Is it wrong of me to have him come back here without knowing what the future will be?
Q. The man I have been dating for three years relocated due to his work. We discussed the job opportunity together before he accepted believing it was the best decision for him financially. We also talked about how often he would come here, which was ...
A. 19 August 2008: I think the anonymous person below has a good idea.
Talk to him and ask him how long it will be before he clears debts? Or build savings? or what ever it is he needs to work so much for.
Set a goal and also help him to look for work in your... (read in full...)
I kept a secret and he found out, now he can't trust me
Q. i have recently spilt from my husband of 4 years after i kept a secret from him and he found out.. he said that i should be able to tell him anything and that he now doesnt believe a word i say and has lost all feelings for me... i love my husband ...
A. 19 August 2008: Yeah, I would be pissed off it you made me homeless too.
That is a pretty major thing.
I think all you can do is send him a letter or an email or a text and tell him how sorry you are and explain exactly what you did and why you did it. Perh... (read in full...)
Is there a downside to taking the pill?
Q. hi, i was wondering is there any bad side effects from taking the pill? thanks xx...
A. 19 August 2008: There are lots of little side effects, you'd have to read the leaflet that comes with each one.
My first one gave my bad PMT, I just wanted to cry for a week before my period.
The second one was brilliant and stopped me getting headaches and ma... (read in full...)
I suffer from depression when I'm on my period
Q. hi, i suffer from depression when i'm on my period i should be going the doctors some time next week about it but what is there to stop it? i don't want to go on anti-depressents as i only have it when i go on my period any advice? thanks ...
A. 19 August 2008: You could go on the pill. They control your hormones and can stop your PMT.
They stopped my headaches so they might stop your depression. It depends which one you are on, you just have to keep going back and trying each one till you find your per... (read in full...)
I want to make porn movies. How can I protect myself from diseases?
Q. i am 19 years old girl and i am interested to join a porn movie making company. i like sex so much.i want to enjoy the sex with different male parterner in different style. but i do not have so much knowledge about the physical deseases generated ...
A. 19 August 2008: You just have to find a company that either uses condoms or insists on weekly sti checks so all the guys you are having sex with are guaranteed to not have anything.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do you get that spark back in a relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a few months. He recently told me that he lost that magically spark for me. He is still in love with me but, he just misses the way things used to be when we first met.Is there anyway to get that spark ...
A. 18 August 2008: Well I'll do the bad news first.... if the spark has gone after just a few months then your relationship must be pretty fragile. Most people at least manage to hit a year. Are you sure this hasn't just come to it's natural end?
Good News now and ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to have him come back here without knowing what the future will be?
Q. The man I have been dating for three years relocated due to his work. We discussed the job opportunity together before he accepted believing it was the best decision for him financially. We also talked about how often he would come here, which was ...
A. 18 August 2008: I think it is only fair that if you are asking a guy to end his career for you then he has to get just that: You.
You may be miserable with out him but is it just that you are miserable due to the situation? Rather than specifically being without ... (read in full...)
Why don't I get any joy out of sex?
Q. I find sex boring and very rarely enjoy it atall, i never feel like i'm building up to anything and often find it more painful than enjoyable. Is something wrong with me? I feel very pressured to enjoy sex as it means so much to my boyfrien...
A. 18 August 2008: Perhaps you are just asexual. You say you don't enjoy it but do you WANT to enjoy it or would you be very happy just to concentrate on all the other stuff in a relationship?
Being asexual is perfectly normal, it's just not discussed very much as ... (read in full...)
Is there any point being in a relationship with someone who never gets in touch with you?
Q. Is there any point being in a relationship with someone who never gets in touch with you? A simple question, does anyone have a simple answer?...
A. 18 August 2008: Nope.
If you have to chase them just to get a conversation then what is the point?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I no longer see a future with him. What should I do?
Q. I have been with my fiancee for almost 3 years. He is 27 I am almost 20. I love him, but no longer see a future with him. Every little thing he does gets on my nerves now. The only thing he ever wants is sex. He grabs my boobs or my butt in public, ...
A. 18 August 2008: Do what you've just said you want to do and break it off?
What are you waiting for? A letter from the Queen?
Dump him and kick him out. Next time don't let things get this bad as he obviously knows he can treat you like crap as you've been taki... (read in full...)
My mum is forcing me to work in her local pub when I'm 15!
