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writes:Okay i met this girl over a month ago everything was going great ! i found out the girl i was seeing was engaged or atleast that was what facebook said to her roomate who is a girl/her best friend. we had soo much fun together and the connection was there. i have noticed recently both there facebooks vanished off the face of the earth. She claims that she wants to be more than just a friend once the time is right? we hungout all day on Friday the 18th at a amusement park and she said she had a wonderful time, we have been holding hands, hugging etc and everything was going great !. I dropped her off that evening and i haven't heard anything from her since, im not sure what happenend ?i called her job today and she has not been in work the last 3 days, her friend said she was sick on saturday and took off. we both have iphones, her messages dont deliver and when i call it goes straight to voicemail ? Do you guys think she blocked me and cut off all ties ?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 November 2016):
 I remember your first post on this, clearly you did not ask her about her being engaged you just continued to see her. Surely you must have wanted to know a couple off weeks back if she really was or if it was just social media. My guess is you did not want to know the truth or that you did not care if she was engaged.
If both profiles are gone then they have blocked you, and yes it appears she has blocked your phone number. Don't call her work again, just accept that you should never have messed around with her knowing she was engaged. Surely you knew this would not have a happy ending. Move on now and next time if you start seeing a girl ask if she is single.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2016): she ghost you, didn't show you any respect, she is a coward, cold hearted, she could at lease said goodbye, i know how it feels, its been a year,an i still think about her all the time, an you what she doesn't even think about you, she will fined out what's karma is all about, good luck,
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2016): This is a lesson to you and others reading your post. If a person cannot be reached and all effort to reach them fails; leave them alone. Move on.
If her best friend tells you she's unavailable; leave a message and go about your business. That's sufficient.
Don't send out a search-party. Discontinue all effort to reach them. They have decided to cut ties, and that should be respected without question. Don't look desperate or weird. It looks odd when you're blowing up their phone, and if some unfortunate mishap did fall upon them; it looks suspicious that you kept calling and calling, texting and texting. If they were MIA, a member of the family or close-friend would take notice; and follow-up with appropriate action. Persistent call-attempts and messages from a stranger they've never met, would certainly cause alarm or suspicion!
If they are missing, and you hardly know them; best you let their families put in a missing person's report. Three failed-attempts ought to be enough.
Delete them from your contacts and move on. If you happen to run into them at some future date; you can ask them what happened, or nod and walk on by!
There are plenty of fish in the sea. If one falls off the hook; cast your line for another one. People sometimes pretend to like you out of politeness; or they may fake-it just for the attention. Preserve your dignity, my friend!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 November 2016):
 Yep I agree, she blocked you.
Most likely the fiance caught wind of what was up and made her choose. OR she realized that you can't go have multiple partners unless ALL the partners are OK with it.
What is EASIER than just blocking people? Nothing.
That way she doesn't have to explain a darn thing to you.
Seriously, you barely know her and she JUST left you hanging! Time to move on.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 November 2016):
 Yep - she blocked you.
She is engaged . She must have indulged a little whim with you, allowed herself a little diversion- then she regretted it right after.
I know that you are disappointed, but, as N91 says, you have known her for so little time , it should not be terribly hard to cut your losses and move on.
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reader, N91  +, writes (2 November 2016):
 Yeah, that's exactly what's happened.
If she's already in a relationship then it's really not worth getting in the middle of. You've not known her a great deal of Tim so just cut your loses and move on.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (2 November 2016):
 I find it incredible that you found our she was allegedly engaged yet did not ask her about it or discuss it with her but just carried on as "normal". How long were you going to carry on like that? Or did you not think it counted because the other person involved was also female? It sounds to me like the girlfriend/fiancee found out about you and you got dumped. Tremendously bad manners on the part of the girl you were seeing for not ending it cleanly and decently but then she didn't have great morals to be going out with you if she was engaged to someone else. Again you are just waiting for this girl. Why? She has blocked you on social media and is not taking your calls. I wouldn't mind betting she is in work but getting her colleagues to tell you she isn't, hoping you will get fed up and go away.Have some pride and stop hanging in there. Go and find someone who is free to have a proper relationship with you. You don't deserve to be someone's "bit on the side".
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