Is my friend spiking my drinks and manipulating me?
Q. Hey, I Had this friend that I could really relate to, even though I was in denial about that. We went outto China White and other beautiful clubs... We fell out at as I felt she was always jealous of me and allowed her friends that fancied...
A. 13 August 2008: What are you on about?
All I was saying that was drink spiking is very common so it could have been anyone, not just your friend.
Are you saying you have CCTV evidence of what she did? If so why are you here asking about it?
I think it's cl... (read in full...)
What are the signs of cheating?
Q. How do you know your boyfriend is cheating on me? and Why does my boyfriend text other girls when he is around me?...
A. 13 August 2008: Smile and take it as a compliment.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Was it an affair or a case of sexual harassment?
Q. Was it an affair or a case of sexual harassment? My privious post: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-was-working-as-a-nanny-but-was.html Here’s my story: I was interviewed and hired by the wife. I never met the husband before I started wo...
A. 13 August 2008: It sounds like it's just a game to them but since you were never touched and there was nothing more made than gentle jokes.... it wasn't sexual harassment, just weird.
Since there was no contact / kissing / sex, it was not an affair either. ... (read in full...)
I have never even kissed a girl, let alone lost my virginity ~ and I am 28!
Q. VIRGIN AT AGE 28! I NEED ADVICE! Hi, I am a 28 year old male VIRGIN. I have never had sexual intercourse with the opposite sex; no girlfriends or sexual relationships. I dare not tell anybody of my personal situation- the humiliation and r...
A. 12 August 2008: Well all I can say is that it won't happen if you sit and type about it on the internet.
Go out with some mates and get drunk and talk to girls. Flirt and get closer and I am sure you will find someone who will snog your face off before the nigh... (read in full...)
He's 29 year old, non committed guy, who wants to stay with mum and dad!
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years and its a nightmare, we love eachother but argue alot. Since I have known him he has never tried to talk about a future with me, we have been on holiday twice together. I am 25 still live at home...
A. 12 August 2008: You say you don't know why he stays with you.... It's fairly obvious, he knows he can get what he wants from you without ever having to give up anything and if you try and change he knows he can just do you down till you go away.
I'm sorry sw... (read in full...)
I'm only still with him as it's impractical to leave. What can I do?
Q. i have been in a relationship for 15 yr. we have two kids' and about 2 yr ago he was injured on a job and was on workmans comp., well that case ended and then he opened up a new case for total disability or more money? anyway he has not been working ...
A. 11 August 2008: Tell him you want to split up.
But tell him you know how impractical it is to kick him out so you want to remain friends and housemates for now.
If he knows he is driving you away then he might start putting in some effort to keep you.
If ... (read in full...)
Am I allowed to masterbate, even when I have a boyfriend?
Q. I feel horny all the time but i have a boyfriend am i supposed to use him for my sexual pleasure? Or do people in relationships masterbate too? Im only 15 btw...
A. 11 August 2008: You can do what ever you like in a relationship.
Better to masturbate at home than to do stuff with your boyfriend, and go too far and end up pregnant.
Do stuff with your boyfriend but keep it limited. You know what you are ready for and wh... (read in full...)
How do I tell them this job is not for me?
Q. Hey everyone I need your help. I want to know what is the best way to quit a job. I just started a new job 3 weeks ago and iv realised that it is totally wrong for me. I like the people and the work but the travel, something I thought i would enjoy ...
A. 11 August 2008: I would start mentioning that you are not enjoying the travel. Your co-workers may have tips or advice to make it easier on you.
Once you have mentioned the fact you are not happy, if you still can't take it after another week or so then just go ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is in rahab, but I want to see her - would it be ok?
Q. I have a question concerning my current Girlfriend. She got caught smoking a reafer on Thursday or Friday. I was extremely disappointed in her cause she was off drugs for over a year now. And I'm totally peeved at her older brother cause he ...
A. 11 August 2008: Call her parents and ask them if they think it would be ok.
It shows respect and that you care about her if you are asking their permission and advice. They are more likely to say yes if they know that you are a nice guy and a good influenc... (read in full...)
How do you deep throat without wanting to gag?