Q. Well heres a bit about myself, im 15 and live with my mum, dad and sister in a wealthy part of wales. My life has never really been bad, i havent experienced no deaths etc, but the year 2008 is the year that ive really found myself.. i got a ...
A. 18 August 2008: Start swearing at customers and being rude and dropping glasses and going on "fag breaks" that last 40 mins.
You won't have to work there for long.
Either that or talk to one of your teachers and tell them that you are really worried about yo... (read in full...)
How can I help him get over it?
Q. My fiance is having trouble getting over the fact that 3 years ago when we broke up i had a one night stand, how can i help him get over it?...
A. 18 August 2008: I don't think you can. If you were broken up then really it is his problem. The more you talk about it the more he will think about it.
You basically need to tell him to get his head straight as it is causing your relationship problems and you ... (read in full...)
Has anybody try this before?
Q. Has anybody try this before will it really delayed my period because I have a trip on saturday I really want to go to!! Humphrey's Symptoms Of Delayed Menses #11, 32 Tablets by ClubNatural" I read couple of people use it and they said it r...
A. 18 August 2008: Never heard of it, and therefore I am suspicious.
I know you can stop periods by going on the pill so it may be along similar lines, but I'd be careful about messing with your cycle, it can have side effects and everyone is different.
Why not... (read in full...)
Will dwarfism and lack of confidence make me less appealing to boys in middle school?
Q. So, I know I have a wonderful boyfriend, but I'm going into middle school. Now, I've heard this is where, some boys actually FINALLY like girls. And we're being combined with another school. So MORE BOYS!! Yay. But I have a disease, with dwarfism, ...
A. 17 August 2008: I'm going to be harsh because there is no point everyone here being really nice about it and then you getting hurt at school.
Yes, your disease is going to put boys off you. At your age they are immature and want to fit in with the crowd, and that... (read in full...)
I kept a secret and he found out, now he can't trust me
Q. i have recently spilt from my husband of 4 years after i kept a secret from him and he found out.. he said that i should be able to tell him anything and that he now doesnt believe a word i say and has lost all feelings for me... i love my husband ...
A. 17 August 2008: If it was a major thing that is going to affect him and your life together then yes he has a right to be angry.
If it was something small then he was just looking for an excuse to blow up and get out.
Give him some time to cool down and then ar... (read in full...)
Ex has not mentioned new Guy?
Q. Hi My ex of four months has stayed in touch and we are now friends. We catch up every few weeks. However, she has a new guy but I only know this because a mutual friend told me. She hasn't mentioned it. Likewise, she hasn't asked if I have met an...
A. 17 August 2008: You may be friends but saying "So I've met this new guy - he so much better than you - I'm SO HAPPY!!!" may still hurt you.
She is trying to spare your feelings.
This new thing may not go anywhere so she is not going to risk hurting you just... (read in full...)
The condom came off inside me, no leaks, but am I at risk of pregnancy?
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex last night, (we use condoms) and when he pulled out, the condom stayed in side me. There didn't seem to be any leakage, it was all in the bototm of the condom where it should be, and I didn't appear to have any sperm ...
A. 17 August 2008: it says you are in the UK.
If so then find out which is your duty chemist:
http://www.latenightchemist.co.uk/
and go and get the morning after pill RIGHT NOW. It costs about £20 over the counter. You don't need to see a doctor or anything... (read in full...)
All I said was "why are guys I meet out of my league?" and he stopped talking. Why? Anyway, he has a girlfriend.
Q. Bottom line: There is this guy who has a girlfriend...(just figure out the rest) During this past summer I was at a summer program and had a laptop with me. The computer had msn messenger so I randomly went on it to see who I had in my friend l...
A. 17 August 2008: He sounds like a right odd ball. There is no telling what is going on in his head as it just doesn't make sense.
I think your comment has either confused him or proven that you are NOT interested.
Anyhow, any guy who tells you that you think t... (read in full...)
Unhappy in this relationship, work it out or take a break?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 2 plus yrs lived together for over a yr. The past 5 months, we've been arguing daily about pointless things. He gets so angry and defensive anytime I talk to him or ask him anything! I get frustrated and sad ...
A. 17 August 2008: It sounds like this relationship has come to an end. From the way he is acting his heart is clearly not in it any more, and you are dreaming of moving up to a better type of man.
