I care about this girl who is the girfriend of one of my friends, I find myself liking her more and more, but I am trying to annoy her so that nothing happens, is this the right thing to do?
Q. Hi. I’m not sure exactly what to do, in regards a friend. Although I think that I originally made a mistake when I decided to be friends with her and nothing more, I don’t fancy this girl. But I do find myself really caring about her. Nothing ...
A. 8 August 2008: I really don't think you are giving her enough credit. She really can't expect you to be there forever, she's not your wife. Tell her now that you are going to move so she can get used the idea. She may be upset but she will probably be happy for ... (read in full...)
How can someone forget how they feel??
Q. I have known this girl for over a year (we are in the same college and attend the same lectures) and we became the best of friends. But then she broke with her bf and she was completely broken down. I tried to help her out and we started spen...
A. 8 August 2008: She is angry because she trusted you to be a neutral friend and now she has found out you were lusting after her for most of the time you were together.
She is avoiding you so you can get over her. She does not want you to forget your feelings... (read in full...)
I love the thought of being single but having to split the joint goods scares me! Do I break up?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years, we have a house together etc. I've never really had much of a life since i met him until recently when i've been out for drinks with one of my friends and quite honestly i love the thought of being single! ...
A. 8 August 2008: Well if this is the final straw and you really don't love eachother any more then you are going to have to bite the bullet and sell up. It won't be easy in this market to be honest... Either that or one of you has to buy the other one out and get a ... (read in full...)
I'm getting mixed signals...what does he want from me?!
Q. There is this guy I like, same age but he is my teacher and soon ex teacher, he likes to stare at any chance he gets, he uses the word beautiful very often in my company while looking at me. I run into him frequently and im begining to think he is ...
A. 8 August 2008: I'm going to ignore the fact he's a teacher as he's the same age as you. I'm just go to assume he's a bit unprofessional and move on.
Well he is clearly giving out signs that he likes you so you have to be strong with him.
If he has a girlfri... (read in full...)
I'm feeling insecure about my boyfriend - please advise!
Q. Hi, I've a question on cheating by text. I am with someone 10 years. Up till now the relationship has been good. He goes away a lot for international sports competitions. At the last one (June) he mentioned he gave advice to a fellow sportsper...
A. 8 August 2008: It may be all innocent but he needs to take your feelings into account.
Talk to him and tell him you are feeling neglected as he's talking to her so much. Don't accuse him of anything or get annoyed, just tell him that you are feeling a bit hurt... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid my boyfriend will break his promise - help!
Q. My boyfriend took cocaine infront of me and i can't get over it. Me and my boyfriend have been together over 8 months now and we have spent almost everyday together, we never really argue and were like best friends. One weekend we was at his...
A. 8 August 2008: Well you didn't say to him. "Don't do it, I really don't want you to." You got in a mood and said "Do what you want!" So he did.
Yes he is really stupid for taking drugs that hard, that young but you have been clear with him this time... you've s... (read in full...)
How can I convince her that I am a nice guy?!
Q. Hey I am a 15 year old male and I am feeling really low because i really like this girl but she will not go out with me, because i have ony had 2 other girlfriends. What can i do to make her see that im a nice guy even though i have not had m...
A. 8 August 2008: If she is that shallow then it's not worth you going out with her - she'll only dump you next week because you wore the wrong colour t-shirt.
I think you have to just give her up. Think about how stupid she is for not wanting you and try to move ... (read in full...)
We cuddle up next to each other on her sofa in our underwear under the blanket, whilst her fiance's in the room, he doesn't seem to mind.
Q. Right here's the thing... Im a girl and im in love with my best friend whose also a girl, shes engaged to a guy and they are very happy together, been together for more than 5 years. I met her at college and about 5 months down the line i started ...
A. 8 August 2008: You need to tell her that you are taking time away from her and it's not her fault but you need to do it.
She may still just be being friends with you.
You've told her about your feelings in the past so tell her it's getting worse and you ne... (read in full...)
