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writes:Hello, i am in love with my bestfriend. He is 19 years old like me and we have known each other for 17 years. He lives pretty much two houses away. Our friendship has had its ups and downs. There was a point in time when we didnt talk to each other for two years because of an unfortunate miscommunication with him and my family. Now, my family hates him but they dont really care that i am friends with him again. However, i have noticed that i don't tell my parents if he comes over to my University to visit and i find myself scared to even mention that i have been hanging out wih him. I love my family very much and i know i am a good person but i hate lying to my family all the time. My bestfriend and i love each other very much and we get along so well. He is a sweetheart to me and we have both want to keeping growing closer. I know i am young and i have time to figure life out, but i guess i need some advice. So my question is: should my bestfriend and i continue to have a relationship in secret or should we stop before my parents find out? Thank you, Ash
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2012): Hi ash, well i think you should not stop seeing him, if you both love each other, why are you going to stop being with him just because someone does not approve him. I know that family is very important but you have to make your life with someone you love and enjoy being with. I had a similar problem my parents hated the men i loved, so i left him. That was the worst decision of my life. I was with someone else for almost 3 years and i could not handle it anymore. All that time i was miserable, finally i left that person and went back with the one i love. let me tell you i could not be happier than i am right now. my parents just had to face the fact that i loved him and i was going to be with him even though they hated him. because it all comes down to your happiness and i bet that is what your parents want.They just want to see you happy. So make the decision that you will be happy
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reader, YouWish +, writes (24 March 2012):
 Hi Ash -- you missed a huge part of your question, and on this information, the entirety of my advice to you.
Why do they hate him? What do they say about him? Not knowing why they hate him or what context they told you they hated him in is really essential.
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