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What size penis do women prefer?

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Question - (7 April 2012) 20 Answers - (Newest, 19 April 2013)
A male South Africa age 36-40, *reat or Good writes:

I am a man aged 34, iam just wondering on what penis size do women prefers.

Is big, small or just average and if big how big.

What do women enjoy most while having sex. Do they like when a man comes from the back or when he is on top.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2013):

Women always love hand stimulation to reach their orgasm

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2013):

It doesn't matter sometimes, but how you use it.

Sometimes you can't get what you want so you have to use what you've got.

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (8 April 2012):

Miamine agony aunt*Them damn curve penis are the worst, they hit on the cervix and cause pain for days*

Dear Caller, I hope your getting the message that every woman is different.. it's best for you to have such intimate conversations once you get into the bedroom... but please don't ask about size, because most women become either bored or offended.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway + , writes (8 April 2012):

chigirl agony auntI like the penis to be average length, and a smaller girth than average or on the smaller side of average. I also prefer a man with a bend or curve.

As far as positions go, well no penis is alike. So the positions feel different too depending on the penis. So I really can't tell you a basic answer to that one: It depends on the penis and the man!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012):

Maybe women do not go around with a ruler in the bra, but they can compare between different partners and feelings.

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A female reader, dmartin89 United Kingdom +, writes (8 April 2012):

dmartin89 agony auntMy boyfriend has a 5.5 inch penis and a 3.5 inch girth. I am reasonably satisfied but wouldent say no to it being bigger. The size for me has nothing to do with orgasms or skill, its the feeling of fullness and when I'm very wet i get a less full feeling.

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (8 April 2012):

Miamine agony auntRemember, women don't carry tape measures to bed. No woman I know has ever measured a penis, so when we talk about 5-7 inches or 10 inches, I do wonder if we know what we are talking about.

Please worry more about technique, words and foreplay... that's what most women know about and that's what makes a good lover, not the size of the penis...

But please remember, I'm talking about most women.. but all women are different, just like all men are different.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012):

After having read many women suggesting men to ask directly to their gf if she was satisfied by his dimenson I did it. The answer literally was: "I would prefer it 2-3cm bigger". We are still together because we love each other, but now I think that women hope always to find the right brain coupled with a bigger than average size. If a woman stays with a smaller or around average it is just because she didn't find somthing better. I am an average 6 inch.

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A male reader, Cerberus Ireland + , writes (8 April 2012):

Cerberus agony auntMy size, just above average.

OP I've bedded nearly ten times the amount of women that have replied here and can safely say that about 90% of them were satisfied with my size, they were a good fit.

As previously mentioned most women have a variation of the average size vagina. A good lot of them were even too tight, even after a lot of foreplay and full arousal. On the other side of that some were too loose.

You see even a woman with a loose vagina can tighten that with kegels and can use her muscles her grip you while you inside. Something one of my exes had to do after childbirth.

I don't get why a lot of guys are hung up on size most of us are perfectly adequate or even better. Even a 3 inch guy can sexually satisfy a woman through a combination of her doing kegels and him learning to give great head. I have a friend with a micropenis that is happily married with kids. He has all the qualities necessary to make a good partner, can sexually satisfy his wife, and is not insecure about his size. He tells me that when his wife wants to feel "filled up" he uses a dildo while giving head because the only thing he lacks the ability to do is to give her that "filled up" feeling with his penis. That's the only advantage to having a big penis really and most women don't care about having that, or get it just fine from an average sized penis.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (8 April 2012):

Honeypie agony auntThe daily penis question I see!

Ask the woman you are with what she likes. As far as sizes, I think what really matter it the guy the penis comes with, not so much the size.

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A male reader, Great or Good South Africa +, writes (8 April 2012):

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Great or Good agony auntOkay guys i think i will stop worrying about my penis size, i tought they like the bigger once.

The thing is like most I meet they were shy of talking about sex. Thanks guys

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A female reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth India +, writes (8 April 2012):

Foot-In-My-Mouth agony auntI like biggish but not very big. Not big enough to hurt but big enough to feel it. And I like man on top...missionary.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012):

Also, keep in mind that most women who post on the internet seem to overestimate the size of men's penises.

If you google true average penis size you will find plenty of info on true averages. A lifestyles condom study of 300 men on spring break did not reveal a single one over 9 inches, and a grand total of .8% (less than 1 in 100) were 8 inches or more. Only about 5% of the population is 7 inches or more.