I hate my life, my family is poor, I broke out the windows at school, when I was drunk, told my best friend, she told the principal, now I have to pay for the windows, why did my friend tell on me?
Q. I hate my life (all the teachers hate at my school my guts) . My family is poor (we don't have a lot things). One night I got so drunk that I broke most of the windows at my school with baseball bat. I can barely remember it. When told one ...
A. 8 August 2008: I think she did it because she asked advice on here about 2 days ago about what to do and most people told her to tell on you for your own good.
I think she was scared about having someone for a friend who would get so violent.
Yes your life... (read in full...)
I care about this girl who is the girfriend of one of my friends, I find myself liking her more and more, but I am trying to annoy her so that nothing happens, is this the right thing to do?
Q. Hi. I’m not sure exactly what to do, in regards a friend. Although I think that I originally made a mistake when I decided to be friends with her and nothing more, I don’t fancy this girl. But I do find myself really caring about her. Nothing ...
A. 8 August 2008: Being horrible to her just so you feel better about "caring about her" is the most stupid thing I've ever heard. Have you been getting advice on how to treat girls from an 8 year old?
Why are you being an idiot?
Why can't you accept your feel... (read in full...)
We agreed to an open relationship, now I have changed my mind, not in love, but I care about him and want him to understand my feelings, how can I get him to listen to me?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about 7 months now. We agreed to an open relationship. He still sees his ex-wife also. To begin with I was ok with all of this. Now, it bothers me. He talks to me about what they do and tells me where they go but ...
A. 8 August 2008: Well he's being honest with you, and not with her. That has to count for something.
However, the fact he's stringing his ex wife along, and the fact he never listens to you tells me you might want to move away from him anyway as he sounds like a j... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend, but he does not want to work, or go to school, he plays xbox 360 all day long, I am 18, he is 20, what can I say to motivate him to do something with his life?
Q. well im 18 and i have a bf thats 20.I love him alot but the thing is that he doesnt work and doesnt wanna go to school or like basically do anything..All he does is play on xbox 360 the whole day.. 1.How should I tell him to do something with h...
A. 8 August 2008: Tell him that you want to be with a man who is going somewhere in life and that is not him. Tell him you love him but need to move on up and find a real man with a job and some prospects. Tell him you wish that could be him.
Then leave.
If h... (read in full...)
All the answers for "I don't know what to do when I'm on top".... Well they're not working for me! Help!
Q. Okay, I know there's loads of questions from girls out there asking "I don't know what to do when I'm on top", and theoretically the answers are pretty good. But they don't seem to be working for me. My boyfriend doesn't really mind, but he still ...
A. 8 August 2008: Why can't you talk to him about this? If you are too scared to say "show me how you want me to move" then you have to ask yourself why you are having sex with this guy.
Either that or when he starts to sway tell him to hold still. Tell him you ... (read in full...)
I was going to visit my love and he said "I'm not going to be there cuz I don't want to meet you". Was he joking?
Q. hi. i need some advice. there is this guy i m in luv with and he loves me too..i recently told him that i wud be visiting his town soon,and he said..i wanna tell u that i m not gonna be there...cuz i dont want to meet u... i was shocked an...
A. 8 August 2008: If he was joking then he should have made that clear when you said "yes I understand"
If I were you I would cut contact for a while and let him make it up to you. If he doesn't, then he might not love you as much as he says he does.
Go out ... (read in full...)
Is this verbal abuse or am I being too sensitive?
Q. At the risk of sounding trite, I'll post this because it's bothered me for the last week. Preface: Things are already a lil rocky with my g/f and I... My g/f was playing a game this last weekend while I was cooking dinner. She asked for m...
A. 7 August 2008: Well you did the thing that she asked you specifically not to do.
I'd have called you far worse if you did that to my game.
You are being over sensitive and the fact you put great emphasis on the fact you endangered life as we know it by possi... (read in full...)