Q. My guy wants to try doing things that are more sexual. I have given him oral before but he wants me to start deep throating it. I tried it and its really hard because I feel like I am going to gag. Does any one have any tips on how to please him ...
A. 11 August 2008: I am sure some of the other aunts will offer advice on technique so I will say this:
If you don't like it then don't feel you have to learn. Deep throat is something I don't want to do as I'd end up vomiting over my guy and that is not sexy.
... (read in full...)
My husband adopted my daughter, now his son wants to date her.....
Q. I married my husband in 2004, he adopted my daughter in 2005 as his own; she was 14. This year my husband's ex-wife kicked their 17 year old son out of the house in March and he is now living with us. My daughter and his son want to dat...
A. 11 August 2008: Since they are 14 and 17 and at the moment theirs is an illicit excited love that really is TRULUV4EVA, of course they want to get married.
In 6 months they will probably both be in love with someone else instead and wanting to marry them.
... (read in full...)
He has a bad reputation but I like him, what can I do so that he feels the same?
Q. okay well i'm fourteen and i really like a guy named Andrew but he has a rep. he has gone out with alot of girls, including my bestfriend. but i still lik him lots. i dont know why. and he said he liked me, but then he changed his mind. right before ...
A. 11 August 2008: Awesome!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What do I do about Girls?
Q. I would consider myself a typically nice guy. Nice, defined as I like doing things for others, but I don't let them tread all over me either. I also would not consider my self confidence low. And yet still, I have the hardest time getting dates. ...
A. 11 August 2008: Well you don't tell us how you are trying to get dates so we can't tell you what you are doing wrong.
Do you have any female friends? Ask them to give a brutally honest critique of what you are doing wrong. Tell them how you've asked girls ou... (read in full...)
16 years old, female, confused, desperately seeking advice from anyone, anywhere.
Q. I've had this 'thing' with this one guy for about 3 years now when I first met him. I didn't know who he was, didn't know his age, none of that mattered but I was so crazy about him, that I still am. I kept a journal for 4 years now and 3 years I've ...
A. 11 August 2008: Well it's kind of romantic that you had this thing with him and it was relaxed and private and you obviously don't regret it.
But what is going to be more romantic now....
Letting him go and keeping the secret and having happy memories?
or
T... (read in full...)
Is this normal for a man to be so strict with his girl sometimes but so loving and caring other times?
Q. My boyfriend tends to be kinda strict in our relarionship. If I do something immature or say something that is immature and dont act my age which is 21 he kinda gets upset with me and asks me why I said that or why I did that. The thing is he is 21 ...
A. 11 August 2008: My hubbie had this problem with lots of his girlfriends. They'd get annoyed when he was silly in public and made him think that it was "wrong" for him to act like that at his age.
Then he met me and now we run round the supermarket laughing... (read in full...)
What are the signs of cheating?
Q. How do you know your boyfriend is cheating on me? and Why does my boyfriend text other girls when he is around me?...
A. 11 August 2008: There are no real "signs" of cheating but if he is texting other girls then tell him it's upsetting you and you want him to stop it.
If he refuses then you just have to dump him and move on as he's not worth the hassle.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is my friend spiking my drinks and manipulating me?
Q. Hey, I Had this friend that I could really relate to, even though I was in denial about that. We went outto China White and other beautiful clubs... We fell out at as I felt she was always jealous of me and allowed her friends that fancied...
A. 11 August 2008: It's a very strange conspiracy against you. She'd have had to go to a LOT of trouble to get everyone to play along just to get you unsure whether it was her or not.
If I was going to that much trouble I'd want seriously hurtful results, not some... (read in full...)
My husband adopted my daughter, now his son wants to date her.....
Q. I married my husband in 2004, he adopted my daughter in 2005 as his own; she was 14. This year my husband's ex-wife kicked their 17 year old son out of the house in March and he is now living with us. My daughter and his son want to dat...
A. 11 August 2008: Well you may not be able to stop them from seeing eachother but you can at least set some ground rules.
Sit them down and tell them they can go out and date but cannot be alone together in your house. It's your roof so your rules and I'm sure you... (read in full...)
