life. It's better for you and your son. You don't want him growing up imitating his dad's behavior. You are a wonderful person and someone who really loves their child and plans to put him first. I ... (read in full...)
Now he claims that he never loved me and the only thing that made him feel that he was in love was the sex. How do I get over it?
Q. I have the worse problem. It was this guy that I was seeing, as well as sexually. We were always together, it's like we went togrther,but there was no title on it. I let myself fall in love with him after only 4 months. Now he claims that he never ...
A. 20 September 2007: First come to a realization. HE IS FULL OF IT. I'll tell you why, Sex=Sex Love=soooooo much more with sex being used as an expression of that love. He's feeding you a line. If all he wanted was the sex, the sex, in its self, would not make him feel ... (read in full...)
Is having phone sex normal? Maybe I should look for a better intimate and more meaningful relationship with somebody who lives closer?
Q. ok so me and my bf are in a long distance relationship and i dont know if its normal to have phone sex? im not too much of a sexually experianced girl i have only had 2 sexual partners in the past...and im 18 but now i am having an urge to have a ...
A. 20 September 2007: To many people phone sex is normal, don't you see the late night tv advertisements. somebody has to pay for that. I can understand where you're coming from, intimacy is contact with someone and not over the phone with yourself. Most people have a d... (read in full...)
Our sex life has dwindled to 4 times over the past year :-(
Q. Hello Everyone, I am a 23year old male, recently engaged after dating my gf for 6 years. I would describe our relationship as almost perfect. I love her very much and i know that she loves me too... For the first 2 years we had sex every w...
A. 20 September 2007: You have to schedule time for yourselves. Granted you both work full time, but you're not wanting to marry your job. I recently counseled a couple who had the same difficulty you have. Work and 6 years without a day without at least one child ... (read in full...)
Our friend is being quite snappy w/ me and will not talk about it! Does he have feelings for me?
Q. I have been close with a man of 42 (i'm 27) for some time now and he has recently became good friends with my husband. We all go out drinking together and my husband's friend and i have remained really close friends. My husband is aware of this ...
A. 20 September 2007: First, you need to set your boundaries with this friend. Being married is hard enough without added tension. If you husbands tension increases, it could affect your marriage as a whole. I can't say if he has feelings past friendship. What... (read in full...)
She's not in love with me, but she still keeps calling me
Q. Has anyone fallen back in love with the person they fell out of love with ? My girlfriend of 3 years told me she loves me but is not in love with me so she broke up with me. When she did she said that with all of her exes she knew it was over but ...
A. 20 September 2007: Some people feel confused, tired of an old routine that just seems to stay steadily boring. It is possible that her feelings reignited after changing her situation and surroundings. ... (read in full...)
This girl I like is pregnant with someone else's baby. I don't know if she wants me around just for the baby's sake!
Q. I met this gal at work. she asked 4 my number n i gave her it.. I gotta admit she is real nice n prob auta my my leauge.. but we met up a few times n it went real good......I moved away n now ive moved back n i bumped into her in town n she said she ...
A. 20 September 2007: I would talk to her. Have a good conversation. Express your concerns. Your fears are a normal reaction, but has this girl given you any reason to doubt her intention, or is it because of your own fear of what this could lead into. ... (read in full...)
My friend stopped replying to my text messages. What should I do?
Q. i have an odd relationship with a friend who is a boy. we've known each other for about 5yrs and we both like each other alot (and know we both do) but yet we aren't dating! we always seem to be texting each other but last week he suddenly stopped ...
A. 20 September 2007: I wouldn't give up on him yet. The other answer is right, there could be a number of things that could have happened. A five year friendship is a long time, you'd more than likely know if you had done something wrong.... (read in full...)
I want to tell my ex how I feel before it's too late. Should I do this?
Q. I've got to say this or I'm gonna burst, I split with my ex boyfriend over a year and a half ago and I don't think I have truly ever gotten over him. After we split I started seeing someone else and have been happy with him ever since, although I ...
A. 20 September 2007: If you are truly happy, why ruin a good thing. I read this poem today that may help you:
Never leave the one you love for one you like,
because the one you like will leave you for the one they love.
Love doesn't have a happy ending,
beca... (read in full...)
I am going on a date with a guy who I think is either gay or bi!
Q. I am going on a date with a guy this weekend but I think he might be closeted gay or bi. He doesn't dress sterotypically gay, or have gay mannerisms. However, he has made out with other guys before, in the context of truth or dare, but he seems ...
A. 20 September 2007: i don't know if he would be gay or bi. girls kiss other girls, without considering themselves other than straight. All I can say is I am a straight male, I know myself, and am in touch with who I am, but it would be a cold day in hell before you'd ... (read in full...)
He says he still loves me, but he is with someone new, and he is giving her everything I wanted from him!
Q. I met this guy at work and immediatly liked him...a friend said he was divorced but turned out that he was just leaving a 6 years marriage (total of 10 years together). We went in a date less than a week after he "officially" left his house. I never ...