I found out that my friend broke our school windows with a basebal bat. Do I tell or not?
Q. I have a guy friend who trust me with everything! One day when I to school, I found out that some of windows had broken with a baseball bat. Well, My friends told he hates the school and he did it. I don't know what to do. Tell the school and do the ...
A. 7 August 2008: I wouldn't tell on your friend but I would let him know that you think smashing things with a Baseball bat is NOT COOL.
In fact stop seeing him for a while and tell him that you don't want to be too close to him in case you piss him off and he c... (read in full...)
Shouldn't sex be a bigger deal to me?
Q. Not sure if this is worth worrying about but any comments will be apreciated thanks. I lost my virginity about a week ago, it felt like nothing special, i had been with my boyfriend about 3months and it just happened spare of the moment but i do ...
A. 7 August 2008: It's more about the romance of first love than the actual sex, that's why people go on about it so much.
In reality, teenage sex is usually bad for girls. It does get better but it's still a lot about the foreplay and things.
I didn't have an o... (read in full...)
This clearly isn't infectious epididymitis, but what else could have caused it?
Q. hi I posted here a few days ago with symptoms of very acute left testicle pain so I went along to my GP. He tested my urine sample which was fine and then examined both of my testes for lumps etc. The only one noticeable thing was a slightly...
A. 7 August 2008: I'm not a doctor and I don't have testicles so I can't really suggest anything.
If it still hasn't gone away then go back to the doc, as he can run more tests.
Docs are not big on giving out anti-biotics any more. They used to dose them out li... (read in full...)
Do I fancy him or am I just flattered that he likes me?
Q. i have a problem my friend told me a guy i used to have a crush on liked me and was going to ask me out but he hasn't asked me out yet and i'm not sure if i like him again or if i think i like him again just because he likes me now i'm confused...
A. 7 August 2008: No it's a jelly baby joke! If you don't know what a certain flavour is then you have to choice but to suck it and find out. You may like it you may not... that's pretty much what I'm telling you to do.
Go out with the guy and find out if you like... (read in full...)
What distinguishes a friend from a girlfriend?
Q. I would like to know what precisely distinguishes a friend from a girlfriend. They seem to be two defined points in a relationship but it’s hard knowing where one begins and one ends. Me and my best friend seem to be happy somewhere between the two,...
A. 7 August 2008: Do you share bodily fluids?
That's usually my definition.
If there is no snogging or sex then you just have a really close connection but you are more like brother and sister.
Be careful because if she decides to go off and have sex with so... (read in full...)
We cuddle up next to each other on her sofa in our underwear under the blanket, whilst her fiance's in the room, he doesn't seem to mind.
Q. Right here's the thing... Im a girl and im in love with my best friend whose also a girl, shes engaged to a guy and they are very happy together, been together for more than 5 years. I met her at college and about 5 months down the line i started ...
A. 7 August 2008: Be very careful about getting closer to this girl.
They may want to have a threesome and you would get to have sex with her, but it will be her and her boyfriend who cuddle up afterwards.
If I were you I would tell her that you are going to get... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has been away for a month and a half, I want to masturbate and look at porn. Is that cheating?
Q. My girlfriend has gone away and i miss her loads. We have a very active sex life and she will be away for a month and a half. I have thought about masturbating but i'm not sure if its okay to or not. Also, if i do and i use porn to help, is that ...
A. 7 August 2008: Masturbation is not cheating, but I would be unhappy if my hubbie looked at porn. Haven't you got any pictures of her?
I've no doubt you've seen her naked to find a picture of her and remember what you have seen, and imagine what you'd like to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of ten months, likes to be with his friends more than me, when we get together he makes me cry or gets me mad, I am thinking of dumping him, would you?
Q. SO I HAVE A BOYFRIEND WHO IS INTO HIS HOMIES MORE THEN ME I MEAN LIKE WE HARLY TALK AND WHEN WE DO HE AKES ME CRY OR GETS E MAD WE BEEN TOGETHER FOR ABOUT 10 MONTHS and I DONT EVEN GET TO SEE HIM BUT LIKE I SAID HE ALWAYS ENDS UP GETTING ME MAD ...
