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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I recently had a stomach infection. When I went to see my doctor, who knows my family very well, advised me to be hospitalized. He used to check my whole abdomen daily in the hospital and I never felt shied from him. He was also very friendly with me (was treating me like a young girl). But later on when I had to go for regular checkups after getting well, he once checked my lower chest area on my complaint of pain there. I felt very shy but he was behaving professionally. Next time again I had to discuss my condition during my periods (as I was in very much pain those days and could not realize whether it was due to infection or periods), he once checked my whole abdomen and lower chest but that time I could not behave gently. My behaviour clearly showed how shied I was. I was really having short shivering/viberations (due to shame) while checkups which I feel he was able to realize. Now I am continuously thinking of how bad he would be feeling about me. Was I wrong as I was not behaving professionally? I am still scared of facing him again in future as I am not sure what he would be thinking of me.
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reader, Liebes Kummer  +, writes (20 January 2011):
If you are that self-conscious, ask for a female doctor or go with someone close to you.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 January 2011):
 I think you need to calm yourself down here. It is your doctor who needs to behave professionally, not you. You were polite, you didn't do anything inappropriate, you were only ashamed of being touched by him and him seeing your nude skin. It's a reaction many could have. I think the reason you are more and more shamed of it is because you are thinking too much about it. So for each time you see him you get more and more shy about it. But, the problem is only in your head. Try to remind yourself of how you acted the first times he helped you and gave you a check up. Remember how normal and ok that felt? Think about that the next time, and remind yourself that nothing has changed. He is still just your doctor who is there to help you, and you are a patient.
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reader, lacrymosa_652 +, writes (20 January 2011):
 Your doctor won't think badly of you, he may not have even noticed you feeling embarrassed. If he did, I'm sure he'll be understanding as there are lots of people who feel uncomfortable when they have to expose certain parts of their body.
Try not to dwell on it, your doctor's probably forgotten about it already. Next time, keep in mind that you don't have to be so shy, doctors see all kinds of things and all parts of people's bodies on a daily basis, so there's no need to feel uncomfortable because it's normal for them and they're not thinking anything. Your doctor seems very professional and trustworthy.
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