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writes:Well me and my boyfriend have been together a year and half now, and everything is great. We have a great time, we're both completely loyal, we both love each other to pieces. I know you're probably thinking "What's the problem here?"The problem is this... He is way too obsessed with football. I know that normally this isn't a problem, but this is so out of hand that when we were in the middle of sex, he ran out and left me in the bedroom to watch a match. Am I overreacting? Is this normal? What should I say about it? I feel like he cares way more for football than for me, since he just left me there. I simply got dressed and walked out to go for a walk. Am I really overreacting? Please help. I don't want my relationship to fail because of this. Reply to this Question
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reader, BigSis +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Ooooh!! Duskyrowe...don't he just, eh?
I wouldn't mind some of that either, I only have to look at him and I slide of my chair!!!
Going slightly off topic here, but hey, what the hell, we're only human too!!
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (27 April 2008):
 BigSis A girl after my own heart lol. I have another idea...... When out sociallising with his mates say, "Bill (or what ever your fella's name is)is so crap in bed that I have to stop him in the middle of a session so I can go and watch Eastenders cos that bloke Jack Branning is so sexy he turns me on more than my OTHER HALF".
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reader, BigSis +, writes (27 April 2008):
Mr Worry and DuskyRowe have the right idea.
Why don't you get him all worked up and horny as hell, then suddenly say..."Ooh I just remembered, I can't miss tonight's episode of Gavin and Stacey", or "Oh my God!...Eastenders is on now, I gotta see if Dot's emptied the tumble dryer, Mo's sweaters are gonna shrink!!"
See if he likes it. Ahh gwan, I dare ya.
Best of luck hon,
BigSis
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reader, Mr.Worry  +, writes (26 April 2008):
 Have you talked to him about this?I find sometimes a person has to be put in the same type of situation to get it.Why don't you quit and go watch tv and see how he feels?
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (26 April 2008):
Call half-time in the middle of sex and give him the red card!!! Revenge is a dish best served cold.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (26 April 2008):
 I find it only too reasonable that you were upset by his going away. It's certainly awful, and I'm sure that he would have felt terrible if you had stopped the lovemaking to do something else. You're not overreacting at all.
Most men will tell you that, no matter how much we love football, the vast majority of us (like 99.9999%) would not do what he did. I'm afraid of calling anything "normal", but I'm sure this is not what men would usually do.
You made a mistake in just going away. You should have talked to him right when he was leaving to watch the game. You should have told him how and how much he upset you. All you need to say, I guess, is that you would expect him to value you more than he values a game. And I would ask how he would feel if you left him in the middle of lovemaking.
I would also say I wouldn't tolerate that again.
Don't feel that your relationship will fail if you speak this clearly. Much to the contrary, it will go from very good to very bad if you don't communicate clearly with him.
As to his liking football, there is nothing you should do about it. That's his business. "Way too obsessed" is hard to define.
My bias: I love football too, and I resent anyone telling me that I shouldn't "express my emotions" when my team scores. I would choose lovemaking over a game, of course.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (26 April 2008):
 no you're not over reacting. however i'm sure he won't see it that way. the problem is my dear you have crap taste in men.
but don't feel to many. 99% of the uk's female population are attreacted to arseholes. watching a handfull of men run around a field and get all hot and sweaty while kicking a piece of leather and get a thrill out of it isn't my idea of a good time.
and time for the reality of it. your relaitonship is already suffering from it.
Take another long walk and have a good think about what you want to say to him and what you want to ask him. if he gets defensive or says you're over reacting then its time to have a rethink of you choices in men.
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