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Text sent to me from an unknown number. If it's her, what should I do?

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Question - (2 February 2016) 4 Answers - (Newest, 4 February 2016)
A male United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My best friend and I have been close for nearly three years now. We've always been comfortable around each other to divulge personal secrets.

In the beginning, I did have a crush on her. I thought she was gorgeous, still do. Over time, I realized that it would never happen and became content with just friendship. I found new interests else where.

Now two days ago, I received an anonymous text saying "I love you. A lot, actually. It was sent from a number I didn't recognize.

Prior to that, my best friend confided in me that she and her boyfriend had broken up.

We had a heart to heart and I told her how beautiful she was and that any man would be lucky to have her. She smiled softly as we said farewell. One hour later that text was sent from an anonymous number. She has told me before that she has two phones but I never knew the second number.

I texted back "Who is this?" but no one answered. I even tried to call but no one picked up. I have this nagging feeling that it was her but I'm not too sure.

Reasons why I think it's her, I've heard rumors that she liked me more than friends before. We've always been too close.

She would sleep on me while we watched a movie. She would try to hold my hand sometimes as we randomly walked. She got really depresses a year ago when I told her we couldn't be friends anymore. I've always just shrugged these off as us being close friends but after this text, I don't know anymore.

There's no confirmation that it's her but I'm afraid that it might be. I do love her back but I know she's vulnerable right now and this might be her way of trying to feel good again. If it's her, what should I do?

Also what are the chances this is that type of friendly love?

She's never said those words to me before.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (4 February 2016):

Honeypie agony auntPersonally, I'd back off the issue for now. She is in no position to be even considering dating. And if she can't tell you to your face (by NOT being anonymous) that she has feelings what good it is?

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A male reader, TrancedRhythmEar Saudi Arabia +, writes (3 February 2016):

TrancedRhythmEar agony auntYour instinct is nearly always right in these situations. Go with it. As for her being vulnerable she may take you on an emotional roller coaster? You want that headache? My guess is shes scared to come forth directly with her feeling due to some past issue. Typical $hit. Dont force feeling and let her chase you. Youve done your part.

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A male reader, Roboaxe United States +, writes (3 February 2016):

Roboaxe agony auntI'd say call her on the phone you do have and just say "I got your text." If she proceeds to say what text? You have your answer.

And if she starts declaring her love, well congrats dude! Long game paid off.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (2 February 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntBefore you start wondering and having all these ideas you need to ask her. Give her a text, tell her you received the message and ask her does she know who it is from? Or does she know the number? Then you can proceed from there as to what to do. You know her better than any off us on here, so if you think she is in a vulnerable place then be careful. Also could it be her ex trying to test you, maybe he had suspicions that you where both more than friends?

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