A. 7 August 2008: Dump him and STOP SHOUTING!!!!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I will be attending a local community college, my boyfriend is going away to school next year, he wants me to not attend parties, will he do the same, should I be worried, what should we do?
Q. I am going to a local community college this year and I have a boyfriend who is a senior in high school. Next year he is planning to go away. I have recently been getting very worried that he is gonna go away and want to party all the time. I am ...
A. 7 August 2008: When my long distance Ex at uni started telling me to stop going out so I could sit in my room alone talking to him all night I knew it was time for us to split up.
No man should dictate what you can and can't do. They can make you aware of their... (read in full...)
What can I do to please my BF also during my period? We're getting bored of foreplay.
Q. basically, ive been on my period for 2 (nearly 3) months and i've not been able to please my partner the way id like to. we're getting bored of foreplay and the doctor said he cant do anything about it....anyone got any advice? [Moderator's note...
A. 7 August 2008: Are you on a progesterone pill?
That made my period go on forever. Go and see a different doctor as there is obviously something wrong.
In answer to your original question, we have found sex in the shower is always an option during periods a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stole money from my parents' house. I'm not sure what to do.
Q. I have found out my b/f has stole a lot of money from my parents house and lied to me about it. My parents know and wont let him in the house ever and are debating to call the police! I love him but I cant trust him....not sure what to do. Can ...
A. 7 August 2008: You let your parents call the police. He has to learn that theft is not on.
As for you, you split up with him. How disrespectful does this boy have to be to you for you to see that? If he's willing to steal money from your parents what is he willi... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him?
Q. I really need people's advice on this. I am 21 and have been with my bf for 3 years, we have broken up before twice both times because i wanted to. My bf is loving, caring, always puts me first, but is quiet and doesnt socialise much unless its with ...
A. 6 August 2008: Cool, glad it worked out and I hope he sees it's the right thing too. It might take him a bit but I am sure he will realise.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He didn't believe me when I told him "no". How can I trust him again?
Q. I split up with my ex about 3 months ago but he wont 'give up on me' he insists that it would still work and that i should give him another chance. he is nice enough and i kind of believe him when he tells me he loves me. but i cant trust him. i t...
A. 6 August 2008: He asked why you hated him because he's still trying to manipulate you into replying and pitying him. It's another trick.
I agree with the person below that you need to tell someone that he won't leave you alone. Now he knows you are getting ... (read in full...)
My man has erctile dysfunction, any tips?
Q. My man is 49 he can not stay hard for more than a minute...
A. 5 August 2008: It could be a symptom of an illness, so he should go and get some blood tests done at the doctor. If he's fit and healthy and not having any other stress problems then it may just be he's getting older and needs a little bit of help from the ... (read in full...)
We have been breaking up and making up for four years but I have had enough..help!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been dating my boyfriend for four years. We have had a lot of trust issues in the past. The other day i hung out with an old guy friend of mine, i got really drunk. Apparently while intoxicated i spoke to my boyfriend on the...
A. 5 August 2008: Right so you've told him it was over, he's just thinking it's part of the pattern and he'll call you next week.
All you do is just not answer his calls or texts. Or if you do then remain civil but tell him that no you can't meet him or anything... (read in full...)
What are the possibilties of pregnancy when pills have been missed?
Q. I am not very clear on what to do when you miss a Pill. I am currently on the 1st week of the Pill which followed on from my 'break'. I missed a pill completely on Day 2 and I did not take that missed pill with the normal pill the day after. The ...
A. 4 August 2008: Read the leaflet tht came with your pills. They have a little section that says "what to do if you miss a pill"
If in doubt use a condom for a few days as well.
If you are bad at remembering to take pills then why not try the implant. It exac... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend got raped by her current boyfriend. She maybe pregnant. WHat can I do to help her?