I've read many posts on the internet by women stating that their boyfriend or an ex had a 10 incher. From all the legitimate studies I've seen, men that size are literally about 1 in a million. Just to find a man 8 inches or larger, a typical woman would have to hook up with over 100 men just to find one that large.

By definition, men who are well above average are extremely rare. The real would isn't the Lake Wobegone of penises.

A woman who prefers 7 inchers will have to hook up with about 20 men on average just to find one that size.

Other than a vanishingly small number of super lucky women, the ones who claim to like huge ones would have to hook up with very large numbers of men to find a truely huge one. If most women really did prefer huge ones, it would mean that a very high percentage of women would never find someone for a long term relationship that they actually liked.

For example, if 80% of women needed a man in the top 1% (8 inches or more) to be satisfied, 79% would spend their lives unsatisfied (unless they were willing to share their man with 79 other women). Of course, even if they were willing to go along with sharing in this manner, they'd only have sex about 4-5 times per year even their "shared man" were hammering a different woman every night.

Studies consistently show that a relatively high percentage of women are satisfied with their sex lives. This would be a statistical impossibility if a high percentage of women require a large (e.g. 1 in 100) man.

Then, of course, there's the question of how attractive that 1 in 100 man will be once a woman actually finds him. If a woman needs to have an attractive man with a 1 in 100 penis, she has effectively ensured she will never be happy. Men like that are quite literally 1 in 1,000. 999 out of 1,000 women would be unhappy. If she wants a man who she is also compatible with in terms of personality, who is average or better intelligence, average or better education and income, etc., she's undoubtedly limited herself to men who are less than 1 in 10,000.

Restated, if a woman needs a huge unit to be satisfied sexually, unless she is unbelievably hot she is either going to spend the rest of her life being unsatisfied, sharing her man with large numbers of other women, or settling for a man who is a complete zero in other areas.

Almost all real woman aren't like this, of course, so don't worry about it.

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A female reader, tennisstar88 United States +, writes (8 April 2012):

tennisstar88 agony auntA 10incher.

No not really, but that's what men tend to think women prefer. The bigger the better, right?? Not always.

Anyways, I prefer average and I like it any which way my husband will give it to me.

But really it doesn't matter what we all think, it matters what the women you're having sex with likes. Each woman is different.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012):

I prefer large. That's my personal preference.

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (8 April 2012):

Miamine agony auntMost women like average.. too big hurts, and too small is difficult because the woman needs stronger muscles and techniques to gain satisfaction.

Average is probably 5-7.. the stories about big penis being the best is what we say to hurt men.

As for position, all women are different, and if your good at sex, you should be able to do all positions during one sexual session. Only doggy, or only missionary gets boring, and sometimes you can't go to one position (eg.doggy/woman on top) you have to use others which are easier to get the woman aroused so she will be open enough. There is no best... it's the same as asking "Do you like chocolate, strawberry or vanilla ice-cream".

What size vagina do men like? Which position do men like best? THEY DON'T BLOODY CARE!! THEY JUST LIKE PUSSY AND SEX!

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A female reader, shrodingerscat United States +, writes (8 April 2012):

shrodingerscat agony auntSince most women can only reach orgasm with direct clitoral stimulation, and the clitoris is located on the OUTSIDE of the body, penis size has little to nothing to do with sexual enjoyment with women.

So, to answer your question, most men could have no penis at all and still satisfy a woman sexually. Penetration is not the end-all-be-all for ALL women, and large penises can be extremely painful.

Stop worrying about your penis, and focus on the clitoris.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012):

Biggest I had 9 inches left me very sore and found it difficult to walk - not good! Smallest I had about 3 inches - not good. 5-6 inches is about and the biggest sex organ is the brain!

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A female reader, person12345 United States + , writes (8 April 2012):

person12345 agony auntThat average woman has an average length vagina and prefers an average penis size. A large penis often hurts.

All women prefer different things, but what women enjoy most during sex generally isn't when the man comes. That can be fun, but it's not the main source of pleasure to watch someone else finish. Most women orgasm from oral sex being performed on them (81%) while few women orgasm from penetration (25%).

You'd really have to ask whatever woman you're with what she enjoys.

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A female reader, katiekate United States +, writes (8 April 2012):

katiekate agony auntIn my experience, 6-7 inches is average. 8-10 inches is big. 5 and under is small.

I prefer average- 7 inches or so is perfect for me.

I like it all ways- "doggy" style, man on top, me on top, from the side, etc... It all feels different, but it's all equally good. I think the most important thing is to mix it up so that the sex doesn't become boring.

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