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We have such a connection but he has had a gf for six years!!

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Question - (4 March 2007) 4 Answers - (Newest, 4 March 2007)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *XxLisaxXx writes:

Ok, i play tennis every weekend and recently have become extremely close to the guy I play with.

We have been textin each other at every oppurtunity and the flirting on both sides has been outrageous. We agreed to meet up last friday and we had a really good laugh as always, things got slightly intimate as well. However, he then told me he had to be completely honest with me!

He revealed that he has a girlfriend and has been with her for six years. I couldn't say anything I was that shocked. He also explained to me how much he likes me, if you saw us together you would see the connection we have his very strong and we both admiited that. He also told me how much he really likes me. The problem is I don't think I could enter a relationship with him knowing I had broken that relationship up.

I'm giving him time to think as I need it to, the problem is I can't get my head round it at all!! I not going to put my life on hold for him either. There is also the fact that we are at different points in our lives. But we both feel we have never had that connection with someone before like we have with each other. If you have any advice it would be much appreciated as I am at my wits end please help luv lisa xxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007):

Ooo hello, please be careful! If this guy really like you then he needs to end things with his girlfriend before starting somthing with you. If you cross that line whhile he is still attached then things will get very complicated, believe me, I know!

Good luck and try to resist! xxxxxx

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A female reader, zantie United States +, writes (4 March 2007):

hi lisa...

please leave this guy alone..I was in your situation about 2 years ago. he had a gf but said all the right things and still do. Tell him to call you when they break up..I dont want anyone to feel the way I have for the last 2 years.

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A female reader, nicola79 United Kingdom +, writes (4 March 2007):

nicola79 agony auntWell I think you are doing the right thing flower, do as you say and dont break it up because he could end up resenting you for it. He has done a bad thing to leading you on and he knows it.

How would his girlfriend feel if she found out and if he can do it to her,he will do it to you in time.

You are a bright lass and you know in your heart what is right. I wish you all the best and if you need to talk then im here ok. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (4 March 2007):

kenny agony auntIt is nice that you both share a strong connection together. But the bottom line is that he has got a girlfriend that he has had for six years. You said yourself that you would not want to enter a relationship with him knowing that you had broken that relationship up.

If you feel strongly for this guy, and he feels the same for you,wait for him to finish with his current girlfriend. But don't do anything before he finishes with her.

Good luck x

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