My ex girlfriend got raped by her current boyfriend. She maybe pregnant. WHat can I do to help her?
Q. This is basically an update from my previous questions but I just need help. So my ex and I broke up and were going through a very rough time and during that time..she was....uhm...kinda weird to say..but yeah she was raped..by her current boyfrien...
A. 4 August 2008: That is great news!
Now you can get her to leave the bastard and live happily ever after.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
This guy is pressuring me to take my clothes off....what do I do??
Q. Ive been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks now and he keeps trying to pressure me into taking my clothes off. I keep saying no because Im not comfortable with that yet as its too soon. But I do like him. Anyway, today he said something to me ...
A. 4 August 2008: Excellent! Glad we could help, and I'm glad you are dumping him. We get so sick of telling people that they need to dump their boyfriend and then they reply saying "Oh but I love him so I'll just talk to him and hope he changes."
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
I'm straight but attracted to gay men...I don't know what to do
Q. Hi i'm only 16 and I'm straight,but the thing is i'm extremely attracted to gay men.I don't just mean there attitudes.The biggest turn on for me is watching two guys going at it,I feel like such a freak!I tried to tell my friend she said it was ...
A. 4 August 2008: You said it was a turn on "to watch 2 guys going at it"... I assumed you were looking at porn rather than peeping through windows at night haha.
No harm done.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I win back someone who is now married to some else?
Q. How can I win back someone who is now married to some else?...
A. 4 August 2008: You can't. You had all the time to do that before they got married. Now she has made a vow.
You'll just have to wait for them to divorce and then you can try again.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
She dumped me because I wasn't ready for marriage/kids... now I am ready and she's moved on! Should I move on too?
Q. I was in a year long relationship that ended about 3 months ago when my girlfriend ended our relationship. The problem was that my ex-girlfriend, who lived with me, wants to have children and get married. I was married twice before and had always ...
A. 4 August 2008: You obviously hurt her very badly and she has worked hard to get over you.
I can't tell you that there is no chance of you winning her back because I don't know her and I don't know if she is still just angry and hurt, or because she really h... (read in full...)
How can I motivate my boyfriend so that he wants to save money, and teach him to plan ahead?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years, now. We both love each other very much. In the past, we've had problems because of what seemed to be a lack of passion on his part, but after I started growing interest in things other tha...
A. 4 August 2008: Yep you have to go and follow your dream and get him do his own thing. You have to give him the opportunity to prove he can be independent and make something of himself without you there to hold his hand.
As for the "illustrating the importan... (read in full...)
All the guys I date move along after 3 months. Is it because I'm too independant?
Q. I don't understand. Every guy I date, after about 3 months or so moves on and seems to find someone else. Starts off strong, they seem to really like me, constantly together and calling and then out of no where, the calls die down, they are "busy" ...
A. 4 August 2008: I had exactly the same problem. I found I had HUGE Novelty value. Men wanted to come in and "tame" me. So they'd go out with me and it'd be "I'm falling for you" and crap like that in the first week, and I'd say ok, lets just calm down a bit. I knew ... (read in full...)
How can I stop the pain I feel because of my body issues? Girls in movies and magazines make me feel inadequate.
Q. What can I do to stop the hurt of body issues? Last night I was with my boyfriend watching one of these silly comedies, you know, a la American Pie. It wasn't Amreican Pie, but it was that style. You know, it wasn't even pornographic - but t...
A. 4 August 2008: Watch this video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYhCn0jf46U
THAT is why all the girls in magazines and films looks so perfect.
Lighting, make up and computer graphics. Body Doubles as well!
When you see these girls on screen you just h... (read in full...)
She's a virgin and we can't have sex because it hurts her too much. Any tips?
Q. Alright, so me and my girlfriend are getting hot and bothered and ready to have sex, catch is, she's a virgin. So I try to be gentle and all, because I hear it's sometimes really painful. I try, she says "OW!" really loud and I stop because I don't ...
A. 4 August 2008: How much foreplay are you having? You have to get her seriously turned on and relaxed before you start.
Use fingers to stretch her out a bit and get her wet all the way up, go down there and give her oral so she's really really having a good tim... (read in full...)
Married to a gay man - do I stay with him for the sake of the children?