Q. This is basically an update from my previous questions but I just need help. So my ex and I broke up and were going through a very rough time and during that time..she was....uhm...kinda weird to say..but yeah she was raped..by her current boyfrien...
A. 4 August 2008: That is great news!
Now you can get her to leave the bastard and live happily ever after.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is she being too flirty with my hubby?
Q. I found an e-mail from my husband's receptionist saying 'Could you sign these reports or you won't get any chocolate cake'. I just found this to be very flirty. Would you agree or do you think I'm being paranoid?...
A. 4 August 2008: I'll answer this question if you send ME some chocolate cake!
She's a receptionist, it's her job to order the bosses about and get them to do things even though she does not have the rank to issue orders.
She has to use cake and yes possibly... (read in full...)
My wife is infertile so I decided to divorce, as children are important to me. Your comments?
Q. I am 31 yrs old and married some six years back. We did not have a child due to the infertility problem from my wife side. I am an assistant professor. I am the only kid for my family. I want to have kids.Therefore I decided to divorce. I need your ...
A. 4 August 2008: IVF? Surrogacy? Adoption?
Just because your wife cannot physically give birth does not stop her from being a wonderful mother.
We do not live in the 19th century. There are options through science.
Don't rush into abandoning the woman you... (read in full...)
Nice guys always finish last?
Q. Hi all, This question has been tearing me apart time and time again. Please bear with me, as this will be a long post. Is it true that, no women will ever want to be with a nice guy? I don't consider myself 100% nice, I am not overly r...
A. 4 August 2008: Where are you reading this crap?!?!?
Women like confidence. They want a guy who can stand up for himself so they know he can stand up for them. Jerk guys have confidence in bucket loads which is why they attract women. A girl doesn't want someone ... (read in full...)
This guy is pressuring me to take my clothes off....what do I do??
Q. Ive been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks now and he keeps trying to pressure me into taking my clothes off. I keep saying no because Im not comfortable with that yet as its too soon. But I do like him. Anyway, today he said something to me ...
A. 4 August 2008: Excellent! Glad we could help, and I'm glad you are dumping him. We get so sick of telling people that they need to dump their boyfriend and then they reply saying "Oh but I love him so I'll just talk to him and hope he changes."
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
I'm straight but attracted to gay men...I don't know what to do
Q. Hi i'm only 16 and I'm straight,but the thing is i'm extremely attracted to gay men.I don't just mean there attitudes.The biggest turn on for me is watching two guys going at it,I feel like such a freak!I tried to tell my friend she said it was ...
A. 4 August 2008: You said it was a turn on "to watch 2 guys going at it"... I assumed you were looking at porn rather than peeping through windows at night haha.
No harm done.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I am worried about a piercing I had done, does anyone know whether what I did is alright, please advise?
Q. hi i had a auricle piercing its about an inch up from my lobe so quite low. i got it pierced at a professional tatoo, hairdressing and piercing place but pierced it with a piercing gun and have got a stud in it. i was wondering weather it shoul...
A. 4 August 2008: Yep, the fact it was a hairdressers really makes me think it was staffed by people who don't know what they are doing.
You should have
A) done your research, and found out that if you are going through cartilage, you need to use a needle
B) G... (read in full...)
I am having a difficult time choosing between two men, I love, how do I make up my mind?
Q. i have to choose between two men who i love but i am unsure which one to choose can anyone help with this ?...
A. 4 August 2008: Pick the first one.
You don't give any information so no, we can't really help other than saying "follow your heart!!! Pick the one with most money who beats you the least often."
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I stopped to ask my soon to be ex-husband, about divorce papers, he was with a woman and was verbally abusive to me, I think he feels I care, I don't, and I feel stupid, how do I feel better about this?
Q. i feel so stupid now because yesterday i saw my soon to be ex husband, he was verbally abusive, cruel and sometimes physically abusive towards me and the children (all 3 dislike him and dont see him, they are all teenagers) i had not seen him since ...
