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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:If someone only replies to your text messages when you prompt them and then they say have been really busy and don't take it personally... should you tell them that you do take it personally will it look as if you are retaliating, is it better to clear the air.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 December 2016):
 I wouldn't take it personal, but if you text them you may come across as needy and insecure. But my guess is you already are when that person has to reassure you that it is not personal.
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reader, like I see it  +, writes (12 December 2016):
 I am guessing this person is not very close to you to begin with if your conversations take place via text messages rather than phone calls?
So I wouldn't take it personally... but I would also recognize that I likely am not a priority to this person and would adjust my expectations of them accordingly - after all, people can only disappoint me if my expectations allow room for them to do so. In other words, no predicating plans on the assumption that s/he would get back to me in a timely fashion.
Hope this helps. Good luck and best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2016): No you really shouldn't take it personally or try to clear the air. I am often delayed replying to someone I'm crazy about.The phone rings, a neighbour calls, you need the loo, the dog needs attention, you have to catch the post, etc etc etc.There are literally a million reasons why someone cannot always reply immediately.Just how paranoid and controlling are you going to sound if you state that you want this person to put your needs first ALL the time and cannot EVER have anything be temporarily more important than replying to you. I understand how horrible it is, thinking that someone can't be bothered to reply, but I know that that's how I've come across before and I'm mad about him! My sister's called me, an elderly neighbour has needed help etc etc. It's not always possible to reply straightaway and he has said to not take it personally ..... so don't! If you want to sound very unappealing indeed and put this guy off you, getting controlling over time between texts is a good way to go.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (11 December 2016):
 I agree with N91
If you have to PROMPT someone to reply, they aren't really that interested in talking in the first place. IMHO
If it's non-important texts I'd personally not get my panties in a twist. If you send a text with things like plans for a meet-up and you hear nothing... I'd not meet up.
I know at times text between cell-services can be slow/delayed, but there really isn't a good excuse to not reply (IF it's an "important" text or one that REQUIRE an answer)
Then again, IF it's important, why text? Why not call, You'd get your reply right away.
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reader, N91 +, writes (11 December 2016):
 Nope.
Move on with your life. Why should you have to ask people to reply to you? If someone wants to be in your life they will make the effort.
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