She says she will leave me if I don't buy her gifts. So should I continue to buy her more things?
Q. Hey I am 15 and i have a girlfriend who is 19. She has a job and lives with her parents. I am in school my girlfriend scemms to like me for all the things that i buy her. I have been buying her iPods and laptops and all that. At the mom...
A. 31 July 2008: Well if you really are working hard for these things then she has no excuse.
Since she is 19 and you are underage then you can tell her to give the stuff back or you are going to the police to report her as a sex offender. If you have done any... (read in full...)
Another ten with an Am I Pregnant question?
Q. I'm 16 and I think I may be pregnant. My last period started on June 22, 2008. I had unprotected sex on July 5th, 2008.it is july 30th and I still have not got my period. A few days after we had sex I had blood spotting but only for a day or 2.now I ...
A. 31 July 2008: Babies don't get put in foster homes for very long. There are hundreds of couples who want a baby, just not many that want older kids.
Juno is not a good basis to make a decision on. It is fiction. It was not a documentary.
And you could have l... (read in full...)
Why is everyone I love leaving me? My mum's so upset, it's making me worse!
Q. Hya, my name is Jodie, i was just wondering if you could help me. You see i don't know what to do, as i've just recently come out of a relationship that i wanted to be in my whole life, and i'm tryin my hardest to get over him. But now i have my mum ...
A. 31 July 2008: You've got some good advice so far so I will just add to it.
Go and find a cd or something of I will survive and put it on really loudly, then get your mum and dance.
It'll make you both feel better and endorphins will be released as you ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my girlfriend and be closer to her?
Q. hi i am 14 and my gf is 13. we have been dating 4 a year and a half now. i realy love her. but this summer we have talked about 3 times. wat do i do to be more closer to her. and wat do i say to her. she likes alot of thigs so just give me a topic ...
A. 31 July 2008: religion politics books music, future plans, dreams in life, school, that tree outside the classroom.
If you have clicked together then you really should have no problem talking about anything. My husband and I had a 10 minute conversa... (read in full...)
She says she will leave me if I don't buy her gifts. So should I continue to buy her more things?
Q. Hey I am 15 and i have a girlfriend who is 19. She has a job and lives with her parents. I am in school my girlfriend scemms to like me for all the things that i buy her. I have been buying her iPods and laptops and all that. At the mom...
A. 31 July 2008: I'm guessing you are either dealing drugs, or that daddy pays for everything.
Either way she's sponging off you. Tell her you need to borrow the lap top / ipod and then keep them and dump her.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is my sister-in-law teasing me or what???
Q. My wife and I have been married for almost 5 years now and she has a sister which is a couple years younger than her...I am really not exactly sure what I should do on this situation so I thought I could ask for some advice.... her sister is unma...
A. 31 July 2008: It could be she's flirting because she's like this with every man and just enjoys the feeling. I'm quite a flirty person but I have to admit I would not get that far.
Sisters have a weird competative thing going on. Her older sister will always ... (read in full...)
I get self concious around girly girls, and I sometimes feel like my boyfriend wants me to be more feminine. Help!
Q. hello! so me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 months now. we're close and all so it's all good. but i am so self conscious. like i'm a tom boy i guess. i'm not a girly girl at all and i don't wear girly stuff. it's just not me and i do...
A. 31 July 2008: Any boy who tells you what to wear should be dumped. I had a boyfriend who emailed me once saying he usually went for more gothy girls so he'd like it if I started dressing more gothily.
I said that was fine and he could take me shopping and pay ... (read in full...)
I'm self-conscious about my body, I'm afraid that when we have sex he'll tell his friends about it!
Q. I'm self concious of my body and am scared to have sex for the first time because i fear that he won't like my body and will tell all his friends about it. Are guys usually like this. please help!...
A. 31 July 2008: I think that if he cares about you and you've made him wait then he would never discuss your body or even notice there was anything wrong with it.
Unless you have a giant tattoo of your mother's face on your stomach he will be focused entirely... (read in full...)
He had an orgasm on top, but not inside of me, what are the odds of pregnancy?