Q. I am married with two children. Three years ago I found out my husband was having an affair with another man. He still lives at home and continues his relationship with this man. I don't have it in me to throw him out and get on with my life. I am ...
A. 4 August 2008: The other aunts have suggested the "chuck him out and man up" and they may not be wrong, but I am going to give you a second option.
I think your situation is the only one where I would suggest doing this:
End your relationship but don't chuck ... (read in full...)
He asks me every now and again if I still fancy him. Can you advise me what to say to him, please?
Q. I am 22 and there's a male colleague in my workplace I used to fancy. Our age difference and his bad habits (smoking and drinking) puts me off. I took an interest in him when I started, as he helped me settle in. We got on very well, until rece...
A. 4 August 2008: Just let him down gently. He's obviously just after an ego boost and you can give him that without saying "I MUST HAVE YOU NOWWWWWWWW!!!"
Tell that you still think he's the most gorgeous man in the office but it wouldn't work because you prefer t... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin in the classical sense, and I would like my 'initiation' to be done by someone who knows what they're doing.
Q. Fifteen, sexually charged, and without a viable outlet. Okay so I'm not the type of girl to deny the fact that I do indeed have needs, I like to explore myself, and there isn't anything wrong with that. Now to my problem. I've never had a boyfrien...
A. 4 August 2008: Sweetie, there are lots and lots of older men out there who will happily have sex with you whether you are legal or not.
It's finding someone who actually likes you for you that will be the difficult thing, as most will want you to wear pig tail... (read in full...)
When will I find a true love?
Q. When will I find a true love?...
A. 4 August 2008: Uncle Phill is wrong, it will be a bit closer to 8pm.
Hahaha.
Everyone will find love at some point in their lives. You just have to keep meeting people and learning about the world and it's people.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I know it's said that size is not important but how you use "it", so can you give me a pointer or two of what this actually means?
Q. I am 20 years old and i am a VIRGIN!!! I know pathetic right. Well anyways I have met this girl and we have been seeing each other for almost 6 monthes and she is starting to pressure me about sex. Everytime we start to do it I get scared and freeze ...
A. 4 August 2008: My ex boyfriend was HUGE, but he wasn't much interested in foreplay, just getting my turned on enough so have sex. He seemed to think that being big was enough and I should just be enjoying it. Yeah.
What we ladies mean by "it's what you do with ... (read in full...)
What do you do when you can't afford a therapist?
Q. This isn't a relationship question, although when it comes down to it, it can be. I can't do this anymore and I just can't afford a therapist. I don't have health insurance and my job doesn't give me enough hours to apply for it. I was wondering if ...
A. 3 August 2008: You sound like you just need a friend to be honest not a therapist.
I think you need to have a sit down chat with your boyfriend at a time when you are both calm and tell him how you love him but there are certain things he does that make you want... (read in full...)
I always have bad luck with teachers. How can I build up a friendship with them.
Q. how do u build a friendship with a teacher can u please just answer the question and not come back with questions like why, weres ya own frends ect... i just always have bad luck with teachers, they always seem to not like me..maybe coz im wit...
A. 3 August 2008: I agree with both of the answers you've got so far.
A few of my teachers thought I was being cheeky until they realised I just have a really dry sense of humour.
You don't need them to be your friends, you need to show them that you respect... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend got raped by her current boyfriend. She maybe pregnant. WHat can I do to help her?
Q. This is basically an update from my previous questions but I just need help. So my ex and I broke up and were going through a very rough time and during that time..she was....uhm...kinda weird to say..but yeah she was raped..by her current boyfrien...
A. 3 August 2008: You need to get your friend to go to the police.
You can be a witness about how she came to you the next day.
I know that you want to go round and smash his face in and yes he probably deserves that, but if you go to the police then they will a... (read in full...)
If a guy adds girls from myspace who look like they have nothing on....what does it say about him as a person?
Q. Has anyone ever seen those girls on myspace which get random adds from people all over the world? You know, with the really big boobs and barely any clothes on? Well they have g-string/thong but you cant even see the string bit, so it looks liek ...
A. 3 August 2008: These myspaces aren't real, they are adverts for porn sites. So if he's a single male then it says he is in to porn.
Date him and if it gets a bit more serious then maybe you could mention that it bothers you and he could delete them.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
This guy is pressuring me to take my clothes off....what do I do??
