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writes:Heya I need help im madly in love with someone, I have been for years but there not interested anymore and im quite certain about it. I cant move on we are really close. These feelings arnt going away. He didnt want anything to do with me after being sexual with me. Which was upsetting but I still really want him Ive spoke about it with him but he doesn't care.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 March 2008):
 It is like watching a sad movie.
The end is sad, wipe your tears and go home and start life all over again.
You cannot do anything anymore, the hero has left or died...
Go find another one to love.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (9 March 2008):
 Yep, I agree with all previous posts that you were used, like just another notch on his bedpost. I somewhat disagree with "dearkelja" that "they," meaning most guys, will not respect you. Some will love and cherish you. The ones who will care may be few and far between, but hopefully you will learn to determine the good guys from the cads.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): wow, I know exactly how you are feeling. I hate to say this, but it sounds like he played and used you. I know right now it feels like he is the only guy out there for you and you, you dont want to give up on him, and you just want things to go back to normal. but the truth is, and I know this is cliche, but you have to move on and you will eventually get over him.
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (9 March 2008):
 Basically this guy took advantage of the fact that he knows you like him. He used you, it's as harsh as that.
There are many guys out there who are only out for one thing, you just need to get wise to the type.
You sound like you are quite inexperienced and naive, which you can't help, just go with your gut instinct. You generally know if someone is into you or not...
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reader, Alexsavisertavis +, writes (9 March 2008):
Well let me put it this way, That son of a bitch played you like a new Violin, so dont be stupid ond go back to him
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (9 March 2008):
 If he is being so uncaring and doesn't want you, why would you want to be with him? I understand you are feeling hurt and rejected and you gave yourself sexually to this man who played with your emotions. But he is a cad and you are so much better off without him. Learn your lesson early and don't give yourself so freely too fast in the future. I remember thinking that if I did have sex with a guy that his feelings would grow for me but the reverse is actually true, they don't respect you.
It is too late for you and this guy but really give this some thought, why do you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? You should want to be with someone who would walk on fire to want to be with you. This guy is out there, I guarantee you he is.
And don't waste any time feeling bad about what you've done. Most of us have been there, done that. It's not worth feeling bad about. And don't give this guy any more attention. He doesn't deserve another thought from you.
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