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writes: So I am separated and during my separation one friend has been there for me through all my hard times..she was also separated...but for the past year ..she has taken a bit of a personality that ..she is constantly belittling me...I thought it was my imagination..and honestly the devastation of my broken marriage has made me a little naive to the outside world......My family has noticed too and has said they are going to say someting but I have said not too....yesterday was it!! shw has called me stupid..retard...called me out on anything ..but always in front of people...my vacation with her was a nightmare..she put me down in front of anyone that she could see was listening....this week was it....she compared me to a 56year old actress ..and said I looked younger than her....even with the facelifts this acress had ...I looked better.....Im 47!!! I was so hurt...its not a age thing ..but its like she has to have a jab at me....was I being too sensitive....I am too emotional...with my separation already..... :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice.....I have been told I look younger than my age..I do take care of myself always have ,she hates people asking me if I am sisters with my daughter....in front of her...I am actually cringing if someone is being just nice to say something to me...she will say "oh dont let it go to your head" I am a complimentive person myself..so I know most of the times its people just being nice ....but she has always been there to remind me that I am older than her..I know she is insecure and I feel bad for her and praise her...but I dont like this friendship and yes I will have to go on my way and move on slowly away from her and find someone with a positive outlook on life......Ironically my husband left me last year for a younger woman....trying to get me back as we speak but yes ........ thank you for your advice :)
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reader, adamskidude  +, writes (4 December 2011):
 She hates herself and making you feel awful makes her feel better because she's insecure.
Tell her to cut it out and if she doesn't, you don't need a friend like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): No FRIEND treats another like that. I think she was an abusive woman to begin with or, she was so verbally abused in her marriage and has become the abuser. Its unfortunately quite common for a victim of abuse to become the abuser.
I say its time to cut her from your life. You haven't been calling her on her behaviours and putting up the healthy boundaries of expections of how to be treated; she now walks all over you.
She is no longer a trustworthy friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): This is Not a friend. Dont put up with this. Do as i done in a similar situation. I just stopped contact immediately. She sounds like shes either jealous of you or that she is angry about life in general and you are the one she is taking it out on. Either way lifes too short to put up with others crap because we have enough on our plates to put up with our own everyday challenges without theirs to contend with too.
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