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We had a LDR. We broke up. How could he do this after he gave me his commitment?

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Question - (22 May 2013) 4 Answers - (Newest, 22 May 2013)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I broke up with my bf last month because we were in a LDR and he drifted apart.

He never contacted me after the breakup. Just few days ago he sent me a text asked if I called him from an unknown number. If so just call from my normal number so he knows to pick up. He doesn't pick up unknown number anymore.

I did call him from unknown number a couple of times when we were together. I don't know if its why he thinks so or what else does he mean? He gave me his life commitment so many times but when I broke up with him he didn't say anything he just doesn't care.

I'm still mad that he ran away without saying anything.

How could he do this after he gave me his commitment?

I'm trying to move on but I'm so hurt that I some nights I woke up crying because I dreamed of him telling he he's sorry or I begged him not to leave me. I don't know what to do with his text. I really want to write to him and tell him how much he hurt me.

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (22 May 2013):

If this was a typical no contact (or little contact) LDR relationship, then he didn't care because those relationships aren't a real relationship. People need face to face contact unless they have some sort of social disorder.

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A male reader, TeardropsOnMyGuitar Canada +, writes (22 May 2013):

To me it sounds like he was afraid to break up with you and strung it out too long.

I think you should be pizzed that he didn't break up with you sooner. It turns out that your pizzed about the opposite.

I don't sense that he was all that into you. Why would you pine over the loss of a guy who didn't have the right feelings for you?

Being dumped is infinitely better than marrying the wrong person. It really is.

Go find someone who truly loves you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2013):

*update

After I wrote this post I got a call from my ex.while I was thinking about whether to pick it up or not he hung up. The major reason I broke up with him was because he never called or wrote to me.he's drifting apart and I was mad at him that he stood up for his friends when we had a huge fight. We were on and off so many times and I'm not going to take him back this time. I'm just sad and p^^^ed that he gave up a 4-year relationship without saying anything.

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A female reader, sugarplum786 South Africa +, writes (22 May 2013):

sugarplum786 agony auntHi The information is insufficient in respect of why u broke up. You want closure, just call him and talk. Maybe it will help you feel better. Also dont use this call to fight and I also think if you both can agree to be friends it will give you some comfort.

Like I said insufficent information to advise you wether to try and win him back and see if you can make it work. I gather you still love him and he still cares as he did think it was you that tried calling.

Sometimes open communication can put to rest a lot of misconceptions and interpretations.

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