He has a bad reputation but I like him, what can I do so that he feels the same?
Q. okay well i'm fourteen and i really like a guy named Andrew but he has a rep. he has gone out with alot of girls, including my bestfriend. but i still lik him lots. i dont know why. and he said he liked me, but then he changed his mind. right before ...
A. 11 August 2008: Awesome!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He didn't believe me when I told him "no". How can I trust him again?
Q. I split up with my ex about 3 months ago but he wont 'give up on me' he insists that it would still work and that i should give him another chance. he is nice enough and i kind of believe him when he tells me he loves me. but i cant trust him. i t...
A. 6 August 2008: He asked why you hated him because he's still trying to manipulate you into replying and pitying him. It's another trick.
I agree with the person below that you need to tell someone that he won't leave you alone. Now he knows you are getting ... (read in full...)
I trust her but I can't help but worry what could happens when she ges away to college. Any advice for me?
Q. I am worried about my gf going to college. We have been dating for a little over a year and she and i both want to make it work while she is gone. She keeps reassuring me everything is going to be fine and has never lied or cheated, or given me a ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well there is nothing you can do to stop worrying but you can keep it to yourself. If you go on and on about it then she's going to get pushed away.
If you push her away and make her feel awful all the time then she's going to resent you, and that... (read in full...)
What is the correct way to do facial massage and how long should you do it?
Q. Could you please tell me the correct way to do a facial massage and how long for? I have one of those heat massage blankets which only heat across my back and legs. I started doing a facial massage tonight but, said I will leave it till monday night ...
A. 30 July 2008: http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-give-yourself-an-energizing-facial-massage
That's the best I could come up with.
Put facial massage into google and that should help you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
It bothers me that our time together is so limited, what can I do to show him this?
Q. he says he loves me and i believe he does but we hardly spend time together doing the relationship thing. he lives in another state but works in my hometown. when he is here is tired and when he goes back home we hardly talk. i know he is busy and ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well he can't magic more hours out of the week.
Why don't you suggest he moves up here so he's not travelling all the time, or ask if he wants to stay with you during the week?
That way he can spend time with you and also get some sleep for o... (read in full...)
He has a bad reputation but I like him, what can I do so that he feels the same?
Q. okay well i'm fourteen and i really like a guy named Andrew but he has a rep. he has gone out with alot of girls, including my bestfriend. but i still lik him lots. i dont know why. and he said he liked me, but then he changed his mind. right before ...
A. 30 July 2008: Of course he seems perfect, he knows how to play girls and get what he wants from them.
You are going to get used by this guy but it seems he wants to use you at his convenience. You'll just have to wait till he has a time slot free and then you... (read in full...)
I feel as if I am the only one trying to make our marriage work, after 22 years together. I also suspect she is cheating.
Q. My wife and I have been drifting apart after 22 years of marriage. We don't spend much time together as our jobs are in different shifts. She works from 9AM to 3PM and I work from 3PM to 10PM. She never initiate love making with me and I am the one ...
A. 30 July 2008: There is obviously something going on here as she is not happy. It may not be an affair but it's something.
The fact that you are asking in advance and booking a quickie with her just shows how routine your sex life has become.
I really thin... (read in full...)
He's back to calling his female friend again and he hiding his phone! What should I do?
Q. My bf and I have been together 3 years, i am 22 he is 26, when we first meet he had a younger female friend from the state he lived at before we meet, he says she is just like a little sister to him, but the problem was that he would spend all day ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well it's fairly obvious that you were his second choice when he started going out with you but you won him for a good couple of years.
Now you can either fight for him again and tell him he has to pick her or you once and for all.
Or you ... (read in full...)
Will he think my love poem is creepy, or cute? Should I show it to him?
Q. I wrote this tonight. It's about a guy that I really like. I am fourteen and he's seventeen. When we met we clicked right away, I am falling for him, and I know that he is too, but he thinks the age difference is a big concern. Should I show ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well it depends how long you have been going out. If it's been a week then yes it may seem creepy, if it's been a few months then perhaps not.
Why don't you save it for his birthday or anniversary and then you could write it up neat, or print it... (read in full...)
He'd rather spend time with his books than in bed with me!!