A. 20 September 2007: Sure, you sound like a beautiful caring woman that was at the wrong place at the wrong time. You got involved with someone in the middle of a divorce. Some divorces are a very trying experience on the parties going through it. Their hard, ... (read in full...)
He's too controlling, but I don't know what to do!
Q. Hi everyone. I really need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for a year, but the past 7 or 8 months he hasnt trusted me 1 bit. I cant even go into town shopping with a friend without him texting asking who im with, what im doing, and ...
A. 20 September 2007: So what you're saying is his behavior may be due to the fear of repeated behavior you had with you ex. You are right that 2 wrongs don't make a right. And when it's cheating, it takes away the trust from both people so there's no leverage to grab a ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me anymore. How can I respond properly to his comments about me?
Q. Sorry for this silly question, but trying to decide how to respond to my future x, he informs me after 5 years of being together, that he can't totally commit to me because he needs a different body type to keep him turned on, and I lack certain p...
A. 19 September 2007: You sound like a catch and she should be grateful to have you. Let me ask you this. When someone doesn't make sense of their reasonings, what are they doing? There making excuses. His reasons have absolutely nothing to do with you, it has to do with ... (read in full...)
My young friends mum has been having an affair and my friend doesn't know what to do?
Q. Hi, I'm writing on behalf of one of my best friends. We live in the Arabian gulf and her parents got divorced. She lives with her mother who has in the last 3 months told her that she has been having an affair with a married man for over 7 years and ...
A. 19 September 2007: I don't know. Our country has laws against people being married to more than one person at a time. I think what this triangle of adults are doing is wrong. It's not right for your friend to have to live under those conditions. It's sad when children ... (read in full...)
I'm married. I've fallen in love with someone far away, but I don't know if I should up and go to her?
Q. I have been married for 4 years (started dating since '98). Things were good (not the greatest) with her from the beginning. Let's start from the beginning... I was previously engaged to a wonderful person, but she died of lukemia. Ever s...
A. 19 September 2007: First let me clear something up. The girl you were engaged to passed away, I can see where you took yourself out for a year. That must be a difficult transition, and takes a tole on you as a person.
For your own good, trust me with this, always trea... (read in full...)
He gets violent if I ask him not to be in contact with his ex.
Q. my boyfriend of 9 months and the man who i live with accepts the fact i have a son from a previous relationship and doesnt get mad when my sons imprisoned father sends letters but it infuriates me when his ex that lives 10minutes away calls him and ...
A. 19 September 2007: You can make yourself feel better by leaving. If he's getting violent, those behaviors you don't want to be around or your son. If he respected you and the relationship you share, he'd tell the ex goodbye. ... (read in full...)
My self esteem is so low and I really can't afford the counslor that I've booked. Any help please?
Q. I think i'm cracking up. I've always felt like i dont fit in any where, my self esteem has taken a battering over the years. I was bullied in the past at work and school and pretty much dont know where my life is going. I broke up with another ...
A. 19 September 2007: First, forget about being old enough to know better. I know people of all ages who have low self esteems and people who were strong, but it only takes one person to start preying on their strong sense of self to begin weakening it.
It's hard deal... (read in full...)
We made out on our date, but now he just treats me as a friend! I want to know what's up with us!
Q. theres this guy that ive liked for ages, and we finaly went on a date, during this we made out it was so amazing, but since the date he just treats me as a friend and we don't even talk about wot we did. and now we r both back at college, we hardly ...
A. 19 September 2007: We always talk about getting over someone, what exactly is that. That's almost like saying, I will keep the good memories, and give back the bad. It doesn't happen like that. You can't get over him because you have unanswered questions. You have ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps me a secret - I think he's ashamed of me!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 7 months, he still wants us to remain secret while he tells his parents about taking his ex out..when i told him i don't like him telling about his ex and keeping us secret, he told me that, loads of things ...
A. 19 September 2007: Let me ask you this question. How does your pain have anything to do with him. It's the way you feel (which generally we have reasons to feel that way). When you say you're hurting, he's really stuck on himself to think it just may not have to do ... (read in full...)
How can I tell her that just b/c I like guys now, I'm still the same person?
Q. One of my friends thinks I'm changing, but everyone else thinks I'm the same. She thinks I'm changing cause I'm more into guys now. But, you see, everyone is changing cause everyone is now having sex at this age! Like a lot of my friends already ...
A. 19 September 2007: Did you ever think her thinking you're changing is not that bad. She could be afraid for you??? What is stupid is doing what everyone else has done. Just because everyone else is having sex, doesn't obligate you to do the same. Here in the US, ther... (read in full...)
There's too much drama in my school!
Q. My whole school is filled with drama and i hate it soo many rumors soo much of everything high school is deffinatley a hand full i'm in grade 9 and the start to this year it all has been hate, everyone hated someone and there was just a fight today ...
A. 19 September 2007: What can you do. People will be people and teens will be teens. I'll give you the same advise I give to my daughters, one of which is queen of the drama queens. Develop your sense of self. Who you are, your integrity (honesty), your boundari... (read in full...)
Neither man expects an exclusive relationship w/ me, but I feel filthy and disgusting by dating them both at the same time!