Q. about 6 days agot me and my boyfriend had sort of unprotected sex. hehad an orgasm on top of my vigina but not inside what are the chnces that im pregnant?...
A. 31 July 2008: There is a chance you are pregnant, even though it is a small one. You should really have taken the morning after pill.
Now unfortunately you are a bit stuck, so you will have to wait and see if your period comes and if not then go to the family p... (read in full...)
I'm a gay man, married to a woman... am I doing the right thing, pretending to be straight?
Q. I need help!! I am a gay guy age 29, trying to have a straight life and relationship. I love my wife more than anything. now i have two questions: 1: Am i doing the right thing by trying to be straight? 2: Are there ways I can spice up our...
A. 31 July 2008: I have no idea why you are pretending to be straight, but ask yourself if it is nicer to lie to her and avoid the short term hurt of a break up, OR will you hurt her more in the long run when she wants kids or you meet the man of your dreams and ... (read in full...)
Should I move on and forget about him?
Q. The guy that i like called me 3 times last night but i couldnt answer because i didnt have my phone with me that night. then he left a message. i emailed him asking if he called he says "no why baby?" why did he pretend as if he didnt call me? a few ...
A. 31 July 2008: Well he sounds like a bit of a flake. If you were in front of his face he'd probably be wonderful and romantic but then you'd go home and he'd forget to call, or cheat on you.
He sounds like he would make an awful boyfriend so I would just ste... (read in full...)
I am never good enough to please my mother... what do I do next time she screams at me?
Q. It doesn't matter what I do, my mother never seems to care. I play flute and I'm getting good at it, I taught myself to play piano and I get decent grades at school. But she doesn't care at all. I'm lucky if I get a very quiet 'well done' from her ...
A. 31 July 2008: I think you did the right thing talking to your godmother and I really would be surprised if she didn't have a word with your mum.
I think Annalisa is right that she is taking her own problems out on you, so when she's shouting just let her fini... (read in full...)
I want to be with someone who doesn't treat me horribly, but I love my boyfriend.
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for a year and eight months now and having arguments has always been our "thing"; anyone who knows us knows this. We never intended for that to happen, though, we just disagree on really one thing: Who's to blame for ...
A. 31 July 2008: Yep all beaten wives, really want their boyfriend to be that man, right up until they get murdered.
Your relationship will NEVER change. Yes arguments can be a sign that it's just a passionate relationship, but he SMACKED YOU ACROSS THE FACE. Re... (read in full...)
A girl said she loved my boyfriend, now I am being hysterical. Why?
Q. My boyfriend just told me a girl at work made him a card say "I love you *his name*" and hugged him, andi cant stop crying and idont know why. Why am i sp upset? i know he loves me and wouldnt chest but i still cant sto p crying :(...
A. 31 July 2008: You obviously have some major self esteem problem that you feel so incredibly threatened by this girl.
To be honest I think you need to give yourself a slap and get it together.
You know he loves you, you know this girl is something to be ... (read in full...)
I think these women are after my husband...
Q. Me and my husband have a large group of friends. We all meet up for events in our area and have a good time, but lately i have become suspicious of him. My best friend lives down the road and we get on great and most of the time it is just us an...
A. 31 July 2008: Wow, you seem to think your husband has no free will of his own, or is he that bad that you just can't trust him as far as you can throw him?
The young girl you can scare off, no problem. As for the neighbour, what's wrong with the guys she's be... (read in full...)
My online guy is pressuring my for naughty photos... is this a bad sign?
Q. Theres this guy who I have been chatting to on msn, from an online dating website. We havent actually met yet cause he lives in a different city, but closer to the end of the year, I already had plans to move to his city for university, so w...
A. 31 July 2008: Is this symbolic of what is to come? HELL YES!
You've said no and he keeps pressuring. You told him to stop pressuring and he keeps doing it.
This shows that he has no respect for you or your feelings and just wants something sexual from you.... (read in full...)
Another ten with an Am I Pregnant question?
Q. I'm 16 and I think I may be pregnant. My last period started on June 22, 2008. I had unprotected sex on July 5th, 2008.it is july 30th and I still have not got my period. A few days after we had sex I had blood spotting but only for a day or 2.now I ...
