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writes:My girlfriend's Mom is so over protective but she does give me the chance to date her but every time i speak to my girlfriend she tells me upsetting news about her mother, for example she has been cleaning the house all day and everyone just happens to blame her when everyone was out having a good time. its basically like a Cinderella story but instead only the mom is the bitch. all that I ask how do i tell the mother that if she wants her daughter to truly be happy let me see her daily and how am i suppose to prove her wrong if I can only see her like twice a week [only the weekends] basically, case and point, if the mom doesn't let me see her daily then there is no chance of me proving her wrong, that I am the guy for her and everything. her brothers and sisters had more freedom then she did... why now does she control hers'...? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): I am the original poster, I would just like to say thank you all so very much for your input. what I believe is that there is a major problem in the household and yes she is still in school but I also believe that she is only doing this because of her grades which she has proven to keep up she does her homework everyday after school and does have a kind nature. but It breaks my heart to itty bitty pieces when i receive a call from her in tears because of something going on at the house and I have such limited transportation but I am very thankful to see her when given the chance, the mother has lightened up and has given me a chance ever since we had a big talk just her and I. once again thank you :) most appreciated!
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (29 September 2007):
Is your girlfriend still in study? - If she is I could understand her mothers concern making sure that the firl has time to put her study first and you second. If not - isn't your girlfriend at work - if so isn't she earning a weekly wage and couldn't she move out and get her own place?
If the mother is that bad then surely moving out of the place would be the best move for your girlfriend.
in termd of helping out that is just about the best I can offer you on the info you have supplied.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): Is she the youngest child?I would say that it is all about the mom trying to maintain control within her household. Perhaps she feels she went wrong somewhere with the others and she is trying to avoid this happening again or maybe she is just taking advantage of your girlfriends kind nature.For example if she doesnt put up a fight when she is told to clean etc.Is she in education. Perhaps the moms reason for limiting your time together is so that her daughter is more focused at college etc during the week?I think the best thing that you can do is be brave, its not about proving anything to her mom - you dont have to, its about being there for your girlfriend. Maybe one night during the week you could turn up unexpectedly, break the cycle, take her to the cinema or would that cause too much friction once your girlfriend got back in?Could do with a little more info.
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