Q. Bit of a mess... I've been seeing a guy as a very casual relationship, it was agreed it wasn't to be serious, and that we weren't limited to just seeing each other, but it kind of didn't end up that way for me because I've never been the type to ...
A. 19 September 2007: You'll have to stop seeing one of them. Did you ever think that the reason you feel filthy and dirty is because you have crossed over, or violated your own moral beliefs, and your integrity. You can't see yourself playing the field because it's not ... (read in full...)
My ex is dating my friend. Don't want to lose her as a friend, but this makes me jealous. What should I do?
Q. I started dating my ex a while back, i introduced him to my best friend, and when we broke up i thought he would not talk to her, but they are still talking, they even going on double dates.. i dont kno what to do cuz i stil have deep feelings for ...
A. 19 September 2007: Talk to your friend. Accept what's going on. Dump your friends to escape. Who knows. This is a difficult area. We don't know you, or the total situation, but what I can offer for advise is: THIS IS WHY FRIENDS DON'T DATE FRIENDS EX'S
As a gene... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to be w/ me because his friend - someone I went on 4 dates with - is refusing to talk w/ him!
Q. I am so unhappy. I am 26. I was seeing a guy (Mr A) (24) and we only met up on 4 occasions, we weren't really well suited so it didn't work out and kind of fizzled out. Before this happened tho I met his friend (Mr B)(25) and there was an instant ...
A. 19 September 2007: Dang and they say girls have drama. Mr. A is not a good friend to Mr. B because he let go of what you didn't have in the first place and allow his friend to be happy. He sounds like a big baby that needs to grow up for not talking to a friend a... (read in full...)
Whats the best way to get a second chance?
Q. What's the best way to get a second chance with an ex? My live-in boyfriend broke up with me 3 1/2 mnths ago. He said he couldn't do it that he wasn't ready, but that he still thought we'd end up together one day. At first we stayed in touch, but ...
A. 19 September 2007: There is no single answer to your problem. I do feel for you, it's difficult being in the position you are in. I know I had been there in the past, and know many other people who have as well. First of all, NO ALCOHOL, that raises tension. That's a... (read in full...)
How do I get over cold feet
Q. dear aunt,before i go on to say my problem i must commrnd the good work u are doing on this site.do keep it up.my question is tha i usally develop a cold feet approaching a lady cos i feel i might be rejected.summarilly i dont know how to approach a ...
A. 19 September 2007: Do some studying. Don't use lame approaches. I find it easier if you approach with an interest. Not saying I pick up on everyone I talk too. I just enjoy meeting new people. Such as, you're at an ice skating rank. You see a pretty girl standing ... (read in full...)
Do birth conrol pills make your breasts bigger or make you gain weight?
Q. Hey, i dont know if this is true but i've heard a lot of people say the birth control pill makes your breasts bigger? As i also heard they make you sometimes put on weight. ...
A. 19 September 2007: If it does and you have side affects to them, I'd ask a doctor about your options in switching to a different brand. It sounds like a rare but possible side affect. I wouldn't worry too much, but it may toss your monthly cycle around a bit.... (read in full...)
I love her, but can't trust her...
Q. I'm totally stuck in my relationship. I love my girlfriend so much and she loves me but I can't trust her at all. Things are ok now, but last August/September we went out on three nights out and on each of them we came back seperatly. The first ...
A. 19 September 2007: It may have been over a year ago, but time doesn't eliminate pain. I have a friend who was raped almost 20 years ago, and two years ago was diagnosed with "Post traumatic Stress Disorder" related to her rape.
She gave you reason to not trust her.... (read in full...)
I feel like a babysitter instead of a partner - now I'm crushing on someone from my past! What do I do?
Q. Im really confused. i have a boyfriend who i have been with for three years, we have three children, 1 which is mine and two that are his, we have none together. the mother of his two sees their children one a week for a couple of hours. all of...
A. 19 September 2007: Talk to your boyfriend. Nobody can tell you which way to take your heart. If you're willing to have your child grow up in a broken home for a relationship than go with it. You need to think about what you have now, compared to what you could have. ... (read in full...)
I want out of this relationship! How can I make him understand it's over and keep it civil until I can get out?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend since I was 16, it's been 4 years now. We've never had a serious break up until last summer, and it lasted for 6 months. Ever since we've been back together things have not been the same. I have no desire to work for a ...
A. 19 September 2007: Relationships sure are hard. First lets look at your obligation to him. THERE IS NONE. People have relationships because they make a choice to spend time with the other person, not to become obligated to someone else. You're obligated to yourself, ... (read in full...)
He's too controlling, but I don't know what to do!
Q. Hi everyone. I really need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for a year, but the past 7 or 8 months he hasnt trusted me 1 bit. I cant even go into town shopping with a friend without him texting asking who im with, what im doing, and ...
A. 19 September 2007: Don't consider suicide. You have to remember doing that is a permanent solution to a temporary situation.
You have reasons to stay, but none that I would accept as an excuse to. Does he love you, sounds like NO. I don't like saying that and burs... (read in full...)
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