A. 30 July 2008: Get another test.
Job done.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What does a girl do when she's on top?
Q. I don't know what to do when I'm on top!! help! ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well you can bounce up and down or move back and forwards.
Here is a link that will help,
http://sexuality.about.com/od/sexualpositions/p/womanontop.htm
put sex position or woman on top into google.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and find it hard to converse with my family. Can anyone help me out please?
Q. im 14 and when i have to talk to my family i really dont no what to say. it ends up to be an awkard scilence whenever im in a room alone. well im going to my auntys for the day tomorrow and im scared that im gonna not know what to say. what shall i ...
A. 30 July 2008: Talk about weather, politics, ask them about their life and what they did when they were your age.
They might actually have some adventures to tell you about.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My Ex wants me to call her, should I?
Q. I stopped talking to my ex girlfriend/first love because of her drinking, drug abuse, and promiscuity was upsetting. I didn't speak to her four about a month then monday she Instant Messaged me and was all "I know we "Aren't talking, but I just ...
A. 30 July 2008: I've just read your update so I'll base my advice on that.
If you are tough enough not to care that she's messing up her life then yes, talk to her online or on the phone, but DON'T let her weasel her way back into your life any further.... (read in full...)
His family is getting in the way of us. He won't stand up to his mum!
Q. Hey, I was hoping you'd be able to shed some light or give me some advice on some of the things that our relationship has been facing lately. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now, I'm 20 and he's 22, we both are at uni, and both share the ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well he obviously puts his family above you. His mum is being mental, and very old fashioned and you have to decide if:
a) you can put up with his family being this way
and
b) the fact you will always come second to his family.
if ... (read in full...)
Best not to contact him, stay silent and see if he contacts me?
Q. I have been a bit too full on with this guy and contacting him too often and I think he is fed up with it-so I feel like giving it one last shot and try the reverse and hold back and be hard to get. Do you think it could be worth a try in the old ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well don't cut contact completely without a word, he'll think he's done something wrong. He's not psychic. And he'll just think you are being strange.
If you are texting and ringing him too much then do it less, that is obvious, but just be norma... (read in full...)
Old guy or new guy?
Q. Hi, Im really confused right now. The guy I wanted to marry wasn't trying hard enough. Our culture is a little diff. The parents didn't approve. we sitill stayed together but he isnt trying...if i ask him to try hes like...yes ill try my best....
A. 30 July 2008: Well if you don't love your guy then you need to break it off with him. The fact he won't even move out from home after he's married when he knows you don't get on with his mum says to me he's not going to put you first.
As for the new guy, be ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my abusive relationship?
Q. hi I need some advice i have been with my boyfriend for 14years since i was 14. about 5 years ago we went through a rough patch and he used to ge violent and call me nasty names, which i put up with as i was still young , then 3 years ago just a...
A. 30 July 2008: Why are you still with him?
Go and pack your bags and then the next time he tells you to fuck off say "ok then" and walk away.
He is never going to change while you are with him as he has no reason to. Once he has to clean up his own poo, he'... (read in full...)
I'm being pressured to start a family by my older girlfriend...
Q. Am i a freak because i will not have unprotected sex with my girlfriend and try and start a family? I am 15 and she is 19 and wants to start a family with me, but i am only younge and want to get a job and to be able to surport them both. I ...
A. 30 July 2008: Your girlfriend is a baby obsessed freak and technically a sexual predator. You are not over the age of consent for sex so under the law she is a paedophile.
Anyone who says they'll leave you if you don't have sex with them is a horrible person. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's flatmates hate me - how do I change that?
Q. Hi everyone, I have been going out with my girlfriend for a few months...and already there's a problem; her flatmates hate me. We are both 22, and she lives with a group of girls who seriously have it in for me! They constantly jibe at me, tell...
A. 30 July 2008: Well why not wait till you are sat with one of them and calmly tell then that you've noticed that they don't like you ans would really like to know why.
Don't demand to know, ask nicely and tell them you want to make them see you really want to ... (read in full...)