I don't think a break would serve any purpose other than you woul... (read in full...)
I kissed a girl because I was drunk and I'm so ashamed to tell my gir;friemd, I feel awful!
Q. hey, i just cheated on my absolutely perfect girlfriend, i kissed a girl in a night-club. so guilty. i broke up with her cause i couldn`t bear to look at her trusting face. i feel like a complete scumbag. i didnt tell her what i did i said i just ...
A. 17 August 2008: I think you are feeling bad enough about the cheating so I am only going to criticise what you did next. Telling a girl "you need some space" can cause real hurt. There are lots of questions on here from tortured girls who are going over ever single ... (read in full...)
Am I a stalker?
Q. I had a 5 yr relationship with an unavailable guy which recently ended. I called him several times in 1 week,went by his work to talk to him and went over to his house but i did not threaten him. am I a stalker? After these 3 incidences in the last ...
A. 16 August 2008: As long as you left him alone once he asked you to then you are not a stalker. As long as you don't continue turning up at his house and calling him then you are not a stalker.
Imagine if you'd split up with a guy and you didn't want any contact ... (read in full...)
How can I make him realize I love him? I think we should get back together!
Q. Basically. My guy split with me, and I am still desperately in love with him. But he keeps avoiding me and I need to speak to himm. He needs to realise how desperately in love with him I am! I actually need himmm more than anythingg. Anyway I need ...
A. 16 August 2008: You don't get back with someone just because they love you. You have to like them too.
Why not write him a letter? I am sure you know where he lives so you could deliver it.
If he doesn't respond then you just have to accept that he doesn't ... (read in full...)
What if you like a barista?
Q. There is a girl who works in my local coffee shop. I have some sort acquitance with her, just saying hi by name and short chats about weather, etc. I find it odd to talk with her more at her work place, because she's quite busy... anyway, long ...
A. 16 August 2008: I disagree with Gabber, I don't think it would be creepy to be given a note. I mean if she doesn't like you and you ask her out in front of everyone then she either has to agree to go on a date with a man she doesn't really know JUST because she ... (read in full...)
My parents beat me, my fiance is the only one keeping me going. I made her parents angry and I might not see her again. What do I do?
Q. Im lost... Me and my fiance are 18 and 17, she honestly keeps me alive, im beat daily by my parents, and i cant keep going with out her. Ive made her parents rly mad at me cause i snuck over after a huge fight with my parents. I may not see her ...
A. 16 August 2008: If your dad is a big politician then tell him that if he does it again you will go to the press and show them your bruises.
Your local paper or TV station will think they've won the lottery if you say you are prepared to be interviewed and show... (read in full...)
Why do I miss her so much when she misses me so little?
Q. We broke up, and she is the love of my life. I miss her so much every day. Always i look at pictures of us together and just want this pain to end. When i asked her how she felt she said the love had faded...she said that when looking at pictures of ...
A. 16 August 2008: Oh dear, she is doing what all girls do and it is completely the wrong thing.
She's not saying "I love you" because she doesn't love you. You've split up and she's trying to help you to move on by being sure not to tell you she still loves yo... (read in full...)
Am I being irrational thinking I may have gotten my one night stand pregnant? We didn't use protection!
Q. Hi. I had a one night stand last night. We didn't use protection and now I find that I am unable to sleep because I'm worried that their may be consequences for my foolish actions. I met a woman in a club, we danced and had a great time. When...
A. 16 August 2008: You should have taken her to a chemist to buy the morning after pill.
The chances of you being a dad are slim but it is GOOD that you are this terrified by it. It means you are a guy that cares so that is always a plus.
Do 3 things.
1. Wa... (read in full...)
How should we handle her chocolate obsession?
Q. every time my mom invites her friend angela to family parties she brings hefty amounts of chocolate (crackel in proticual) and ends up scarfin down the whole supply her self. when asked for chocolate she kindly directs us to other desserts. we think ...
A. 16 August 2008: Next time you invite her just tell her to bring anything she wants "Oh and would you mind bringing some chocolate that the kids can have on top of the stuff you bring for yourself."
If she asks you what you mean then tell her that it's just bec... (read in full...)
Should I tell him that while I love him, I'm not IN love with him. He's in Iraq and I'm pregnant...
