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writes:September of last year I met this guy, Trevor, and we really hit it off and started hooking up. We hung out a lot and I went to a date night at his fraternity, and he came to my formal. Things never got official and our fling ended after thanksgiving. There was never a reason why it ended except a rumor that things were getting too clingy. It just kind of fizzled out but we always stayed friends.Then I was kind of taking a break from guys for a little bit until second semester when I met Kevin who is in the same fraternity as Trevor. Trevor actually told me that Kevin liked me. So things started heating up with Kevin and we were hooking up all semester long. Things ended with us when we went home for the summer. He was also being sketchy and hooking up with other girls which I wasn't mad about considering we weren't official, I just wasn't gonna be one of his "girls." Note, we were never together either it was just a fling as well. So this summer I went to Boulder a lot to visit my friends who were staying up here. Trevor was staying up here as well and would always flirt and tease me. I would even sleep in his bed with him and he would always try to hook up with me but I would never let it happen so we ended up getting really close this summer. When we came back to school a week ago we have stayed really close. The other night he told me that he thinks we are best friends and always says to me and people that he loves me. I have no idea if he just loves me as a friend or if he is in love with me it's hard to say. I can tell that he is still in to me. He is also a frat boy so I don't know if he will ever do anything about it because I don't think he wants a girlfriend. Also, since we have been back at school I have been running into Kevin a lot. We did not talk to each other all summer long so I thought things were completely over, which I was fine with. Lately, he has been giving me signals that he still has feelings for me too. He is the shy type but he always comes up to me and tries to talk to me and flirt with me but also especially because we had sex the other night. Unless he was just using me. He also apologized to me for not talking to me all summer and we had a small talk about things but we were kind of drunk so I don't know if it even mattered.The worst part about this whole story is that Kevin and Trevor are now roommates in their fraternity and I have had a past with the both of them. I have no clue what to do or where to even begin with this one. I need help to figure out what to do. Part of me wants to just go with the flow and see what happens but I know I need to figure this complicated situation out. Please Help!
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (24 August 2010):
 I'm with oldersister - I don't see one word about either of these guys asking you out on an actual date, so that shows they aren't serious about you. People still date in this day and age. Hookups is all you have with them, and hookups are all you're gonna get.
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