My newly religious exhusband told our daughters that I and my new boyfriend are going to hell! How do I unring this bell?
Q. I was married to a man for about 6 years and we have two daughters together (one 8, one 6). We got divorced a couple of years ago (we weren't getting along, and the divorce was pretty messy). Now, I take care of the kids most of the time, but he has ...
A. 30 July 2008: I think you have to give them a bit of time and they will come back. They've just been let into this secret club that tells them they are better than everyone else.
But as you say it won't make them any friends at school, and I think that will be ... (read in full...)
E.D. is destroying me emotionally because I just want to make love and not worry about the sex.
Q. Hi I am a male, 28. Since 7 years or so I have had a problem with erectile dysfunction. It has been creeping up and has been getting worse lately. I have had about 10 partners, all of whom I had sexual relations with. The problem is, I cannot r...
A. 30 July 2008: Well you need to get your ED sorted. Have to been to the doctor to check it's not being caused by anything else? Quite often it's a symptom of something more serious.
You say you are getting therapy which is great.
As for all the sex problems... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just announced he is planning to emigrate to Australia. Do I try to carry on our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend has just announced to me, two months in to our relationship that he is planning to emigrate to Australia as soon as his visa (which he had already applied for) comes through. I feel very hurt but don't know where I stand. We have ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well put yourself in his shoes... he's planned to move to Australia, he gone through the visa process which takes FOREVER, he's ready to go and then he meets you. He may be falling for you too, but that doesn't mean he can change his plans or ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped my. Should I give up or try to get her back?
Q. So i went out with this girl for 5 months. She was great and we thought we were in love. Then she broke up with me. I still have feelings for her and she doesnt even want to know about me anymore. I cant get her out of my mind. Shold i let her go or ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well it depends why she dumped you. If you can convince her that those reasons aren't valid because you've changed or whatever it takes then yes you could win her back.
If she just doesn't love you then you have to move on.
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband's relative to stop flirting with me?
Q. I have an issue, one of my relative's husband constantly keeps flirting with me. It's to the the point where it's getting out of control. I've repeatedly asked him to stop. The funny thing is that he never acted this way in the beginning. He ...
A. 30 July 2008: My advice is to avoid him. Don't be alone with him. Don't speak to him unless someone is there with you. If he tries to touch you then use reasonable force to get him to stop.
If it was just flirting then I'd say he was just having a laugh an... (read in full...)
We've been together a lot, not just for sex, but our schedules prevent actual dates. Is he just using me?
Q. I met this guy about 6 months ago through work. For the first few months we barely knew each other - but he would chat to me, there was a little bit of flirting and on more than a few occasions I caught him looking at me. A few months later we ...
A. 30 July 2008: Hmmm, this depends a lot on what you want from this guy.
If you think of it as friends with benefits - but not sex benefits... cuddling and hanging out and doing stuff together, then it makes sense.
So if you are happy with that kind of sli... (read in full...)
Why do I have vivid dreams of cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. I love my boyrfriend so much and have been with him for over a year. Recently however I've started having reocurring dreams in which I cheat on him. In all the dreams I've never been the one to initiate it, it's always been some other guy (one w...
A. 30 July 2008: Perhaps it means you are scared of hurting him, perhaps it means you need some variety in the bedroom, perhaps it means you are craving a bit more drama in your life.
It could also be that you had the dream once after a bit too much cheese a... (read in full...)
How can I get my new guy to tell me if he plans a future with me or if I'm just a fling?
Q. Seven months ago I ended a four year relationship. I am not usually the girl to dwel on things, and about a month later I had a fling with his friend. It has been five months and the new guy and I are still together. Our relationship is fine, even ...
A. 30 July 2008: Why do you need to know?
You don't feel close to him emotionally, you have your doubts about this relationship and I think both of these things are happening for a reason.
You've split up with your ex - do you now feel a bit lost? If you are... (read in full...)
We have no sex life. Am I being a selfish bitch?
Q. I am with a guy for the last year and a half and we get on very well in general in that we don't really argue but lately i am getting more and more unhappy, problem is we have no sex life. He has made many excuses as to why we don't, depression, ...