Is it over before it's started?
Q. I've been with my husband for 2 years (but only married for about 6 weeks) - we got married mainly for practical reasons, he's in the forces and lives abroad and the only way i could live with him was to marry him. Before the wedding I was 100% sure ...
A. 11 August 2008: Yours is a common problem as the British army does seem to put the pressure on for marriage.
However, if you were ready to move in with him then surely you must have been over the part when you would fall for someone else.
Talk to your husband ... (read in full...)
He told me people I stuff my bra when I asked him not to!
Q. My boyfriend told his friends that I stuff my bra when I said to not. He does feel pretty bad and told me right away. But I'm still mad at him. Does he have any respect for me? My friends think I should break up with him. Any ideas...
A. 11 August 2008: He asked 2 questions on here about it.... I'm wondering if this is a string of bra-stuffer fetishist's questions now.
Read through the previous questions to see his reasons. He claims he wanted advice from his friends on your strange bra ... (read in full...)
I have said I wish him well because to me this must totally be on the rebound. Has anyone been through the same?
Q. Can my ex have really got over our split in only 2 months after being together for 5 years? My ex-partner and I were together for almost 5 years before I ended things in February 2007. He then kept texting me and desperately wanted us to try...
A. 11 August 2008: When I split with my my ex after a long drawn out torturous end, I felt awful for hurting him. But any attempts to previously fix things had generally ended up with him emotionally doing me down till I cried and agreed to try again.
After a week o... (read in full...)
Should I ask her to wait for the wedding?
Q. So My fiance is probably pregnant as you probably heard in the last question, sorry if i bug you guys. But she says that if shes pregnant she wants to get married before we have the baby. I would marry her tommorow if i could, but id rathernot have ...
A. 10 August 2008: Why not skip on down to the registry office and have a quiet wedding with just parents / best friends.
Then after the baby is born you can have a huge reception / blessing on your first anniversary.
Talk to her and find out what she really ... (read in full...)
Will I not enjoy it because they're big?!
Q. Hiya everyone I know this is a really random question but i would like some advice please. I have pretty big breast (34ff), and i have heard someone that the bigger they are the less feeling you will have due to nerves or something. I wa...
A. 10 August 2008: Not true at all.
Having big boobs is great. And most of the nerves are in the nipple anyway so it won't affect your enjoyment one bit.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is it worth finishing a degree?!
Q. Not a relationship question sorry but a life decision question. Is it worth completing a degree? Does having one actually change people's lives that much? Just in a quandry about whether to finish it. Thanks...
A. 10 August 2008: When you graduate uni then no, having a degree doesn't seem to make a difference a lot of the time.
But in 5 years time then you'll be applying for jobs who say they want a university degree and if you don't have it then it's too late.
If you'... (read in full...)
I'm losing touch with reality, help me!
Q. I'm 16, but for some reason I always feel like I've lost touch with reality, or like I'm in a dream? Does anyone think this is because I've been having sleeping problems for about a month or so, but just recently, I just feel like nothing is real ...
A. 10 August 2008: It's probably linked to the sleep. I stayed awake for 3 days straight once when finishing my degree. The carpet was moving like water on a lake and I was really worried I was going to trip over it or fall through it.
Try and give yourself a sleep ... (read in full...)
I need help to cope with my confusing friend!
Q. My friends too confusing. Ive been good friends with my friend for around three years. Recently we have got loads closer and was seeing eachother/phoning/texting each other loads. There wasn't a day go by without half a dozen texts from her or a 2 h...
A. 10 August 2008: Well why do you assume it is something you did? Her mum may have died or something. Not everything in this girls life has to revolve around you.
If she is upset, and she obviously is, then as her friend surely you would want to be there for her ... (read in full...)
Me and my fiance are both bisexual... and afraid of our parents' reaction...
Q. Me and my fiance are both bisexual and have an extremely well working relationship, we love each other to no bounds and the sex is absolutely amazing. We are both extremely loyal and would never dream of cheating on each other. But the question is h...
A. 10 August 2008: I agree with anneon.
You are in a relationship they approve of so why complicate things.
