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Should I write my crush a letter expressing how I feel?

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Question - (20 April 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 23 April 2010)
A age 22-25, anonymous writes:

I have had a thing for my teacher for a while now, but he doesn't teach me and never has he just works at my school.. I don't want advise on how to get him or anything like that but I just want to know peoples opinions on me writing him a letter about how I feel towards him.. or does anybody have any other suggestions? Help please

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A female reader, Beauty V Brains United Kingdom +, writes (23 April 2010):

if he doesnt teach you then you dont know him, so basically you just fancy his appearence? you should not embarrass yourself by writing a letter, chances are he doesnt he know your name...get over him, I know how hard it can be but just occupie yourself and soon you'll forget about him...x

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A male reader, bruce lee Nigeria +, writes (22 April 2010):

bruce lee agony aunt Ah, no.

Once when I was 28, I wrote a crush letter to a woman who was about 26, and someone else got hold of the letter and showed it to other people. It was embarrassing and I ended up verbally abusing the person who opened the envelope, and I went to jail for a few months.

So, if you are going to show your feelings to someone, you should either do it over the phone or in person. Just do it! It will take a lot of courage but it will be a good experiment.

But if he says no, be mature about it. Do not throw a tantrum or cry. I understand that a lot of people will hate me for giving you this advice. I'm not saying it's a great idea. I'm just giving you a different way of looking at it.

Good luck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010):

NOOOOO ! We all have been throu this at least one point in our life. I had a crush on my teacher before but lets face it they are much too old for the students and are usally married. Its normal to have a crush but don't write him a letter I agree with the above posters you could get him fired. Don't worry lots of people get crushes but try and find one your own age thats legal. You can always imagine lol just like with movie stars but don't act on it. Take care :)

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States + , writes (20 April 2010):

Tisha-1 agony auntWriting that letter and giving it to him could cost him his career.

Your feelings are your feelings, I'm not going to tell you that you're not experiencing them. But I will tell you that expressing those feelings would be a very selfish act on your part right now.

It sounds very romantic and I'm sure you think you would feel better if you told him how you feel. Trust me, he doesn't want this aggravation. He'd have to give the letter to the head, you would have to be interviewed and counseled and he would be under suspicion for the rest of his career. Your parents would be notified and your seemingly simple and harmless gesture will cause major headache, and could cost this man his livelihood.

I'm sure you are much more sensible than that and wouldn't want to ruin someone's life because of a crush.

Take your focus off him by finding a really worthwhile cause to volunteer for, get some good exercise and try to eat and sleep well.

Tell your mum that you have this crush and maybe she can discuss it with you. I know I told my mom lots of things and she was a big help in that area. She was so understanding and loving. I'll bet your mum would be very flattered if you were to confide in her a bit more.

Good luck. Don't write that letter. Really, and truly, don't. It's a very very bad idea. Okay?

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A female reader, Not My Name Australia +, writes (20 April 2010):

Not My Name agony aunt...and the point of writing him a letter would be?

Think this through to a conclusion, and surely you will see that doing this will serve absolutely no purpose and you will probably only end up embarrassed.

Don't do it. You can't help feeling how you feel about someone, ..but there is no point in declaring it when the circumstances wont allow for anything to come of it anyway.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (20 April 2010):

No, don't write a letter. Say nothing. You could get him fired and sent to jail. School crushes are out of bounds, no matter what. He is a teacher, you're a student and that's it. Enjoy your crush, but don't try anything or you'll ruin both your lives.

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