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Archived questions from: May, 2014 (see latest in Friends category)

Friends: Help and advice

2 guys and I'm confused!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3540 days ago

31 May 2014 (F) - Hi everyone well for the last 6 months 2 guys have been interested in me. Both of them are my friends. I find them both attractive. The first one has done so much for me, he is always there when i ask him for help, he has helped me more time...

Would it be bad to tell my girlfriend I want to spend time with my friends?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3637 days ago

31 May 2014 (M) - Is it bad to tell girlfriend I want to go meet some friends for an hour or two. Once she comes to my house she doesn't leave till weekend finishes. I can't get rid of her because she doesn't see me all week. Sounds bad but I'm a guy I like to do ...

Should I stay friends with him or not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3637 days ago

31 May 2014 (F) - I met a man about a year ago and became close friends. There was clearly chemistry and after a few months things progressed, we slept together and started hanging out a lot more. Things only got physical 5 or 6 times before it became obvious that I ...

Why is this boy from my primary school class talking to me on FB?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3639 days ago

30 May 2014 (F) - Ok, im not so sure how to feel, but obviously when you leave primary school everyone adds each other on Facebook, just to keep in contact but really, the outcome is that people from primary don't talk anymore, right? Well, I did confirmation cla...

Guy friend or more than?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3640 days ago

30 May 2014 (F) - One of my closest friends is a guy I met a few months ago who I had originally been interested in, but had a hard time reading. He seemed interested, but was sending mixed signals. Eventually, I mustered up the courage to ask him where we stood, ...

Should I go to my boyfriend's best friend's birthday party? I don't want any more drama!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3640 days ago

29 May 2014 (F) - Ive been seeing my boyfriend for about 10 months, exclusive for 6 months. Its going brilliantly! And we get a long so well. But last week hit a bit of a problem. So we have gradually been introducing each other to family and friends etc and its ...

How long until I can add him back as a friend on FB?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3619 days ago

29 May 2014 (F) - I got rejected by a guy a couple of weeks ago who I thought I really liked and I deleted him off facebook straight away. We haven't spoken since then and I've had time to realise now that I don't want him romantically, but I do want to be friends in ...

I wonder if he could actually care for me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3640 days ago

29 May 2014 (F) - Hi, I met someone on holiday five years ago. It was clear we liked the look of each other but nothing ever happened. He found me on facebook somehow when he got home and three years later we were still texting every other week. Last year he asked me...

Are we dating or is this just FWB?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3640 days ago

29 May 2014 (F) - Before I ask this question, I'm going to ask that if you want to answer, just answer respectfully. I recently started seeing a 30 year old man. We have gone on a few dates before about a year ago and once about 6 months ago, but I sort of backed o...

I'm crushing on my friend's older brother.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3639 days ago

29 May 2014 (F) - I met an incredible guy about three and a half months ago through my university’s social dance club. The awkward part is when I say met, I mean I had met him briefly before but never spoken to him…I had seen him around because he is my friend’s ...

How can I say I'm sorry?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3641 days ago

28 May 2014 (F) - I had been with a guy for a few months, friends before that for a long time. When we were friends he was seeing someone else and during their break up he came to me to vent and talk over. We became close. We fell out and had not been speakin...

Did I come on too strong and freak him out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3322 days ago

28 May 2014 (F) - Dear All, It seems I am having a dilemma. I have recently met a guy over a month ago. It started as me trying to be friendly with a guy in our hiking group as no one really talked to him. I didn't start to fall for him until the third meeting ...

Should I introduce this married woman to my wife?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3641 days ago

28 May 2014 (M) - I am married. I met this woman some time back. She seems to be very interested in me. She is married. We used to share lot of sms and our own photos. Recently I told her that she is looking good and if we were not married then I would have asked for ...

What's wrong? I never get invited back ! I invite them, and they never reciprocate after that.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3640 days ago

27 May 2014 (F) - My question is: Do you expect people to reciprocate your invites to dinner, brunch, lunch or a mere cup of coffee? I don't do it because I expect it, but since I have a particular taste and healthy diet needs, I tend to invite people over if the ...

What practical things can I do to improve myself and start a relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3642 days ago

27 May 2014 (M) - Hello all, I'm a university student who desires a relationship but has never succeeded. I realised in the last few years that I was behaving a typical "nice guy" (in the bad way). I have improved my confidence and being myself, spending more ti...

She is a really nice girl but I don't have strong feelings for her.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3641 days ago

27 May 2014 (M) - I have started seeing this girl who I know for 2 years now. I was never attracted to her but she made a pass at me a few months ago and now we have started dating. I still dont have very strong feelings for her but she is a really really nice girl. ...

Don't like being friend with my ex, but there is no way

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3633 days ago

26 May 2014 (M) - Hi everybody, Since ever the one in the group that is single and always dating new girls and all the past relations were like heaven. Everybody likes me, even my ex-girlfriends and I love everybody, I was happy. There was a girl whom I always lik...

