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writes:My husband is a constant lier, we went to a collegue of his wedding, and there was a divorced women constantly talking right at him. It was as if we were not there, this collegue, I have heard her name mentioned numerous times in our home but very innocently. Well, she bought my husband a wine, a stating she did this because she likes him. Then during the evening bought him another and states she wants to see if she can take advantage of him. What do I do, I have told my husband I am very upset that she had the confidence to do this in front of me, and he is defending her, telling me she always jokes that way. Although even though the table had a few male collegues she only seem to flirt with mine. Do I have reason to be concerned, is my husband having a secret affair with her, this is why she felt confortable to do this. By the way, this was the first time she met me. I find it very strange. What should I do.
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reader, Cheeks +, writes (9 September 2010):
 Maybe this girl is just a bitch? Were you the only woman around to piss off? Maybe that's why she was flirting with your husband. I know truck loads of catty bitches that act like that automaticly with other women around. Playing stupid games like making sure they mention an inside joke with another womans boyfriend/husband just to be a bitch and alienate the other woman. Doing him intimate little favors while stepping all over your toes to do it. Acting like your not even there. Or my favorite: telling you something about your own husband "you didn't know". If they talk at all, she'll think she knows him better. If they talk about you, she'll be jealous of it. It's probably not just your husband, it's probably every man. Being desired more than any other woman in the room was probably her motivation that eveneing. Some chicks get like that because they're jealous of any woman in the picture, ever. I think an affair is the worst case senario and your husband is only defending her because it is innocent & he's not guilty of anything. So if your bitchy to him about this, you'll make her look even better. good luck
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (7 September 2010):
 I think the woman was WAY out of line, but I think you your husband was really disrespectful to you.
Sorry, I would sit him down and talk to him.
They may be good work colleagues, but that doesn't mean he can't respect his wife at a wedding/function.
I don't think they are having an affair, just too little information to assume that. They may just have a really good banter at work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): Just by his actions in accepting her behaviour and defending her against you is cause for concern.
It might be that he is flattered by her attention but it really sounds like there might be more to this than meets the eye.
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