Q. Ive been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks now and he keeps trying to pressure me into taking my clothes off. I keep saying no because Im not comfortable with that yet as its too soon. But I do like him. Anyway, today he said something to me ...
A. 3 August 2008: "Oh I'm so sorry, it'll never happen again, I feel so bad..."
Then it happens the next day.
He's manipulating you. He's trying nagging, he's tried paying you compliments he's tried guilt. He knows he just has to give you puppy eyes and you'll ... (read in full...)
I'm straight but attracted to gay men...I don't know what to do
Q. Hi i'm only 16 and I'm straight,but the thing is i'm extremely attracted to gay men.I don't just mean there attitudes.The biggest turn on for me is watching two guys going at it,I feel like such a freak!I tried to tell my friend she said it was ...
A. 3 August 2008: This is perfectly normal.
Why would you want to look at porn with some girl in it if you are not gay? Lots of women like gay porn, in the same way lots of men like lesbian porn.
Not a good idea to talk to your mum about it as she probably doe... (read in full...)
Is he entitled to know who I was talking to?
Q. If a guy you are dating calls you when you are already on the other line and you ask him if you can call him right back, is it okay for him to ask you who you are talking to that is more important than him?...
A. 3 August 2008: Well it's fair enough that he should be curious who it is, the guy is interested in your life.
But I've read your follow up answers and if he's demanding to know and keeps stalking your cell just because you are, lets say, on the phone about a ... (read in full...)
I really like a boy in my class, but I'm afraid people will make fun of me.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I have fallen for a boy in my class. Everyone says he likes me too, but I'm afraid to ask him out because if we do go out, I am afraid people will tease me and tell everyone in school. I have asked a ...
A. 3 August 2008: Well you are very young so the kids probably will tease you because they are kids and kids tease anyone at any opportunity.
You just have to decide whether you can take a bit of teasing and if he's going to be worth it.
If not then just carry ... (read in full...)
I keep having dizzy spells....any idea what they could be?
Q. ever since april/may this year, i've started to have these really weird dizzy spells. i've had a few panic attacks aswell. i've just recently done my welsh GCSE's two years early and my parents thought it was something to do with that. we went to ...
A. 3 August 2008: Well if there is nothing physically wrong then it obviously is stress of some kind and the GCSE's and boyfriend situation are the obvious suspects.
Your GCSEs are over for now so that should help.
As for the boyfriend thing, go out and get your... (read in full...)
I'm constipated...what should I do?
Q. i'm 13 and just lately i have started to feel constipated i've been to the loo and tried but i just don't want to strain myself so i don't get piles i have to sit down otherwise it feels as though it will drop through. I'm really scared. Please He...
A. 3 August 2008: There are medicines you can get over the counter like Senacot, but it's easier just to go and eat a massive bowl of shreddies and some fruit and a lot of water.
If there is still no movement by tomorrow then try senacot, if that doesn't work the... (read in full...)
What's wrong with this man?
Q. My man of 9 years left me for this woman he met.He has never done any kind of drugs and is totally against them.He met her the day after she was released from a Federal Pen after doing six years for selling crack coaine and pot to a bus driver that ...
A. 3 August 2008: She obviously just bewtiched him and he fell for it hook line and sinker.
I have no idea what's going through his crazy man brain.
But it's safe to assume that he's an idiot for dropping you in favour of someone who is highly likely to just u... (read in full...)
Are these side effects from coming off the pill??
Q. Hello. I would like some help from women who have been on the Microgynon 30 pill. Ok I started taking the contraceptive pill when I was 10 for my heavy periods. I had started my period when I was 9 (very early bloomer) and was on the pill until I ...
A. 3 August 2008: Yep it sounds like it could be the pill. All the things you've described are hormone related. Did you come off the pill at the end of the packet? Or just stop taking it one day?
If you came off it in the middle of the packet then that could me... (read in full...)
My aunt married his uncle, so we are not blood cousins. Should we feel awkward about dating?
Q. I recently met a man that I like a lot. I believe we are cousins through marriage only. My aunt (my moms sister) married his uncle (His moms brother). There is no blood connection. Should we feel awkward about dating?...
A. 3 August 2008: Well there is no health reason not to date him, it's not going to get a "omg that's disgusting" reaction.