Why would they be interested in me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3642 days ago

26 May 2014 (F) - Two childhood sweethearts. . Looked me up after twenty years.. One grade school kept in touch more than the other from Jr high.. they have children and our grandparents. .and from different states .. I finally have a four old daughter and am not ...

My friend seems selfish and ungrateful, or am I just too sensitive?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3642 days ago

26 May 2014 (F) - Why does she behave like that? Am I overreacting? So my older married friend needed a babysitter for the weekend and I love kids and was bored and needed her to do my hair so I spent the weekend with her and her family. I slept with her ...

Am I being unfair by being annoyed at the situation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3641 days ago

25 May 2014 (F) - My flatmate's boyfriend had been here Every. Single. Night. In. The. Past. Three. Weeks. Occasionally, after a braai or two (she likes to host parties on weekends), even his brother will stay over for the weekend!! When the boyfriend would start ...

I like my friend's ex but don't want to lose the friendship

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3645 days ago

25 May 2014 (M) - hi everyone so basically i think im starting to like one of my best friends ex's. they have been apart about 4/5 months now but they are both really good friends and me and her have been friends for about a year or so now. However, the oth...

Can you change your mind about attractiveness?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3644 days ago

25 May 2014 (F) - My friend (mr A) recently started dating this girl who previously dated his best friend (Mr B). She was very into his friend and when he lost interest in her she was very upset and cried to my friend (Mr A) about it. When her and Mr B started dating ...

What's with him? Is he just curious about us?`

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3645 days ago

25 May 2014 (F) - For more than 6 months now apparently all the classmates of a guy friend of mine (M) think we are together.They often say something about this to him, make remarks, especially the boys, but sometimes the girls too and a lot of them seem so sure of ...

I'm falling for one of my best friends ....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3645 days ago

25 May 2014 (M) - Been friends for a few years. Last year and a bit we've become really close. We do everything together, always hangout, close with her family. I've never had feelings for her, until a month ago. Do I tell her? I don't know if she feels the same...

Online friend won't talk to me

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3643 days ago

25 May 2014 (F) - I have been good friends with a man online for over a year now, we chat nearly everyday and take the piss out of each other. We sometimes have disagreements but always resolve them by talking. A day ago I posted something funny on Facebook and...

He's gone fishin' and I'm here all alone ..... again!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3645 days ago

25 May 2014 (F) - Hello I've been with my boyfriend of two years. We have a great relationship until summer comes around. Every summer My boyfriend loves to salt water fish and his summers are filled with tropical trips to the islands and lots and lots of fishing. I ...

Mutual close friend spend lots of money on my friend's birthday and very little on mine. Does it mean something about our friendship or am I just being ungrateful?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3644 days ago

24 May 2014 (F) - I feel childish and horrible even posting this but there's something that's niggling at me. My oldest friend (A, whom I live with) and I have a very good friend in common (B). We met B at the same time, work with her and are (as far as I can tell) ...

My Best Friend, His Girlfriend and I.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3646 days ago

24 May 2014 (M) - I've known my best friend for about four years now. I've known his girlfriend for about five. Before I met my best friend, his now girlfriend and I use to flirt around (before they became a couple). It was never anything serious, just a few harmless ...

My friend ditched me when I was going to the hospital. Why did she get angry?

This question has 38 answers - newest was posted 3645 days ago

23 May 2014 (F) - A friend of mine recently got very angry with me, without me understanding why. I was wondering if you could help me with this. I had become quite sick, and wasn't getting any better. I was talking to my friend that Saturday, and she asked me how...

Our friendship was stunted by a comment I made and now I need to know how to handle this, as we work together!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3646 days ago

23 May 2014 (M) - Ok so my situation is this. Im a married man and although I haven't always been happy in my marriage ive always wanted to make it work. Well I had or have this situation going on at work with a coworker or once thought of friend going on. So basi...

Am I clingy? and is my boyfriends best friend a nut

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3647 days ago

22 May 2014 (F) - Well me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 6 months . He asked me out.my boyfriends best friend and me were really good friends before me and my boyfriend started dating, and now it's almost like he hates me! Me and my bf' s best friend ...

How can I better judge if I'm overreacting or being walked all over?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3648 days ago

22 May 2014 (F) - I'm the sort of person that when someone is my close friend I expect loyalty and consideration to be utmost. I'm very low maintenance otherwise but all my life I've been let down by this...sometimes marginally sometimes greatly. I understand this is ...

What should you not say to someone new?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3646 days ago

22 May 2014 (F) - I just have a question on hanging out with someone new. What are some things to avoid saying? I mean besides obvious things, such as telling them of a rough past with friends, asking questions that are too personal, inviting them to your home too...