I don't tell my parents about lots of things that they wouldn't approve of.
There is an old saying that What they Don't Know, Can't Hurt Them.
In t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is away on holiday for 2 weeks and I'm finding it hard to cope with the distance!
Q. my girlfriend has gone on holiday recently and shes gone for 2 weeks but shes only been gone for 4 days and i am finding it hard to cope i dont know what to do does any one have any suggestions? ...
A. 10 August 2008: Go out with your friends, read a book, play a computer game, get more hours at work.
It's only 2 weeks. Do something you don't normally get time to do.
I'm not seeing my husband till September 21st and you just have to get on with it and keep... (read in full...)
If you love somebody - should you let them know?!
Q. Hello Everyone, I'm just after a general piece of advice. If you love somebody, should you let them know. Even if It could result in lost friendships and other complications? Thanks in advance, Best Wishes....
A. 9 August 2008: If you love someone you should do what you think will make them happiest, not just what you want to do.
If by telling them it will cause them anguish then no, do not tell them.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is having pain after sex - he won't see a doctor!
Q. My boyfriend who just turned 40 recently has been complaining about a problem he is having during sex. When he starts to cum, instead of enjoying it, he says it hurts more then anything....like the during/after effect. He later has really bad ...
A. 9 August 2008: Well MAKE him see a doctor.
Start talking about life insurance policies and wills to him. Talk about how you are worried about whether you would see the house after he is gone and how he would feel about you moving on after he is gone.
Tell hi... (read in full...)
Quick question on period masturbation
Q. Can I use my vibrator during my period?...
A. 9 August 2008: Yep, it'll just be a little messier than usual.
You could have sex on your period if you wanted but most people find the smell and the fact there is blood everywhere is a bit off putting.
Have fun!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is disrespecting me--he says I'm being unreasonable. Help?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year. He cheated on me last winter with his ex girlfriend which i have never fully got over. He still wants to meet up with her(just to chat as friends) and often talks to girls in an ...
A. 9 August 2008: Yep he doesn't give a crap about you. But then you forgave him over cheating so he knows you are probably going to forgive him for everything else.
He's going to tell you it's your fault because then he can continue to get away with it.
Dump hi... (read in full...)
Online Banking Fraud - has this happened to anyone else?
Q. Hi All I am seeking good advice regarding online banking fraud, I was unfortunate to be caught in this in June this yr by responding to an email ( I know!) anyway the bank have investigated they knew right away whare the money had went via tel...
A. 9 August 2008: Most banks do say they will refund Identity Fraud so if you have been hit and RBS don't offer any help then offer to take your business elsewhere. Their profits are in free fall so they might respond to that.
The thing is that your details ... (read in full...)
Need Birth Control Solutions--Please help!
Q. My boyfriend finds it hard to use condoms because most of the time he loses his erection just after he puts one on. Because of this we tried me going the pill. However, four months ago while on the pill, I became pregnant and had a miscarriage at...
A. 9 August 2008: Well, you've only got 3 options really when it comes to contraception...
hormones - which you can't have
barriers - like condoms or diaphragms
Or the surgical method - vasectomy etc
Withdrawal and timing it around your cycle have been u... (read in full...)
Wonderful but noncomittal boyfriend - what should I do?
Q. I'm at a loss of what to do now, as my heart is in it. I've been dating this guy for since the beg. of january, and we are still not in a committed relationship. I know he's not dating other people, and currently, neither am I. We have awesome ...
A. 8 August 2008: Well you have to do something or you'll stay unhappy about it.
I think you need to show him exactly how unhappy this is making you. Tell him you need some kind of assurance that you aren't wasting your time. Tell him that you can't hang around h... (read in full...)
I care about this girl who is the girfriend of one of my friends, I find myself liking her more and more, but I am trying to annoy her so that nothing happens, is this the right thing to do?
Q. Hi. I’m not sure exactly what to do, in regards a friend. Although I think that I originally made a mistake when I decided to be friends with her and nothing more, I don’t fancy this girl. But I do find myself really caring about her. Nothing ...
