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anonymous
writes:Here's the thing I'm an 18 year old male and not to blow my own trumpet or anything, but just to set the scene. I am fairly good looking, I've been told by other people. I'm intelligent. I am also popular I have lots of good friends.I haven't had a girlfriend since primary school, in primary school I was always in relationships and had no problem with girls (I know it doesn't really count because we were kids) but ever since I have been incapable of creating relationships or even just "pull" at a party or anything. I have only kissed one girl ever. I have also had "opportunities" to do things with girls like some hot girl getting in my bed hugging me when we were drunk. I just seem to be missing something? Like that bit of natural male instinct to make a move. I don't know what to do, what am I doing wrong, anyone??
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): Hi, I'm the guy that posted the question, never submitted a question over the internet before. I appreciate all your answers, thank you. I think it could be the fact that I'm scared of rejection and so don't want to make a move. I'm going to have to just put myself out there, find a nice, decent girl. I'm sure it will work out in the end, girls must like nice guys surely. Anyway thanks for all your advice.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 January 2011):
 First off it's not unusual at all to be 1 and not have had a girlfriend yet. Several girls also go around at that age as single and some even unkissed and they are all scared that they are abnormal. You're not, you're absolutely normal. However it could be you just haven't met the right kind of girl for you yet! Or you just need to practice flirting! And yes, you do need to take some chances and not be afraid of rejection. Love will rarely land on your head if you only sit at home and don't make a move. You need to go out and meet people, smile and be friendly, and make yourself available to actually meet someone that would be nice and a good match for you.
Some girls do the chasing though, if you're one of those guys that just can't or wont chase a woman because you don't like it. Perhaps she will find you instead. But again, that wont happen unless you make it possible for her to meet you somehow.
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reader, meme5765 +, writes (20 January 2011):
Believe me, I'm a girl in pretty much the same position as you... but I think the fact that you haven't gone off with loads of different girls is pretty admirable.
I think maybe that 'male instinct' you're talking about is just confidence in yourself?
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reader, Secretlife  +, writes (20 January 2011):
I think that you are the type of dude whose ready to be serious in a relationship. You just havent found the right girl and thats ok it just takes time. I dont think your doing anything wrong. Your doing something right by waiting. You will find her soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): Maybe you're a gentleman that doesn't want to just hook up with a random drunk girl? If that's true then thank you! I wish there were more guys like you!
Honestly I think you should wait for the right girl. How special would it be if you met a girl that you had true feelings for and you could tell her that you're not like other guys, that you actually waited to have a relationship until you felt you were with the right one!
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