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writes:okay, i'd want to just look at this before i get started,.. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/feeling-lost-after-weve-stopped-talking-completely.htmlabout a month back, when i asked a straight question, she did say she likes a new guy. i wouldn't have had a problem if that'd have come after a looong break; but we kept chatting more than twice a week all this time.Now i guess you'll understand how it'd feel after a four year long relationship. She was once everything for me, and i think, so was I, for her. I'm still wondering how she can do that, or if she's lying. Also the shock came during my exams, and it was freakishly difficult to concentrate. I know i should be moving on, but i have no idea how or why.Despite of all this, she'd still text. We couldn't stay away without texting or calling at least once a while. Why would she do that now she's in a relationship.Is she lying? If yes, how do i find it out? And if I do, what should I make of it? If she's not lying, should I be even talking to her?thanks already!
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reader, lovingnerd +, writes (10 December 2011):
lovingnerd is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks a lot. After posting this question here, I did text her saying I'd want to move on. I haven't bothered her since then, and so hasn't she. And after reading the replies here, I think I made a rather proper move.
It feels good for now. I've slowly stopped thinking of her in every other thing I do.
Thanks again. :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 December 2011):
 sometimes we don't love someone romantically anymore but we still care deeply for them as a person and it's hard to let that go.
Sounds to me that's where she has you slotted... I don't think she's lying I think she just is being selfish and contacting you to make herself feel better about the break up… I would say if it’s still painful for you to have contact with her let her know that you can’t have any contact with her and then go No Contact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2011): If she has somebody else or has just told you that then she's saying that your just a friend.
This is the reason its so hard to keep in contact with somebody we cared alot about.If it's over it's over, romantically. Until your over her emotionally and moved on - then its best to stop contact.
Its not easy after being in love with somebody,to break the habit of speaking, but it is generally worth the downside so you can get your head and heart straight.
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