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Should we allow my mother in law to babysit our very young child while our m I l appears to be drinking alcohol to get drunk regularly?

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Question - (12 February 2015) 4 Answers - (Newest, 14 February 2015)
A female Netherlands age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I think my mother in law drinks (commercial product/mouth wash) to get that drunk feeling instead of wine.

My m.i.l. babysits my 6 month old baby, and she always had a drinking problem, she drinks wine everyday, until we asked her to stop because she was going to start babysitting. I think quitting cold turkey has been hard on her because she is definitely drunk sometimes but uses stupid excuses like the Alcohol content in some vitamins is too high and stuff like that.

My husband has trouble dealing with this matter and I live in fear everytime I send my baby over to her. My baby does not even like her, she's always crying around her. My question is how do I address this if I haven't seen her drinking?

Also we even decreased the days per week.. it used to be 5 times a week and now it is 3 times a week half a day, to give her some space to get it together.

But she still seems to need to drink on babysitting days too or at least try other stuff to give her that drunk feeling. I don't know how to tell her if I haven't caught her in the act.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2015):

Is she helping you out or she is paid? If sheis just helping you out it is actually very very nice of her. And why is she babysitting, are you working?

Her drinking problems, how is it Effecting you? Does she get drunk in front of you? How much does she drink? And if you don't catch her how do you know she is drinking commercial products?

If she drinks a glas or two a day, it doesn't make her a drunk. And what do you mean, she seems to bebdrinkingon babysitting day too? Do you smell it,does she act funny?

I don't know , buti have a feeling that you just have this fear of her having a bit of wine, and in general you don't like her. People who don't drink at all, think that people who have a glass of wine on a regular basis are drunks, which is far from truth.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (12 February 2015):

eyeswideopen agony auntDefinitely do not let her babysit alone. You primary concern is for your daughter, if she gets her feelings hurt then tough. She knows deep down she has no business being a drunk caregiver to a baby.

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A female reader, Midnight Shadow United Kingdom +, writes (12 February 2015):

Midnight Shadow agony auntYou need a new babysitter.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (12 February 2015):

Honeypie agony auntNo, find a babysitter you can trust.

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