A
female
age
,
anonymous
writes:Hello,I started dating a guy about a year ago. Things went well until he had a problem with ED. He told me he only ended up sleeping with the women that he married. His first marriage lasted 3 years (she ended up deciding to be gay). Hi second marriage lasted over a dozen years and broke up when his wife had an affair. At the time he was only divorced one year. We didn't sleep together until about four months into the relationship. He blamed his low self esteem on it. He told me he gained 20 pounds since we started dating (he is over 350 lbs). I wanted to break up but, he wanted another try. I tried all I could to make him feel good about himself, but he slowly pulled away. A month later he told me that we had no chemistry.I don't buy it at all. It has been six months and he has played a lot of games. We travel in some similiar cirlces and see each other on a semi-regular basis. He of course started dating right away and made sure that I saw him talking with other women. He even did this involving his child. While our children didn't know about our relationship, because we all knew each other. We have had lunch many times and I even suggested us getting back together, but he still insists on being just friends. A few weeks ago I causally asked if him and his son wanted to see a movie and hang out. He did not have him that weekend, but suggested making plans the next weekend. He mentioned going to pick apples. He sent a message to me and a few other people. He also sent it on his face book, but only gave 1 1/2 hours notice. Of course me and my daughter were the only ones to show up. This confuses me. Did he give such short notice to everyone else to make sure we were the only ones to show up? I was the only one to know ahead of time about the outing. Everytime I see him he still has a twinkle in his eyes. I think he still likes me, but is afraid. We got along very well except for his ED. What should I do?
View related questions:
affair, broke up, divorce, self esteem Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, tatsuko +, writes (24 December 2009):
I know its hard, but why should you have to put yourself through hell just to jump through his hoops and fit yourself to his problems? Theyre his problems, and if he dosint have the strength to sort them out himself, then how dare he string you along and make you fret over him. Theyre are plenty of nice guys without those kinds of problems. He's seemed to get back into the dating circuit, i suggest you do the same.
|