Q. So I have a shower, smell delightful, my hair in a nice messy sort of way and jump into bed with my bf on his side of the bed with no pjs on and put my hand down his side. I thought that was nice. It wasn't. He wanted to read. Seems to be the story ...
A. 30 July 2008: You need to talk to him about it, there needs to be some compromise.
Tell him you want to spend more time together away from his books, but not having sex. Get the spark back by talking and cuddling and going for walks.
That might increase h... (read in full...)
I can't break it off with this MM myself should I call his wife instead to break the tie?
Q. I have been seeing a married coworker since March of 2008. We've been together just about every day since. He is so unhappy at home but he won't leave his wife. He is 52 and I'm 26. I'm considering calling his wife so that all ties will be broken ...
A. 30 July 2008: He has his wife at home and a lovely house and meals put on the table, and then you as a sexy sideline.
Do you honestly think he's going to thank you for taking away one of those from him? He's going to be angry with you and use it as an excuse t... (read in full...)
He doesn't quite treat me as this new fella does, what should I do?
Q. so i met this guy...he is amazing.he treats me like a princess...and i am seriously falling for him.but there is a problem:i am currently in a relationship.and have been for three years now.my boyfriend is great.good christian guy,understands ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well remember that the grass is always greener on the other side. I bet you thought you boyfriend treated you like a princess when you started going out too.
After 3 years many of the initial feelings of love start to fade, it's at this point th... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I have lost the desire to do things with him?
Q. it has been a few years since me and my boyfriend got together...things havent been going all to well here lately. and when i try to talk to him, all he wants to do is touch me, and so on. how do i tell him i have lost the desire to do things with ...
A. 30 July 2008: That must get pretty annoying when you are trying to have a conversation with him and he starts touching you up. I think a well timed "Do you see me as ANYTHING more than a sex doll?" might actually make him listen to you for once.
Tell him you ... (read in full...)
What else I can do to please him besides blowjobs?
Q. i have a boyfriend but i dont really know how to please him. all i ever do is give him blowjobs. he doesn't complain but i know he feels something about the situation. i want to know what else i can do to please him besides blowjobs. ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well firstly why not just ask him what he wants from you?
As for suggestions on how to please him.... have you tried stimulating anywhere other than his crotch?
What I mean is, although going out with a faceless sex object who always ha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend (28) says he does not have a sex drive and does not think about sex anymore?!!!
Q. I'm a 36yr old woman and have been with my 28yr old man for 2yrs. I can count on 1 hand how many times we have had sex. I dont understand I've done all I can to get us there but nothing seems to work. So I just keep asking him why wont you make love...
A. 30 July 2008: It could be that he has a problem with sex, or some deep issue that he's scared to tell you about.
It could be that he genuinely has a low sex drive.
I would sit him down and tell him you can't go on in a relationship without sex. Tell him th... (read in full...)
How can I get over this mindset and realise relationships can be enjoyed more than being a source of anxiety?
Q. Why are relationships so hard? I find myself thinking about relationships and getting all these weird feelings. Now I'm in a relationship and have been dealing with so much insecurity and anxiety from my part. I also see other troubled couples...
A. 30 July 2008: This problem is more down to you than down to "relationships" if you have low self esteem then you can often wonder "why is he with me? When is he going to realise he's making a mistake and leave?"
So you really have to boost yourself up and then... (read in full...)
My husband is being very strnage and 2 faced about our divorce....
Q. my husband of 25 yrs and i seperated 3months ago, we have three children together, 23, 21 and 8 yrs old, a divorce has been filed, today was supose to be our final hearing, but a continunace was filed for october. hes been living with another woman, ...
A. 30 July 2008: Your husband is obviously cheating on you and this woman he is with is obviously a nutter.
Why do you keep letting him come back into your life? After the first 3 times didn't you see a pattern?
Talk to your elder kids and explain what is ... (read in full...)
What could anyone recommend for a man who is miserable in marriage and staying in it for the kids sake?
Q. What could anyone recommend for a man who is miserable in marriage and staying in it for the kids sake? I have been with my wife for 7 years (married 6) and for the last year or two I have been insanely unhappy. I'm in no way perfect, so I won'...