I told her I liked her and pushed too hard, but I still want to sort things out

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3648 days ago

22 May 2014 (M) - Hi, bit of a long complicated situation. So a while back I told one of my friends that I liked her as more than a friend and she was super cool about it but told me that she didn't feel the same way. We still remained friends but I always felt I ...

I'm not interested! How do I let him down?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3648 days ago

21 May 2014 (F) - What should I do about this guy? I'm so upset:( So my older friend says I'm a good decent girl and very pretty so she gave my number to her husbands nephew and he's been calling me since. We've talked and I found out that he's a 31 year ...

We got close at a bad time . But I do still really want to be friends with him. What should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3649 days ago

20 May 2014 (F) - I'm do down I don't know what to do For the first time in 8 months my ex friend acknowledged me by saying morning and at a friends party shook my hand The problem was we got close at a bad time - he was splitting with a girl who made him miserab...

Should I tell my neighbour I had sex with his wife

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3649 days ago

20 May 2014 (M) - The other night I was having beers with a few mates, on my back deck .Being a single male there is always people at my house they come and go as they please pretty relax and social atmosphere My neighbour came over with a drink as her husband ...

I feel like I'm stuck in the friend zone with girls

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 3646 days ago

20 May 2014 (M) - I don't know what to do anymore, I'm stuck . I've been putting up with liking girls for years and years and years and etc... I really hope that I'm not just being ignored? First it was a girl I liked for 8 years, saved my virginity, didn't date ...

Why does she not reply to my messages anymore?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3650 days ago

19 May 2014 (M) - Okay so this might be a long story but here it goes! So when I was in highschool I liked this girl and we went out, but I later said somethings and she took them as if I did not like her and then she just kinda didn't want to talk to me afterwards! ...

Should I just let him go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3651 days ago

19 May 2014 (F) - Hello Agony Aunters, I have a little story...7 years ago I met and had a brief relationship with a guy, who is 5 years older than I am. He works in the emergency services, although I didnt know this when I first met him, I liked him from the mome...

Does wanting to be me make me a bad person?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3650 days ago

19 May 2014 (F) - Hello all, I was wondering if you'd be able to help me. I am in a bit of a predicament and when I explain things, I'm probably going to get a lot of stick for it and come across as a selfish whore but I do hope someone can answer me. I have b...

My friend told me she can't throw my baby shower and I'm scrambling for ideas! Help?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3651 days ago

18 May 2014 (F) - in desperate need of some ideas my "friend" was all set for throwing me a baby shower, which I was very very excited about. I asked for it to be held in my house so I didn't have to bother about traveling anywere whilst tired afterwards, which I ...

Should I feel bad for moving on first?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3652 days ago

18 May 2014 (M) - There's this girl that I liked at my college. We were friends for a good few months. We went out together, partied together, did crazy stuff and just all around enjoyed each other's company. We even entrusted each other with some pretty embarrassing ...

Some of the things she confides turn me on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3651 days ago

18 May 2014 (F) - For a while now my best-friend, call her Cee has been in a relationship with this guy, who's also mostly my friend too. I's been going on for two years, and it was the most ridiculous relationship ever, and Cee was complaining about him constant...

Went out to dinner with 2 colleagues, were they a little rude..?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3652 days ago

18 May 2014 (F) - Need some opinions. I recently went out for lunch with 2 colleagues who are Asian, one 31 one 53, me early 40s, we get along well and I like them both, Im white. We went to food court and one of the women headed right for an asian restau...

I gave my crush a note explaining my feelings and he created a big scene in front of our friends by reading it aloud and humiliating me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3651 days ago

17 May 2014 (F) - hey, having a bit of an issue. so, i've been friends with a guy for ages now, and recently, i developed feelings for him. so, i gave him a note explaining my feelings, because i'm not good at talking about these things face to face. a few day...

I've become very uncomfortable with this "friendship"

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3653 days ago

17 May 2014 (F) - So I have this guy friend... I don't even know whether to call him a friend because we don't really interact outside when we bump into each other at a mutual friend's house or something. One random night, about 1.5-2 years ago, we talked late into...

Should I walk away from these friendships or try to save them?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3651 days ago

16 May 2014 (F) - This is more of a friends question than relationship advice but I hope you can help. I introduced my married female friend to my single male friend on a casual night out before Christmas (along with other people I might add). Fast forward 2 weeks ...

Am I turning into a green-eyed monster?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3650 days ago

15 May 2014 (F) - My partner and I befriended a lady on holiday last year and we became good friends, visiting and phoning frequently. This friend confided in us and was going through a very tough time in her personal life. We both tried to help her as much as w...

My friend thinks I'm a clingy nervous wreck and now he won't speak to me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3653 days ago

15 May 2014 (F) - This isn't a new question I posted before regarding a massive problem with my good friend and getting too close and now his perception of me is I'm a cling nervous wreck and we haven't spoke since November apart from a birthday wish in January ...