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Would you post christmas/new years greetings on facebook or make it private?

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Question - (12 January 2012) 8 Answers - (Newest, 13 January 2012)
A female , anonymous writes:

If you wanted to post happy christmas and new year or happy birthday to someone on facebook would you put it on their wall or send it by private message. If you did it by private message what would be your reason for doing it.

The reason I ask is that a man I dated years and years ago was added to facebook by me (I have been friends with his sister for 20 years and she has always told me what is going on in his life and he knew about mine and the last time I saw him was 15 years ago when he turned up on my doorstep one night -three years after finishing with me).

Anyway I just thought it a little surprising (but very nice) that he decided to private message me a happy christmas and new year rather than put it on my wall especially as he very rarely posted on my wall but commented on his own wall. He obviously just did it as a friendly gesture but why would you private message someone with a greeting like that rather than posting it on their wall.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (13 January 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntWhat Tisha Said!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012):

I never post messages on people's wall's I always private message them. I simply don't like posting it where everyone can see it, maybe it's just that, no special meaning at all.

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (12 January 2012):

Ciar agony auntYou're overanalysing this.

I agree with Tisha's answer. All it was was a Christmas greeting and the fact that it was sent privately implies no special meaning.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012):

Maybe he didnt want people to see it on the wall for fear of a certain someone else finding out. I get some on my wall and some private. I dont read into it as anything and neither should you.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012):

Maybe it meant more to send it private. OR maybe he didn't want anyone to know he sent wished you the happiest. I had a bud that was married and he would send me private messages so his wife wouldn't see and get jealous.

I got tired of the drama and booted him out of my FB.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (12 January 2012):

Tisha-1 agony auntSome people don't know how to use Facebook and may not realize the difference between the wall and the private messaging.

Some people may not want everyone to know they are communicating with you.

He may have gone through his address book and private messaged everyone he knows, you just don't see that as those are private messages.

Assume it's friendly and go from there. All he's done is wish you happy holidays. Wait and see what happens next, if anything!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (12 January 2012):

Honeypie agony auntIf I didn't have their physical address I would just post on their wall. Why? Because wishing someone Happy New Year or Merry Christmas is not really that "personal" that it warrants a PM, IMHO

I'm, however more of a card kind of person and would most likely send people I WANT to wish happy greetings a card.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012):

I private message everyone to say happy birthday or christmas. It dont mean shit.

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