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writes: Dear Cupid,I am the second oldest child and I have four other siblings who just act as if they don't have a living parent.I can't get them to do a single thing for my for our mom everything has a price on it they won't go to the store without getting paid for it.My youngest brother asked for fifty dollars just to go to the store to get groceries we didn't go that's plain awful how they are treating my mom I have transportation but I'm trying to get my record together before I drive again.Any suggestion on my lazy **** family. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2014): I am in the same situation and so is my wife.My wife has a sister and yet it is my wife who is the one who is there to support her parents. Her sister shows up when it is convenient or when she needs something. My wife talked to her parents about it, but they support the sister and insist she is doing all she can when she hardly lifts a finger.In my family I have four siblings and it is generally two (of the five) of us who look after our parents. The others can't be bothered. It upsets me sometimes, but the way I look at it is that I will have a clear conscience. Sadly, so may some of my siblings but all I can worry about is myself. Doing less than I could do to prove a point would just make me feel guilty. You are not alone. Life isn't always fair.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (28 October 2014):
 This is all too comon of a problem in families. It is something that needs to be worked out logically and free from drama. I'd suggest you all get a third party mediator of some sort,like a social worker to sit down with all involed and do a pros and cons list to resolve equal responsibilities. Good Luck it happens all the time so you are not alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2014): I am so sorry you're going through this with your siblings. Might want to begin accepting you will be the only caregiver when your parents become in need of assistance. I lost my father, and now the only caregiver for my elderly mother. My brother, who lives approximately 20 minutes away, has done zilch to assist. Oh, he will call on her birthday, but that's it. He came around one time to clean out the garage after my dad died…..he wanted to see if tools, fishing poles, etc. would be of benefit to him. dougbcoll hit the nail on the head…..your siblings are self-centered. There are people out there who look out for themselves only. I don't know your siblings living situation, such as are they married, divorced etc., but sometimes they have a spouse who wants them to be involved with their immediate family only. Not excusing self-centered behavior, just giving one reason why siblings behave a certain way. You can try talking to them, and hopefully they will step up to the plate. If not, continue doing right by your parents. It will get overwhelming at times, but remember you're the better person. I don't believe in karma, but if it's true, your siblings, like my brother, are in for a rude awakening. Hold your head high and know you are a person of integrity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2014): Thanks I have spoken to all of them they ignores me as if I'm talking to the wall I have been carrying for my mom for four years now I do everything no help from them.I just pray and the Lord gives me strength to continue to care for my mom but I get tired. But I'm not letting my mommy go for nobody.Thanks
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (28 October 2014):
 it basic comes down to your siblings being self centered, and how will anything benefit them. they only are looking out for them self sad to say, with very little love for other people. seems we are plagued by people with this mind set this day and time.
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