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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I was seeing someone for 5 months, a beautiful short romance. I ended it because he did not want it to b anymore than a casual relationship. It was also a long distance affair.It ended on a very calm note of agreement. I also mentioned that there was no pressure to be friends, and that we will become so if nature so made it happen. Meanwhile I had removed him off my facebook so that I don't obsess over him all the time. After a month or so I got back in touch with him, as I was stronger and accepted that it was off, but enjoyed chatting with him nonetheless. and he would chat casually as well. He was online on chat most of the time day and night almost always, even though we wouldn't chat much, but he would text sometimes at 3 am asking how I am. and I would respectfully respond only the next day. I think it was cool, nice, and amicable easy with no stress really. or even expectations. I knew where I stood and was moving on with my life. Knowing I still maybe had him as a friend.Last week he texted twice at 3 am, I am assuming under the influence of alcohol. because he normally never complimented me, ( i think once before on how I smelt) even when were seeing each other. His text was on how pretty I looked on a Profile picture and how justice was served to me with that image. And how gorgeous I look.I enjoyed the text, but again texted him back only the next afternoon saying "thank you :)"And since that very day, he went off line and hasn't been back for now 8 days. I am guessing I have been blocked. And I don't understand why. What happened suddenly that he had to vanish. It was fine, I didn't ask him for anything or nag him or pressure him, or behave with any less dignity to disrespect him or myself. I don't think even if he was seeing someone else it would matter, because all was cool really. But him vanishing like in cold, troubles me. Can someone tell me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011): Sounds like A. he's a bit embarrassed about the text. B. he has a new girl now and she found the text and he's been told to cut contact or C. He realizes he's not getting to get to "hit that" anymore and has moved on to another girl.
OP this guy is all about the casual, I think it's obvious what he was thinking really.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011): You have acted in an adult way throughout and should be proud of yourself. I think the key is that the text came through in the early hours of the morning. As you suggest, he may have had a few drinks. Any texts that come at 2 or 3am in the night should be treated with suspicion. Under the influence, maybe he said more in the text than he felt comfortable with the next morning. Maybe he would like to think he can reel you back in at the drop of a flirty text. Let it be. You are friends, that's it and if he has now gone quiet, so be it.
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