A. 30 July 2008: Well you need to sit her down and talk about these 3 things she resents you for and figure out how to fix them one at a time.
If she sees you are making effort then hopefully she will too.
Talk to her and tell her you don't want either of y... (read in full...)
Why was he so angry when I kissed him, yet he was happy to have sex with me??
Q. I met a man recently and he wanted sex but i didnt because I held back. We met up recently and when we went I kissed him on the lips and he wasnt too keen I dont mean a long lingering one, just a quick one-and he doesnt want to see me anymore, not ...
A. 30 July 2008: Anon has phrased it in a vulgar way but has it exactly right.
If there's no sex in it then he doesn't want to know you.
You are well rid of him.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Here I am on top of him next thing I know, I get poked.....
Q. So i finally met my Man for first time....wow he's amazing, he brought me into kay jewlers and bought me a gold diamod ring, he did it when i wasnt looking, i love him but he won't tell me how much he spent or how many Ks it is. Anyway, we went out ...
A. 30 July 2008: I think you are saying he got an erection....
Well what did you expect? He's come to you and bought you a huge diamond ring and you are on top of him.... of course he is going to want sex.
What to do is up to you. If you want sex with him the... (read in full...)
I'm 3 months pregnant and my boyfriend is avoiding my calls. I don't know what to do.
Q. hey im 18 and just found out a week ago im 3 months pregnant i told my boyfriend but he's just completely avoiding me he doesn't answer my calls and wont text back i know this mite sound stupid but i dont wanna tell my parents as ive not reli ...
A. 29 July 2008: Well your boyfriend is obviously just terrified and is hoping the problem will go away. It won't. Text him one more time and tell him that you are going to assume he wants nothing to do with the baby and will make decision on what do do about it on ... (read in full...)
Girl I want claims to only "like the attention" she gets from me, how do I change this?
Q. ok so there is a girl I have been talking to for about 2 years now, we have gotten very close to dating several times, but every time we get close, she claims that she "only likes the attention she gets from me." At first, I tried complimenting her ...
A. 29 July 2008: She's basically telling you that she's using you. She's not interested but is quite happy to take the self esteem boost.
I don't think there is a way of winning this girl.
You are in exactly the same position as all the girls who want the guy... (read in full...)
She reacted so adversely when I asked for more intimacy that I felt like a pervert! Help?
Q. hi everyone, ive posted a few things on here and you all be very helpfull... me and my girlfriend are very intimate at the moment and i came out with totaly the wrong thing the other day when i was intimate with her i asked her if she wanted t...
A. 29 July 2008: Ah, sweetie, don't take it personally, it's because of her ex not you.
My husband called me Bunny once and I bit his head off because that was what one of my Ex's used to call me. It wasn't his fault but he still got the blame.
It could just... (read in full...)
I protect my friend when he is being bullied and he gets mad at me! Why?
Q. My best guy friend is being abused by a girl. She used to pick me but it stopped by just ignoring her and not reacting at all. But hes not doing what I did. My other guy friend (most of my friends are guys)are standing by him nonstop. But for some...
A. 29 July 2008: Because you are a girl.
He can't get a girl to stand up for him! That would make him less of a man!
Yes that's really stupid but that's what he feels and you have to respect that. Let his guy friends shout at this girl, you can just sit the... (read in full...)
He didn't believe me when I told him "no". How can I trust him again?
Q. I split up with my ex about 3 months ago but he wont 'give up on me' he insists that it would still work and that i should give him another chance. he is nice enough and i kind of believe him when he tells me he loves me. but i cant trust him. i t...
A. 29 July 2008: The fact that he tried to have sex with you and wouldn't listen when you said no, and now the fact that you've split up with him and he won't listen and respect that.... These should be setting off warning bells in your head.
I don't think yo... (read in full...)
How can I cool my head and get to better talking terms with my partner for both our sakes ?
Q. I have been told that the regular swearing, sarcasm ect, even if I have made a mistake or upset my partner is abuse and not normal. It has allways upsett me and now Im looking to improve our relationship and us both as individuals. Im attending ...
A. 29 July 2008: If he's suddenly exploding then there is nothing you can do to stop it... But he can go and get anger management which will help him to count to 10 etc and not do that.