A. 8 August 2008: I really don't think you are giving her enough credit. She really can't expect you to be there forever, she's not your wife. Tell her now that you are going to move so she can get used the idea. She may be upset but she will probably be happy for ... (read in full...)
Sex seems to be causing trouble since our pregnancy scare....
Q. Me and my boyfriend, have sex quite alot, and its great! we had this one experiance that we thought i wos pregenent. it wos quite a scare and i cried to him, and he did the same back, not becos of the situation buh becos it scared us. he said he ...
A. 8 August 2008: Well the obvious answer is not to have sex, or only do it rarely. If it's causing stress then it can't really be worth it, can it?
You were lucky not to get pregnant and the thing is that you have to take that risk every time you have sex. Con... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated, I forgave him, I didn't cheat but he's split up with me!
Q. A little while ago i asked for help because my boyfriend got another girl pregnant and didnt want to tell him that we were together well he did tell the girl but now we are arguing he found some messages that i have been writing to my ex but they ...
A. 8 August 2008: Well just because you forgave him for going off and cheating doesn't mean he owes you anything.
He's just showing his true colours by being horrible. But then he already cheated on you by having unprotected sex.
I think you are better off witho... (read in full...)
My trust in my long-distance girlfriend is fading away. What can I do?
Q. well ive been in a long distance relationship for 7 months and we hae been friends for 3 years but we see each other at least once every 2 weeks. she never showed any sign of cheating on me if i texted she would always text back always flashed my ...
A. 8 August 2008: Could the reason she is acting strangely be something to do with the ATTEMPTED RAPE that she suffered?
Give the girl a break, she has been attacked, and then oyu have accused her of cheating.
I don't know if she was cheating or not but you have... (read in full...)
My period was last Tuesday but not due until the end of the month. Could I be pregnant?
Q. i was wondering is i missed like 6 birth control pills and i had unpretected sex but i got my period on tuesday but i usually get my period at the end of the month could i be pregant?...
A. 8 August 2008: Well if you missed that many pills then your body has probably been thrown off its cycle and so your early period is probably something to do with that.
There is a chance that you could be pregnant as you had unprotected sex and weren't taking t... (read in full...)
The problem is that I spend a lot of time alone (my husband works long hours) and I just can't get this man out of my head...
Q. I am married and am really strugling with my feelings for another man. I met this man at work 4 years ago. We no longer work together and now live over 300 miles apart, so very rarely see each other. We do stay in touch though and email and call ...
A. 8 August 2008: The man in your head is not real. You've spent so much time thinking about what could be that you've filled in aspects of his personality and made him into your perfect soul mate.
I am sure he is lovely but he is really not the problem, the prob... (read in full...)
How can someone forget how they feel??
Q. I have known this girl for over a year (we are in the same college and attend the same lectures) and we became the best of friends. But then she broke with her bf and she was completely broken down. I tried to help her out and we started spen...
A. 8 August 2008: She is angry because she trusted you to be a neutral friend and now she has found out you were lusting after her for most of the time you were together.
She is avoiding you so you can get over her. She does not want you to forget your feelings... (read in full...)
I care about this girl who is the girfriend of one of my friends, I find myself liking her more and more, but I am trying to annoy her so that nothing happens, is this the right thing to do?
Q. Hi. I’m not sure exactly what to do, in regards a friend. Although I think that I originally made a mistake when I decided to be friends with her and nothing more, I don’t fancy this girl. But I do find myself really caring about her. Nothing ...
A. 8 August 2008: Being horrible to her just so you feel better about "caring about her" is the most stupid thing I've ever heard. Have you been getting advice on how to treat girls from an 8 year old?
Why are you being an idiot?
Why can't you accept your feel... (read in full...)
He has a bad reputation but I like him, what can I do so that he feels the same?
Q. okay well i'm fourteen and i really like a guy named Andrew but he has a rep. he has gone out with alot of girls, including my bestfriend. but i still lik him lots. i dont know why. and he said he liked me, but then he changed his mind. right before ...
A. 30 July 2008: Of course he seems perfect, he knows how to play girls and get what he wants from them.
You are going to get used by this guy but it seems he wants to use you at his convenience. You'll just have to wait till he has a time slot free and then you... (read in full...)
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