However if you date him and then split up and it all goes horribly horribly wrong then remember you have to keep seeing him at every family e... (read in full...)
My boyfriend decided that we take a break since my family does not approve of us dating. I'm so sad!
Q. Well im back agian. i am actually 16. I am So hurt and just dont know what to do, 2 nights ago me boyfriend came home from the bar and my older brother was there. and he had gotten ahold of my boyfriend and told him he didnt think him being with me ...
A. 3 August 2008: Well talk to your brother. He was only trying to protect you. But I bet he didn't mean to make you miserable. Ask him why he talked to / threatened your boyfriend.
If he sees how heart broken you are over the next week then perhaps he will giv... (read in full...)
She says she wants God in her life more than me and that her "prophet" told her that I will destroy her! What do I do?
Q. Hello i'm 17 and the girl ive been talking to for about 4 months is same age. when we meet we hit it off so well, everything was so perfect for months. we both really like each other but wanted to focuse more on college. shes going to a christaion ...
A. 3 August 2008: I'm really not a fan of Prophets who claim to tell the future.
She's probably feeling very torn right now between this man who she trusts in sending messages from God, and the fact that he's obviously talking crap.
Talk to her about it and tel... (read in full...)
Are East Indian girls typically "tighter" than white women?
Q. I am a white female, height 5'7", weight 115 lbs., dating a white man whose last girlfriend was East Indian. He has not slept with anyone since her, and, since my last boyfriend told me that the (East) Asian girls he had slept with were "tighter" ...
A. 3 August 2008: Well unless he has had sex with several hundred east indian girls and done a survey, it could just be that she happened to be tight, and you are less so.... born like that, I mean.
Everyone is different. If he mentions it again point out that you... (read in full...)
Catastrophic phone sex. Does she hate me? Have I messed up?
Q. I have just come off the phone with my girlfriend after an unsuccessful phone sex session. I feel really bad as she was really horny and I didn’t know what to say as I’ve never had phone sex before. (or real sex for that matter) When I said ...
A. 3 August 2008: I know it's hard to do if you are nervous, but she probably still took it that you felt really awkward because of her, rather than just because you were being put on the spot.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to feel hurt by what he said cos he also said it werent my looks hes attracted to just my personality?
Q. iv been seeing my partener for 8 months i asked him what he found attractive about me and he said my personality a few minuties later i asked what he found attractive about the ceebrate he like he then replied he finds her really attractive wit a ...
A. 3 August 2008: What did you want him to say?
"When I first met you I couldn't stop staring at your massive tits! And then when you said goodbye I discovered you had an ass to match."
If he's just said "everything" then you'd have still been unsatisfied as t... (read in full...)
She's back; a royal pain in my butt...and I can't shake it!
Q. Lately, I've been sort of dating a woman who I used to date a couple of years ago, but it didn't work out. In fact, she proved to be one of the worst dates I've ever had. So why are we together again? Well, it's a matter of she's my best f...
A. 3 August 2008: Well you don't have to hang around her alone. She's not your friend, she's your friend's friend.
If you know she's going to be there then don't go out, and see your friend when she is not around.
Mention to your best friend that although sh... (read in full...)
Will I ever fall in love with him or am I just waiting around for nothing?
Q. I am 16 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now.For the 1st couple of months our relationship was wonderful but somewhere along the line he started putting me down an disrespecting me.But lately things have gotten better.So my ...
A. 3 August 2008: If you haven't fallen for him in 2 years then it is not very likely that you will fall in love with him now or ever.
If you are with him but don't love him now then you are guilty of leading him on. Is being with someone who you don't love bet... (read in full...)
I am so attracted to this man I work with, I am just not sure how he feels. What do you think?
Q. There is this guy I work with and with our job he has to travel around to diffrent locations. I am very attracted to him we talk on the phone all the time it starts out about work but always ends up about something else. He makes me laugh and when I ...
A. 2 August 2008: It could just be that he's friendly.
Why not try flirting with him and see what happens. That is the usual way of attracting a man. You could also dress up a bit more that usual if he's coming round...
You are old enough to know how this ga... (read in full...)
Will me being pregnant at 14 send my 17 year old boyfriend to jail?
Q. Hi. i have been dating my boyfriend for a year.i fell in love with him as soon as i saw him.but im pregnant and im 14 and hes 17 turning 18 in 3months. will he go to jail? Please reply asap ...