A. 4 August 2008: Well you did antagonise him.
Rather than saying "Hi, just wondering, have you signed the divorce papers yet? Oh and in case you wanted to know, Jodie is pregnant." you said it by way of a put down, both about his girlfriend and his fatherin... (read in full...)
I do not like alcohol, she drinks, and it bothers me, I want her to stop, if she doesn't, should that be the end of our relationship?
Q. So I am in a great relationship right now and have been for almost 7 months now. We get along great and love each other dearly, and it is very happy relationship. However, we recently came to a rather large bump in the road, and I don't think it is ...
A. 4 August 2008: Well I can see both sides.
So it really is up to you. You can stay with her and try and hope she stops drinking and then does not resent you for stopping her having fun and fitting in.
Or you can split up.
I can't tell you which way to go... (read in full...)
How can I win back someone who is now married to some else?
Q. How can I win back someone who is now married to some else?...
A. 4 August 2008: You can't. You had all the time to do that before they got married. Now she has made a vow.
You'll just have to wait for them to divorce and then you can try again.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend got raped by her current boyfriend. She maybe pregnant. WHat can I do to help her?
Q. This is basically an update from my previous questions but I just need help. So my ex and I broke up and were going through a very rough time and during that time..she was....uhm...kinda weird to say..but yeah she was raped..by her current boyfrien...
A. 3 August 2008: You need to get your friend to go to the police.
You can be a witness about how she came to you the next day.
I know that you want to go round and smash his face in and yes he probably deserves that, but if you go to the police then they will a... (read in full...)
This guy is pressuring me to take my clothes off....what do I do??
Q. Ive been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks now and he keeps trying to pressure me into taking my clothes off. I keep saying no because Im not comfortable with that yet as its too soon. But I do like him. Anyway, today he said something to me ...
A. 3 August 2008: "Oh I'm so sorry, it'll never happen again, I feel so bad..."
Then it happens the next day.
He's manipulating you. He's trying nagging, he's tried paying you compliments he's tried guilt. He knows he just has to give you puppy eyes and you'll ... (read in full...)
I'm straight but attracted to gay men...I don't know what to do
Q. Hi i'm only 16 and I'm straight,but the thing is i'm extremely attracted to gay men.I don't just mean there attitudes.The biggest turn on for me is watching two guys going at it,I feel like such a freak!I tried to tell my friend she said it was ...
A. 3 August 2008: This is perfectly normal.
Why would you want to look at porn with some girl in it if you are not gay? Lots of women like gay porn, in the same way lots of men like lesbian porn.
Not a good idea to talk to your mum about it as she probably doe... (read in full...)
Do I fancy him or am I just flattered that he likes me?
Q. i have a problem my friend told me a guy i used to have a crush on liked me and was going to ask me out but he hasn't asked me out yet and i'm not sure if i like him again or if i think i like him again just because he likes me now i'm confused...
A. 1 August 2008: No one can tell you how you feel sweetie.
Suck it and see!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He didn't believe me when I told him "no". How can I trust him again?
Q. I split up with my ex about 3 months ago but he wont 'give up on me' he insists that it would still work and that i should give him another chance. he is nice enough and i kind of believe him when he tells me he loves me. but i cant trust him. i t...
A. 29 July 2008: The fact that he tried to have sex with you and wouldn't listen when you said no, and now the fact that you've split up with him and he won't listen and respect that.... These should be setting off warning bells in your head.
I don't think yo... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him?
Q. I really need people's advice on this. I am 21 and have been with my bf for 3 years, we have broken up before twice both times because i wanted to. My bf is loving, caring, always puts me first, but is quiet and doesnt socialise much unless its with ...
A. 18 July 2008: He may be a wonderful quiet guy, and yes you were lucky to have found him, but between the ages of 19 and 21 you've grown and changed.
It may just be time for you to move on.
There could be some quiet girl who would love him completely and w... (read in full...)
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