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anonymous
writes:I think I don't understand men. Seriously. I've been dating a guy, reaaaally sweet and cute for 1-2 month. It was amazing and fun. Last friday, he kept telling me how happy he is that he met me and how he wished days could be longer so we could have more time together ! The day after, when it was time for me to leave, he hug me like.. 1 sec? then said bye. I didn't know what to think of that , I decided to text him later during the day. big mistake.He wrote to me that he honestly thinks that we can't have a relationship, it would not work. He doesn't want to make the same mistake he did with his ex. but that i'm an amazing girl and he's happy that he got to know me. aaand that he doesn't want to see me/talk to me again.WHAT. THE. HELL? he has no idea how he hurt me. I never had a boyfriend before --- he knows that. eh. Do you think I should try to contact him ? what could I say? I really like him..(oh and sorry if my english seems weird)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011): OP here . Hm first of all don't worry, we didn't sleep together ! I don't need an STD test haha. We were taking it very slow..
and I know this guy since december.. Never thought he could be like this :( still can't believe it. It really makes me wonder if I said something I shouldnt have said. eh and he didn't try to contact me again, I guess it's really over. Which is a good thing I guess.
And thank you all. It hurts but i'm getting through it slowly. =)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 June 2011):
 I hear you sister. Men are weird. It's impossible to understand them! So don't try to. The only thing you can draw from this is that the younger and more inexperienced the guy is, the less idea he has of who he is and what he wants.
Try to find a man who is a bit more mature and experienced next time, and take it sloooooow before you give your heart away, to make absolutely sure he can be trusted. Also wait a year before you come to any final conclusions, as it takes at least that long to fully get to know the other.
I've been in your shoes, with guys that one day can't love you enough, are over heels for you, want to scream to the world that they love you, want ti live together and have babies and whatnot, and then the very next week or less they're on the complete opposite and have no idea what they want! So, you're definitely not alone in getting confused by this irrational behaviour from men!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): He used you and rest assured you're not the first nor the last girl he used or plans to use.
Get an STD test.
If you see him coming call Animal Control and OSHA immediately and report his whereabouts. They dispatch quarantine crew pronto.
Spread the word all over Facebook, throughout town, etc. that he's viral. It's your duty to mankind to protect other girls from his his viral affliction which is worse than AIDS.
He's gross. Yuck. That pathogen make my skin skeeve and toes curl.
You're lucky he left. Gross.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 June 2011):
Oh dear - you've been used.
That really sweet guy who's also cute played you like a fiddle. He's clearly put on a huge act for you, and now has shown his true colours. He's not sweet or cute at all. He's just an actor. He told you everything you wanted to here, treated you well - right up until the moment you stayed the night and then the day after entirely cut contact.
That's as far as it can go for you two. Do not try to contact him at all. That'll just make things worse for you, because either he won't reply at all, or he'll reply very harshly.
Take a very good look at what it was about this guy that you fancied, because that's probably what you need to avoid in the future. A man who's 'sweet and cute' needs to be looked at more closely.
Also, if this guy happens to contact you again, and suddenly says he's made a mistake, don't fall for it. That's a lie.
Whatever has happened has now happened, and with guys like this the best thing you can do is just move on. Don't waste another moment of your time on him.
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