Has he been to see anyone about his mood swings? It sounds like he really s... (read in full...)
Had one relationship with a woman, in my life and feel too shy to approach other females. What can I do?
Q. Dear Cupid I am really nervous. I am 28 and have only been in relationship once (with a woman). I have however been curious yet too embarrassed to admit it and or even do anything about it. As hard as it is I've had a physical relationship as ...
A. 29 July 2008: You just have to suck it up and talk to girls that you like.
That's all there is to it. Some girls will find it cute that you are shy, so you could get a mate to introduce you if you want.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I don't know how to react to my friend saying she is bisexual and that she likes me!
Q. Hey there....well the other night I was texting my friend Rachel and she told me she was bisexual. Then I asked her if she liked anyone...and she said she likes me. I wasn't creeped out or anything I was just...I don't know what I was thinking! I ...
A. 29 July 2008: I think Student of Life has got the right answer. Tell her you are fine with her sexuality but that you are not interested in her in that way.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My ex had the opportunity to break up from his GF as promised, but he did not do so! Can I trust that he will?
Q. hiya well i told my ex i still loved him and he told me he did too. but he hasn't dumped his gf yet. but he says he will.then his mate told his gf that she was dumped she asked him and said that it wasn't true. that was his perfect oppurtun...
A. 29 July 2008: Oh come on, do you really expect him to be that low that he'd get his mate to do the dirty work? Why did his mate know and tell her? That wasn't very nice.
He has to do it in his own way since he is going to hurt her and tell her that everythi... (read in full...)
I love her and care for her, but I feel like I'm being suffocated; I tried telling her this before, but she burst into tears.
Q. I have always sucked at this part and am not sure what to do... I'm 31 and have been dating a girl for about 15 months now. She's also 31, very nice, and we share a great deal in common. There have been some issues since the beginning of our...
A. 29 July 2008: The fact that she keeps crying but not changing says to me she manipulating you.
I'd tell her that you are not happy and that you want things to change or you can't be with her. If she cries then reassure her that you love her but you need cer... (read in full...)
Is asking my boyfriend for oral sex unfair?
Q. I am a virgin, which my boyfriend knows, but we have had anal. There are a lot of reasons I don't want to have sex with him that I won't include here. But one thing is that he's small in that department (I can't imagine that I would honestly feel ...
A. 29 July 2008: I know people are saying you aren't a virgin but I actually think virginity is what you make of it these days so if you are happy sticking with anal till after marriage then good luck.
However, I can't think of any reason why your boyfrien... (read in full...)
I'm 14, and I want a baby... I really feel ready, but I'm catholic... what do I do?
Q. okay. well i'm fourteen. and i really want a baby. i had a dream about it the other nite and i was so happy adn i was shopping for stuff liek a baby blanket and a nuk, and i was so happy i just kept holding my stomach. there is a few problems. one ...
A. 29 July 2008: Cool, glad we could help! xx... (read in full...)
Not ready for sex and too scared to tell my boyfriend...
Q. im not ready to have sex but my boyfriend is and i don't want to tell him what should i do...
A. 29 July 2008: If you are too scared or weak to tell your boyfriend then you are really really not ready for sex. You should be able to tell him anything!
Just talk to him about it in a calm way. If he cares about you he will understand. If he gets angry th... (read in full...)
He's lied once - does that mean he's cheating?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year, it has been good most of the time apart from his female best friend constantly taking advantage of him, we have got over this. Recently, his mother has become ill and he had to move home 5 ...
A. 29 July 2008: The poor guy is probably just knackered! 5 hour journeys are a lot to do every weekend when you are caring for a sick person though the week.
He probably feels terribly guilty for every second he doesn't spend with you so lied to avoid an argum... (read in full...)
Should my mum go back to my dad and who should I live with?
Q. My mom was telling me about when she was young she got married to this man and that man ... is my dad... he would always put her down... and he got her young and still a virgin... he never would tell my mom "honey I love you" or at least a tha...
A. 29 July 2008: Your mum has escaped a horrible and abusive relationship. There is NO WAY she should go back to him! What possible reason would she have to go back there?