A. 30 July 2008: I don't really see any good side to you being in this relationship. I think it may have come to an end.
The camper van holiday idea is sweet but just proves that you he doesn't even know you. The 4 pints thing is VERY insulting, I would have wal... (read in full...)
My man is too depressed to have sex.
Q. I am in a sexless relationship. It's a long, painful story and if I could recount all the reasons why my man is depressed and feeling powerless, you would understand why I'm being so long suffering. He refuses counselling and gets upset if *I* try ...
A. 30 July 2008: He may be depressed but does that give him the right to keep you a prisoner in a miserable relationship?
If he's depressed then that's not his fault but depression makes people see the world as being entirely based around them and their problems... (read in full...)
I'm starting to have feelings for my big brother's best friend. I don't know how to go about the situation.
Q. Ok, so my problem is that I'm starting to have feelings for my big brother's best friend, I'm almost certain he likes me too, but I'm 17 (almost 18) and he's 22! I just don't know how to go about the situation because we hardly ever get to see each ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well just jokingly flirt with him and see what happens. If your brother says anything you can say you were joking and you know he "wouldn't be happy with me seeing one of your mates."
If he says "damn right" then you know you might need to back ... (read in full...)
I know my girlfriend is lying to me, but is she cheating?
Q. ok its so complicated. ive been with my girl for 9 years and we have 2 kids. theres been a lot of crap went down between us in the past. shes been going out a lot latley, and isnt really honest about what goes on. so ive done a stupid thing....
A. 30 July 2008: I think you need to sit down and talk to her. Tell her you know something is going on and that she's not happy. Ask her if she wants to split up but is staying for the kids.
Give her a chance, perhaps not to come clean but to talk about the prob... (read in full...)
He says he'd be cool if I asked out his sister, but I'm not sure he'll feel the same afterwards!
Q. so at school, its basically me and my two friends against the rest(we dont get along with everyone else in our grade) and so we are pretty close friends. i have a couple of classes with one of my friend's sister who is only one year younger than ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well he's said it would be cool so you have to take him at his word.
You don't know that she would say yes anyway so where is the harm?
It'll be slightly harder to have a relationship with her as you are so close to her brother but it c... (read in full...)
I like her, we are close friends, what do I do?
Q. my friend recently had lots of arguements with her 9month boyfriend. she called me to her house yesterday. and she was crying so much. i comforted her and when i went home she text me saying thanks alot for being there. she also dumped her boyfriend ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well I think you have to just take some time to yourself and get over her.
She's with this guy, and is clearly in love with him.
You are wonderful and sweet and respectful so I have no doubt that if you put yourself out there you could get a ... (read in full...)
He moved out-I've tried leaving him alone but I love him so much that it hurts! Help!
Q. I was with this guy for 4 years and we have had our problems. Now he has moved out and told me he needs his time. He never calls or comes to see me, but if i ask him to come watch a movie and sleepover he will. What should I do, I've tried leaving ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well if he needs time then you have to give it to him but he can't keep you hanging on forever in hope.
Set him a deadline. Tell him how much this is hurting you and that you aren't going to speak to him for a week. At the end of the week he has t... (read in full...)
How do i tell my mate im dating the guy she fancies?
Q. i have liked this guy on and off for months, and we started going out yesterday, but my best mate fancies him, how do i tell her???...
A. 30 July 2008: Wow, that's not very nice of you. You are going to have to just be straight with her and tell her that you like him too and got chatting with him and got together.
She's going to feel you've stabbed her in the back and trampled all over her feel... (read in full...)
I trust her but I can't help but worry what could happens when she ges away to college. Any advice for me?
Q. I am worried about my gf going to college. We have been dating for a little over a year and she and i both want to make it work while she is gone. She keeps reassuring me everything is going to be fine and has never lied or cheated, or given me a ...
A. 30 July 2008: Well there is nothing you can do to stop worrying but you can keep it to yourself. If you go on and on about it then she's going to get pushed away.
If you push her away and make her feel awful all the time then she's going to resent you, and that... (read in full...)
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