Q. My boyfriend is in Iraq. I am 5 1/2 months pregnant. We got together while we were AIT. I love him, but I have come to realize that I am not in love with him. How do I tell him that I love him, but I'm not in love with him? And should I even tell ...
A. 16 August 2008: If you haven't seen your boyfriend for ages then it is only natural to question your feelings. They may come flooding back when he does. And you are pregnant so that can affect lots of things, I've hear of women who start divorce proceedings because ... (read in full...)
I plan to relocate to be near him even though he just wants a sexual relationship for now. What do you think?
Q. I am getting a divorce because it was aweful marrage. I also reunited with a old flame from 12 years ago. he has had 3 really bad marriage and wants to take it slow with me and make sure that our kids get along his family loves me and has known me...
A. 16 August 2008: Relocate to somewhere you want to be. With great schools and job opportunities and fabulous night life.
If this guy happens to be in a place like that then great but don't go just for him, that just sounds the most stupid thing in the world.
... (read in full...)
I need advice on jealousy and suspicion!
Q. Hey Cupid, My boyfriend of 8 months has a tendency to not communicate with me for days on end after weeks of intimate behaviour where he tells me that I don't realise how much he loves me and that every other girl is inadequate. It eats me up so...
A. 16 August 2008: Most men don't do this. It sounds like he's either trying to control you, or he could just be a complete flake and be "in love" with you one minute and not the next.
What do you say when he goes on about how much he loves you? I'd be inclined... (read in full...)
Weight Issue: I want to be as good to her as I can be!
Q. Hey, I'm new here, but I have a question that has bugged me for some time. I am a younger male, and have been in a relationship for 17 months. My problem is not the relationship itself; I love my girlfriend just how she is and we get along so wel...
A. 16 August 2008: Yeah I saw a documentary on this kind of stuff and it was scary. As a "feeder" this guy was bringing home enough mcdonalds to feed a family of 5. Others were being absolutely horrible to their girlfriend and then leaving them in foods of tears ... (read in full...)
My BF who is Buddhist will be living in a hermitage in the middle of nowhere - should I join him??
Q. I just wondered if anybody had any words of 'wisdom' for me. My boyfriend of a year has just gone into retreat - he is a Buddhist. He will be living at a hermitage in the middle of nowhere for an indefinite period - a year minimum. We are still '...
A. 14 August 2008: I take it that you can see him while he's there but you'll just be long distance.
If so, then it surely won't be that bad?
What do you want to do in life? Use this time to get more qualifications, start a business, write a book.
If you ... (read in full...)
She never really had much to say and it's making me miserable!
Q. I don't know what to do about my girlfriend. We've been together just over 3 months. She's 35 and I'm 33. I'd been single about 8 months before we met. I tell her I love her whenever I feel it, buy her flowers, visit her every day and send her...
A. 14 August 2008: Sticking with her till something better comes along is NOT an option. She's not a house or a car or a food processor. You don't just get her removed with the delivery of a newer model. That makes you sound like a complete selfish pig. Are you really ... (read in full...)
I want another baby, but my husband says we can't afford it. Help!
Q. I'm 21 and my husband is 25 we have a 3yr old daughter and have been together for 6 yrs. Just recently I told him I wanna have another baby and he says no because we aren't financially set but then again when will be? I'm hurt and this is affecting ...
A. 14 August 2008: I think the other Aunt is right... talk to him and find out what he wants to have done before your second child.
Perhaps he's worried about your mortgage... can you work some extra hours of take on a second job so you can get ahead with payments... (read in full...)
My boyfriend works all the time and I hardly ever get to see him
Q. my and bf and i have been going out for a year but he works all the time and i never get to see him maybe once a week but sometimes only 1 every fortnight ots really getting me down because we text everyday but i have to wait till like 10 at night ...
A. 14 August 2008: At 18 does he really need to work all those hours? If not then tell him he needs to cut down or you will leave him.
If he does need to work that much or he just chooses to then it's up to you. You can either accept the situation and stay with him... (read in full...)
I want to be the 'Miss' and him the 'Master', but it seems like he don't want to control me!
Q. How do I get my husband to be controlling in the bedroom? I want to be the miss and him be the master. But it seems like he don't want to control me, or make me do things to him, but that's the only thing that gets me off, and in the mood. Can an...