As for who you should live with, I think it's pretty obvious that your mum treats you bett... (read in full...)
I had an affair but want things to work wit my abusive husband so do I tell him?
Q. Hi, So here goes a long story. Ive been married for 9years, about two yrs ago things started to go a bit stale, my husband and i did very little together, it felt like we were living separte lives, anytime i tried to discuss it he would jus...
A. 29 July 2008: Your husband is being abusive to you. Just because he's never hit you doesn't mean it's not abuse.
He's making you scared of him and saying horrible things. It's no wonder you fell into the arms of another man.
I would not tell your husband abo... (read in full...)
He's mean to me but I can't leave... what can I do?
Q. My boyfriend, always plays games instead of talking to me, it makes me sad but he always says "oh its jut this one time" he's mean to me a lot too,(I wont go inot details) but im really in love with him and if i even think of leaving i make myself ...
A. 29 July 2008: Well you can either talk to him about upset he's making you and hope he changes, you can leave and hope he comes after you and changes, or you can stay with him and take his abuse.
Those are your options, you have to pick one.
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
What does losing your virginity mean?
Q. Hello, I have a question about losing your Virginity, when exsactly does a girl lose it i've heard it's upon penetration but can that be penetration with any objest or does it only count if its with a penis? what does losing your Virginity ...
A. 29 July 2008: Depends on your culture.
It can mean the moment that the Hymen (a layer of skin across the vagina) is broken. But since that now happens mostly by accident over a period of years through cycling, sports, dancing, tampons, running etc, that doe... (read in full...)
Are these signs of becoming pregant?...
Q. can i be pregnant??cause bout a week now i been sleepy,lazy..wanna cry for no reason..senitive..feels like i wanna thow up but dont..waking up with deadaches..my tummy is always turning..are these signs of becoming pregant??...
A. 29 July 2008: They have this thing now called a pregnancy test. You wee on it and it will tell you if you are pregnant.
You don't need to rely on symptoms and old wives tales any more. Get a test!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for making my boyfriend stop talking to these girls?
Q. Alright my boyfrien and i have cellphones when i met him he had girls number and so did I have guys numbers.We didn't start caring untill we started to fall in love. I made him clear out his numbers and i cleared out mine but alot of his numbers ...
A. 29 July 2008: Yeah I think you are being over jealous here. If you can't accept the fact that he has chosen you then you need to ask yourself why that is.
My husband has hundreds of numbers in his phone, lots of them female, I have no idea who most of them are... (read in full...)
My brother is hooked on cocaine. Is there anyone in the same situation who can give advice?
Q. Have asked a similar question some time ago, but wondered if there were anymore new mothers in similar situations out there. My 26 yr old brother is hooked on cocaine. Our mum keeps hold of his bank card so that when his benefits go in she can take...
A. 29 July 2008: To be honest I don't think you are going to get much new advice if you have asked about this before. It sounds like you are getting lots in the real world too.
I think what you need more than anything is someone to talk to and you mention your mum... (read in full...)
Where can I find articles about questioning your sexuality?
Q. Can you tell me where i can find articles or blogs about questioning your sexuality later in life? Most of the articles are geared toward teens....
A. 29 July 2008: http://www.rslevinson.com/gaylesissues/comingoutstories/blcoming_later.htm
and
http://www.classicdykes.com/latebloomers.htm
I just put "coming out in later life" into google. There is also a book about it on amazon...
http://www.... (read in full...)
Why do guys say they love you and then push you away?
Q. why do guys say i love you then do things to push or keep you away?...
A. 29 July 2008: Most of them don't in my opinion.
You're just picking bad ones.
You don't give any more information so I can't give any more advice.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm 14, and I want a baby... I really feel ready, but I'm catholic... what do I do?
Q. okay. well i'm fourteen. and i really want a baby. i had a dream about it the other nite and i was so happy adn i was shopping for stuff liek a baby blanket and a nuk, and i was so happy i just kept holding my stomach. there is a few problems. one ...
A. 29 July 2008: At 14 I had the BEST sex dreams, everything would be perfect and lovely and amazing and he would say all the right things. I really thought it meant I was ready for sex.
I didn't do it till a few years later though and guess what? It was NOTHING ... (read in full...)
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