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writes:I'm trying to not hate my STBXH, but he's making it very difficult.We have a 2 year old and it's very clear that he is not STBXH top priority. While we were together, STBXH was almost never sick, and now,seems like every weekend he's supposed to have child, he's sick. When we separated, I bought a new car since the one I had was almost 20 years old and I needed safer transportation for my child and I. I also recently took a lower paying job with my company so I could work from home, that way child would only have to go to daycare part time. My mother flew back from overseas to take care of him while I was working so he wouldn't have to be shoveled off to daycare.STBXH response to all of this was: no one said you had to buy a new car, no one asked your mom to come here, and you think that since you chose to take a lower paying job-I'm going to send you more money? I don't think so!Never mind that ALL of this was done in the best interest of our child. I feel like I am sacrificing everything and he is sacrificing nothing.I can't believe I married and had a child with such a jerk and my heart breaks for my son having a father like this.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (10 February 2013):
 Sorry I don't know what working from home means. In my province if you are a single mom and work full time you pay much less in daycare than if you were still married and work part time only. I don't like the idea of putting my son at daycare all day. It's like a crowded, noisy chicken farm. I did save a lot of money and my child is well adjusted. We have fond memories from the daycare. It's nice that you have support from your mom. So working full time again maybe something to think about. In your divorce the court will decide how much your ex husband will pay, begrudgingly. It is possible that you will have majority of the custody. It is important that you are happy for your son. Even when your ex is distant at least he gets a lot of love from you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2013): "I feel like I am sacrificing everything and he is sacrificing nothing."You are. You're mother and he's a sperm depositor."I can't believe I married and had a child with such a jerk and my heart breaks for my son having a father like this."Unfortunately you did. All you can do is go to court and obtain a child support order while making sure you protect your joint property rights. But it's very important that you take the high road with your son. As rotten and heartless a bastard STBINAXH (soon to be if not already ex-husband) is, he is your son's father and your son deserves the right to learn to hate him entirely on his own for his failings as his father, not as his mother's no-good ex-husband. For that reason, also be sure you have a court-approved visitation order in place, otherwise scumbag can pop into his son's life at any time after ignoring him and claim you've been keeping them apart. Anticipate every low-down trick STBINAXH might pull and have an anticipatory counter strategy in place.
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