A. 2 August 2008: Well if your parents tell the police then he might go to court and have to sign a sex offenders register. I'm not sure how it works in Oz.
I don't think it's in the best interests of the child for him to go to prison though, I think the court wi... (read in full...)
Catastrophic phone sex. Does she hate me? Have I messed up?
Q. I have just come off the phone with my girlfriend after an unsuccessful phone sex session. I feel really bad as she was really horny and I didn’t know what to say as I’ve never had phone sex before. (or real sex for that matter) When I said ...
A. 2 August 2008: Imagine you got naked in front of her for the first time hoping to she'll be impressed with your penis and you were really nervous but you were going for it, and she just stood there fully clothed looking at it and said "Um, no, I don't know what to ... (read in full...)
I have a newspaper fetish. Should I be open about it?
Q. I have a strange fetish and i want to be open about it. i love newspapers and magazines. i love to buy them and sleep with them and hold them close to my skin. i feel that this is strange because i have never heard of it before. should i tell p...
A. 2 August 2008: I wouldn't go printing a T-shirt about it.
Why would you tell people???
Half the fun of fetishes is being a work a day boring person to the outside world and then going home to your amazing secret life.
In these times of advertising rec... (read in full...)
After I offered him oral he did not bother talking much to me...
Q. Dear cupid, i think i have made a mistake. i gave a guy a blowjob and was still at his house for the next two days but for those two days he only said one or two words to me. Please tell me why he diint talk to me and how do i fix this so its not ...
A. 2 August 2008: Well perhaps he had what he wanted from you and wanted you to leave?
It worries me that you can just invite yourself over for a couple of days. Don't you have a home to go to?
It probably won't be awkward when you go back to his house as he'... (read in full...)
I'm ready for sex but no girl want to go out with me!
Q. I am a 14 year old boy, and im ready to have sex. I know all about it but i dont know how to get a girl, because no girl want to go out with me. Can you help me? ...
A. 2 August 2008: You are ready for sex? Did you just wake up this morning and realise that you have hit that level of emotional maturity?
I think it is more the case that you WANT sex. Whether you can handle it is something you won't find out.
All 14 yearol... (read in full...)
I want to break up with my on-line love as gently as possible.
Q. I don't know what I should do here...please someone help Recently I met this girl online and we hit it off and all that fun stuff, anyway we both kinda fell for each other, however we live a ways away from each other and I have a good feeling it ...
A. 2 August 2008: There is no gentle or kind way to tell someone you don't love them and don't want to be with them.
You just have to tell her why you are unhappy with the relationship and why you want to end it. She has her chance to talk you out of it, but you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend uses steroids and thought he was sterile but now I'm pregnant! I'm not getting an abortion so how can I deal with him?
Q. I been with my boyfriend for over a year. He uses steriods and thought he was sterile. A few weeks ago we broke up and i was feeling sick and was late with my period. I tock a pregnacy test that came back positive. I called and told him, he thought ...
A. 2 August 2008: Well he's on steroids so he's going to be violent and have terrible mood swings. I am sure you've already seen this.
To be honest if you are scared of him coming in to ruin things or to try and get you to have abortions then get a restrain... (read in full...)
Sent pics of myself in bra and pants to another boy, who then showed my boyfriend!
Q. hey everyone I feel so terrible about myself right now. Well my bf was recently in a wreck I heard (at the time hes was ex) And his cousin texted me saying that he wanted to fix things with me and when he woke up she would tell him that I forgave ...
A. 2 August 2008: Wow, you really didn't think that one through... What did you expect the psycho guy to do when your new boy texted him? Appologise and offer to buy you both dinner?
Never mind.
The thing is, that when you sent those pics, you weren't technica... (read in full...)
He's obsessed with sex, I'm begining to think this is all he wants..
Q. I've been with my bf for about 5 months now. When were together he wants to have sex at least 4-5 times a day. Now that my bf has been away for about a month, every time i talk to him, he keeps talking about how he cant wait to do it with me like ...
A. 2 August 2008: Yeah my hubbie is away and sometimes we have hours of conversation about sex.
But we also have hours of conversation about everything else, like how we miss hanging out and making plans and being together.
If you don't want to talk about sex t... (read in full...)
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