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writes: Hello I'm 14 years old and I had sex with my boyfriend on January 15 2009 and today is January 30 2009 and I still haven't had a cycle. I'm starting to feel a little different. I really believe I am pregant. Yes I have told my boyfriend and he is happy but I don't really know if I'm pregnant, I just have a very strong feeling. I haven't told my mom because I think she would go nuts... Can someone please give me advice on what to do. Thanks Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): Have you tried a pregnancy test? if not that would have been my first option as you wont no for definate yet if your period hasn't regulated. But you should dicuss the problem with your mum as parents know best and may be able to help you.
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reader, AskEve  + ♥, writes (30 January 2009):
 GO to your doctor and find out for sure. Make an appointment TODAY!
~Eve~
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reader, icelordess  + ♥, writes (30 January 2009):
 None of us here can really tell if you're pregnant, even if you list symptoms. Early pregnancy and before period symtoms are very similar. You need to either get a pregnancy test, or go to a clinic and be tested. And the sooner, the better so that you have a little time to decide what to do. Your boyfriend might be ok at the moment, but that could change very rapidly if you are pregnant! I'm going to assume he's close to you in age. Ok sweetie..you are very very young to be pregnant, I hope for your sake that you are not..because it won't be an easy road in any way, shape or form. If it turns out you are pregnant...you're going to have to tell your mom. You won't be able to keep it a secret very long anyways. If you decide to have the baby..trust me..you will need your mom/families support! I know you are scared, but moms are special people, we are tough, and we can handle things, and we are here to help you. I'm a mother of 2, I know. Of course your mom will be freaked out, can you blame her?! Her baby having a baby?? at 14?? Yes, she might even be angry..but then her mother instincts will kick in..darlin'...you have got to tell her if you are pregnant..seriously. Unless you just chose to abort, and even then I don't know if you could do it without parental approval. Be brave and strong ok? Having sex brings responsibility..and now you may have to face the consequences. But like I said, moms are here to help..please talk to your mom. Even if you aren't pregnant, you need some advice and guidance. you can always come on here for help, but it would be best to be able to talk to your mom. You hang tight dear, and let us know what happens..but please don't delay..DO SOMETHING. There are all kinds of options..please think them through. And if you ARE NOT PREGNANTdon't have sex without protection again..its not worth the risks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok first off my bf is 17 and .my last period was in december.....so what should i do i havent went to the doctor.and january is almost over and i still haven came on my cycle yet ....what should i do
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (30 January 2009):
If you are pregnant then you need to consider your options. Your mum is going to go nuts. There is no way she is going to react calmly to the news that her 14 year old daughter has ruined her life and is having a baby after having underage sex.
Would you consider a termination? It's very early on so it's only a little lump at the moment.
If not then you'll have to get your boyfriend's parents involved too since they are going to have to help support you. Your boyfriend is a little boy and will not be able to do very much to help you.
If you had any career plans or dreams then they are now going to be a lot harder to achieve and you are now going to have to work twice as hard to get anywhere in life.
You'll have to work it out with your parents, your boyfriend, and his parents.
Go to a doctor and PRAY for the pregnancy test to come back negative. If it does then you'll know not to have sex again for a long time.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, AskEve + ♥, writes (30 January 2009):
First of all you should never have been having sex at 14 years old but of course you know that and you SHOULD have been using protection! First of all you need to be sure whether you are actually pregnant or not so get that confirmed either by buying a home pregnancy kit or going to your doctor. IF you are pregnant then another visit to your GP will be arranged but you would need to let your parents know at some point and the sooner you tell them the more time they'll have to get used to the idea.
It may be that you're imagining symptoms because you THINK you might be. When was your last period?
~Eve~
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjam,jar but what if I am pregnant? How could I tell my mom?????with out her going nuts..
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reader, jam jar +, writes (30 January 2009):
 Go to a doctor. If you don't want to tell anyone get a pregnancy test. If you feel different it could just be psychological.
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