A. 14 August 2008: All nice guys are brought up to NEVER be controlling or demanding and to "force" a woman to do something is completely wrong. So when you say you want him to do that it's no wonder he's confused.
My friend had the same problem. Her boyfrien... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to pick up after himself? It is seriously driving me crazy.
Q. My boyfriend and I have a 1yr old that I clean up after all day. Well my boyfriend has gotten a lot better with helping me with our son but other then that, the only other thing I don t have to ask him to do is cook because thats onething he loves. ...
A. 14 August 2008: If his clothes aren't in the laundry basket just pick them up and put them in a bin bag and hide them. He's going to start asking, "have you seen my...?" and you can say "was it in the hamper? No? Then it could be anywhere."
Also, make a rota. Le... (read in full...)
I met this cute, smart guy, had an encounter, a lot of fun and went on my way without a number or any way to contact him, he is constanly on my mind, what do I do to remove these thoughts?
Q. I met this great guy by total chance, and we hit it off right away. He was cute, built, and smart. We talked for hours and ended up doing more than just talking, if you catch my drift. I took off without catching his number or giving him mine, like ...
A. 14 August 2008: Well as it is you just had the perfect one night stand. In his head you are a perfect mysterious girl.
Tell yourself that if you'd really got to know him it would have all ended in tears and he would have turned out to be a jerk / have bad pers... (read in full...)
My parents beat me, my fiance is the only one keeping me going. I made her parents angry and I might not see her again. What do I do?
Q. Im lost... Me and my fiance are 18 and 17, she honestly keeps me alive, im beat daily by my parents, and i cant keep going with out her. Ive made her parents rly mad at me cause i snuck over after a huge fight with my parents. I may not see her ...
A. 14 August 2008: Firstly I think that you need to talk to her parents and appologise and show them some of your bruises from your beatings.
Secondly you need to have your parents done for assault.
You need to get more in your life than just your girlfriend.... (read in full...)
I want a baby but I'm concerned about giving it a good life. I'm thinking maybe we should live off state benefits. Am I being naive?
Q. Hello, I am 22, and happily married. Been married for a year, We both work full time, rent a lovely house and love each other very much. My problem is that at the moment, i can't stop thinking about having a baby! At the moment, we could afford a...
A. 13 August 2008: People living on Benefits really don't get everything handed to them. It's not a great life, and can be a huge struggle at times.
I am sure babies aren't as expensive as you think - you don't have to get all the after school stuff until they are... (read in full...)
My controlling husband has decided to change only now that I want to leave, what do I do?
Q. I have been married for ten years. I have three children from a previous relationship, now adults and one from this one. At the start we were very happy. Gradually, he became more controlling and insisted on everything being done his way. As a ...
A. 13 August 2008: This is why I always advise people to leave. It is only this threat that seems to work.
If you have already made up your mind then leave him as planned, and he will just have to put up with that.
However if you are going to give him another... (read in full...)
Is my friend spiking my drinks and manipulating me?
Q. Hey, I Had this friend that I could really relate to, even though I was in denial about that. We went outto China White and other beautiful clubs... We fell out at as I felt she was always jealous of me and allowed her friends that fancied...
A. 13 August 2008: What are you on about?
All I was saying that was drink spiking is very common so it could have been anyone, not just your friend.
Are you saying you have CCTV evidence of what she did? If so why are you here asking about it?
I think it's cl... (read in full...)
What are the signs of cheating?
Q. How do you know your boyfriend is cheating on me? and Why does my boyfriend text other girls when he is around me?...
A. 13 August 2008: Smile and take it as a compliment.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What are the signs of cheating?
Q. How do you know your boyfriend is cheating on me? and Why does my boyfriend text other girls when he is around me?...
A. 11 August 2008: There are no real "signs" of cheating but if he is texting other girls then tell him it's upsetting you and you want him to stop it.
If he refuses then you just have to dump him and move on as he's not worth the hassle.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is my friend spiking my drinks and manipulating me?
Q. Hey, I Had this friend that I could really relate to, even though I was in denial about that. We went outto China White and other beautiful clubs... We fell out at as I felt she was always jealous of me and allowed her friends that fancied...
A. 11 August 2008: It's a very strange conspiracy against you. She'd have had to go to a LOT of trouble to get everyone to play along just to get you unsure whether it was her or not.
If I was going to that much trouble I'd want seriously hurtful results, not some... (read in full...)
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