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writes:So there's a guy I work with who over the past 3 months has increased his talking to me. I do like him and think he's cute but since it's an office setting I'm confused. He will only try to have a conversation with me when no ones really around and is always asking me questions to find out more about me. Such as what I dress like outside of work, and the obvious how was your day and weekend, what food I like, etc. He said every time he goes to a vegetarian restaurant he thinks about me and that we should go sometime. But nothing ever happened with that. He's into astrology so he asked what my sign was. A coworker of ours is heavy into astrology and wanted me to fill out a birth chart online to tap into my personality and stuff. So I filled it out with her and she told me about my sign and then at the end asks me if she can tell the guy I like about my sign. I said ok, and she and him talked about me and she mentioned after talking with him that he thinks I'm sexy but I'm not 100% sure. Anyway, Then there are some days he'll say hi to me and that's it. My question is, does this guy even like me? Will he ever take things to the next level and ask me to hang out outside of work? Or is he just being flirty/nice to me and I'm reading his signals wrong? I do like him but since we work together I'm not sure how to proceed with this. My office is okay with relationships as long as it's private.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2016): From a man who has been the kind of guy you're describing: maybe he does like you and is interested, but is shy of making the move or isn't noticing the signals you're giving him back to show you're interested. To be fair, it's probably the latter- the number of times I've been into a girl and not seen the signs saying she's into me, then when it's all blown over my mates have said 'dude, how did you not know!'
If you are interested in him, why don't you ask him out? Tell him you'd really like to go the veggie restaurant he's been telling you about, and fix a time there and then. See how it goes!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 November 2016):
 I think he might like you yes but am not sure about romantically. He has mentioned bringing you out, but surely he would have done it by now if he was so interested? My advice is avoid a work romance, because if it does not work out you are faced with that person every single day and believe me that is not nice if it turns messy.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 November 2016):
 I'd avoid office romances if I were you.
It's been 3 months and he has "suggest" going out to eat, but haven't REALLY asked you out - so I would just get to know him better before doing anything (IF you think it could work out for you two).
Do you know if he has a GF? How much about HIM outside the work do you know about? You said HE asked a lot of questions, DID you?
What's the hurry here?
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